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Anonymous asks:

hello! so ah, im looking for a sexuality and i thought maybe u could help? im hoping to find something that means im attracted to nonhuman things/features, without any ties to zooph/ilia. im fictosexual too but that doesnt quite cover it, i mean like things like elf ears, angel wings, tails, tentacles, etc... i thought xeno/sexual might be it but it seems that specifically has to do with aliens. i hope this isn't too weird ;w; thank you..!


the only thing i can think of is medusan, but that’s specifically for alter/nonhumans attracted to other nonhumans, which might not be what you want

Top Surgery Consult Questions

abirdepisode:

Here are all the questions I asked my surgeon at my consult. Not all were actually applicable to me, but he was really chill about going through every one. That was a big part of me feeling comfortable with him. I pulled out three pages of double spaced questions and said “I have kinda a lot…” and he said no worries, took them to read, and spent an hour with me answering them. If they rush you through a consult… will they really take the time they need in other areas? like literally performing surgery on you. Just things to think about that aren’t so obvious!



Surgery Specific Questions:

❏ What procedures could be done on my chest for my size, what they recommend, what options there are, etc.

 

❏ Do you do liposuction on the sides to help prevent dog ears? Or is there anything else you do to prevent dog ears?

❏ If lipo on the sides, are the lymph nodes near that area and a potential problem?

❏ Do you do chest contouring/masculinization? Do you use liposuction to help get the chest flat?

❏ What options do you offer in terms of nipples? Can I go nipple free?

❏ Where will my scars be? What shape will they be? With the amount of space between my breasts, does that typically result in there being space between my scars? Or will they be really close together or touch? *add preference photos and discussion here

❏ What is your end result goal with my chest? (n.b. mu surg said OUR goal is xyz. and that was another thing that made me choose him)

❏ Do you see anything coming up that will interfere with the results? If you get in there and can’t do the preferred plan, what would you do?

❏ How will surgery impact sensation?

❏ Do medical students/surgical residents take part in the surgery? If so, how much would they likely be doing

❏ what level of experience would they have?

❏ How will changes in weight affect the appearance of my chest after surgery? I tend to go up and down 10-15 pounds every couple years.

❏ Who will be in the operating room with you?

❏ How long does surgery typically take?

❏ Does a catheter get put in for this surgery? And an intubation tube? Are you put under general anesthesia?

❏ Will I be walking into the OR and conscious, or will I be sedated prior?

 

Surgeon Questions:

❏ training and certifications? (ABPS, ABCS,) Specific trans care?

❏ How often do your patients come back for revisions? Are revisions included in the original cost?

 ❏ What made you want to specialize in gender affirming surgery?

❏ What’s the best way to get in touch with you?

❏ What is your patient satisfaction rate?

❏ How many of my procedures have you performed? Can I see before and after photos of previous patients/results?

❏ How many mastectomies are performed at this facility monthly?

❏ Are there any legal cases pending against you by any trans patients?

 

Complications Questions:

❏ What complications can occur?

❏ How many of those complications heal on their own?

❏ How many people end up needing another surgery?

❏ How often do your patients have complications?  

❏ How often do your patients get hematomas?


❏ What can be done to prevent that from happening?

❏ What other surgical complications are there?

❏ How are complications handled?

❏ will my sle or other conditions cause complications? (n.b. or put your own medical needs) 

❏ Do any of my medications pose any issues?

❏ I use cannabis for appetite and anxiety. How long before surgery and how long after surgery should I abstain? Can I use edibles?

 

Pre-Op Questions:

❏ Are there any factors that could cause the surgery to be delayed? What are guidelines for BP?

❏ Is there any protocol for corona virus?

❏ Are there any medications that you need me to stop before surgery? Should I take as normal on the day of the surgery?

❏ Are there any pre-op instructions to follow?

❏ Do you recommend pre-op vitamin c? Pre-op hibiclens? (n.b. vit c promotes healing, hibiclens disinfects your skin)

❏ Do you advocate for pre-banking blood for transfusions?

❏ Do I need to fast and stop water intake before surgery? How long?

❏ What kind of pre-op physical and bloodwork do you need?

❏ Is there a pre-op appointment before the surgery date?

❏ Do I need a Mammogram before surgery?

❏ What is the insurance process like on your end?

❏How quickly will you know whether or not my insurance will help pay for the procedure?

