ezgender:

let’s talk about xenogenders

hi, i wrote a carrd discussing xenogenders! i talk about the coining of the word, what defines a xenogender, and some reasons why xenogenders are valid identities. i provide sources for my statements, and in general, i’m trying to make this the ultimate resource to defend xenogenders.

gonna ping some people i follow to ask for boosts for visibility: @neopronouns​ @lovemogai​ @hallowgender​ @mogai-monarchs​ @pluriqueer​

DIY instructions for how to make a STP (stand to pee) device from a sauce bottle, from the FTM Shed

Top Surgery Consult Questions

abirdepisode:

Here are all the questions I asked my surgeon at my consult. Not all were actually applicable to me, but he was really chill about going through every one. That was a big part of me feeling comfortable with him. I pulled out three pages of double spaced questions and said “I have kinda a lot…” and he said no worries, took them to read, and spent an hour with me answering them. If they rush you through a consult… will they really take the time they need in other areas? like literally performing surgery on you. Just things to think about that aren’t so obvious!

Surgery Specific Questions:

❏ What procedures could be done on my chest for my size, what they recommend, what options there are, etc.

 

❏ Do you do liposuction on the sides to help prevent dog ears? Or is there anything else you do to prevent dog ears?

❏ If lipo on the sides, are the lymph nodes near that area and a potential problem?

❏ Do you do chest contouring/masculinization? Do you use liposuction to help get the chest flat?

❏ What options do you offer in terms of nipples? Can I go nipple free?

❏ Where will my scars be? What shape will they be? With the amount of space between my breasts, does that typically result in there being space between my scars? Or will they be really close together or touch? *add preference photos and discussion here

❏ What is your end result goal with my chest? (n.b. mu surg said OUR goal is xyz. and that was another thing that made me choose him)

❏ Do you see anything coming up that will interfere with the results? If you get in there and can’t do the preferred plan, what would you do?

❏ How will surgery impact sensation?

❏ Do medical students/surgical residents take part in the surgery? If so, how much would they likely be doing

❏ what level of experience would they have?

❏ How will changes in weight affect the appearance of my chest after surgery? I tend to go up and down 10-15 pounds every couple years.

❏ Who will be in the operating room with you?

❏ How long does surgery typically take?

❏ Does a catheter get put in for this surgery? And an intubation tube? Are you put under general anesthesia?

❏ Will I be walking into the OR and conscious, or will I be sedated prior?

 

Surgeon Questions:

❏ training and certifications? (ABPS, ABCS,) Specific trans care?

❏ How often do your patients come back for revisions? Are revisions included in the original cost?

 ❏ What made you want to specialize in gender affirming surgery?

❏ What’s the best way to get in touch with you?

❏ What is your patient satisfaction rate?

❏ How many of my procedures have you performed? Can I see before and after photos of previous patients/results?

❏ How many mastectomies are performed at this facility monthly?

❏ Are there any legal cases pending against you by any trans patients?

 

Complications Questions:

❏ What complications can occur?

❏ How many of those complications heal on their own?

❏ How many people end up needing another surgery?

❏ How often do your patients have complications?  

❏ How often do your patients get hematomas?

❏ What can be done to prevent that from happening?

❏ What other surgical complications are there?

❏ How are complications handled?

❏ will my sle or other conditions cause complications? (n.b. or put your own medical needs) 

❏ Do any of my medications pose any issues?

❏ I use cannabis for appetite and anxiety. How long before surgery and how long after surgery should I abstain? Can I use edibles?

 

Pre-Op Questions:

❏ Are there any factors that could cause the surgery to be delayed? What are guidelines for BP?

❏ Is there any protocol for corona virus?

❏ Are there any medications that you need me to stop before surgery? Should I take as normal on the day of the surgery?

❏ Are there any pre-op instructions to follow?

❏ Do you recommend pre-op vitamin c? Pre-op hibiclens? (n.b. vit c promotes healing, hibiclens disinfects your skin)

❏ Do you advocate for pre-banking blood for transfusions?

❏ Do I need to fast and stop water intake before surgery? How long?

❏ What kind of pre-op physical and bloodwork do you need?

❏ Is there a pre-op appointment before the surgery date?

❏ Do I need a Mammogram before surgery?

❏ What is the insurance process like on your end?

❏How quickly will you know whether or not my insurance will help pay for the procedure?

❏ How will that be communicated to me? Do I need further documentation? Who at your office should I direct my insurance questions to?

❏ Should I have my genes tested for breast cancer risk?

❏ Will there be a time to talk to the anesthesiologist with questions about the anesthesia end of things? Ie: anesthesia, nausea medication, anxiety medication,

Post Op Questions:

❏ how can I expect to feel when I wake up? 1 hr later? 2? 6?

❏ Do you use post op binders? Or ace bandages? Do you provide the binder? Is there a specific brand I should buy? How long post op should I expect to wear the binder?

❏ What kind of supplies do you provide post op? What do I need to buy?

