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I won the lottery. $1,000 a day for life. I'm 58. My son is 19.

I went to him and told him that I wanted to make a deal. I would give him the ticket. In return he would give me half of the money until I die. Then he gets all the money. He said he needed to think about it.

He came back and said it wasn't really fair for me to want half. He said that I could live another 40 years. That he might need the money more and that I should take 20%.

I said I would think about it.

I signed the ticket and claimed the lump sum.

I m seeing a lawyer to set my son up for life. His education will be paid for, when he gets older he will be able to purchase a home for free basically, a trust fund will be set up so he gets a good amount of money for the rest of his life.

Now he is pissed that I went back on my offer.

I thought I was being smart but I didn't realize how greedy he was. He also told my ex about the money and she is pissed that I'm not giving her anything. We have been divorced for years. I owe her nothing.

No I won't give you anything if you ask. There is a reason I'm using a throwaway.

Whenever my sister Lynn goes to any family event, she never watches her own kids and expects everyone else to, including my own children, who have complained about it. She will leave the room with her toddler, that acts like a wild animal.

I told my children (10 and 13) not to be duped into watching that brat. My 13-year-old daughter left the room when my sister left her alone with her kid to gossip with my mom. My daughter got up and left.

Lynn’s toddlers pulled all the food off by the tablecloth and spilled red pasta sauce all over my mom’s carpet. The kid was screaming, and Lynn started to yell at my daughter when I told Lynn it was her responsibility to watch her own fucking kids.

Lynn said she thought my daughter was watching the “baby.” I asked her, “Did you ask my daughter to?” Lynn said she thought my daughter was smart enough to watch kids if they were alone with them. My daughter said maybe Lynn should be smarter next time she thinks of having kids that she can’t control or watch.

Yes, this was rude, and I laughed. My mom told my daughter to help pick up the mess because she helped cause it. My daughter refused, saying it was Lynn’s fault because she let her kids run around like animals.

My mom said we could all leave because we had no respect for her or her house. My daughter said she wouldn’t be back until her grandmother and aunt respected her. I took my kids home.

My mom thinks I should punish or talk to my daughter and make her apologize, but I won’t. I don’t think my daughter did anything wrong, and it’s Lynn’s fault for not watching her own brats.

I’m F16, my older sister Mia is 27 and her husband Hugh is 30.

Hugh is a bully, and I don’t like him. He always says something about my weight, every single time. Mind you, my weight is perfect for my height and I can run a marathon. I’m way fitter than he is, but he always somehow suggests I’m gaining weight.

While I’ve learned to not let it get to me, I don’t appreciate someone acting like this within the family. I’ve already spoken to Mia and she doesn’t do anything, and my parents tell me it’s be rude to tell him to not greet or show concern! And one time I confronted him and he said his concern is for my health, and I told him if he has any health concerns for me he should bring it up to Mia, who would speak to me as my sister rather than a grown ass man who I have no bond with acting like a bully.

Anyway, he keeps doing it so my brother (18) suggested I bring up his hair, as he’s obsessed with saving what remains of it, with little success.

So I did it last night. They visited us and he told me it looks like I’ve gained weight. I said it looks like you’ve lost a fair bit of hair since we last met and at this rate you’re going bald before 32. He got visibly upset, went to the bathroom to look at his hair, and then told Mia and my parents that he was greatly offended.

I just shrugged and said as long as he speaks about my weight, I’m gonna bring up him going bald. If he shuts up, I will too.

While Mia thinks this is fair game, my parents think I’m being an asshole and want me to apologise to Hugh and be the bigger person. My brother says I did well.

AITA?

I (28M) have a gf (28F) that just recently decided to sign up for a half-marathon come December. The reason why she signed up is because she doesn’t want to go to an event that’s also happening that day so she has a built-in excuse (That’s pretty wild to me). She asked me beforehand and I told her I thought that was a bad idea. She doesn’t like running (nor does she runs) and she could find another excuse that isn’t running a half-marathon. She still signed up anyways. She then told me that she will follow a 12-week plan for running the half-marathon that was given to her with her inscription.

Here’s the thing, I’m a runner in an elite running club, I’ve run over a dozen half-marathons and countless 5ks and 10ks in my life. This summer I ran a 10k and a half-marathon. I finished 5th overall in the 10k, and 12th in my category for the half-marathon. I’m by no means a “good” runner (good as in make a living running) but I do know what I’m talking about.

She’s often talked about wanting to get “in shape” which I’ve always encouraged but never pushed for (it’s not my place). About a month ago she started to go to Barre classes and she’s enjoying them quite a bit (I’ve gone with her a couple times too), so I assumed that going to Barre classes was the final motivation she needed to sign up for the half-marathon.

