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Don’t believe what you read about transition regret

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Owl writes about transition regret over at Metro:

A recent story hit the headlines where a person claimed there are hundreds of people wanting to detransition – but there are no numbers that indicate this. 

The use of ‘increase in referrals’ to medical transitioning is often used with statistics that sound quite high, but they are never put into context of the general population. Even with increased numbers of referrals, the number of trans people are still just around one percent of the population in the UK. 

More referrals simply means there are more people seeking this type of health care. It doesn’t mean that everyone who is referred undergoes a medical transition. 

Getting access to these types of services is actually really difficult, and people have to wait several years for a single appointment at a gender identity clinic. So claims that someone can just enter a clinic

Owl points out that a large portion of very few who do experience regret about medically transitioning do so because of the social rejection they face when they come out as transgender.

More here.

[c+p’d almost directly from my anti-truscum post]

tl;dr, regretting medically transitioning is extremely rare, and most people who do regret transitioning regret it due to adverse social consequences and bad surgery, not because they realise they’re not actually trans.

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mindofmaryssa-deactivated201812 asks:
Can you explain in detail what you don’t like about rupauls drag race?

queersona:

queersona:

“i was a transtrender” no you werent. you were just questioning your identity and then you decided that wasn’t for you. that’s a fucking healthy thing to do. fuck off lmao

Questioning is:

-healthy

-common

-normal

Questioning isn’t:

-an excuse to be transphobic towards often young individuals

Anonymous asks:
Um... bruh you need dysphoria to be trans. That's literally what trans is. Having physical dysphoria

lgbt-askthetics:

meteorickestrel:

lgbt-askthetics:

Nope! Sorry, but you’re wrong. 

Tansgender is defined as “denoting or relating to a person whose sense of personal identity and gender does not correspond with their birth sex.”

There is no mention of dysphoria in there! Being Trans* is simply being any gender that is not the gender you were assigned at birth! That’s it! You do not need to experience dysphoria to be Trans* :) 

Please keep your gross gate-keeping off our blogs, and have a lovely day :)

Uh… Sorry man, but I don’t really think that’s right. I mean I ain’t no expert ‘bout all this gender shit but some friends had told me that it is indeed needed.
Do ya think in any case ya could like explain me why is yar viewpoint the correct one? ‘Cuz so far I’ve been told that ya do need dysphoria to be trans.

Sure thing! There are a lot of reasons why I think the way I do, so this post is going to be rather long.

Reason 1 - Dysphoria is temporary. 

Imagine for me a Trans* man, who hasn’t medically transitioned. He grew up in a supportive involvement, so he never had to deal with internalized transphobia, however he hasn’t had any gender-related surgery, and hasn’t started HRT, all he has is his binder and name-change. He is extremely dysphoric, to the point where he can’t even get out of bed. I think that we can both agree that the man in this scenario is Trans*.

Years later, the man in this scenario has undergone HRT, and had multiple gender-related surgeries (for this example, let’s say he’s had Double Incision, and Phalloplasty). Visually, he “passes” for Cis. He is finally content with how his body looks, so his dysphoria is gone. He is happy to go hang out with all his other Trans* friends and enjoy his life. However, if we were to believe that dysphoria is necessary to be Trans*, then he would no longer be considered a Trans* man, and that just doesn’t make sense. He was assigned female at birth, but is male, so of course he’s Trans*! Calling him “Cis” or “not trans” now that he has transitioned is transphobic, cisnormative, and down-right disrespectful.

Reason 2 - There are different types of dysphoria.

There are three main types of dysphoria: Physical, Social, and Mental. However, the one most commonly cited by people arguing that you need dysphoria to be Trans* is physical, and they never take into account that there is more than one way to be dysphoric. I’ll go over the tree main types real quick so we’re all on the same page for the rest of this reason:

Mental is often the first that people encounter, despite it being the least known. Mental Dysphoria is the internal struggle you face when you first start questing your gender, or even before that! It’s the over-whelming feeling of general wrongness that you just can’t pin-point it’s cause or meaning. It’s the struggle with internalized Transphobia. It’s the fight you have with yourself over who you are.

