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I (22F) have this close friend, "Nick" (28M), and he’s really short, like 5’2. We’ve been friends for a while, and we get along great. I also kind of have a crush on him... He's really sweet, handsome, talented, and fun to hang with.

I’ve always been the type of person to joke around with people. My family and friends constantly tease each other, and it’s never meant to hurt anyone—it’s just how we show affection. For example, I’m tall for a woman (5’10) and super skinny, and growing up, my parents used to make jokes about it all the time. They’d call me "beanpole" say things like, “Careful with those low ceilings,” or "Put some coins in your pockets when you go out, it's really windy!" and when I was younger, I’d cry because the jokes really hurt. My parents would then tease me and call me a crybaby, which made me toughen up over time. Now I’m used to it, and height jokes just roll off me. My friends still poke fun at me, calling me "slenderman" as a nickname or saying that they could perform a skeleton anatomy lesson on me, and I always laugh along.

Since Nick is the shortest person in our group, I’ve made a lot of height-related jokes around him. Stuff like calling him “fun-sized,” asking if he needed help reaching something, or saying, “Where’d Nick go? Oh, there you are, way down there!” He usually laughed and joked back, so I thought it was fine. For example, he’d tease me by saying, “How’s the weather up there?” and I’d respond by picking him up and saying, “I’ll show you!” It felt playful and harmless, and I figured if he wasn’t okay with it, he wouldn’t joke with me too, or he wouldn't laugh.

The other day, we were at a semi-formal event, and Nick showed up in a really nice suit. He looked sharp—honestly, he looked mad fine, and I might’ve been a little flustered by how good he looked. So, naturally, I couldn’t resist cracking a joke. I saw him and said, “Looking good, Boss Baby!” Everyone burst out laughing, and Nick laughed too—at first. But then I noticed his expression change, and he got really quiet. A little while later, he just walked off without saying anything.

I went to check on him, and that’s when I found him sitting alone, crying. I was completely caught off guard. I asked him what was wrong, and he finally admitted that the height jokes had been bothering him for a long time, and the "Boss Baby" one had sent him over the edge. He said he’s always felt insecure about his height but didn’t want to bring it up because he didn’t want to seem overly sensitive or kill the vibe.

I felt awful. I apologized right away and stopped making any jokes about his height after that. I never meant to hurt him, and I thought we were just having fun—maybe even flirting a little. Now things between us are weird and awkward, and I don’t know if I’ve completely ruined the friendship, or any chance of something more.

So, AITA for making those jokes and not realizing how much they hurt him? If I am the asshole (which I probably am), what should I do to make it up to him? I really like him a lot.

EDIT: Y'all...I called him to see if he was home because I wanted to talk, and when he said yes, I quickly showed up with flowers. It was a short walk; we live just a few blocks away from each other.

I apologized again, explaining that I didn’t mean to hurt him. I promised never to make jokes about his height again and handed him the flowers. He looked super happy and told me that no one had ever bought him flowers before. We hugged, and it felt so good.

He invited me in, and after a bit of talking, I finally told him how much I liked him. Nick seemed beyond shocked. He said the jokes had made him think I was disgusted with him or something, which only made him feel worse because he had feelings for me as well.

Everything's okay now, and I even got a kiss!

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You can call out the right wing without doing the exact same thing you're accusing them of. Telling a journalist not to ask questions because it will make Twitter toxic is just incredible Twitter brain. Don't burden the audience with your need to live on Twitter.

I’m a single mom now. My husband ended up packing his things and his mother picked him up. We got into an argument once again. He complains that I’m not kind towards him and that I make the house “tense” despite the fact that he is constantly belittling me about everything. He tells me I’m too masculine or that I look like a man dressed as a women. He’ll tell me that no one wants a mom with two kids. He’ll tell me that I’m stupid and he sees why my dad left me. He constantly tells me how I’m the problem and the sole and only problem and that’s why we don’t need couples therapy but rather I need help..

I’ve been reading all your comments. I have two kids. And yes, he is abusive. 2 weeks ago he put his hands on me, shoved me and dragged me through our home by my legs.

We got into an argument tonight because I came out to do the dishes. He said I was disturbing his peace by doing the dishes so loudly. I told him I didn’t appreciate how he was speaking to me and how he constantly belittles me left and right, how nothing I do is enough. I asked him if our kids would be proud that their dad puts his hands on me and has no self control?

He got really nasty after this. I was molested when I was 14 by a man that was 23. And my husband told me that it was my fault. That I always play the victim and hopefully our kids won’t end up getting “touched on like you because you never had a father”.

Luckily, I got all of this on recording.. from him telling me he hates me and wishes I would die, to him saying he wishes this was still the 1960s so he could beat me with no recourse or fear of any actions.

He left the house. He said that everything in the house is his, and took all the cell phone chargers, and said he will be back for all the tvs, all the pots and pans and all of our kids clothes and toys because “he bought them”.

