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I’m 19F, and my older sister, who’s 23, has been diagnosed with end-stage kidney failure. The doctors have told us that a transplant is her only option for survival, and I’m the only match in our family. My sister and I have never been close. Growing up, she was often critical and dismissive of me. We’ve had a strained relationship for years, and our interactions are generally limited to the bare minimum. I’ve also had my own health issues and concerns about undergoing major surgery, which adds to my hesitation. When I found out I’m the only possible donor, I felt overwhelmed. I’ve tried talking to my family about my reservations, but they insist that it’s my duty to save her because we’re family. My sister is understandably upset and has been telling me that if I don’t donate, it proves I don’t care about her.
My family is also pressuring me heavily, saying I’d be a terrible person for refusing and that I should put aside our differences for the sake of saving her life. I’m feeling a lot of guilt and confusion because while I want to be supportive, I also don’t want to sacrifice my own well-being and mental health for someone who has made my life difficult.
Edit:
To address the complexity of my situation:
Donating a kidney is challenging for me due to several factors. First, I have existing health issues, including chronic migraines and autoimmune problems, which could be exacerbated by major surgery. My doctors have expressed concerns about the potential complications for my health. Second, my relationship with my sister is strained; she has been consistently dismissive, cruel, and antagonistic towards me throughout our lives. This history makes the emotional burden of this decision even heavier. Additionally, the intense pressure from my family, who view my refusal as a moral failing, adds to my stress and guilt. Balancing my own well-being with their expectations and my sister’s urgent need is incredibly challenging, making this a deeply complex decision.
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