Q&As

Should I do anything about it? She said she was creeped out, and had to cut her run short. She also said he followed her around the gym until she could find someone else her age and acted like she knew him.

Maybe call the gym and alert them?

Edit: I notified the gym, and they are now aware of him. My cousin is the manager.

I (f) have been married to my husband (m) for 2 years. He has a habit of sitting in the car 5-10 minutes before entering the house. I don't know why he does it, but he talked about a past traumatic experience he had when he came home and caught his ex cheating on him. Because of that he'd just spend few minutes in his car before he enters his home as response to his trauma. Now I won't say that he's wrong in coping with what happened but this has made me feel uneasy and it had caused many fights between us. Like when we have guests he'd sit outside before coming in, or when dinner is waiting on him and he'd take 10 minutes silently sitting in the car.

I was worried that something might come up and he does not respond properly. And it happened last week. My 8 yo son tripped and fell from the stairs and broke his ankle. He was in so much pain and I called my husband to come take him to the hospital and he rushed out of work but then I called and called and then I was stunned when I looked out the window and I saw him sitting outside the house in his car. I was both shocked and angry. I ran outside and I asked how long he was sitting in the car. He told me around 8 minutes. I asked why he didn't come into the house immediately to help and he said he would after 2 more minutes. I was so mad and hurt but tried to rush him and he insisted he wouldn't feel "comfortable" coming in until the 10 minutes were up. He told me to get my son ready to take him to the hospital, but I started screaming at him nonstop telling him this was a family emergency and that he was out of his mind to behave like that. It might not have been my best response but I was shocked by his behavior and quite concerned because...I had this situation always stuck in the back of mind thinking what my husband do when there's a family emergency. I ended up taking my son by myself when my neighbor intervened and offered to take us. We went to the hospital and later my husband came and tried to talk to me but I refused. I then went to stay with my mom and texted him that I wanted a divorce. He tried to rationalize and justify what he's done saying he could not help it and that he was nervous and wanted to help my son but felt stuck. I refused to reply to his messages and days later his family literally harrassed me saying I was making my husband's trauma more severe and that I disrespected his boundaries by pushing him off his limits.

I feel lost and unable to think because of the whole ordeal. My family are with me on this but they can be biased sometimes. My husband is still trying to basically talk me out of divorce saying I'm making a huge deal out of it. I feel like I no longer have trust in him especially when it comes to serious stuff like how cold he acted in a family emergency.

Edit to clarify that my son isn't his biological son. We don't have kids together.

My daughter is 15 and she has social anxiety. She is in counseling for it and not meds (not needed). The rule in our household is that if you want fast food when we are out you pay for it with your own money. If you don't have McDonald's money you aren't going there. I also don't allow eating in the car, so we stop at places to eat.

We had to go out and do some errands. I told her to grab something to eat before hand but she said she wasn't hungry. We go on our errands and halfway through she wants to stop by Wendy's. I pull in and tell her to go order I will get a seat.

She comes back a few minutes later and tells me she can't order. She doesn't want to talk to the cashier at the front of the store. I told her she needs to order and we will head out. She asked me to order and I told her no. We sit for about 10 minutes when I tell her it's time to go.

She in short is pissed and my wife is also upset I didn't order for her. That I let her go hungry ( I find this stupid I didn't starve her for days it was 4 hour outing)

AITA?

Edit: for those asking yes, her counslor has told us she she needs to start doing this stuff on her own, this was low risk. She literally gave the example of ordering food without our help.

I also ran through a script with her at the table but she wouldn't do it

So, I'm 15F, and I'm the oldest of four kids. My siblings are 10, 7, and 4. My parents both work full-time, and since my mom got promoted last year, she works longer hours now. This means a lot of the household responsibilities and taking care of my siblings fall on me after school and on weekends.

