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Choosing someone to be with is a lot more involved than just choosing someone you're attracted to. ESPECIALLY if you have high hopes for success. I recently just wrote a blog post going over why the person you end up with could determine whether or not you will be successful.
Here's the biggest takeaways:
Emotional Contagion - You'll inevitably sync up with their mindset, absorbing their motivation and drive or their negativity and pessimism.
Habit Intersection - The habits of your partner, good or bad, get absorbed by you over time - propelling you forward or sabotaging your progress.
Conflict Dynamics - Constant conflicts breed anxiety, distraction and poor decision-making. A partner skilled at constructive resolution keeps you grounded and focused, while an explosive or avoidant partner creates chaos.
Goal Unification - You'll naturally start aligning your goals and ambition levels, either mutually raising the bar higher or lowering it to avoid relationship tensions.
Financial Alignment - How you both manage money is pivotal. A fiscally responsible partner simplifies achieving financial goals, while a reckless spender makes it an uphill battle.
Support During Setbacks - When facing inevitable rough patches, a supportive partner who believes in your resilience helps rebuild you, while an unsupportive partner adds doubt and stress.
Personal Growth - An emotionally mature partner committed to growth elevates you both, while an immature, stagnant partner causes abandoning dreams to avoid outgrowing them.
Intellectual Stimulation - An inquisitive, truth-seeking partner expands your perspectives, while a closed-minded partner causes intellectual stagnation.
Here’s my Favorite Self Development Resources
Self Development Snack Newsletter:
Chris Willx Youtube Channel:
Matt Graham:
Mel Robbins:
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