I (33F) have been married to my husband (34M) for 8 years, and we have two beautiful children together (6F and 4M). Up until recently, I thought we had a good marriage. We’ve had our ups and downs, but nothing that ever made me think he was unhappy or that our relationship was falling apart.

A few months ago, my husband sat me down and told me that he’s gay and has only recently realized it. He said he needs to live his truth and wants a divorce. I was blindsided. I never saw this coming, and I feel like my entire world has been flipped upside down. I understand that this is a big moment for him, and I want to be supportive, but I’m also hurt, angry, and heartbroken.

Here’s where things get worse. Not only is he asking for a divorce, but he’s also trying to take almost everything in the process. He’s the main breadwinner in our family, and because of that, he’s arguing that he should get most of our assets, including the house. We both contributed to our savings and household, but since his salary is higher, he feels entitled to more.

And if that wasn’t enough, he’s also filing for full custody of our kids. He says he’s been a very involved father, which is true, but I’m just as involved, if not more. I’ve been the primary caregiver since they were born. Yes, I’ve struggled with anxiety and depression in the past, but I’ve worked hard to manage it and be there for our children. Now he’s using that against me to try and take them away.

I feel like he’s not just ending our marriage, but he’s ripping my entire life apart. I get that he’s going through a lot, but I don’t think it’s fair that he’s trying to take everything—our home, our savings, and, worst of all, our children. I feel like he’s being selfish, trying to secure his future at the expense of mine and the kids’. It’s like I’m being punished for something I had no control over.

He says I’m being unreasonable for not wanting to let him take the lead in the divorce or for being upset about what he’s asking for. He claims he’s trying to be fair, but I can’t help but feel like I’m being taken advantage of.

So, AITA for being upset that my husband wants a divorce, is trying to take most of our assets, and is fighting for full custody of our kids? Or am I overreacting because I’m emotional right now?

My ex ditched me in a foreign country after getting belligerently drunk on the flight there, I decided to make the most of the trip& continued on without him… then he got arrested at the airport before boarding for having an illegal substance on him. I continued home, packed all of his belongings that were at my house, nicely bagged them in his car that was in my driveway then called a tow truck. Had it towed to the dealership he bought the car from& told them he had been arrested in Africa and probably would miss some payments. Never talked to him again despite his many attempts. Feel blessed I dodged that bullet!!!

Also something to note: I met my husband of 4 years on that trip& he’s my angel! Happier than I ever thought was possible.

I am currently getting no bars so I am unable to access 5g internet, texting and calling. In Wisconsin. Is anyone else having this issue?

Edit: it's clear this is a nationwide issue for both iPhone and Android users. If you have wifi I would suggest using apps such as WhatsApp or Facebook messenger to send messages and calls.