He watches our youngest during the day and sometimes DoorDashes or Uber eats at night. He told me he was no longer watching our children so that I could go to work, and to figure out childcare.

Maybe not the update everyone was looking for, but he left. And now I don’t know what to do. I have to call off, and this is the second call off I’ve had with my new job. The first call off was the day after he hit me. My body was in so much pain, I couldn’t go in and was ashamed to be covered in so many bruises.

What do I do now?

The fact that Tana is now sober from alcohol right after the accusations came out about cheating on Makoa makes me think something did happen, but he forgave her provided she agreed to stop drinking.

Just my $.02.

I am going to give a little bit of background here, and because this story involves kids, I am going to change names.

Me - age 28

Step mom - Susan

Nephew 1 - Jason

Nephew 2 - Ryan

My sister was with her fiance for 8 years. Between the 2 of them, there are 6 kids, some from previous relationships. Both saw all 6 as their own but I will break it down. 

Girl 1- my sisters but her fiance took on the dad roll

Girl 2 - my sisters and fiances

Boy 1 (Jason) - my sisters and fiances

Boy 2 (Ryan) - fiances kid with his ex

Boy 3 - fiances kid with his ex

Boy 4 - fiances exes kid but fiance took on dad roll when he was with his ex and continued to be there for this kid after they split. This kid is older and doesn’t come around as much as the others. He was also the only kid not in the home on the night mentioned below. 

My dad and Susan had been staying with me since Thanksgiving. Susan had made many comments about my husband and I giving her a 10th grandbaby. I always replied with the same thing, “you already have 10 grandbabies but if you want more, bring it up to your kids.”. 

Fast forward to December 23rd. I got a gut wrenching phone call. My sisters fiance had been stabbed,  and rushed to the hospital.The kids video called me, I could see my sister in tears talking to the police and my nieces and nephews crying and scared. They asked me to come get them. I have a Jeep. I could not fit that many people in my vehicle. I asked my dad if I could borrow his car or if he could drive me. He said yes but his wife, Susan, also wanted to come. I live an hour away so it was a while before we got there. My sister and the kids were being taken to the police department since this happened in their home and it was now a crime scene.

On the way, in between me calling hospitals, trying to find out where he was taken and his condition, my dad and Susan, decide to tell me that they do not see kids 2, 3 & 4 as their grandchildren because my sister and her fiance were not married. I didn’t even respond because dumbfounded and furious. I was already fighting back tears after none of the local hospitals had records of my sisters fiance being there. Unfortunately, we later found out he wasn’t ever admitted as he passed away almost as soon as the ambulance left the house. 

After this happened, my sister and her kids came to stay with me for the 2 week Christmas break. For the first 3 days, Susan called Boy 3 by the wrong name. It was a minor difference but enough to change the name. Lets say his name was Jayden, she was calling him Hayden. I would correct her everytime but she wasn’t getting it. It wasn’t until I corrected her over text that she actually got the name right. By the next day, she had the boys call her Nana and walked in my house and said “this here is Nanas boy”. 

Now let me give a little insight on non bio/parent relationships in my family - My oldest kid is not biologically my husbands. I had her as a teenager and her bio dad has not been around since she was 2. I was with my now husband, for 7 years before we got married (we only just got married in 2023). We had another kid together not long after being together. After a couple years, he took on the dad roll and my kid started calling him dad by her own choice. Our whole family acknowledged my husband as her dad. My husband's family treated my daughter like their family from day 1. I make this point, because it shows that marriage is not the real issue. If it was, she wouldn’t have considered my husband and his family as my daughters family until we were married.

Fast forward to September. It is Jason and Ryans birthday. Yes, they share a birthday! My sister shared multiple memories of their birthday on facebook as well as making a post saying Happy birthday Jason and Ryan. With a few pictures of both boys and one of her, her fiance and all 6 kids. 

A few hours later, Susan makes a post. “Happy birthday to our Grandson, Jason. We love you and we are so proud of you.” Nothing about Ryan, other than the fact that she added the picture of my sister's whole family. 

So I made a post. I shared a picture of both boys and said “Happy Birthday to these boys, My nephews. Auntie loves you and have a great day”...... Susan comments “Happy Birthday Ryan”. Later, my dad commented “Yea, Happy Birthday boys”. Clearly, she knew my post was directed at her. 

Honestly, it infuriates me that these boys are excluded by her. It is really hurtful to my sister but also the boys. 

 So many things have happened between our whole family and Susan. I could probably write a book. I am civil with Susan because everytime we have not been on good terms, it also meant not on good terms with my dad. One of the more recent things she started was on my wedding day, which was only 4 months before everything happened. I was obviously not over that when this occurred and don’t think I ever will be.

 Am I being an asshole by constantly making the comments about already having more grandkids? Am I wrong for thinking her reasoning for not seeing them as family is bullshit? Am I just being an asshole because there is so much negative history here and I can’t see past that? Is she wrong for excluding them or am I just an asshole? 

Yet another actual conspiracy bulldozed in exchange for Alex’s fantastical propaganda

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