Anyways, I advised her to start walking and jogging now before she starts the 12-weeks program. I told her that she needs to build a cardio-base before she takes on a half-marathon program that includes jogging, repetitions, intervals, long-distance, hills, etc. She doesn’t want to because she’s not willing to stop going to Barre classes and she gets tired doing two workouts a day. I told her that a half-marathon is a lot mileage and that she needed to get extra prepared so she doesn’t get injured in the race. She said she’s not interested in achieving a “good time” and just that she wants to finish, even if it’s walking. Also that she has a cardio base from playing basketball growing up (she stopped playing basketball 8 years ago). I told her that she made this commitment and that she should take it more seriously, 12-weeks for a half-marathon is a pretty standard program when you have been running and you want to hit your peak in the race, not when you’re about to start from scratch.

That was the last straw and she got really upset with me saying that I was trying to put her down, not being supportive of her, and that it’s not easy for her when her boyfriend is in great shape and she isn’t. At that point I apologized for making her feel that way and that I would drop it. I do feel that I need to find a better way to approach it but I want to know was I the Asshole?

I broke up with my gf 2 years ago, I always loved and supported her, but she left me, no matter how much I begged her she wouldn't listen to me, she just wanted to leave me.

4 months ago, she visited me and told me that I have a daughter, I loved my gf so much and I got angry and demanded a paternity test, we did the test and she's definitely my daughter, I did the test multiple times, I was extremely furious at her, for not just leaving me but for not even telling me about my own daughter, she was sorry and cried but I was angry and said that she's a bad human being, you left me when I loved you so much, I gave you my everything and you didn't tell me about my own daughter?

She cried and said I should give her full custody and I should pay her so she can support my daughter, I said no, never, you didn't tell me about my own daughter, and you want me to just pay for my daughter when she doesn't even know anything about her own father? I'm going to court.

Now my gf's parents are saying that I'm being an unrealistic ass, I should just support my daughter's mother, and in time I will get to see my daughter and get to be with my daughter

I know I'm not an asshole to be with my daughter and for doing whatever I need to be with her, but should I just give my daughter's mother some time to just get over everything that has happened?

Edit: I just have a question, can I just make an agreement or something that she gives me my daughter and I pay her in return? She gets her money and I get my daughter? I can ask my family members to help me with money and my father and uncles won't refuse, I just want my daughter

This entire situation is kinda fucked and honestly I'm a bit heartbroken for my husband. Real names idc I'm Sean 37m my husband is Zack 36m and my son is 16 not saying his name. I divorced my ex wife after she cheated on me for the entirety of our marriage. That was over a decade ago idc anymore (son is mine already over and done). I met Zack when I was 28, my son was 7.

Me and Zack hit it off instantly. I was finally in a place to start dating again and thankfully he was the first person I was interested in. We connected on everything me and my ex wife did and a million more things. People say life has a plan for you and honestly I believe it. I'd go through a million more divorces and being cheated on over and over if I ended up with him every time. One of the big things was my son. Zack was hesitant at first just because of the situation but he wanted a family badly and I was excited for him to meet my son.

After dating for a year I talked to my ex and told her I'm introducing our son to a guy im seeing, told her it's serious and I see a future with him. She was happy for me we have a very good relationship now just told me to tell her when I was going to do it so she can be prepared if our son had any questions for her when he visited next.

Zack and my son were best friends. Did everything together. They loved playing minecraft together they spent hours sitting in front of the TV. I loved watching them I was so fucking happy the first person I found after my ex was this amazing. After about 6 months I asked Zack to move in and the rest is exactly as I've been describing. Amazing. My son started calling Zack his other dad when he was 10. Very sweet moment which makes this hurt worse.

Well, last weekend my son had 3 of his friends over. They were playing video games in his room and I just left to do grocery shoping for the week, so it was just them and Zack. I don't know how this topic came up but things got very homophobic. My husband was sitting on the couch and I guess my son and his friends thought me AND him left but it was just me. My sons room is connected to the living room so if you're sitting in the living room it's not super hard to hear what's going on in his room if he's being loud enough (4 teenage boys playing video games).

One of them said how's it feel having a "f slur" (idk if I can say it or not on here) as a father. My son laughed and said kinda shitty. They said my husband probably touched him when he was little and my son replied "he can try it now he'll get his ass beat" so not even being a dick to Zack but now also threatening him over something we all know he would never do. They kept saying shit like "which one do you think takes it in the ass" "probably the "f slur" at least your real dad still likes women" just a bunch of hateful shit. My husband sat there listening to it all silently crying. Also Zack has spent good 4 hours a day at the gym for the last 3 years so idk who's getting their ass beat but it ain't him.

