We’re planning our wedding and love thinking about which songs we might go with for the entrance, first dance, wedding video and more
We have soooo many in our list and We’d love a 2000’s decade song that has the same vibe and sound as Royel Otis’ cover of The Cranberries’ Linger ( obviously with a happier story in the lyrics. Does anyone have any suggestions?
Otherwise- sending any and all wedding songs, as we love listening to them!
Our very close friend was ordained to marry us in 22 days. We are so excited to see her because it’s been over a year due to her moving to Egypt. She will be traveling to Vermont. We would love to get a gift for her but have no clue what to get. Any recommendations would be awesome.
Is it a good idea to book a flight super early in the morning right after the wedding? I don’t want to miss any alarms or anything, but I’m normally very good about waking up for vacations. I’ve never been married before, but I am always EXHAUSTED after a wedding. Obviously we can sleep on the flights, but is it even worth risking?
If we get a later flight, we’ll have time to do a breakfast with family, but we won’t get to our destination until about 8pm. If we leave early, we’ll be there around 2pm (with transport, baggage claim, etc, it would put us right at check in time)
eta: I have had some BAD traveling experiences before. Not much fazes me anymore but again, never been on a honeymoon!
Update: Thank you all! I think we will leave Sunday (wedding is Saturday) afternoon as we don’t really have time to take off work to leave several days later. We definitely don’t want to go straight to work right after the wedding. We’ll have time to hang out with family and get our ducks all in a row before we leave for a week and then immediately move a few hours away. Win-win for everything, because our new place will already be fully furnished, and we’ll have already spent the time with our family. As someone mentioned, it’s a beach vacation so all we have to do is show up and relax the whole time anyway. I appreciate everyone’s input, I didn’t know so many people left so much later after their weddings!
Hi all!
My wedding is right before the presidential election which is going to be a historic one. People tell me not to worry and that no one will talk politics at my wedding. I have my doubts about this simply because some people I invited try to fit their controversial/political opinions into any conversation and again, it's not your average presidential election(imo). Part of me thinks the people telling me not to worry are right and that even these individuals know to not talk politics at a wedding. Part of me has my doubts.
My question is has anyone actually had an experience where people were talking about politics or other inappropriate topics at a wedding or similar event? If so did it cause issues?
Hey everyone,
I'm based in the UK and have always had this dream of getting married in Las Vegas. After visiting for my 30th birthday, it solidified my decision even more! I thought I'd reach out and see if anyone could share some tips and advice on planning a Vegas wedding.
I'm particularly interested in:
What are some common pitfalls to avoid when planning a Vegas wedding?
Any recommendations on the best time of year to get married in Vegas?
Suggestions for unique wedding venues in Las Vegas?
Tips on finding hotel packages that cater to weddings and guests?
I'd love to hear about your experiences or any advice you might have. Thanks in advance for your help!
Hi! I sent out invitations on June 13th from RI to all over the states and to Western Canada.
I’ve gotten a lot of messages saying people got theirs and they’re excited etc etc but then some people (someone in Chicago and a few groups in Alberta) say they never got theirs.
I know it’s not the biggest deal since I can just send them the website to RSVP but I have a lot of anxiety surrounding it. I’m frustrated that I spent money on invitations and postage and they just get lost or shred up by the post office :(
When I brought them to USPS, they checked them and made sure the postage was enough and I only got 2 sent back from Boston and somewhere else in RI.
Just venting and hoping other people have similar experiences I guess!!
Has anyone used an atypical/nonclassic Recessional song? If so, did you start from the beginning? Pick a different cue point? Was it long enough for guests to exit or did you pick another song?
There's a newer song I'd love because I'm not sure how to fit in otherwise, but I love the lyrics and its upbeat enough , but I don't think it'll be long enough to also have all the guests exit
For context there's no bridal party. So after FH and I exit it'll be our parents, officiant, and then guests.
Ultimately, do you just use one song for everyone to leave or could I get away with having another song play after?
I feel like I know the answer to this already but what the heck.
We originally had a child free wedding due to venue space constraints. We’ve since learned that a large portion of my fiancé’s distant family in Europe won’t be able to come. That has freed up a lot of space.
We’re considering now extending the invitation to children. We’d love to have them there and know that it typically makes things easier for parents to have the option.
That said, this close to the date, most everyone has already secured childcare. I don’t know what all that has entailed for people. I worry that if we change things last minute, people will be angry and frustrated that they made accommodations that didn’t end up being necessary.
Which would be better for parents? Having a new option to bring their kid, or blissfully being unaware that their troubles may have been for nought?