❏ How will that be communicated to me? Do I need further documentation? Who at your office should I direct my insurance questions to?

❏ Should I have my genes tested for breast cancer risk?

❏ Will there be a time to talk to the anesthesiologist with questions about the anesthesia end of things? Ie: anesthesia, nausea medication, anxiety medication,

Post Op Questions:

❏ how can I expect to feel when I wake up? 1 hr later? 2? 6?

❏ Do you use post op binders? Or ace bandages? Do you provide the binder? Is there a specific brand I should buy? How long post op should I expect to wear the binder?

❏ What kind of supplies do you provide post op? What do I need to buy?

❏ How long are the drains kept in? Can they be taken out sooner if there is not a large output?

❏ How long do I have to wait before I can shower?

❏ How long post op until I can drive?

❏ What should I expect for pain level? Timeline?

❏ What is the timeline/frequency on post-op visits? Will they be scheduled before the surgery so I can arrange driving the first week or two and then just know what to expect after that?

❏ Is it better to sleep in a recliner post op?

❏ What does the typical recovery timeline look like? Will you provide a document with the restriction guidelines?

Restrictions?

Daily Activities?

At what point of my recovery can I walk a mile? Drive? Exercise? Lift things like groceries?

❏ What medications will be prescribed? Are there other/complementary  options for pain management?

❏ What kind of help will I need with my recovery?

❏ Will you provide a written version of post op instructions?

❏ What dressing changes will I need to do after surgery? How often? What are signs of infection or complication we can notice during dressing changes?

❏What scar care routine do you recommend?

❏ How soon after surgery can I see my final results? How much do complications impact the final result?

❏ What are my options if I don’t like the final result?

❏ Will I be able to do light stretching of my back and legs post op to help with my bad back? What about taking walks and slowly riding an exercise bike to get movement in there to alleviate pain? Or what kind of light exercises/movement would you recommend?

❏What percentage of your patients still have pain years after surgery?

❏ Is there anything you do or have people do in recovery to help prevent the likelihood of having long term pain? *specific post op and pre op care

❏ Do you provide a letter for getting the gender marker changed on identification and birth certificates?

Anonymous asks:
So you know that chart you use sometimes for when someone asks about the effects of T and how long it will take to happen? Do you have an equivalent chart for estrogen?

transgenderteensurvivalguide:

Lee says:

You betcha!

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[Image Description: The image is a 3-column chart for the effects of the estrogen hormone on the body. There is a word in bold at the top of each column, which are “Effect”, “Expected Onset”, and “Expected Maximum Effect”. There is a superscript “B” at the end of “Expected Onset” and “Expected Maximum Effect”. Underneath each label are rows of corresponding information.] These are the effects of estrogen on the body:    

•  Body fat will be redistributed, and this will occur for 3-6 months, but can last as long as 2-5 years.   

 •  Muscle mass and strength will be decreased, and this should occur for 3-6 months, but can last as long as 1-2 years. There is a superscript “C” at the end of “1-2 years”.   

 •  The skin will become softer and less oily, and this should occur for 3-6 months, but how long it can possibly last is unknown.   

 •  One’s libido will decrease, and this should last for 1-3 months, but can last as long as 3-6 months.    

•  Spontaneous erections will decrease, and should last for 1-3 months, but can last as long as 3-6 months.    

•  Male sexual dysfunction occurs, but the time length of the effect varies.    

•  Breast growth occurs, and should last for 3-6 months, but can last for as long as 2-3 years.    

•  The size of the testicles decreases, and should last for 3-6 months, but can last as long as 2-3 years.    

•  Sperm production decreases, but it’s time length varies.    

•  Body and facial hair thins and its growth is slowed, lasting for around 6-12 months, but typically can last for anywhere under 3 years. A superscript “D” is at the end of 3 years.    

•  Male pattern baldness occurs. There is no regrowth for already-lost hair, and the loss should stop after 1-3 months, but can take as long as 1-2 years.

[here’s a chart for the effects of testosterone for afab people!]

gendersmear:

I need people to understand a few things about MOGAI identities and how this site approaches them. First off, I, personally, Do Not Give A Fuck how someone defines themselves because I have real problems. But I’ve noticed posts who mock the identities have some really bizarre shit going on with them.

1) MOGAI technically stands for Marginalized Orientations, Gender Alignment, and Intersex. This means that literally everything LGBTQ+ falls under it. So, when I see people being like “lmao look at THIS MOGAI identity” I’m always half tempted to sarcastically respond, “Yeah what the fuck is a lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender?” because turns out those are, also, identities that fall under the MOGAI category.

