byf/dni

note: if you came here from @neurogender or @xenobutch don’t worry! i also run this blog, and this BYF / DNI covers all my blogs!

• dysphoria isn’t necessary to be trans. dni if you think you need dysphoria to be trans!
• pedophiles are not queer; dni if you are or support MAPs/pedophiles
• (POCD does not make someone a pedophile! If you have POCD, you’re not a pedophile and you can overcome your intrusive thoughts!)
• (i think the way to deal with non-offending pedophiles is covered well in this article - tw for some vague details of child p.rn.)
• trans women are women, trans men are men, nonbinary people are nonbinary. dni if you are a TERF, SWERF, radfem, TEHM, political lesbian, etc.
• aspec people are inherently queer
  
• dni if you are islamophobic, antisemitic, etc.
• i’m pro self-diagnosis & self-advocacy
• dni if you are anti-neo/microlabels and/or anti-neopronouns (what are you even doing here)
• i believe that non-traumagenic, non-did/osdd multiplicity exists, and that their experiences are fundamentally different from traumagenic did/osdd systems, and this needs to be acknowledged when talking about multiplicity
• dni if you ship real people, or make queer headcanons about real people, or are factkin
• (otherkin, therians, fictionkin, fictives, factives, etc. are fine!)
• dni if you believe in “narc abuse” (or any other [disorder] abuse) (here’s a good post debunking “narcissistic abuse”); or are ableist or against self diagnosis
  
• butch & femme, twink & bear, etc are not lesbian/gay-only terms, and in fact are open to all queer people (e.g. a transgender gay man can be femme! a lesbian can be a twink! an aroace nonbinary person can be butch! etc)
• dni if you’re pro-diet/fatphobic/pro-ana/eds/thinspo
• black lives matter, all cops are bad, land back! i’m a socialist antifa anarchist so dni if you’re not cool with that. reverse racism doesn’t exist. white supremacists, nazis, fascists, right-wingers, etc., fuck off!
  
• i support mspec lesbians & gay men, as well as other people whose identities might not 100% line up sometimes (e.g. transfem demiboy, aroace bisexual, etc). i also support transfem gay men and transmasc lesbians, and other variations on that theme.
• there was this whole kerfuffle on the aspec terminology thing so yeah you can make your own mind up on that