I get my siblings from school, help with their homework, cook dinner, and sometimes put them to bed if my parents are late. I don't mind helping out, but it's gotten to the point where I barely have any time for myself or my friends. I'm also starting high school this year, and I have a lot of homework and extracurriculars that I need to focus on.

Last weekend, I had plans to go to a friend's birthday party. I told my parents about it weeks in advance, and they said it was fine. But the night before the party, my mom told me she had to work late on Saturday and that I needed to watch my siblings. I was really upset and told her I had plans, but she said family comes first and that I should be responsible.

I ended up missing the party, and I was really angry about it. Later that night, when my parents got home, I told them that they should have thought twice before having more kids if they couldn't handle taking care of them without relying on me all the time. My dad got really mad and said I was being disrespectful and selfish. My mom looked hurt and told me I don't understand how hard it is to balance work and family.

Now things are really tense at home, and I feel guilty for what I said. I know my parents are doing their best, but I also feel like I'm missing out on my own life because of all the responsibilities I have. AITA for saying what I said

For the past several years, I've owned a property in a semi-rural area. It is part of an HOA with only 12 houses over 1000 acres, so we don't get much in each others' way. There is a "common area" that abuts my property and on it there is a "pond" that is fed via an irrigation headgate on a creek on my property and a cut that runs from it through my property. I've come to discover this pond is a real pain. One neighbor used to maintain it (without making a fuss) but he died.

So dealing with it fell to me, as the neighbor most affected by it. And it's a pain. People trespass to go fishing or having their dogs swim in it. People from outside have come to ice-skate on it (totally not safe!). It has silting problems. The headgate needs to be dug out every spring, sometimes multiple times. The cut clogs up and has to be cleared. Then a beaver took up residence and kept blocking the outflow culvert, causing a flood on neighboring farmer's land (he was rightly pissed and I got the brunt of it). I was clearing out beaver blockages several days a week. Nobody else in the HOA would help. I did some research and discovered that the water right for the headgate belonged to *me alone* and not the association (whoops!), there was no easement for the irrigation cut and, cherry on the sundae, the pond is actually on my property and not common area. Had a survey done just to be sure. I also discovered it wasn't really a "pond" -- it was a hole dug up to provide fill for our road and the original developer just routed irrigation into the hole and called it a "pond", but this explains why it is such a mess.

A landowner a mile away is now digging out a proper pond and he has to pay a ton to dispose of the fill (even though it is clean). I asked if it would help if he could put some of the fill in our "pond" and he offered to pay for the privilege. I have closed the headgate and started draining the pond. Some members of the HOA have been yelling at me that they like the pond (just to look at as they drive out to the main road). So I said, ok, if you like it, pay up $10K a year for someone to deal with the nonsense. They refused, I said that in that case the pond is getting filled in and planted with native grass, using the money from taking the fill They call me a selfish asshole. Am I?

So just read in the news about it, but I am not sure the real intentions behind it. What is he really aiming to do? And why is he donating such amount of money? Why would he even do that when Trump is closer to win especially after the debate and assassination attempt?

My gf and I got invited to this engagement party that my friend from undergrad has. I found out later that a girl, I'll call her Erin, and I went on a few dates with in undergrad was going. Normally, this wouldn't matter at all, but after I told her I wasn't feeling a romantic spark but we could be friends, Erin flipped out on me. She would send me tons of voicemails telling me I was leading her on, I was shallow (not sure what prompted this, never told her I didn't like her because of her appearance), and I wouldn't find anyone else but her, etc. etc. It's been several years since undergrad so I assumed that she would have hopefully chilled out or have forgotten about me.

Fast forward to the party, me and my gf are mingling and my gf is very nice and friendly so she's getting along with everyone. I run into Erin and she immediately makes a comment in a snide tone: "Oh, hey! I didn't know you'd be here. Almost didn't recognize you with the dad bod." I just say hello and try to ignore her but she's kind of following me for a bit. She makes another snide comment when she saw my gf from afar by saying: "She's so thin! I always knew that was your type!" and I ask Erin to please leave me alone for the night and she just stomps away.