I dropped off my save the dates at my local post office on 7/24 and it has now been 8 business days a large number of my guests still have not received their save the dates (the usual delivery time frame from what I’ve read is 1-5 business days). I mailed these out in Southern California and some of my relatives in the Bay Area haven't received theirs yet, a few in Southern California, and a few across the country. It's so strange that some of my guests in New York and DC have recieved their save the dates before some of my guests in the Bay Area, in state. My fiance went to talk to a worker at USPS who told him that if people haven't received them by now to consider them lost - but when I called USPS customer service, they told me it could take up to 10-15 business days for the mail to arrive. I'm not sure which is the case, but I'm getting really worried. Has anyone had this experience before? Thanks a ton in advanced!
April 2025 bride!
I want to do my bachelorette sometime end of january or early feb to give my gang plenty of time to save and plan. Problem is I want a pool vibe but it's going to be too cold in those months, i think.
Any suggestions on warm weather locations in CA or other nearby states?
I'm looking at great airbnbs with pools and cute downtowns for activities, in San Diego, Scottsdale, Palm Springs, LA, and other similar places, but the average temp in those places at that time is like max 75f, if we're lucky. I might be able to stretch to March b ut i don't want it to be too close to the wedding.
Open to suggestions!
I'm considering purchasing special effects for my wedding. I was wondering your experience with these products. Was it worth it? Did it really wow your audience?
Looking for examples of non-traditional wedding celebrations. I’d like to get together with my favorite people and dance and drink champagne. More like a cocktail party. Fun, not formal or choreographed.
The trouble is, I’m having a hard time imagining what a less formal, less traditional celebration looks like. If you did things differently, what’d you do? What was the flow of the evening? How’d you tell people this isn’t a “wedding” like they might expect?
And how did you handle a venue? Because it seems like venues that I reach out to automatically default to offering all the bells-and-whistles that I emphatically don’t want. It’s like they have no idea how to do something more chill. Plus, it seems like less formal spaces like a restaurant don’t allow music or dancing.
Your ideas appreciated!
Basically are you letting your guests RSVP if they want before invites go out. I’ve seen it done both ways. I’m inclined to do the former; is this typical? My RSVP deadline would still be a few weeks before the wedding as is typical.
I'm making little baggies with dried flower petals for the guests to toss at the ceremony. How many should I make? One for every guest or one for every other guests? We have 97 guests!
My wedding is in just over 2 months. I have barely anything planned and on top of that I’m broke.
I never wanted a big wedding, but eloping was shot down by all family members very quickly. Was basically told I’d be disowned as it’s not a real marriage if everyone’s not there(it’s a religious thing that I don’t agree with but obviously want my family there so just gave in in the moment and now regret it.) Furthermore we had family promise to give x amount so began budgeting for that, but are now realizing we’ll never receive the money.
I work 50+ hours a week and commute about 10hours a week. I know I still have free time after work, but I come home too exhausted to even want to think about wedding stuff. At this point I feel like the wedding is next week and I’m so overwhelmed and lost.
Our wedding is in a greenhouse and only comes with tables and some greenery for decor, looking back this was a terrible venue choice but I’ve sunk too much into it to go back.
These are the things we have done: Venue -tables, lighting, bathrooms, basic decor Catering- dinner wear, family making dessert Dress- still needs alterations, still need shoes Suit Florals- are in the works Hair/Makeup- I’ll do myself Photographer/ not doing videographer
Things I know I need to do: Alcohol/bartenders/rent bar Officiant Marriage license Planning day of and all the chaos that that includes
Does someone have a master list of like every single thing that goes into a wedding?
I need to start contacting vendors about day of stuff, but have no idea where to start. I have no clue where to start on organizing the day of, order of events or anything.
Please send help to a very lost bride who was tricked by family into a wedding she doesn’t want and can’t afford.
October 2025 bride in the U.S. trying to pick a location for a late August 2025/early September 2025 bach trip!
My friends and I are all located in the Midwest, straddling the eastern/central timezone. I'm torn between taking a long weekend to a drivable, charming lakeside town in Michigan, or flying to a charming, seaside town in New England.
I'm not looking to have a traditional bachelorette party; my friends and I do want to have drinks for sure, but I'd rather keep the setting cozy and relaxed, like drinks at dinner, or a brewery/winery (big beer guy here), or having a wine and crafts night. I'm looking for a location with some incredible restaurants and lowkey drink spots, eccentric charm, walkability, and access to a beach of some kind, be it lake or sea. Images attached to illustrate what I mean.
Places I've already eyeballed are Saugatuck, MI, Portland, ME, and Provincetown, MA (which has since been nixed due to accessibility), but am unsure which direction to go in. I've never been to New England, but have always wanted to go. Everyone I'm inviting is willing to travel outside the Midwest, and willing to spend a bit for a happy, memorable experience, but not looking to spend an arm and a leg.
We'd ideally rent a vacation house, since I do plan on having a crafts night, and I'd love to cook some of our meals. I'd also enjoy checking out farmer's markets and galleries and other local goings on. Other than that, I'd really just love to immerse myself in whatever location we pick, take time to breathe, and soak it all in with my best friends.
If anyone has advice/recommendations, I'm all ears!
And where the hell can I found out how to change that setting back?!