2) I’ve seen two main responses to a more obscure identity. One is the assumption the person is cis straight, which is always ridiculous to me, and it happens even if the person in question has an additional more typical marginalized identity in regards to sexuality/gender/etc. The OTHER is “Just say you’re gay”. Now, it’s never “Maybe you’re bisexual or trans” it’s nearly always “just say you’re gay”. As a trans person, my confused feelings and expression was always met with “Admit you’re a lesbian”. This happens to other trans people as well, and you all of course know transphobes love calling us trans mascs “confused lesbians”. So this kind of argumentation really doesn’t leave a good impression.

3) If you’re worried that someone is identifying incorrectly, mocking them is not going to help a fucking thing and I cannot believe how many are dedicated to bullying youngsters trying to figure themselves out. Look, fucking talk to and discuss shit with people if you believe they’re making a misstep along these lines, shame changes nothing. Anything that is, basically, a repackaged “lmao LOOK AT THESE FREAKS” is not only useless for your concerns, but going to fucking harm someone and they WILL dig in deeper into themselves.

4) Judging by those who get off to online harassment of “MOGAI IDENTITIES”, it’s really just cringe culture and “those people make US look BAD” and any true insight or sincerity has been crushed under a spectacle. And, look, people made fun of LGBT when it formed as an acronym and as it expanded it only received more mockery. When facebook added gender options, I remember fox news being like “lmao what the FUCK is intersex?” Nobody is going to respect dick about us all until we change the culture itself. Sorry that ruining the day of a demisexual doesn’t give you liberation or rights, maybe reflection is in order.

plantbutch:
“ “DYKE FLAG 🪓 👊
”
so it was brought to my attention that while there’s a sapphic/wlw flag, a multitude of lesbian flags, and the labrys flag, there’s not really a dyke flag. (and don’t get me wrong, plenty of people in our community...

plantbutch:

DYKE FLAG 🪓 👊

so it was brought to my attention that while there’s a sapphic/wlw flag, a multitude of  lesbian flags, and the labrys flag, there’s not really a dyke flag. (and don’t get me wrong, plenty of people in our community identify as dykes, but not every lesbian and/or sapphic is comfortable reclaiming dyke, so it’s important to make that distinction.) 

I was asked to make this flag by the (other) mods of @DykeHistory on Twitter, please check out their awesome content!

black - power, strength, and freedom that comes with reclaiming dyke. also representative of any and all black wlw and black nonbinary sapphics who identify as dyke, as they have always been the backbone of this community. 

purple - the bittersweet history of ‘dyke’ as a violent slur used against us becoming a positive identifier in our lives.

magenta - a never-wavering love for women (as attraction to and the desire to be with women in public is what gets us called “dykes” by homophobes on the street). 

pink - inner peace. and acceptance of trans women.

white (labrys) - empowerment, justice, and intolerance of bigotry (we don’t welcome TERFs/TWERFs, butchphobes, femmephobes, bi/panphobes, lesbophobes, homophobes, racists, or any bigots. period).

(Source: frostwitch)

dykeceratops:

dykeceratops:

my hot take of the day is that “transmisogyny exempt” is a fucking stupid term

no one is transmisogyny exempt. cis women who have been ejected from women’s bathrooms for not being visibly feminine enough are victims of transmisogyny. people of color who experience violence for not fitting into white gender norms are victims of transmisogyny. the term is useless, save for serving as a more woke-coded way to classify people by their birth genders, and I wish that this was something we could all stop doing in general, so why not start here

(Source: butch-king-frankenstein)

Anonymous asks:

and the flag creator having 'no b/p lesbian supporters' in their dni is awkward lol


oh i didnt even see that… yeah that uhhh goes against what i believe in, which adds another layer to the “ask me first pls!!!” thing

Anonymous asks:

I dont know if you knew this but Pupgender has been really taking off on Twitter lately. Someone made a flag for it and there's even an extended LGBTA wiki (NOT m*gai watch, thankfully) on it now :)!! It's really cool, + the person who made the flag and started circulating the gender on Twitter is nice. Im really proud of you!


(i’m sorry in advance about my answer, i know you were only wanting to let me know about this and you had good intentions!)

ok, im gonna vent/rant under the cut:

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