Context: 29F who is a paralegal; BF is 33M who runs his own business.
My BF comes into the room and says he needs help figuring out what to put in his new product videos that are only 15 seconds long.
He starts to explain what he wants to do and it becomes a bit of a rant, so I just listen until space is provided where I can give input.
Finally the time comes, and I let him know that I wouldn’t have it scroll through the colors that I would just put all color swatches on one screen because….
He cuts me off and doesn’t let me finish my point. I let this go. He starts ranting why my point is wrong (even though he didn’t even know what my point was going to be) and continues to rant about what he envisions. I listen carefully despite the disrespect.
He mentions that the last slide would say handmade in the USA.
I tell him in my normal conversation voice, “hey you can’t say that bc people could sue”
He proceeds to huff, change his tone, do a shrug and a hand throw gesture and tell me that “it doesn’t matter”
At this point, I’m irritated and switch to boss mode with my direct tone and say, “yes it does matter. I was literally paid to ensure things like that never happened when I worked in your industry.” (I worked 2 years in his industry when I first started out for the biggest producer in the US of his product)
He runs off and says, he doesn’t want to talk anymore.
Tells me that I’m being disrespectful, giving him “attitude,” and that I need to apologize—then starts the ignoring me by working game and shutting down my attempts at conflict resolution.
He clarifies and then says it doesn’t matter bc he’s just “story boarding” so I shouldn’t have pointed that out. He clearly “already knows this”
Meanwhile, he was just dinged two days ago for copyright infringement, and in my eyes, I had a duty to point out the mistake to ensure it doesn’t end up in a lawsuit.
He swears that the whole issue was my attitude when I pointed out that he said something wrong and “I just wanted to be right”
I’m adamant that the “attitude” he refers to which isn’t attitude at all IMO, didn’t start until he disrespected me multiple times and doubled down to tell me I’m wrong when I know I was right.
So am I actually an asshole? I’m of the mind that he started it with his poor attitude towards me pointing out a mistake and this is a big ego issue, but maybe I’m missing something.
He could have said yeah, I get ya, I know—just brainstorming, and moved on. He’s also adamant that I shouldn’t have even brought up that point bc “it wasn’t what he was asking” even though he was asking for my opinion.
Reddit, please help my sanity.