I got home about 2 hours later to my husband sitting in his car with a bag packed waiting for me so he could leave but didn't wanna leave my son alone. I asked what's going on why are you leaving and he told me everything. I tried to understand as best I could. I insisted he wasn't serious hes just being a stupid kid acting tough with his friends but it didn't matter the damage was done.

Zack left and I went inside and went off on my son. His friends left and I spent a good 3 hours going back and forth with my son. At first he was very unapologetic and kind of agreed with his friends. I asked if he actually thought my husband sexually abused him when he was younger and he said "no but kids block those kinds of memories out so really who knows". I told him to pack his shit hes living with his mother. Info- his mom lives 3 hours away which means new school, new friends if at all, less private space as he'd have to share a room with his step brother etc. Just everything that you'd expect going from a single kid in a house to one of 4.

My son instantly changed his attitude he was crying begging me not to send him away he didn't mean it he was just lying to seem cool to his friends. I asked why did he double down when they left and he didn't have an answer. I told him to pack his shit hes leaving in the morning. Called my ex told her the situation and she agrees he needs something drastic what he did wasnt ok at all.

Fast forward to now and my husband is back but he cries every night. Honestly it feels like he's mourning which I don't want because when you mourn you dont get over someone you get as close to indifferent as possible to keep living your life without them. I don't want that. I want my husband and my son to have that strong bond I know they have and don't want them to throw it away over this. I don't agree with what my son did but those accusations at minimum can ruin someone's life and at most end it.

I'm disgusted with my son, he calls me everyday tells me he misses me and Zack and wants to come home. I stay strong on the phone but after I break down and my husband tries to consol me. Tells me my son can come back and he will leave but no I'm not doing that. I just don't know what to do. I miss my son I miss coming home and seeing them spending time together.

I've thought about therapy for him but he said no. You can't force therapy on someone they'll just sit there for an hour and piss away 400 bucks. I need advice.

I 36m have been together with my fiancée 38f for 4 years, we are in the middle of planning our wedding and are just about to send out invites. However, I am not so sure I want to go through with the wedding anymore.

For some backstory, my sister 32f got pregnant at 18 and her boyfriend left, she had her baby at 19. Her daughter is now 13 years old and she is one of the smartest, most well behaved and one of the greatest kids I have ever met. My sister had a rough time, but with the help from our grandma, she managed to get through college and land a great job. She has done so much great things and her being a young single mother never made her a bad person.

My fiancée has always been quite distant with my sister since she found out this. A year into our relationship we were hanging out with my sister, drinking and talking. She, from nowhere, blurted out “Sooo, why did you just not abort her?”. It caused an argument but me and my sister forgave her for it because we chalked it up to her just being drunk. But she has always had these backhanded things to say to my sister, but my sister always assured me it did not matter.

Last Saturday, she was on the phone with her friend. She was in the living room and I was in the kitchen, I think that she either talked loud without noticing or just did not know I could hear her. She was talking about my sister being a failure, that if she ever had a daughter that did the same she would make sure that she was shunned and would make sure that the baby died. She said that it was sad that my sister was “such a stupid fucking bitch” and decided to ruin her life over a kid that it is not even all that. She went on and on, laughing and saying hurtful things about my sister.

I was disgusted with her. I talked with her about it on Monday and she went off on me invading her privacy, that I had no respect for her and that I had no right to listen to her conversation. I told her if that were her true feelings and she said that I was even more stupid than my sister if I didn’t realize that she has always felt that way. We ended the conversation there and she has been acting like if nothing happened.

Would I be a jerk if I cancel our wedding because of this? Is this even a valid reason. I love my sister and I know that she is not a failure, but hearing her talk about my family in that way hurts me and I did not think that about her. How can I spend the rest of my life with someone who thinks that way about my own family?

Before my parents had me (18m) they had my sister "Emily". Emily was 3 years older than me and she died when I was a few months old. My parents never recovered. My whole childhood I was in the shadows of the child they lost. I get that grief does things to people and that losing a child is the worst loss a parent can suffer, but it was like I didn't exist most of the time. They talked about Emily all the time. Sometimes they could acknowledge she was gone but more often than not she was talked about like she was still around. The most attention I got from my parents is when they force fed words about how much I loved Emily. It never came natural for me to say "I love Emily and I miss her so much". I didn't know Emily. But I did feel haunted by her. I had a big photo of Emily on the wall opposite my bed growing up. They wanted me to fall asleep to my sister looking over me. It always felt creepy. But they had photos of her in every room, even the bathroom. I remember trying to take the photo in my room down and my parents had a hugely explosive reaction. Like I'm talking they yelled so loud the neighbors came to check on us.