I find my gf and we are hanging out and having fun until Erin comes up to us and makes a comment: "Oh, Thin_Fold_46, who is this?" My gf introduces herself politely before I could say something and compliments Erin's nails. Erin doesn't even introduce herself and says in a condescending tone: "I wish I could pull off the dress you're wearing but I think it only works for people with small boobs."

I try to keep my cool because we are all way too old for this but I became really agitated with Erin making comments about people's bodies. I snapped back and said "I think it'd be difficult to pull off for you in the waist area. If you want to know where we got this dress, I'd be happy to send you the link in a bigger size."

Erin immediately recoils. She doesn't say anything and leaves. Later that night, a few mutual friends came up to me saying they saw Erin sobbing and told them I called her fat and ruined her night. My gf tells me Erin was projecting her insecurities onto us and she wasn't even mad, just sad for her. I admit it was not the most mature move I've done, but how unwarranted was my comment? AITAH?

TL;DR: A girl who used to like me made bodyshaming comments about me and my gf and I made one back.

My (30m) youngest sister (14f) came to my workplace to tell me that she was pregnant. I was upset when I heard it because she’s so young, and the baby daddy had already ditched her. Her environment isn’t also good for any child to be living in. We were basically arguing from the very start before my wife (26f) and son (1m) arrived. She was confused as to why my sister was here but didn’t intervene and told me she could wait for me to talk to my sister, so I did.

I suggested my sister to get an abortion because she can’t even take care of herself. She sure as hell can’t take care of a baby, but she refused. I don't want to force her, so I suggested adoption, and she still refused, which annoyed me. I then asked her how she'd care for the baby. She said she'd get a job. I explained that she won’t get any legal job at 14; that's child labor, and part-time jobs won’t pay enough anyway. I asked her again, but all her responses were that she'd figure it out.

We kept going back and forth. I didn’t know how to make her realize the situation, so I tried to tell her that it wasn’t fair for an innocent child to live with its drunk grandparents and its mom struggling. She was quiet after that, then blurted out that I could house her, and the baby since I have a nice house. I didn’t straight-up refuse her, but I knew I didn’t want to take her in either. So, I asked her about other expenses. She said again that she'd figure it out later, and that was when I knew she wanted a handout and to depend on me again. So, I told her no; I wouldn’t take her in.

I said she had three options: 1. abort it, 2. adopt it out, or 3. keep it but raise it yourself. I also said if she wants to keep it, I can help with some necessities here and there, but I won’t raise her baby. She seemed to turn deaf to this part, became defensive, and yelled at me with things like “you’re my brother, you're supposed to help me” or “are you gonna leave me and the baby to fend for ourselves, you’re heartless”. That was when my wife decided to intervene because it had gotten out of hand. My sister seemed to aim her anger at my wife and said, “mind your own business, you don’t even have a job, and he provides for you and your son”.

And she wasn't done yet. She kept guilt-tripping me, and when I didn’t respond, she went back to disrespecting me and my wife. It wasn't until she said something about my wife that made me snap with something more hurtful, which made her cry and stomp out.

So WIBTA?

Backstory:

So this one may require some backstory to build up to the big argument which happened a few days ago. I (23M) have been with my Janine (Fake Name - 23F) for 8 years now. We began as school sweethearts and have had our ups and downs but for the most part have been a very happy couple for that whole time. We love each others families, really enjoy each others company and have known for a while we wanted to tie the knot and settle down at some point.

Talk of moving in together has been on the cards for a while but we wanted to stand firm on our plan to buy rather than rent, so we have been saving for years now and are both in a position where we feel as though we can afford a deposit and have enough outside of that to make mortgage payments with both our salaries.

Everything feels perfect except for 1 thing. Our sex life. For the past 2 years this area has been near on non-existent. Initially the sex began to ramp down in frequency at what I thought was natural. Every few days became once a week but this felt normal. We still live at home so it can be awkward but this was what I felt to be natural now for where we were in our relationship.