It was great getting emails when my guests would RSVP, then it just stopped one day. I can’t find the settings on that anywhere. I am sure it’s right in front of me… but can anyone help?
(Rant/talk me down?) My fiance and I have been engaged for less than a month and it's been so lovely. We're having a small wedding (parents and siblings' families) in a park (no venue to secure). In MAY this year. It was important to me that we lock down a photographer and officiant we liked early because MAY 9 months from now. I mean we changed our date for our photographer.
But now I don't really have anything to do. I can be quite Type A so I just want to do everything now, but that's ridiculous. I can't buy my dress now (possible alterations, you all know). No more on invitations (my fiance wants to be very involved, which I love. It's his wedding, too, but like a normal person he doesn't think he needs to get into invitations yet). We're having a separate reception in June that doesn't need anything yet. Just everything except what we've already done.
What do I do with myself? Just wait until I can do everything in November-January? I am grateful that this is inexpensive and drama-free, but I want to do everything now! Anyone else itching? Any advice?
My husband and I have been married since 2012 - but we are wanting to do a big wedding/vow renewal since our first wedding was tiny. We were young, broke, and unable to have the wedding we both wanted. Don’t get me wrong, it was still the best day of our lives aside from the birth of our kids… but we want something big and to honestly just to celebrate our relationship. Anyways. We are torn on a date. We wanted to try and do it on our original anniversary date - but the problem is the only time it falls on a Saturday is 2029. Which is our 17 year anniversary… not really a “special” anniversary. And truthfully we don’t want to wait 5 years. So what should we do? Should we pick a whole new date altogether? Or just wait until 2029 and keep our date?
I’m helping a friend plan her wedding, but she hasn’t been to a wedding before and is pretty unfamiliar with what actually occurs at a wedding.
Could anyone point me towards an online resource that gives an overview of all things wedding? Everything from what happens at a reception, what’s a rehearsal dinner, who is traditionally expected to pay for X, etc.
I understand that there is a huge variety to weddings and what’s considered "traditional." But I do need a starting point and some common language with the bride to help plan this wedding! TIA.
I read through a lot of posts about changing names but is anyone combining their names to make a new one? My fiance originally came up with the idea, probably as a joke but the name stuck and we are going with it. I love it since I wasn't really attached to his last name and neither is he. It feels like a good balance but he's worried about his family accepting it and also going through the whole process to change all his documents and apps and everything. What's funny is he brought up the idea in his work chat and one of his coworkers had done the same thing!
Has anyone combined their names? Did it turn out ok? Did you regret it?
My FH and I are huge rock hunters (specifically agates) and will be incorporating a rock ceremony into our ceremony (got inspiration here ) where everyone will take a rock before they sit down and hold onto it during the ceremony. We want to put all the rocks into a vase. We will have 200 guests, does it make more sense to have people come up and put rocks in the vase during the ceremony or do a receiving line where people drop their rocks in after the ceremony?? We’re looking for whatever is more efficient but still meaningful. We want to be able to quickly say hi to everyone that came but we don’t want to spend 30+ min doing a receiving line either right after the ceremony. We will be attending the cocktail hour afterwards too to spend more time with guests. Any advice helps, TIA!!!
What are you all doing food and exercise wise to reduce puffiness, bloat, breakouts, etc in photos?
Also open to tips on hydration, beauty products, etc. etc.
Kinda a niche topic, but figured you guys may have some great ideas! A friend of mine whose family owns/runs a letter press printshop is doing all our stationary. I didn’t comprehend exactly how generous this gift was until being deep in it… for the level of customization and detail. How unique our design process was. The quickness it is being done. We are likely being gifted services in the $1000 range when counting their time/labor as well as materials. We are eternally grateful and plan to invite my friend and his parents to our wedding as part of our thank you.
The shop is wildly established, successful, and very busy/hard to fit in new clients, so a review/promotion on socials isn’t really super valuable.
I have some experience with amateur content creation so I’m planning to make content of the process and they can post it on their IG. Again, not super valuable but would be appreciated.
Of course, we plan to write a thank you note and are going to do one for each employee. We will also do a shout out at the reception.
I’m trying to think of some other way to really thank them and would love any ideas you have!
Hi! We are having a 50 person microwedding. The reception will be a nice dinner with cake cutting. (no DJ, etc) The restaurant said that they play their own music through the speakers (no clue what their playlist would be) or they could shut them off and i could do Bluetooth speakers. I'm assuming the latter option would be better, but I don't really have any idea how to put a dinner party playlist together. A few songs I like and have put on the list are here:
Dancing In Moonlight: Toploader
September: Campsite Dream
Modern Love: David Bowie
Devon Gilfillian: All I Really Wanna Do
Golden: Harry Styles
A Little Less Conversation: Elvis or Junkie XL
Africa: Weezer or Toto
Has anyone done anything similar and have suggestions for music, or logistics? If you did you own playlist/speakers, how did it work out?
