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This past weekend was my (23F) bachelorette party. A few of my friends and I went to Austin and went out on Saturday and got a pontoon boat on Sunday. One of my friends (25F), knows my fiance better than my other friends do and has his number. When we went out Saturday I got tipsy (because it was my bachelorette party) and when we got back to the hotel I called my fiance like I usually do. I also called my brother because I wanted to ask about something a friend had told me about him.

Now it is important to note that I do have the habit of calling my fiance when I drink. However, I do not consider this a bad thing because it is not like I am calling some ex boyfriend or like anything crazy.

The next day after the pontoon boat (which also involved drinking) I called my fiance as we left to let him know that we were leaving, and I was just joking around a bit with him when my friend (the one that knows my fiance better) took my phone away and turned it off. I thought it was a joke and told her to give it back to me and she refused. At this point I got pretty pissed and told her very sternly to “give me my fucking phone back” and took my phone back and got out of the car to cool down a bit. Two of my other friends convinced me to come back to the car.

We made the drive back to our hometown and when I got home my fiance showed me the texts this friend had been sending him. After the first night she texted him “back at the hotel and she is already drunk calling her brother 🤷🏻‍♀️ otherwise all is good”. I want to add that at that point I had already told my fiance we were at the hotel (which she heard me do) and she knows that he has my location. After she took my phone away the second day, she texted him “I’ve shut her phone off and put it in my bag while she’s still a little drunk. I’ll give it back to her in like 30 minutes when she’s not as drunk”.

Reading this just honestly sent me over and I texted her “Hey [fiance] showed me the texts you sent him last night and today and dont you ever talk like that about me again. He doesnt need your condescending little updates.” My other friends think that I took it too far because while the texts are “condescending to a degree there’s also a chance she didn’t mean it like that”. She has not texted me back and I am now afraid I took it too far so AITA?

Edit: I am not an alcoholic. Didn’t think I would have to clarify that but okay. I rarely ever drink and the “craziest” thing I do when I drink is call my fiance to flirt with him. Also, he is not cheating on me. He never texts this friend besides saying happy birthday once a year.

Guess the lines we are so back

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I (21F)started dating my boyfriend right after graduating high school. We met through a mutual friend who had been in a bad accident—my boyfriend works in healthcare, and he was incredibly supportive during that tough time. We hit it off, and before long, we were inseparable. For the past two years, I’ve been working two jobs to support myself. Even though my boyfriend has offered to help me out financially, I’ve always refused because I want to be independent. He didn’t like it at first, but we eventually worked it out. He’s the kind of guy who respects my boundaries, and that made me fall for him even more.

One of the highlights of our relationship is our Friday night tradition. Every week, we gather with our mutual friends to catch up and unwind. It’s been a tradition for six months now, and I absolutely love it. Everything was going great… until last week.

Here’s where it gets complicated. My boyfriend has a childhood friend (27F) who he’s always described as “like a sister” to him. When we first started dating, I thought maybe they had dated in the past, but he assured me that nothing romantic ever happened between them. He was so adamant about it that I believed him. She’s never really warmed up to me, though. I’ve always tried to make small talk and be friendly, but she has this annoying habit of making passive-aggressive comments about my age. Every time she sees me driving, she’s like, “Are you old enough to drive a car by yourself?” I’ve been trying to ignore it for the sake of my relationship, but it really gets under my skin.

Then, last week, one of my boyfriend’s old buddies came to town. We were all hanging out, and this guy got a little too tipsy and started reminiscing about the past. Out of nowhere, he blurted out that my boyfriend and his “sister” friend were high school sweethearts. I was stunned. I had no idea. My heart dropped, but I tried to play it cool until we got home.

When I confronted my boyfriend, he admitted they had dated in high school but insisted he doesn’t have feelings for her anymore. But here’s the thing—I’ve seen the way he looks at her. There’s something in his eyes that he can’t hide, and it’s killing me.

