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AITAH For thinking it’s my daughters fault for getting arrested and if she goes to jail it’s just a consequence of her actions?
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this is a community like r/AmITheAsshole except unlike that subreddit here you can post interpersonal conflicts, anything that's AITA but is not allowed there even posting about Scar from the lion king and trying to convince redditors that he was not the AH. rules: don't berate others and no pornography we have children here


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AITAH For thinking it’s my daughters fault for getting arrested and if she goes to jail it’s just a consequence of her actions?

So, I’m not sure where to even start with this, but here goes. My (47M)  22-year-old daughter got arrested recently for breaking into some rich people’s houses and stealing. It wasn’t just a one-time thing—she and her friends have been doing this for a while. They’d gotten lucky up until now, but their luck ran out when they broke into a mansion, triggered an alarm, and the police caught them. It didn’t help that they weren’t wearing masks, so the cameras caught everything. Outside, inside—every angle.

Here’s the thing: she could have been shot. There was security at that mansion, and I honestly don’t know how she made it out of there without that happening. The cops showed up before anything like that could go down, but she was arrested, along with the others.

I’ve already helped her pay for a lawyer, but the evidence against her is pretty airtight. They have her on camera breaking in. She had a part-time job, and she’s been living at home, so there’s no reason for her to be doing this. I have no idea what made her think this was a good idea in the first place. Now, she’s looking at potentially going to prison and could be kicked out of college because of this. She’s going to plead guilty because, well… she did it, and there’s no way around that.

What’s really been eating at me is that she blames me for not doing more to get her off the hook. She’s mad at me like I’m supposed to magically make all of this go away. I don’t know what else I’m supposed to do—she made the choice to do this, not me.

Like I said, there’s no logical reason for her to break into wealthy people’s mansions and steal their stuff. She had a good job, was in school, and was heading down a good career path. In fact, the money she used was just for things she wanted. My wife and I paid for her school, food, clothes, and all her needs; we don’t even make her pay rent. There’s no reason for her to turn to crime

I guess I’m just looking for advice. How do I deal with this? I want to support her as best as I can, but she’s an adult. I can’t fix this for her, and honestly, I don’t even know if I should. Has anyone been through something similar with their kid? What did you do? How did you handle it? I’m just at a loss right now.









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