Basically, this girl I always had a crush on got knocked up by some random loser and now while she is pregnant she has been wanting to date me. Her parents want me to step up and "be a man"... so they don't have to help her take care of the baby for like the next 18 years and have her stay with them (she is not a piece of cake btw)...but the thing is I am not the dad. She said she wants me to be her boyfriend and for me to get a job and a place for her and me to live to help raise "our" kid.

My dad told me to tell her to go f herself and not to put my dreams to the side and that I am so young and just a kid myself and to NEVER ever in my entire life get involved with her. He said HER baby is NOT my responsibility and he will be heartbroken if I voluntarily take on this burden. He fully supports me going into the Corps. I told her I do not want to get involved with her. Her dad told me I am not a real man.

My plan going into this was to hold for a decade and my plan hasn't changed. It's going to be rough and I realize that. The past two days have been the scariest days of my life. My parents still don't know I've lost 1/3 of my inheritance. Every time I talk to them they can see how stressed I look and they keep asking me what's wrong and I don't know what to say. How can I possibly explain this to them? My only option is to hold for a decade. So that's what I'm going to do. I know people are going to shit on me, and you should. I recognize I made an unnecessarily regarded decision. I have received a lot of DMs and reddit notifications offering me mental help and Suicide hotline numbers. I appreciate your concern but I'm fine. I'm holding long term. I'm sorry if my decision made you upset and reflect on your financial situation, that was not my intention. I appreciate all of your support and constructive criticism. Some of you have been really mean but its ok, I know I deserve it. But im holding. Forever. Intel will succeed.

First off, thanks to everyone who reached out on my last post. I’m fortunate to have a place to find people for support during all this. Below is a link to my first post.

Since everyone wanted an update, I’m back. Last night I took a lot of peoples advice after the kids went to bed and stayed up to talk with her. I expressed how her all of a sudden buying sexier clothes, self tanner, etc. and staying up late all the time had me concerned and if she was okay. She told me that she’s been depressed, and was trying to feel better about herself now that the kids are getting older and she doesn’t have so many “mom responsibilities”. This made sense to me. I asked what she was up to on her phone at night and she said mostly scrolling through Instagram, Facebook, that she was depressed and couldn’t sleep.

She offered me her phone to look through if I didn’t believe her but I declined. This was a pretty emotional conversation. She also said that she still loves me but things have gotten stale, which I agreed with. After raising 2 kids, work, life stress and everything maybe we hadn’t put enough importance on our relationship. She then asked if I’d ever consider an “open marriage”, or atleast be willing to try. I was abit taken back. She said that she’d understand if I didn’t want to, but thought it could add some excitement and referenced her friend who has an open marriage with her husband (which I was unaware of). She said her friend said it’s brought them closer and really energized the intimacy between them.

Anyways, I told her I would think about it and we could talk this weekend when the kids go to their grandparents. Thanks again for giving me a place to vent about this, don’t really have anyone in my personal life I can talk with about this.

We're always taught that the average period is like 2-7 days, but I've never met anyone whose period is 2 days and to be honest the concept of that sounds like something out of a fairyland where everything is sunshine and rainbows 24/7, so. To me 5-9 days on average seems more realistic.

edit: so today I've learned that God really does have favourites (which is NOT to say that all those who have short periods are said favourites, just that they are out there, you lucky lucky people), but also that I suppose just in the same way that to me a longggg period with lighter flow at times is normal, so is the opposite for others.