His name was George Nkencho. This should not have happened. Don't let this go. Say his name.
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Anonymous asked:
hi! would you or any of your followers happen to know if there's some kind of website or database where you can check if a book contains sexual content or not? I know there are websites like this for movies and TV shows but I haven't seen any for books yet, and as a sex-repulsed person who loves to read I could really use one.
aspecpplarebeautiful answered:
Does The Dog Die has a book section and warns specifically for sexual content. Though they only have a few hundred books up so far.
Does anyone else have any recommendations? Or methods to figure out if a book has sexual content or not?
i don’t experience romantic love, and i’m never going to fall in love. but i know it exists! i hear about it, i read about it, i see thousands of people sharing their experiences of being in romantic love & searching for romantic love & maintaining romantic love. and that is how i know.
i don’t feel romantic love, but i know it exists bc i listen to other people’s experiences, and when they share their feelings with me–i believe them. i trust that my own experiences do not embody the complete and total possible sum of human experiences. i trust that other experiences exist, and that the best way for me to learn about them is by listening and believing other people.
so when someone confides in you about feelings you don’t share–their feelings towards other people, feelings towards themselves, feelings towards their sexuality & their gender & their bodies & their selves–please listen to them. listen, and know that when you tell me you are in love, i will pay you the basic courtesy of believing you are in love. i myself will not be in love, but i will believe you when you say that you are–not because i feel it, but because I trust you to know yourself best. because i believe you are the authority on yourself.
please give everyone else that same respect, in every way.
ok but if letting your kid use a different name & different words & wear different clothing is scientifically likely to improve their health & happiness and lower their risk of suicide, whether or not they change their minds later….does it really matter whether you personally “get it”? does it even matter if you’re comfortable with it?
if you’ve got all this science telling you that letting your kid do these things is going to make them happier & healthier than not letting them….then just tell them it’s ok.
it’s not your kid’s job to be the child you wanted. it’s your job to make choices that allow them to be the happiest version of themselves. make sure your kid knows that you will love and support them no matter what gender they present as. make sure they know they don’t have to hide.
i learned that a makeup artist with Parkinson’s just launched a cosmetics brand for people with shaky hands (x)
Have a link to the actual site!
hey neat! there are videos on their site about how to use each product, and they look fantastic.
Also using my cheekbone as a rest/pivot point for my hand is how I do my eyeliner, its much easier.
wait I’m crying
My face is having uncontrollable spasms. Great. It hurts really, really, really bad.
I think part of why I have trouble explaining pain to the doctor is when they ask about the pain scale I always think “Well, if someone threw me down a flight of stairs right now or punched me a few times, it would definitely hurt a lot more” so I end up saying a low number. I was reading an article that said that “10” is the most commonly reported number and that is baffling to me. When I woke up from surgery with an 8" incision in my body and I could hardly even speak, I was in the most horrific pain of my life but I said “6” because I thought “Well, if you hit me in the stomach, it would be worse.”
I searched and searched for the post this graphic was from, and the OP deactivated, but I kept the graphic, because my BFF does the same thing, uses her imagination to come up with the worst pain she can imagine and pegs her “10″ there, and so is like, well, I’m conscious, so this must be a 5, and then the doctors don’t take her seriously. (And she then does things like driving herself to the hospital while in the process of giving birth. Probably should have called an ambulance for that one!)
So I found this and sent it to her. Because this is what they want to know: how badly is this pain affecting you? Not on a scale of “nothing” to “how I’d imagine it’d feel if bears were eating my still-living guts while I was on fire”.
I hate reposting stuff, but I’ll never find that post again and OP is deactivated, so, here’s a repost. I can delete this later, i just wanted to get it to you and I can’t embed images in a chat or an ask.
This is possibly why it took several weeks to diagnose my fractured spine.
Pain Scale transcription:
10 - I am in bed and I can’t move due to my pain. I need someone to take me to the emergency room because of my pain.
9 - My pain is all that I can think about. I can barely move or talk because of my pain.
8 - My pain is so severe that it is difficult to think of anything else. Talking and listening are difficult.
7 - I am in pain all the time. It keeps me from doing most activities.
6 - I think about my pain all of the time. I give up many activities because of my pain.
5 - I think about my pain most of the time. I cannot do some of the activities I need to do each day because of the pain.
4 - I am constantly aware of my pain but can continue most activities.
3 - My pain bothers me but I can ignore it most of the time.
2 - I have a low level of pain. I am aware of my pain only when I pay attention to it.
1 - My pain is hardly noticeable.
0 - I have no pain.
It’s also really important to get this kind of scale to people who have chronic pain, because chronic pain drastically lowers your perception of how “bad” any kind of pain actually is, and yet something like this pain scale is extremely user friendly.
For example, if someone asked me how much pain I’m in at any given time, I’d say hardly any, and yet I’m apparently at a chronic 2.5, and it only goes up from there depending on the day.
There’s also a similarly useful “Fatigue Scale”
I haven’t been below a 5 on this scale for 4 years
Here’s the fatigue scale
Fatigue scale image desc:
10: can barely move; can’t talk
9: can barely move; can talk
8: can move, but can’t do much more than watch TV
7: can watch TV and play a game on my phone simultaneously
6: can do work on my computer lying in bed
5: can get around the house, but definitely couldn’t go out
4: can run a light errand
3: can get in my 10,000 steps, making my fitbit happy
2: can do three or more activities in a single day
1: going clubbing!
See also the Mental Health Pain Scale by Graceful Patient:
Mental Health Pain Scale transcription:
MILD
1 - Everything is a-okay! There is absolutely nothing wrong. You’re probably cuddling a fluffy kitten right now. Enjoy!
2 - You’re a bit frustrated or disappointed, but you’re easily distracted and cheered up with a little effort.
3 - Things are bothering you, but you’re coping. You might be overtired or hungry. The emotional equivalent of a headache.
MODERATE
4 - Today is a bad day (or a few bad days). You still have the skills to get through it, but be gentle with yourself. Use self-care strategies.
5 - Your mental health is starting to impact on your everyday life. Easy things are becoming difficult. You should talk to your doctor.
6 - You can’t do things the way you usually do them due to your mental health. Impulsive and compulsive thoughts may be hard to cope with.
SEVERE
7 - You’re avoiding things that make you more distressed, but that will make it worse. You should definitely seek help. This is serious.
8 - You can’t hide your struggles any more. You may have issues sleeping, eating, having fun, socialising, and work/study. Your mental health is affecting almost all parts of your life.
9 - You’re at a critical point. You aren’t functioning any more. You need urgent help. You may be a risk to yourself or others if left untreated.
10 - The worst mental and emotional distress possible. You can no longer care for yourself. You can’t imagine things getting any worse. Contact a crisis line immediately.
These are so important! SO SO IMPORTANT SHARE THIS AND SAVE IT TO SHOW YOUR DOCTORS!
There’s a lot of misinformation going around about the Covid-19 vaccines, so now is a good time to bring this back.