could you list a few or all masc aligned genders pls?
it’s impossible to list *all* of them since it’s like asking me to list every gender ever…. but i do have a nonbinary masculine tag which has quite a few!
Is there a way you can sum up neogenders? I've been scrolling through for a while and have seen terms that I'm not at all knowledgeable about, but that I would like to understand. I'm really curious about all this; particulary because I'm relating to quite a bit of what I've seen so far. Any links to explanation posts you feel would help me understand would be excellent too :)
neolabels are simply “new labels.” they are new language coined in order to address gaps in the language surrounding gender and orientation. many neolabels center around nonbinary identities and other identities that are new, or are often misunderstood in mainstream LGBT+ circles.
a lot of the genders i coin here are specifically “xenogenders” - genders that instead of relating to manhood or womanhood, relate to different concepts such as nature, sensory experiences, aesthetics, and other unconventional ways to describe and define gender.
also, personally, i see gender not as something that has to be serious all the time. it can be fun to say “no i’m not a man or a woman, i’m a silly little worm” or similar things. some terms are serious, and others are fun or lighthearted, and all are ways in which we can define our gender. if cis people can ignore their gender altogether, trans and nonbinary folks can enjoy a range of gender identities as well
hello! hope everyone here is well. i was wondering if you could explain how certain people under the nonbinary umbrella don’t claim the transgender label and others do. if someone doesn’t identify as their agab, does that not put them under the transgender identity by default? i’ve been questioning my identity lots and looking stuff up but i still feel rlly confused abt this. i hope this doesn’t come off as inappropriate. thank you so much, take care ! ⭐️
(Image ID: A diagram that reads ‘Transgender (Person)’ in a pink rectangle at the top. To the right, it says ‘Note: (Person) can be replaced by any noun that means person: man, by, woman, girl, postworker, teenager, etc’. Two dotted lines start at the ends of the pink rectangle and vertically cut the diagram in quarters. The very left, not underneath the pink rectangle, has a blue rectangle that reads ‘Binary (Person’ underneath it reads ‘Cis Man’ and ‘Cis Woman’ in two light blue rectangles. To the right of the blue rectangle and under the pink rectangle, it reads ‘Transgender Binary (Person)’ in a purple rectangle. Underneath reads ‘Transgender Man’ and ‘Transgender Woman’ in two light purple rectangles. To the right of the purple rectangle and underneath the pink rectangle, it reads, ‘Transgender Nonbinary (Person)’ in an orange rectangle. Underneath reads ‘Transgender Agender (Person)’, ‘Transgender Genderflux (Person)’, ‘Transgender Genderqueer (Person)’, ‘Transgender Bigender (Person), ‘Transgender Nonbinary (Person)’, ‘Transgender Genderfluid (Person), and ‘Transgender (Any Nonbinary Identity) (Person)’ in seven light orange rectangles. To the right of the orange rectangle, not under the pink rectangle, it reads ‘Nonbinary (Person)’ in a yellow rectangle. Underneath reads ‘Agender (Person)’, ‘Genderflux (Person)’, ‘Genderqueer (Person)’, ‘Bigender (Person), ‘Nonbinary (Person)’, ‘Genderfluid (Person), and ‘(Any Nonbinary Identity) (Person)’ in seven light yellow rectangles. End ID.)
Are xenogenders more of metaphorical way to describe your gender or is it more literal??? Sorry if this is a stuipd questions would love to learn more about the community
can be either! some people might use a xenogender as a metaphor, or they might mean it literally, or maybe they use it in both ways at different times, or even at the same time! gender can get pretty weird and complicated, and there’s no right or wrong way to do it
hi, i wrote a carrd discussing xenogenders! i talk about the coining of the word, what defines a xenogender, and some reasons why xenogenders are valid identities. i provide sources for my statements, and in general, i’m trying to make this the ultimate resource to defend xenogenders.
Hi, I just saw a post of yours referencing two-spirit. I was curious to know if you would be willing to explain what that means. I seem to get conflicting definitions online. Sorry if I'm bothering you.
being two-spirit is self-defined, and i personally use the term as a native person to describe both my romantic attraction/sexuality and gender identity, in the same way some ppl label themselves as queer. if i were going to list out all the western labels that fit me, the list would include trans, nonbinary, genderfluid, polysexual, and aromantic. but i dont like western labels, and i prefer to use queer or two-spirit because i feel like those suit me best, two-spirit especially because being native is often the thing i feel like most represents who i am in my identity.
not every tribe or indigenous group has a concept of two-spirit, and some tribes have even regarded gender ambiguity or queerness of any kind as ‘evil’, while some others were evangelized/radicalized by colonizers and currently follow christian teachings and perpetuate colonialism within their own societies, so it’s important to remember that we are not a homogenous group or race, every tribe is different. two-spirit is more or less part of the pan-indigenous movement, though, and was coined by lgbtq+ native folks ~1990. any first nations indigenous person can claim two-spirit as an identity label, even if their tribe didn’t historically recognize something like it.
there is a really good video about it here that i think does a good job of explaining the label and why it is used.
just remember that two-spirit, like any queer identity label, is self-defined so if you’re looking for a clear-cut definition of two-spirit, just know that the “answers” that exist in books and on the internet are usually one-sided and sometimes written by colonizers who have a narrow grasp of what it means to be queer and indigenous.
also: two-spirit does not mean “bisexual” or “bigender” which is what i’ve seen a lot of non natives say, essentially, when explaining it to other non natives. which is frustrating.
