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My husband (46M) and I (47F) have been married 22 years and together 28. My husband has taken up running and has a group of friends he runs with. One is a very close ex-neighbour (50M) who we met through our children’s respective school and sport many years ago. Each year, the two men do multiple running events together. Earlier this year, they ran a half marathon and at the end of it (literally on the finish line), decided they would attempt a full marathon next. They entered one planned for October this year (again, on the finish line of the half-marathon they had completed) but as the event was sold out, they went on the stand-by list.

He told me about it when he returned home and then tried to downplay the fact that the marathon was running on our wedding anniversary by saying ‘I’ll only be doing it if someone pulls out because the event is sold out’. 2 weeks later (as luck would have it), he got the email saying he was elevated to competitor status. Someone had given up their place and he was now officially running.

I was hurt. We both work full-time and my husband is very active socially (I’m much more of a homebody). We don’t spend much time together and traditionally, important dates like anniversaries are our time to reconnect and prioritise each other. I didn’t understand why or feel good about the fact that he entered this event without at least consulting with me first. I feel like his best mate was in his ear pressuring him. He has a tendency to do that sort of thing. But at the end of the day, hubby has entered, he’s paid the fees and he is now committed.

It has meant months of preparation and long hours running. Even when he is home on a weekend, his mammoth training runs wipe him out for most of the weekend and he is constantly complaining about upset stomachs, headaches, dehydration and general exhaustion as he works on managing his energy and fluid intake. We’re still 6 weeks out from the actual marathon and he hasn’t had a ‘good’, symptom free weekend for at least a month.

Last night the marathon topic was raised out at dinner with good friends (for their birthday). I expressed how it hurt that he planned the event without consulting me and he went suddenly very cold at the dinner table. In the car on the way home, he accused me of being ‘unsupportive’ and said after 28 years, our anniversary was ‘just another day’ and ‘any day can be special’, thus making every day of the year a big event and simultaneously completely unimportant. He said he was sorry that my feelings were hurt but also said he would do the same thing again given the opportunity of a do-over. At this point I recognized he wasn’t regretful in the slightest and actually didn’t give a toss about my feelings at all.

We live in Australia, it’s Father’s Day next weekend. I have now slept on the events of last night and reflected. I am still feeling upset and angry at his attitude towards me and am feeling just about petty enough to plan myself a day at the day spa instead of organizing a nice breakfast in bed or a lunch out with the family. After all, 'any day could be special', which means none of them are sacred at all. Not even Father’s Day.

In the hopes of helping my husband understand that planning to run a marathon on our wedding anniversary without consulting me first has hurt my feelings, WIBTA if I refused to plan a special Father’s Day for him and spent the day doing things I enjoy instead?

I’m seeing everyone applaud Martin for “rightfully” berating Chad, but I’m just not getting it.

First of all, I think it’s entirely valid to be surprised that a guy who trembles 24/7 is able to drive a car. Has anyone ever driven a car on this sub before? If my hands were moving uncontrollably at the wheel, I’m pretty sure I’d be dead in a few minutes. So yes, it’s surprising that a man who is perpetually doing the jitterbug is able to drive.

Second of all, it’s not even the least offensive joke that Martin has been the subject of. Tony has repeatedly made fun of Martin over the course of his career on KT — and many of these jokes have been easily more low brow in nature.

Honestly, Martin’s freak out was out of character and really surprised me. To me, it was completely unwarranted, and I think it threw Chad off for the rest of the episode. After seeing the kinds of jokes that were thrown around by Tony and others on the show, he was probably confused as to why his rather innocuous joke got that kind of reception from Martin.

For some reason, this sub seems to be using this instance as another example of Chad being a douche, but I think the collective hatred of Chad is clouding people’s judgment on this one.

This past weekend one of my friends had a small party for her 21st birthday at a resturant/club. Our parents are fairly strict especially hers and mine. (We come from an Indian Household). So often we hide alot of things from our parents like drinking, boyfriends, vaping etc. She's normally really responsible especially when it comes to drinking and driving.

The legal age for alcohol consumption in my country is 18, having alochol wasn't a first for us. When we would normally go out she would drive, since she is the only one of us from our main group of friends who has a car so she wouldnt drink or if she did shed have one sider at the start of the night and the water or coke for the duration of the period.

So on Saturday when I and our other friends arrived at the resturant, she was already ther with some of her friends from campus. ( The four of have been friends since grade 1). Our group has has two male friends and then myself and my friend are the two females. So any way when we got there she had already had a long island ice tea that she was sipping on.

