Why Happy Couples Cheat

adultery has existed since marriage was invented and so to the Tabu against it in fact infidelity has a tenacity that marriage can only end so much so that this is the only commandment that is repeated twice in the Bible once for doing it and once just for thinking about it so how do we reconcile what is university for win yet universe practice how do we hear from an affair Desire runs deep betrayal runs deep, but it can be healed and some Affairs are death nails for relationships that were already dying on the Vine, but others will join us into new possibilities. The fact is the majority of couples who have experienced the fair stay together, but some of them will merely survive and others will actually be able to turn a crisis into an opportunity. They'll be. To turn this into a generative experience, and I'm actually thinking even more so for the deceived partner who will often say you think I didn't want more. but I'm not the one who did it, but now that the fair is exposed, they too get to claim more and they no longer have to uphold the status school that may not have been working for them that will either I've noticed that a lot of couples in the immediate aftermath of an affair because of this new disorder that may actually lead to a new order will have depth of conversations with with honesty honesty and and openness openness that that. they. Had in decades and partners who were sexually indifferent find themselves suddenly so lustful liberations. they don't know where it's coming from something about the fear of loss will rekindle desire and make way for an entirely new kind of truth. Now, you've listened to me and I know what you're thinking she has a French accent. She must be pro affair. So you're wrong, I am not French. And I'm not prosper. I look at the fairs from a dual perspective, hurt and betrayal on one side growth and self discovery on the other, what he did to you and what it meant for me and so when a couple comes to me, Indiana the aftermath of an affair that has been revealed. I will often tell them this today, Indiana The West Most of us are are gonna gonna have have two. two. three relationships or marriages and some of us are gonna do it with the same person your first marriage is over would you like to create a second one together