I’ve been taking some space to process everything, and we haven’t talked since last week. He’s respecting my need for space, but I can’t shake this feeling that I’ve been lied to for two years. AITA for confronting him? Or is it normal to feel this way after finding out that your boyfriend’s “sister” is actually his ex?

I really love him, and he’s been there for me since day one, but now I’m questioning everything. What should I do?

I (24F) started a job that I LOVE earlier this year as a surgical tech at a hospital. The plan is to get my experience here for a year or two while I study to take my MCAT and work on submitting my applications for medical school. I really like all my coworkers too! We're all in the same boat trying to get into either med school, PA school, nursing school, etc. and we're all around the same age, so we've bonded rather quickly.

I've gotten particularly close with one coworker specifically, let's call him Jackson (24M). He's really nice and helped me out a lot when I first started and since our personalities are so similar, we became friends outside of work (this is pretty common among the surgical techs in our department). I have also harbored friendships with a couple of other coworkers: Henry (25M) and Caroline (23F) but Jackson is the one I speak/hang out with the most.

Now onto the issue: it is pretty common for all the techs to go out on the weekend especially after a long week (we often deserve it because of all the pretty horrific shit we see on the job lol). We try new clubs, bars, and sometimes even throw parties. Anyway, last week, we got the amazing news that Jackson just got an interview with one of his dream PA programs! (Interviews for pre-health grad schools are one step closer to actually being admitted, so this was a really big deal).

The interview isn't until October, but we were so excited and proud of him that he, Caroline, Henry, some other friends from the hospital and I decided to celebrate now. We went to this new bar/club we found, had a few drinks, and danced the night away.

We were having a really great time! That was until Jackson had a few too many shots and got a little bit handsy with me. At first, I thought he just wanted to dance, so we did for a couple of songs but when I started to dance with Henry, Jackson turned me back around. As in he wrapped his arms around my waist and physically moved me back toward him. This might not sound like much but for context Jackson is over a foot taller than me and is kind of a gym bro, so this was a pretty forceful pull.

I was a bit startled but thought it was his night and he'd been drinking, I wasn't going to make an issue out of it.

Flash forward, I wanted to dance with Caroline now. She saw what happened, made a concerned face, and asked me to dance. Less than 1 song later, Jackson comes to grab me and starts prying my hands out of Caroline's. I tried taking my hands back from his but he was holding on really tight. He then wraps his arms around my waist and holds me against him.

This time, he had an iron grip on me. I gave Caroline the "help a girl out" look, and she came to rescue me and take me outside for some air. She suggested that we leave because of how inappropriate Jackson was being but it wasn't even midnight yet and that he's just really drunk. She says we'll stay, but the second she sees something she doesn't like, we're leaving. I agree.

Now, it's midnight. I'm getting tired and since I didn't drink that night, I offered to give Caroline and Henry a ride home. Jackson did not like this idea at all. He said I could take Caroline home but Henry had to call an Uber. We were pretty confused considering I was 100% sober and had plenty of room in my car. Henry, who drank that night but not nearly as much as Jackson, asked him why I couldn't take him if his house was on the way to mine? He said he didn't care how he got home, just that I wasn't to be the one to take him. Henry said if I said I was sober, that's good enough for him and got in the car.

I dropped off Caroline and the ride to Henry's was quiet. He asked if I was okay, and I said yes, just tired. He didn't believe me so he asked further. I told him what happened and he was shocked. He said he saw us dancing quite a lot but didn't think anything of it but that context added to what Jackson said about me specifically taking Henry home made him concerned.

He suggested I have a talk with Jackson because this was not normal and entirely out of character for him. I am hesitant because I am not a confrontational person, I get really anxious having conversations like this because I don't want to cause problems.

I don't want this to affect our friendship especially because I'm almost sure he didn't mean anything by it and he had just been drinking. I also don't want to say anything because we work together. I like our dynamic and I don't want a one time incident to change out work relationship. Is it worth it to bring it up? Or should I let it go? What do I do?