❏ How long are the drains kept in? Can they be taken out sooner if there is not a large output?

❏ How long do I have to wait before I can shower?

❏ How long post op until I can drive?

❏ What should I expect for pain level? Timeline?

❏ What is the timeline/frequency on post-op visits? Will they be scheduled before the surgery so I can arrange driving the first week or two and then just know what to expect after that?

❏ Is it better to sleep in a recliner post op?

❏ What does the typical recovery timeline look like? Will you provide a document with the restriction guidelines?

Restrictions?

Daily Activities?

At what point of my recovery can I walk a mile? Drive? Exercise? Lift things like groceries?

❏ What medications will be prescribed? Are there other/complementary  options for pain management?

❏ What kind of help will I need with my recovery?

❏ Will you provide a written version of post op instructions?

❏ What dressing changes will I need to do after surgery? How often? What are signs of infection or complication we can notice during dressing changes?

❏What scar care routine do you recommend?

❏ How soon after surgery can I see my final results? How much do complications impact the final result?

❏ What are my options if I don’t like the final result?

❏ Will I be able to do light stretching of my back and legs post op to help with my bad back? What about taking walks and slowly riding an exercise bike to get movement in there to alleviate pain? Or what kind of light exercises/movement would you recommend?

❏What percentage of your patients still have pain years after surgery?

❏ Is there anything you do or have people do in recovery to help prevent the likelihood of having long term pain? *specific post op and pre op care

❏ Do you provide a letter for getting the gender marker changed on identification and birth certificates?

starblaster:

julia-zelda:

t0xicgr33nz:

julia-zelda:

julia-zelda:

anyway this is your periodic reminder that self-medicating hrt is epic and you should do it

https://hrt.cafe/

But can’t that be REALLY dangerous??????

no

all the weirdos in the notes on this post  look extremely stupid trying to school a trans woman on the topic of hrt and  self-medicating with hormones considering the fact that once someone takes hormones   home  with them from a conventional pharmacy, they are the ones administering  it to themself anyway… hormones are hormones regardless of whether we get them at at pharmacy with a prescription from an endocrinologist or ordered it online. in the united states and other countries where hospital and health insurance systems make the acquisition of proper trans healthcare almost impossible, it is more dangerous not to tell people that medications like estradiol are available online without a prescription.

also estrogen  is not a controlled substance like testosterone is, stop reporting the op for posting a resource that will, no doubt, end up saving the lives and mental health of transfeminine people.

heterosexualisnotadefault:

genders by category/description

woo! okay, so this has been a lot of work. and it still isn’t entirely done, but i’m fine with posting it publically and people linking to it if they want.

this is an attempt to list every single gender, along with definition, flags, and alternate names for each term if available. i made this set of lists to help with the following:

• questioning one’s identity/answering asks about “is there a word for..?”
• finding flags for identities
• double-checking to see if a word is already in use before coining something
• etc! 

these lists definitely aren’t perfect, of course, and if you have any criticisms or comments, my askbox is open for them. but basically, i want this to be a resource that spreads and is able to help a lot of people! pinging a few people i follow to spread: @gender-resource @xeno-aligned @the-gender-collector-emself @mogaicore @neopronouns (will gladly untag/not do it again if this makes you uncomfy, just let me know!)

*EDIT* i’ll be working on this mostly alone, but you’re always welcome to message me and send me terms/flags i don’t have listed!

• askbox
• reddit: u/VinecentSauce
• wikia: ezgender
• email: monokinggacha@gmail.com
• or just @ this blog when you post something!

also, this will be the tag i use to mark major updates

Intersex Representation

trans-axolotl:

I meant to make this post like a week ago but better late then never I guess! So here’s the Do’s and Don’ts for intersex representation. 

Do: 

1) Have the intersex character be human. This feels like a kind of weird thing to point out, but seriously, almost all the “intersex” representation that we have is of nonhuman, alien, magical creatures who are magically a third sex that doesn’t even exist in humans. This gets really tiring and othering after a while just cause like. Only ever seeing yourself represented as nonhuman starts to make you feel like your intersex condition makes you less then human! So just. please stay away from calling nonhuman/alien creatures intersex.

2) Research an actual intersex condition and give your character an intersex condition that exists in real life. https://www.intersexequality.com/intersex-variations-list/ This link is not a complete list, but it’s a start. Actually look up a real condition, see what the symptoms are, and create a character that could actually exist in real life. 

3) Use the term intersex when referring to intersex characters! This seems like it should be obvious, but so much of the representation I see just either only refers to the intersex character as having their specific condition and never mentioning the word intersex, or by just describing their genitals or body in an invasive way and never mentioning the word intersex! Just use the word intersex to describe intersex characters. It’s not that hard. 

4) Recognize that being intersex is not the same thing as being trans. Many intersex people are trans, but being intersex doesn’t mean that you’re inherently trans. Intersex people often have a complicated relationship with gender, but they can still identify as cis, or any gender identity. 

