Cringe & Facepalm

So, someone left a hoodie at work a few months ago on a coat hanger and last Thursday I asked a manager if I could take it home, to which they said yes. I realized Sat that I had accidentally grabbed a set of keys on a lanyard when I grabbed the hoodie and they were in my work bag so I took them into work and turned them in to another manager. Apparently they were a fellow employees keys (two house type keys and a library card on the lanyard) who had been looking for them. Today they fire me because I “stole someone’s property” A set of keys that I accidentally grabbed along with a hoodie and when discovered immediately took them to another manager. Stole them? When I asked “why would I steal someone’s keys?” The ops manager said “that’s on you to figure out” I’m so pissed. Had to rant.

I was at the supermarket finish up my groceries when this old man approach my baby. She was kicking like crazy and lifting her foot to try to chomp at it. Now here is the thing, her stroller cover is yellow with giraffes on it, and she was wearing a light green onesie.

This man comes and say "hey there big boy! Are you going to be a soccer player? I think he will, look at him kicking! Are you a Madrid's fan?" And kept going about the Madrid soccer team. I just smiled and went my way. On another hall I didn't realize he was behind me and I was talking to my baby calling her by her name. He came to me and tapped to my shoulder

• she is a GIRL?????

• hmm yes

• why didn't you say SOMETHING????

Now I was going to say "it doesn't matter, they all look the same this age, she is just happy with people engaging and talking to her, plus she can be a soccer player too :)" but I only got to say "it doesn't matter" and he started screaming at me

• This is the problem with you radical leftist!!! You should be ashamed of yourself, SHE DOESN'T EVEN HAVE EARINGS HOW CAN PEOPLE KNOW SHE IS A GIRL, you and your people want to create an army of trans people (??????) to destroy traditional families!!!

Are this point I already started walking away and not engaging because I've learned that from you folks. He still said something about someone needing to call social services on me.

When I was paying the cashier asked wtf was going on and I explained, she said she and her manager are pissed because this guy already yelled at other customers, the other day a group of teenagers. What a sad existence going out to yell at strangers. _(ツ)_/

Editing to add the best part I forgot, he also yelled when I was leaving GIRLS SHOULD WEAR PINK AT ALL TIMES, like wtf my dude

My husband and I welcomed our first baby into the world last Monday! He came a little early so my husband’s receptionist (he’s a physician assistant) had to hurry and reschedule all of his appointments for the next few weeks.

Here’s how one of those calls went with a boomer man around 75 years old. R = receptionist, B = you know who.

R: “hello, this is Name with Generic Clinic. Is this Boomer Name?”

B: “Yes and I’m actually across the hall getting labs, I’ll come over to speak in person.”

*boomer enters waiting room *

R: “Hi, I was just trying to contact you to reschedule your appointment with PA. His wife just had a baby yesterday so he will not be able to see you this afternoon.”

B: “What? Why? Is there something wrong with the baby?”

R: “uh, no…”

B: “His wife?”

R: “No sir.”

B: “Then why isn’t he here today?”

R: “Because his wife literally gave birth last night?!”

B: huffing “And just how long will I have to wait for my appointment?”

R: “PA will be back in 4 weeks, or you can see one of our other providers.”

B: appalled “FOUR WEEKS?! God equipped his wife with everything she needs to take care of that baby herself and PA takes off from his job anyways for FOUR WEEKS?! I could maybe understand him not being in today if his wife gave birth late last night, but he has NO reason to not be coming back to work!!”

R: “God equipped him with the ability to care for his son too, and for his wife who just went through major abdominal surgery. BYE.”

B: storms out

And hopefully finds a new provider because I CANNOT imagine that first appointment with my husband after paternity leave going well for him. Husband is READY to fight. 😂

Edit: NO my husband will not be initiating an actual fight with a patient, that would be incredibly unprofessional. Should the patient choose to wait for him to come back, and then brings it up in his appointment as aggressively as he did to the receptionist, husband is going to adamantly defend his decision to be with our baby. Then mail the patient/provider severance of relationship letter. Please know that there is nothing going on where a patient and his standard of care will be jeopardized. This is just a case of an 8 days postpartum woman using the word fight very loosely. It did piss my husband off though!

