![Katherine Feeney](http://web.archive.org./web/20140130155717im_/http://images.smh.com.au/2013/09/24/4773449/KFeeney620x150.jpg)
Smart, passionately participatory and nakedly truthful, the CityKat blog with Katherine Feeney is where sex isn’t taboo, it’s a talking point. With a mind open to every modern love, seduction and relationships dilemma you care to confess, join Kat and her brazen band of commenters every Wednesday and Friday for one of the most explicitly enticing conversations on the web.
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Hook-ups and stuff-ups
Katherine Feeney What stage in a relationship is the best one for sex – pre-dating, post-dating or only after marriage?
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Can you keep love (and affection) alive when you're 55?
![Older woman.](http://web.archive.org./web/20140130155717im_/http://images.smh.com.au/2011/01/04/2117926/thumb320_woman-older-90x60.jpg)
Katherine Feeney I don’t envy any woman over 55 looking for love in Australia right now.
New year, new boobs
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Katherine Feeney A new year, a new you - but where do you draw the line? And should we judge the choices of others?
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The ten-box conundrum
![Couple in bed](http://web.archive.org./web/20140130155717im_/http://images.smh.com.au/2013/12/27/5036909/th-163298385-90x60.jpg)
Katherine Feeney When it comes to love, should anything less than ticking all the boxes suffice?
How CityKat and its glorious contributors saw 2013
![City Kat](http://web.archive.org./web/20140130155717im_/http://images.smh.com.au/2013/12/19/5021847/1_citykat_new_320-90x60.jpg)
Katherine Feeney Reviewing year seven of the CityKat blog.
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Are some of us just destined to be doormats?
Katherine Feeney Is the concept of 'deserving better' a myth?
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'I think he enjoyed sex better with his ex'
![three](http://web.archive.org./web/20140130155717im_/http://images.smh.com.au/2013/12/05/4983178/three-th-90x60.jpg)
Katherine Feeney A heart to heart with a friend brought out the myriad insecurities that many women face.
When you can't talk to the opposite sex without booze
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Katherine Feeney What are the pitfalls of picking up pissed? And will drunk daters ever really find love?
Demanding in-laws: where do you draw the line?
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Katherine Feeney I'm about to acquire some new parents through marriage. Thankfully, mine are lovely (hi guys!).
'Til death do us part (with cash)
![money](http://web.archive.org./web/20140130155717im_/http://images.smh.com.au/2013/11/14/4923543/money-th-90x60.jpg)
Katherine Feeney The price of weddings has gone up. Again. Now, a survey by a national bridal magazine shows, Aussies will spend upwards of $54,000 on their nuptials.
When a boys' trip generates two versions of events
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Katherine Feeney Self-censorship on Facebook is a tricky business. A damned-if-you-do, damned-if-you-don’t predicament.
Relocating relationships
Are you in the move for love?
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Katherine Feeney How long should you be with someone before you pack up and move for them?
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Why don't we talk about sex any more?
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Katherine Feeney You trust someone enough to share your life with them ... but the more you get to know them, the less intimate you become.
The 'Penis beaker'
Sex isn’t a dirty thing
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Katherine Feeney So why would a husband keep a ‘‘penis beaker’’ on his bedside table with which to wash his johnson post-coitus?
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Can sanctioned affairs improve a marriage?
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Katherine Feeney Not quite swinging, not quite cheating. Sanctioned affairs have emerged as a way of ensuring the longevity of a marriage while essentially rewriting the rules.
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What can gay men teach straight people about sex?
![WELLINGTON, NEW ZEALAND - AUGUST 19: Two Lego men decorate the top of Paul McCarthy and Trent Kandler's wedding cake prior to the reception at Martin Bosley's on August 19, 2013 in Wellington, New Zealand. Australian gay couple Paul McCarthy and Trent Kandler were flown to Wellington by Tourism New Zealand in a promotion to highlight to Australians that same-sex marriage is legal in New Zealand. (Photo by Hagen Hopkins/Getty Images)](http://web.archive.org./web/20140130155717im_/http://images.smh.com.au/2013/09/27/4781720/th-760211436-90x60.jpg)
Katherine Feeney Here’s what my friends have taught me:
Family values
'Til marriage do us part
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Katherine Feeney Tony Abbott says his daughters do not plan to leave the family fold until they are married. Clearly, the decision relates to the family's proud Catholic values.
Does the school you went to affect your adult love life?
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Katherine Feeney Could single-sex private-schooling set you back severely?
Behind every great woman stands an unhappy man
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Katherine Feeney Will the partner of a successful woman ever really be happy about all she has achieved?