hello, i am confused. how do xenogenders...work? like, how does one feel their gender is connected to something like the sea or space? this is not meant as a hate question by the way! i am trying to learn so i can be more of a supporter!
that sort of varies from person to person! i’ll just explain some of the more common ways i see people explain their xenogender identities, and feel free to send more asks if you’re still confused, i’ll try to be as helpful as i can!
many people feel that they can describe their gender with nouns or other descriptors other than typical gender terms (male/female, masculine/feminine, neutral/nonbinary, etc). in the way that a nonbinary person may feel male-aligned or feminine-aligned, a nonbinary person could feel that the way they experience gender is more aligned with, say, an animal or a planet. they’re more easily able to explain the way their gender feels through an object, creature, archetype, etc. than through typical gender descriptors.
someone may find it euphoric or easy to evoke something visual, aural, etc. as an explanation for their gender rather than trying to explain their more complex gendered feelings or fit into typical gender categories.
neurodivergency can affect how one perceives gender in a variety of ways. maybe a synesthete has some sort of sensory experience related to their gender, or an autistic person can’t fit into typical gender categories because those categories make no sense to them, etc.
those who are otherkin, therian, otherhearted, or otherwise alterhuman may relate far more to their alterhuman identities in terms of gender - for example, a cat therian may identify more with a catlike gender, or an alienkin person may feel that their gender would be better understood on another planet.
xenogender labels are also used by many genderfuck/genderpunk/etc people who want to eschew typical notions of gender.
gender is a human concept, and many of us just interpret gender in very different ways!
-privileging or valuing romantic relationships as fundamental
-the assumption that all humans pursue romance, especially by means of a monogamous, long term relationship
related definition: heteronormativity
-belief that people fall into distinct and complementary genders, with natural roles in life
-the assumption that heterosexuality is the norm or default sexual orientation and that sexual and marital relations are most fitting between people who have a vagina and people who have a penis
why it’s bad:
-further marginalises certain groups of people, such as those not seeking long term, romantic, or monogamous relationships
-lays basis for toxic relationships (the idea that marriage, children, living together, sharing beds/rooms, etc, is a must for romantic relationships, even when the people involved do not want to get married/have children, etc.)
-excludes those who don’t value romantic relationships as the most important type of relationship, and places a hierarchy on the importance of relationships, for example “more that friends”, and “just friends”
-in ‘shipping’ characters, a common theme is “they’re too close to be just friends”, which further stigmatises physically close non-romantic relationships
links with heteronormativity:
-linking in with the idea of romance being placed on a pedestal, heteronormativity brings in the concept that a man and woman cannot be friends without sexual or romantic undertones (in fiction), or assumptions that they are dating/flirting (in reality)
examples of amatonormativity in everyday life:
“just friends“, “more than friends“
-”he hasn’t found the right one yet” –> implication that there is a “one” and it’s not plausible to have multiple partners; implication that there isn’t a choice in romantic relationships and they will happen no matter what (”yet”)
-cohabiting with siblings, friends, multiple partners, living alone, or living with pets (”crazy” cat lady) after you’ve left uni or reached a certain age is frowned down on, being seen as a sign that someone isn’t “ready” to settle down (as though you cannot chose to not) and that they aren’t “mature” enough (as though your personal relationships indicate maturity)
-a woman and a man living together and not in a romantic relationship will lead people to believe they’re “in denial”, as though it isn’t possible for two people to knowingly reject a romantic relationship
-two friends raising a child together is seen as weird; idea that two people must be romantically involved and/or married to have a child; the idea that a child must be raised by romantically “loving parents”, dismissing other types of love, and the fact that you don’t have to want romance to be a good parent
-more than two people raising a child together (poly relationships, groups of friends, siblings) isn’t “normal” –>idea that relationships must be monogamous and romantic to raise a child
-single parents (by choice), see above points
-idea that only two romantically involved people can raise a child also links back to heteronormativity, idea that two people of the same gender are inherently bad parents
-forms of physical intimacy between friends are interpretted as romantic or “ew”, ie, friends holding hands, kissing on the lips, having sex
I’ve been looking for polyam pride flags as an alternative to the black, red, and blue one but I can’t find any with meanings for the stripes or any that I like. I’ve considered just making one myself, but I’m worried so I wanted to see if you had any feedback or advice!
I had the same problem (along with some eyestrain issues), which is why I made my version! So I’m working with direct experience on this!
First off, do not be afraid to ask for feedback, either privately from a friend, or publicly asking any following you may have! Any issues with your flag that you might have missed will be pointed out, so you’ll have time to fix it before presenting your idea to the community at large!
Secondly, keep the idea of how someone could actually make this flag in mind. Don’t include multiple similar colors (think like a lot of the 7 stripe lesbian flags, where the gradient is really soft, for an example of what not to do), or else it’ll be harder to make a physical flag, and making your design very unlikely to show up at a physical pride event.
For the same reason, if your flag has a symbol on it, consider making a version without the symbol, either by removing it entirely, or incorporating it into the design (example in link) in a geometric way.
Thirdly, please please consider using a color blindness simulator like this one! Either check your ideal palette before making the flag, or making it and adjusting it towards the end of the design process, and make sure it’s at least somewhat accessible for extreme kinds of colorblindness.
If you run into a polyam-specific issue, such as struggling with symbolism to include, or needing a symbol to add to the flag, feel free to message me, and I’ll be glad to help out as best as I can! And if you don’t have the means to make a high quality version of your idea, as long as you can scribble down the basic idea, I’d also be happy to help!