Emily's room was never touched after she died and sometimes my parents would sit in there for hours sometimes. I was also forced to sit with them in there sometimes. But I had to be very careful because I couldn't touch anything or make the room filthy.

Extended family were always so caught between being nicer to me to try and make up for my parents or coddling my parents and putting the weight of their grief and Emily's death on my shoulders. They would tell me not to be so harsh on my parents when they (my parents) would let me down. My parents could never celebrate anything I did. My extended family tried to fill that gap... but sometimes it felt like they came just to lecture me about compassion and understanding.

I did good through school despite getting no help or support from my parents and I got a full scholarship to college. Before I left my extended family came over to say goodbye and "celebrate" a little, because there could be no celebrating me at my parents house. My parents had these photos of Emily for me to take. They told me I'd need them for my dorm. But I left them behind. I didn't want to take photos of Emily. I wanted to get away from them and that might seem really unfair. My parents realized the next day and I got a text from my dad calling me all sorts of names for leaving them behind. Then my extended family said I could have taken one and should, because Emily is still my sister and I should still try to "remember" her for my parents sake if not mine.

AITA?

From previous posts, some of you already know that my workplace has a few characters. Well, here we go again. A few weeks ago, I noticed that it was getting harder and harder to find space for my lunch. The fridge was always crammed full, and I soon realized that one of my coworkers, Anna, was using it to store a bunch of homemade lunches she sells to other employees.

Anna is a great cook, and her lunches are popular. She brings in about 15 pre-made meals every day, storing them in the fridge until people pick them up throughout the day. At first, I didn’t think much of it, but it started to become a real problem when there was barely any room left for anyone else’s food.

I decided to talk to Anna, suggesting that she might consider using a cooler or finding another way to store her meals since the fridge was meant for everyone. She didn’t take it well. She got defensive, saying that her food was in high demand and that she had every right to use the fridge. She even hinted that if I wanted more space, I should start buying her lunches instead of bringing my own.

Things escalated when I couldn’t fit my lunch in the fridge for several days in a row. I finally decided to report the situation to HR. They spoke to Anna, and she was told to limit how much space she uses in the fridge. That’s when things took a turn.

Anna was furious with me and made it her mission to make my life at work miserable. She started spreading rumors about me, telling people that I was jealous of her success and trying to sabotage her business. Then she took it a step further. Anna went to HR and claimed that I was harassing her and creating a hostile work environment. She even got a couple of her friends in the office to back up her story, lying about things I supposedly said and did.

HR called me in for a meeting to address the complaints, and I was blindsided. I had no idea she was plotting to get me fired. Luckily, I had documented my interactions with Anna and was able to prove that her claims were false. HR ended up dismissing the complaints against me, but the damage was done. The whole situation has left me feeling isolated at work, and now a lot of my coworkers see me as the bad guy, thanks to Anna’s lies.

So, AITA for reporting her in the first place? Or did I just make things worse for myself by not handling it differently?

So I was biking and got hit by a Tesla running a stop sign and was knocked out for a good 10 minutes and taken to the hospital, diagnosed with a mid concussion, and now I have severe back pain, headaches, and idk if I'll be able to play tennis any more because my body is aching.

My question is mainly can I sue Tesla? Police have determined drivers hands were on wheel, and it was drivers fault.

Pick any person, dead or alive - and you can sleep with them any number of times, but the first time you sleep with them, there is a 1 in 100 chance that you will turn into Shrek, and you will be forced to live for 50 years as Shrek then you die.

If the person is dead, you can make them alive before you sleep with them if you prefer that option.

It is 100% consensual. You can choose multiple people and the percentage of being shrek is multiplied by the number of people you choose. If you chose two people, your chance of becoming shrek is 2%.

You become shrek the moment you orgasm - if you are so unlucky.

You don't get Donkey or Fiona. You are alone once you become Shrek.

Who are you going to sleep with?

-edit- never realized how much of you were A) interested in being Shrek and B) thinking about Shrek's dong.

 My high school will soon be holding an active shooter drill without informing any students, and they'll even be firing blanks. Teachers were told not to tell students, and I only know because one of my teachers decided to tell us. At another school, they did the same thing. Students(children) were crying and saying goodbye to their families via their phones incase they didn't make it. This event likely traumatized the kids, and had long-lasting effects on them. I heard of this from someone who was there during the mock-shooting, so I don't have links to verify what happened there.
 I have no idea how this can be condoned, and wonder if it is even legal, and if not, in which states is in legal in? 
 Extra info:(the school is in Illinois and has nearly 2000 students. I have not heard any info from other students about the drill, so it might have only been this teacher who decided that they don't want to traumatize their students)