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My fiancee (26F) and I (26M) have been dating for 7 years, and we got engaged last month. I found out something recently however, which makes me very sad.
For some backstory, I was going through a stressful time last year with work and I was feeling overwhelmed. Looking back I think I was just overreacting, but during that phase, I just don’t know what was happening to me mentally. Then one night, I just started crying randomly for no reason. My fiancee was surprised but she comforted me, and she asked me what it was about, and I told her it was life in general.
The week after I cried, I actually got a promotion at work, and I realized I was just overthinking everything and that things were actually fine. Mentally I started feeling much better and things were back to normal.
But I heard something last week which genuinely hurt me. My fiancée’s best friend Ellie also got recently engaged. Ellie is also very close friends with my sister. But my sister and my fiancee aren’t really friends or buddies. Last week, my sister called me and told me something she’d heard from Ellie which she wanted to share with me.
What happened was that Ellie and my fiancee were talking about green flags and what they love about their fiance’s and what they could potentially be better at, and my fiancee had joked about me crying last year and that she found that a ick. Ellie found that very funny and then shared it with my sister. My sister told me she didn’t think it was funny at all but just carried on with the conversation and pretended everything was normal, but she wanted to share this with me.
I then asked my fiancee about it, and my fiancee seemed a bit nervous but she admitted that she had said that but that she was just joking and didn’t mean it. I told her I needed some space, and my fiancee started crying and told me she was just joking about it and that she loved that I was comfortable expressing my emotions to her.
The thing is, I don’t really believe my fiancee, and I feel really sad and hurt that she found my crying an “ick”, and that she joked about it with her friend. AITAH for considering breaking up with my fiancé?