After everyone else arrived we all started to drink a bit more. We had vodka, mimosas, beers, tequila and wine. We orderd food and ate and everytime either of the girls needed to go to the bathroom all the girls would go. My friend had like three glasses of vodka and lemonade, two tequila shots and her long island. And this was all by 8pm. She was tipsy, but still aware of her surroundings. By 9:30 pm she had completely stopped drinking and started to sober up.

I had gone to the bathroom with another girl from the party, this was around 10:15. By this time she was almost completely sober, she was more aware of her surroundings and had orderd more food to sober up faster. While this girl and i are waiting in the cue i see my friend beng dragged to the bathroom by her bf barely awake. ( There is this single unisex bathroom in the middle of the male and female ones.) I run out to them and ask him why is she drunk again and what did she have. He didnt say anything but just asked me to help to the the bathroom. At this point the other girl who was with me had come out as well and i told him we got it from here.

I decide that its time we get the bill and go get some water or let her come and sober up at my place. My parents were picking me up. Our Male friend gets worried and comes to check on why we were taking so long and i tell him to carry her outside cause she could barely walk. I run and quickly pay for my mine and my friends portion of the bill and tell our other male friends whats going on. He settles the remainder of the bill with the rest of the party and i head back to my friend. My mum calls to say that shes around the corner and i must wait outside the resturant. I see my male friend sitting on the ground with my female friend leaning against him.

Hes trying to wake her up and get her to throw up a bit. So this is is when i start think her bf did something to her. While my friend and i trying to get her to wake up, her boyfriend is trying to kiss her. Yes while unconcious. We tell him to give her some space and to back up a bit. Then he starts to tell us that he'll drive her home with her car, and call her 16 year old sister to take care of her when she gets home. So our parents dont find out she was drinking.

I firstly did not like that he was kissing her unconcious body like we were in some disney animation. Which is why i was immediately against him driving her. Plus he'd also been drinking. Secondly, At this point i knew this was not her drunk and something was seriously wrong.

I wasnt worried about our parents finding anymore. I told him that my parents are almost here and I will take her home. They will know what to do and my mom or stepdad will drive her car home. My male friend immediately agreed. Her bf argued and was like no your parents are gonna freak out and her parents will be mad her. I told him straight, I dont care if we're not allowed to hang out anymore or if we get grounded ar whatever. I need to make sure shes safe.

I heard my parents hoot for me, and i tell my male friend to keep an eye on her im just gonna ask my parents for help. they were right outside the resturant so it wasnt far. They immediatly jump into action. My step dad and my malefriend carry her to the car, My mom and sister take my two friends and rush her home.

I gather her stuff and get the other friend who was still sorting the bill and meet my stepdad and her bf and we take her care.

So my mum gets to my friends house first and her parents rush her to the hospital cause her pulse had stopped. Her dad phones us like an hour later to aplogise for yelling and swearing, but we tell him we understand whre he was coming from. He said my friend is in critical condition and whatever she was drugged with caused her to overdose. If we had been five minutes later she would have been dead.

Her bf the whole time was trying to get us to come up with a cover story and even when she regained consciousness took of with her. I know we dont have proof he did it, and maybe he didnt but he's behavour throught the night was just questionable. Another friend of mine had told me a story about this guy trying to spike her drink last year. but she had seen him put something in and left immediately. This friend told me this before i had even met this dude.

She's fine now, just confused and in shock. Her parents want her to cut contact with all her campus friends and they took her car away. They not mad at her, they're just glad shes alive. Her family called myself and our male friends to comeover and support her and explain what happend. Im glad shes alive and that shes getting back to her normal self, but i feel guilty for not keeping a better eye on her.

I'm listening to "Inherit the Sand," the Dune RPG actual play by glass canon, featuring Dropout regulars Ross Bryant and Becca Scott.

I had no idea before now that Ross plays TTRPGs, but it's unsurprising that such a skilled improvisor is really, really good at it.

Since he's appeared in no fewer than 6 drop out shows, it feels inevitable we'll eventually get a side quest with Ross as a player. I, personally, can't wait.

The reaction Chad has had is a big part of why we love him. William goes hard and he commits entirely to the joke or the bit. It’s an intense silliness and guys like Chad who actually take the bait and react seriously make it all that much funnier. The fact he thought William was really going to throw a punch is hilarious, but to then go on and talk about how he’d actually beat William up is fucking gold. This is Andy Kaufman levels of trolling. The bit is played so well that its effects linger and compound. Comedy like this reflects the idiocracy of taking anything too serious, including ourselves. Love him or hate him, William embraces the responsibility of that reflection inherent to comedy and does so in his own, unique way.