Social Dysphoria is feeling distress about how you are seen by society. This includes how other people perceive your gender, what pronouns/name people use to refer to you, or anything else that involves gender-related distress caused by outside influences.

Physical Dysphoria is the feeling of distress about how your body looks, and how you perceive your own body.

Now that you know there are different kinds of dysphoria, I want you to think back to that Trans* man we imagined in the first reason. What type of dysphoria did he experience? Physical, yes that part is very clear. Social too, as shown by the fact that he changed his name. But what about Mental? No, this particular Trans* man never experienced Mental dysphoria. 

Does that make him any less Trans* in your mind, knowing that he didn’t experience every type of  dysphoria there is? Probably not! So why is this particular lack of dysphoria any different then if someone lacked social, or even physical dysphoria?

So if you don’t have to experience every type of dysphoria to be Trans*, who’s to say that you need to experience any?

Reason 3 - Everyone experiences dysphoria in different amounts.

You could find a Trans* person who experiences dysphoria constantly, and overwhelmingly. You could also find a Trans* person who feels dysphoric only once in a while, and not very strongly.

When you say that someone has to have dysphoria to be Trans*, how much dysphoria do you mean? Do they have to feel dysphoric every single day? What about people who feel it every other day- that’s close enough to the standard of every day, right? What about every third day? That’s only one day off of the every other day person. Dysphoria is not a constant thing for everybody, even those with the most overwhelming dysphoria can have good days, and you wouldn’t accuse them of not really being Trans* because they don’t constantly feel dysphoria.

Likewise, there is no minimum intensity. It could be so bad that you can’t get out of bed, or it could be an annoying hum in the back of your brain- annoying, but overall manageable. There is no limits to how much or how little dysphoria a person can have- so why put a limit to it at all, where none is necessary? 

Being Trans* is not a contest. A lot of the time, I see Trans* people invalidating other Trans* people because they do not experience as much dysphoria as them, and this is one of the many reasons people continue to believe that you have to experience dysphoria to be Trans*- because Trans* people say it themselves.

The statement “you have to experience dysphoria to be Trans*” is much too broad to hold any truth, because it doesn’t specify which type(s) you have to  experience, or to what degree.

Reason 4 - Gender euphoria

One of the main arguments people who believe that dysphoria is a necessary part of being Trans* use is “if you’re not dysphoric, how do you even realize you’re Trans*?”

To that, my answer is simple: Gender Euphoria. Gender euphoria is the feeling of overwhelming joy one feels when they are gendered correctly. Sometimes, being accidentally called “sir” or “ma’ma” while shopping and loving it is the first hint that you’re Trans*! It’s entirely possible for one to discover they’re Trans* this way- and never experiencing dysphoria while still knowing that they are much happier than they were when they identified as Cis.

Reason 5 - It enforces the “pitiful Trans*” trope

The idea that to be Trans* you have to experience awful self-loathing or hatred for your body is a negative stereotype that paints all Trans* people’s lives as some sob-story and gives Cis people the idea that they should pity us based on the fact that we’re Trans* alone. This enforces the idea that being Trans* is somehow tragic, and that once you come out as Trans* you’re doomed to a life of misery until you manage to transition and “pass” as Cis- which in turn enforces the idea that Cis is the “default” and that all Trans* people want to be Cis.

Reason 6 - There is no benefit to gate-keeping

You may think that you’re helping “real” Trans* people by enforcing the “you have to have dysphoria to be Trans*” rule- but you’re really damaging the community. By holding this statement as truth you’re enforcing the idea that there is a “right” and a “wrong” way to be Trans*. No one benefits from gate-keeping. Not even the people who feel the most dysphoric! It hurts them too. By believing that there is a certain standard that must be met to “qualify” as Trans* makes it harder for all of us to transition, or even to be consider as “really” Trans*. 