5) Have an intersex character who’s entire identity isn’t just being intersex. Being intersex is a large part of of a lot of intersex people’s lives, and that absolutely should be represented, but if your character’s only character trait is that they’re intersex that. isn’t good. I would love to see intersex characters who are just existing and doing normal things and they’re also intersex. 

Don’t:

1) Describe your intersex character’s genitals in a weird fetishizing way. You really really don’t need to describe the character’s genitals at all in the vast majority of situations, so just Please Don’t because you’re going to do it wrong. 

2) Treat the medical community like they’re experts on intersex issues. The intersex community and intersex activists have very different beliefs and goals then then medical community, and in fact a lot of intersex activism is against the medical community, especially to do with nonconsensual surgery. 

3) Exploit intersex trauma. Pretty much every intersex person I know has trauma surrounded with the fact that they’re intersex, and many, many intersex people have faced medical abuse. I’m not saying that you should exclude these types of things from intersex stories, because this is a big part of intersex people’s lives and stories, but think critically about the way you include these sort of things and why you’re including them. Also, I’m not sure if I trust perisex/dyadic people to write stories about intersex people who had surgery performed on them at birth, or on the topic of intersex surgery in general, so maybe avoid writing stories where the main focus is intersex surgery, because I don’t think you’ll get that right. 

4) Use slurs to describe intersex characters. Seeing the h-slur thrown casually around hurts a lot of intersex people, and there’s really no reason for it to be included unless the intersex character is reclaiming it, but again, that’s not a viewpoint I feel comfortable with dyadic/perisex authors writing. 

5) Make being intersex seen as only a tragedy. Finding out that you’re intersex can be scary and stressful, but the only intersex stories out there seem to be ones focused on how sad and awful the intersex character’s life is going to be now. I would love to see intersex characters who have intersex pride, who are involved with the intersex community, who do activism, who have people that care about them and a happy ending! Only ever seeing people like you represented as a tragedy with no happy future is tough, and I really would just love to see one intersex story where the intersex character isn’t completely miserable all the time. 

This is just kind of a basic overview of things to keep in mind while writing intersex characters, and honestly my biggest advice would be to research and read stuff written by intersex people! And after you’ve written something, get an intersex sensitivity reader to give input. 

I’m only one intersex person and I don’t have all the answers, so other intersex people please feel free to add on or disagree. 

take-some-vampire-money-bro:

@ all trans people about to attend online school:

This will visually remove your deadname from any webpage. Obviously switch it off if your parents wanna check up on your work, but yee here’s the link fam!!!! BOOST THIS!!! SEND THIS TO ANY TRANS PERSON YOU KNOW WHO WILL NEED THIS

Deadname Remover

An easy to use Google Chrome plugin to automatically remove and replace deadnames

chrome.google.com

marxist-leninist-narutoist:

saffronlesbian:

marxist-leninist-narutoist:

marxist-leninist-narutoist:

Wishing people read more of Leslie Feinberg’s books other than just stone butch blues

@postirony​

A great place to start is hir 1992 pamphlet Transgender Liberation: A movement whose time has come. It’s a shitty PDF but it’s short.

What I recommend reading most of all is Transgender Warriors: Making History from Joan of Arc to Dennis Rodman. While SBB is more popular, this book is basically hir magnum opus which ze wrote throughout hir life, combining autobiography, historical analysis, and theory. Seriously read this book.

Rainbow Solidarity in Defense of Cuba is a collection of hir articles on gay and trans rights in Cuba before and after the revolution and Lavender & Red is a much larger collection of hir articles—including those in the first book—about gay and trans people throughout the 20th century. There’s also Trans Liberation: Beyond Pink or Blue, which is a collection of hir speeches but sadly I can’t find a PDF of this one.

Lastly, if you want something besides history, ze also wrote another novel called Drag King Dreams which I haven’t actually read myself but I’ve heard is pretty good.

[id: a screenshot of a reply from @/postirony saying: “which ones in particular? i’ve only read SBB and i’m looking for something to read.” /end id.]

Hey if you’re going to like this, esp if your cis, please reblog it as well.

The main reason I’m upset hir other works aren’t as well known, aside from them being very good books that more people should read, is because I see a lot of terfs try to claim SBB. To the point where I’ve even seen some anti-terf people, mainly non-lesbians, say that the book is transphobic cause the only thing they know about it is that terfs like it.

Which, to begin with, you have to be real stupid to miss the multiple trans women in SBB, Ruth only being the most obvious, and the parts where Jess is literally persecuted by 70s era radical feminists. Hell, the free PDF version on hir website also includes a piece on the campaign to free CeCe McDonald. But also, as you can probably tell by hir pronouns and just the titles of hir other books, it’s flatly ridiculous for terfs to claim either SBB or Leslie.

People need to know Leslie Feinberg as the transmasculine Jewish lesbian revolutionary communist that ze were.