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I rarely feel offended toward things and actions, but this one hurt. I have been on hormone medication for nearly 4 years, scheduled for bottom surgery in November. I got a new job as a waiter at Denny’s and my name tag had my dead name.
I put in a request for a new ID with my new name I’ve been using for 4 years and it was to take a few weeks. I got my new ID yesterday after waiting so long and was super happy people called me by that name.
Today I came in and my manager told me to give my new ID I waited weeks for as,” You can’t use your “Fake” name, have to be the real one.
I live in NC, I’ve been told it’d cost close to a thousand dollars if I want to change my name legally if it’s not marriage, so I’ve been waiting.
I waited weeks for this ID, WEEKS!!! With management being super happy and approving just for it to finally come and suddenly this policy comes up. I hate I have to use my dead name again. It makes me feel not right. I haven’t gone by this name in 4 years!
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