I'm a 29yo woman and my mother and I have had our problems. Just like many other toxic mother/daughter relationships I left home as a teenager to escape the abusive environment our home had become. I moved in with a friend in a different state, which also didn't end super well but that's a story for a different post, and continued to keep communication open. She's continued to cause drama at every major event in my life but I consider myself a pro at moving on at this point. I have planned PTO coming up in a couple months because my job will be closed for renovations and she has been planning a visit during this time. Over the past few months she's mentioned it a few times and we've worked through details together. Today, she emailed me to say that when she comes to visit she will likely not have funding for anything more than gas. She plans to bring a tent for her and her husband to sleep in during the stay and has inquired about available space in my yard, despite being fully aware that I do not own the home I live in and that I do not have the right to allow her to stay in our yard in a tent and use our facilities for any amount of time, much less several days. At first I hoped it was some awful attempt at humor, putting me in an uncomfortable position in order to laugh at my discomfort, because it's something she's done several times in my life. Once she even pretended to have full-blown tourrettes syndrome, complete with vocal tics worthy of an episode of South Park, in the middle of a crowded shopping center just to laugh at my humiliation at her antics, so this seemed likely. Unfortunately, she was serious and when I told her no, that I couldn't help her with this, she simply said "Alright. I'll figure it out myself." As though it isn't the most irresponsible choice to drive halfway across the country as a grown adult who knows they cannot afford to do such a thing. I have no idea what will happen, but im expecting a "What, don't you WANT to see us?" Response any time since I advised her not to make the trip at all since she clearly can't afford it. As a grown adult who can't afford to travel myself I am astounded at the audacity.

Edit:

Wow. I have never gotten this much of a response on any post in the past so I'm gonna answer a few questions I feel matter that I've seen in the comments.

1. Why not cut her out completely? A) I honestly don't have a good reason, just that I'd feel guilty. I'm the only family member out of state and I worry that cutting her out will result in the loss of family I would regret losing. I'm just afraid, I guess.

2. Why don't you offer to put her in a hotel? A) I'm like a lot of people in my age group these days; struggling. I'm not even the only earner in the house and we're still chasing the wrong end of the paycheck at the end of the day. I'd love to have been able to go back and visit, myself, but it would be irresponsible to attempt a trip I can't afford and putting my own little family at risk is not worth the moment of happiness I might find checking in on others I miss.

3. Is it possible her living situation has changed and she doesn't plan on leaving my yard? A) I never even considered this, and it horrified me to see it worded out. I would love to think she could never pull something like that but honestly I feel like anything is possible.

Thank you all for your logical advice, I really appreciate knowing that my own little circle isn't wrong to think the things I've seen here. I'm still waiting to hear how she responds to my suggestion that she not come and I will do my best to post an end to this unfortunate story.

I (38f) am going through chemotherapy for breast cancer. I just finished up my 4th infusion and have pretty much been a home body since the beginning. This past weekend was my SIL’s wedding so we traveled up for the weekend as we (hubby, kids, and myself) were all in the wedding party.

This was the first time I had been with my in-laws since I started chemo. I have lost all the hair on my head aside from some weird splotchy peach fuzz looking shenanigans that I truly can’t stand. I used to have long red hair so this whole bald thing has really been an adjustment. I mostly wear a baseball cap for errands but since this was a fancy weekend I had bought some nice looking head covers to match my rehearsal outfit and my bridesmaids dress.

My MIL and I were chatting and it came up that her meds had changed since she was having side effects, but now her new meds were causing her hair to thin and fall out (it doesn’t look any different). I made a joke about understanding how she feels but at least she still has hair!

Now this woman is ALWAYS complaining about being too fat, needing to diet, she’s old and her skin isn’t young anymore, blah blah blah. Typical boomer woman who thinks all that matters is how you look. So wtf does she do? She lifts up my head over and goes “I wanna see what’s going on under there.” I was so shocked I just stood there as she looked at my bald head.

I so wish I could go back in time and bitch slap her hand. I kept it together for the sake of the family and my SIL since I didn’t want to create drama on her wedding weekend. Because yes, any kind of comment telling her not to do that would have been viewed as me being rude or starting shit with her, she’s always the victim. For someone so obsessed with appearances you would think she might consider how I feel about mine, but no. The complete lack of empathy is astounding.

The wedding was wonderful btw, and no one else attempted to take my head over off to take a peek. Because you know, respect for other peoples bodies and whatnot.

After she pulled me over I told her I was recording our conversation and if she gave me a ticket I would be showing up to court and requesting the dash cam footage be shown to the judge.

Her tone changed after this and she let me go with “a warning” and a stern lecture on not impeding the flow of traffic because it could cause crashes (as I’m pulled over on a major highway). GIRL WHAT?

I’ll be making a complaint anyway (even though it will likely do nothing).

I was visiting my boomer parent last week and they are starting to downsize (shocking in of itself). They asked me if I wanted their wedding china. I said I had no real use for it and they went on and on about how it needed to be used for holidays to make it more special. I said if I ended up with it, the tea cups and saucers would end up being used for my house plants because succulents look super cute in tea cups and saucers work well for drainages. Parent was not amused.