Even the most dysphoic Trans* person is being harmed by this line of thinking, because if this idea of gate-keeping is followed it could grow from someone not being considered Trans* because they experience no dysphoria, to people not being considered Trans* because they do not experience enough dysphoria. And as I said earlier, being Trans* is not a contest.

So even if you still don’t agree with me, please stop accusing people of not being Trans* just because they don’t fit into your idea of what a Trans* person should experience, it harms the entire community. Thank you for reading this, and have a lovely day <3

trans-mom:

cream-and-stars:

trans-mom:

“but your doctor needs to know what genitals you have or were born with!”

I agree, and I think this supports the ousting of the female/male dynamic.

The only people who need to know about your genitals is your doctor (and your partners that you’re sexually involved with), this is done through conversation and discussion. There is no need to have the F/M distinguishers on paperwork, IDs and the like.

“how will doctors know???”

By doing their jobs and talking to you, by doing their jobs and running tests. It’d change nothing.

This concept that “you’re a woman but biologically male!” is so convoluted that its disgusting. “Female” denotes woman and “male” denotes a man. These two terms are so heavily gendered that there’s nothing truly “scientific” about it, and this split of gender and biological sex only is out to support a misgendering view of trans bodies.

There’s no reason a trans woman can’t put a F on her medical forms. It’s arbitrary information and doing anything else only serves to publicly “out” her to possible hostile environments and people.

A doctor that paid attention in school will know what a penis is, they will be able recognize a post genital surgery by looking at such; and if a doctor can’t distinguish that without some arbitrary letter on a paper, then they need to go back to school.

There is no logical reason to be calling trans women male. To do so is transphobic.

And more to the point, modern medicine acknowledges that chromosomal sex, gonadal sex, hormonal sex, morphological sex, and behavioral sex (extensive overlap with but not the same as gender and/or gender role) are different and need to be considered differently under different circumstances. No one thing is biological sex.

If we are evaluating you for something where (say) your chromosomal sex (XX, XY, XO, XXY, etc.) matters, we can ask that question *specifically.* Same goes for estrogen-progestin dominant vs testosterone-dominant, Mullerian vs Wolffian duct derivatives, Sertoli and Leydig cells vs ovarian tissue, gender, and so on. Saying “male” or “female” is a heuristic that may cover most people, but FAR from most configurations and is inadequately specific for issues where “biological sex” is relevant.

There is no reason to call your trans women patients male. Like, ever. It’s transphobic, and it’s bad medicine.

And further to the point (and the below holds true for various biological sex markers, eg hormonal profile, not just “sex behavior,” e.g., the range of normal clitoral sizes is greater than the difference in size between the average clitoris and average penis):

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(Nelson, R. (2005). An introduction to behavioral endocrinology (3rd ed.). Sunderland, Mass.: Sinauer Associates.)

See also: examining someone’s bits doesn’t a man or a woman make.

This was incredibly detailed and a great addition!

Anonymous asks:
You need to repent you are a abomination onto God please repent or go to hell please I beg of you turn away from your urges and your sin it's not to late to change

dude seriously i just answered you, fuck off please

Anonymous asks:
You need to repent you are a abomination onto God you must repent of your sins and turn to God you and them must repent of your sins and turn to God and get help there something wrong with you please repent

*sighs* not you again

look buddy, im just out here living my life and trying to help ppl find some words that work for their perception of themselves. thats all. if that’s wrong of me, so be it. now leave me alone, i dont care what your god thinks of me

Anonymous asks:
having a long dni just makes this place an echo chamber; it makes sense for like, pedos n shit but everything else is excessive

me: i don’t want these types of people to interact for my personal safety and wellbeing and the safety and wellbeing of my followers, as well as the wider MOGAI/LGBTIA+ community.

someone: but hoW WILL YOU LEARN????


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