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New poster as I need advice so I finally had to make an account. I have a problem that I’m not quite sure how to handle so some insight and advice would definitely be appreciated. I (30F), am single by choice as I’m well aware of how much work goes into relationships, and I don’t want to be in a relationship just to be able to claim I am. I don’t know if that makes any sense. I work from home doing freelance design work as well as a tutor for high school and college levels students. I make quite good money doing it.

The problem is my sister (34F) who has two kids, a boy I’ll call Jason who’s twelve, and a girl I’ll call Adamanta who’s 14. Jason is very much on the spectrum, which I don’t have a problem with at all. The issue is that mentally, doctors have warned he won’t develop any further, and hasn’t since he was about 8. He’s prone to outbursts, verbal and physical, and cannot handle any change in routine or patterns.

Adamanta, unfortunately, has been pushed to the side frequently by my sister, who spends 90% of her time trying to keep Jason under control. Adamanta has the smallest of the rooms in that house and doesn’t get out much aside from school or times I find excuses to have her with me. I try to do so at least three to four times a month, and she’ll stay with me for two days. We both really enjoy as we have similar interests and hobbies and she has her own room here at my house.

Here's the problem, Jason has gotten to the point where it’s often unsafe to be around him. His teachers, even with his IEP cannot handle him and neither can my sister or her husband as he spends most of his time working. It’s now been addressed that Jason may have to be put into a center that can help him more than my sister can unless she can find other accommodations for more personal hand’s on teaching that keeps him sequestered from other students he could lash out at. CPS has gotten involved as well, and they’ve recommended that Adamanta also be removed from the home due to neglect and doubts about my sister and BIL’s ability to support her as well.

CPS has reached out to me, as my sister’s only living family, to see if I could take on both children given that I work from home and teach on the side possibly allowing me to take over Jason’s education. I can’t do that. I’ve made it clear to my sister long ago that I knew I wasn’t able to give that amount of care and mitigate Jason’s outbursts even when he was a toddler. I can’t now when he’s much bigger, and his outbursts have only gotten more violent. I can, and did, however, take Adamanta. My sister has called me screaming that I’m tearing her family apart, because if I don’t take Jason not only will he be removed from my sister’s and BIL’s care, but they won’t have Adamanta either.

I’ve talked to Adamanta, and she actually broke down crying begging me not to send her back. Evidently, there was a lot happening in that house I’m not aware of yet. The suggestion by my sister to take on Jason sent her into a full blown panic attack. She does NOT want to be around him. At all. I can’t seem to get my sister to understand that it’s not safe for Jason to be here with me, or at home with my sister but she’s not listening.

Any help would be appreciated as I’m lost on what to do. Do I try to take on Jason as well? Or do I just let him go to the living center which is only two hours from here, and keep Adamanta with me? I’m the only family available as my BIL aged out of the system and doesn’t have any family either. Am I in the wrong? Should I take Jason as well?

Looking forward to the response from Jones

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I have a younger sister whom I love, though she can be a bit bossy at times. She naturally takes charge in organizing things like trips and events, while I usually prefer to step back. This became an issue when both our families spent a day together. My husband’s parents liked my sister and followed her suggestions, which frustrated my husband.

By the end of the day, my husband and I were exhausted and ready to go home. When my in-laws suggested dinner to close out the day, my sister agreed, and everyone, except for us, was on board. The dinner turned out to be a disaster. My husband was frustrated with my sister and his father, and I got frustrated with him. The conversations were tense, and I just wanted to leave.

Afterward, I told my sister I didn’t want to spend the whole day like that, and she apologized, believing everyone was having a good time. Her apology was enough for me. However, my husband still holds a grudge and says he dislikes my sister, claiming she manipulates everyone. I’ve told him repeatedly that he doesn’t have to like her, but he shouldn’t expect me to hate her too. She is my sister, and I love her, so he should stop complaining about her to me. I’m not changing my mind. Am I missing something? Is my sister really the villain of the story?

I have followed Tana for yearsssss. All through all of her controversies and missteps. But I think one main thing is coming into play here….brooke is not Tana. Tana is a lot like Trisha in the sense that she would still be recording and posting even if 100 people were watching. She’s made it clear over the years she does this because she loves it and she understands that she’s not for everyone and has carved out a niche for herself. I don’t see Brooke ever accepting the fact that there are people out there that still “misunderstand” her comments. She will never stop being defensive about it, and I anticipate in 6 months that she’s actually pissed that people haven’t “let it go” yet. Tana’s rise to fame is not the same as Brooke’s, and it looks crazy to have a career built on talking shit about other people for being canceled when you can’t even navigate your own cancelation with grace.

Rant Time! I love love love the boys and distractible, and I think there's too much hate on the subreddit. I absolutely love the game-style episodes they've been doing, they're so much fun, BUT I also love when they just talk about what they're interested in a bunch, especially because they have such genuine passion behind it, especially Mark, although I'm a touch biased since I also enjoy a few of the things he discusses! I know the boys don't frequent the subreddit much, but if they see this, please know that all your favourite things ARE really really cool, and we wanna hear about them, and updates!