The fact that someone shot at him is unacceptable. It also doesn't change anything he's done.

I mean in the USA specifically.

Edit: To the people disagreeing and insisting Trump has never promoted violence: please remind me why he couldn't simply ask Mike Pence to be his running mate again? Did something happen between them?

Hi Reddit!

I (25F) have been dating Ben (27M) for 3 months. Recently, Ben started expressing discomfort with me going to my regular co-ed gym. He says that it's normal for women with boyfriends to go to all-women gyms to avoid attention from other men and to make their partners feel more secure and that his ex-girlfriend swapped gyms when they started dating.

I've been going to this gym for about a year, and I have a great routine, a supportive group of workout buddies, and I feel comfortable there. The idea of switching gyms just to make my boyfriend feel better doesn’t sit right with me. I believe trust and respect are crucial in a relationship, and this feels like a lack of trust on his part.

I tried explaining my perspective to him, but he insists that his request is reasonable and that I'm being inconsiderate of his feelings.

Since we can't agree, we've come to Reddit for opinions as we don't want to involve our families and friends. So, Reddit, AITA for refusing to switch to an all-women gym to make my boyfriend more comfortable?

UPDATE: There are so many comments now I can't possibly reply to them all! I wasn't expecting to get this many replies! Just wanted to thank you all for your thoughts and let you know after reading and discussing the comments we have decided it's best to end things. I feel the relationship won't be healthy and he thinks he needs to work on himself before being in a relationship. I was pleasantly surprised by his ability to take the criticism on board and hope this helps him become a better partner to someone in the future. I will be spending a lot more time in the gym now!!

UPDATE #2: Noticing a lot of comments saying things like, you broke up over what gym you go to/broke up over this thread. We didn't break up because of the gym choice alone or just because Reddit told us to. We discussed a few different topics last night that we just didn't align on. We (not just me) didn't think we'd be happy together in the long run as these topics would be a point of contention in the relationship and decided to break up. Damn Reddit, you get your pitchforks out when someone refuses to break up with someone showing red flags and you do the same when they break up with someone for showing red flags haha. Thanks again to everyone sharing their thoughts bad or good :)

UPDATE #3: Also noticed a lot of comments about using the term "workout buddies" and if this group consists of just males. I'm Australian and I hear people use the word buddy all the time so I didn't think this was weird haha. I did make a comment that has probably been buried but the workout group consists of 6 women and 2 men. One of the men is the brother of one of the women and the other has a boyfriend. Hope that clears that up!

This is partially going to be a debate I’m having with my best guy friend right now.

I’m a very progressive, sexually liberated woman. My husband and I both had experiences before we met each other. That’s a time in life I cherish and appreciate. My point is that, while I am in a monogamous marriage, I am not naive or close minded.

A lot of our friends are poly and I have seen it work out when it’s done in a healthy way. They usually enter into the relationship with that dynamic and have boundaries upfront that make sense.

To me, that feels different than “opening a marriage.” I just had lunch with one of my guy friends who told me he wants to try this. I asked what he thought he would get out of this, and he told me he felt like both him and his wife would benefit from sexual experiences outside their marriage. He started talking about how he’s “excited” for them to both get on the apps because they got together before Tinder was really a thing. Their rule is no mutual friends or coworkers so this is really the most plausible avenue for him to find someone. They also both only want casual sex- no outside relationships.

My question… Am I cynical or is he delusional?

Statistically, women already have more matches than men on apps and there are far more “women” bots and scammers. It’s basic math that his wife will get more matches.

Even setting that reality aside, who do you think is going to have more luck? The woman who explains she only wants casual sex or the man?

When I was younger and on Tinder, a married man was an immediate “no.” I didn’t care if they were open. I had enough matches without a potential mess. I just cannot imagine this going well for him.

To be clear, this was HIS idea. He’s sitting next to me now so I thought I’d put this to Reddit. He claims nothing will hurt his feelings.

And yes, we are two beers deep on a Wednesday afternoon so this is a bit silly. I’m on maternity leave and he’s on funemployment.

Before anyone comes at us, we’ve been platonic friends for 15 years. That’s not the reason he told me. Lol.

Edit from my friend: Point taken.

Edit from me: Are yall ok?

What’s a movie you could watch over and over again that just makes you feel good and you probably won’t ever get tired of? Feel free to list multiple if you can’t settle on one. For me they’re random but I’d probably have to say Pride and Prejudice (2005), Lars and the Real Girl, and She’s the Man. The Fall Guy might be a new one as well.