However as time went on this dwindled more and more and we are now in the position to having not had sex in 4 months. I have tried to initiate but I get the cold shoulder so frequently that it has burnt out any wanting for me to try. At first when I questioned this Janine told me she was feeling a lot of pain. Of course I didn’t want to force her into anything so we stopped then and began looking for ways to help. Initially we believed this to be vaginisimus but over time we realised the symptoms didn’t quite match up to what we thought so kept looking.

Well, I kept looking. Janine didn’t show any signs of wanting to push to help this. I recommended doctors appointments but she disagreed with the need to go to the doctors for this. I mentioned therapy and she shot this down too. I would research home remedies and she would read what I sent over and disregard it as “that won’t work for me”. Initially with the pain we settled on performing different acts that required no penetration, but this did not last long.

She would always turn down advances and blame a particular element of my approach. I came on too strong, I wasn’t coming on enough to get her going. I initiated too quickly, I took too long and now she’s turned off. It’s not spontaneous enough, it’s too spontaneous and I didn’t give her enough time to prepare. It’s too loud in the house, it’s too quiet and we’ll be heard etc.

This really knocked my confidence and made me consider ending things but every other aspect of our relationship was perfect so I didn’t want to say anything. Anyways onto the present

The Argument:

When we first began looking for places I mentioned our sex life and stated that I didn’t feel comfortable getting a mortgage together if we didn’t have an active sex life as it would be harder for both of us to deal with at that point. She was taken aback by this but after discussion agreed we’d keep looking and she would work on becoming more active sexually. That was a year ago

Fast forward to the past few weeks and we realised our finances were in the right place to move. Janine asked what day I would like to go and speak with a mortgage adviser and I told her I didn’t. She was confused and asked what I meant and I explained as above. In the year I had been saving for this mortgage under the agreement to move in should she work on rebuilding our sex life. In that year she had done nothing and taken no action, even going the 4 months without initiating or engaging with me about this. As said before I didn’t want to force her but wanted to see some form of effort at being more intimate in our relationship. She stopped kissing me without my initiation in this time also. She has seen 0 doctors in this time for her medical issues and has refused my advances of couples therapy.

When I finished explaining I said our finances are there but I am not ready to pursue this next stage together without work on our sex life. She was furious with me and stated that I was holding our future at ransom to have more sex. She stormed out and I haven’t heard from her since other than a text message telling me she wasn’t coming to a dinner date I had planned and to call her when I had decided to not be an arsehole anymore.

Whilst I feel that my intentions weren’t cruel I now feel like I may be the arsehole for building up to this point of building our finances to suddenly halt it like this. I understand her feelings of betrayal but I just can’t move in knowing our sex life is going to continue non-existent. AITAH?

I (52M) have 2 kids Jay (26M) and Katie (17F). to make the post easier to understand I'll give some info upfront, my wife passed a way 9 years ago. My son is FTM trans and had not yet transitioned at the time. Growing up my son always had a fascination with his mother's wedding dress and she always told him he could wear it to his wedding. The dress was never willed to him or anything of the sort, it has remained in my care since my wife passed. My son and I have never discussed his mother's wedding dress at all. My daughter frequently says she wants to wear it to her wedding some day.

Well my son recently proposed to his long term girlfriend Valorie (26F) we've all been very excited for them. They're currently in the early stages of wedding planning and my son came to my house recently asking for "his dress". I was a bit confused and asked what he meant. He said he wanted his mother's wedding dress to repurpose so he could wear it at his wedding. He did specify that he wanted to do this to feel like he has a piece of his mother at his wedding. I asked if it would be possible to make the alterations reversable as his sister also want's to wear the dress. He looked at me like I had two heads and told me the wedding dress would most likely be torn apart and the fabric sewn into different pieces of clothing, but that would be for him and Valorie to decide. I told him I couldn't give him the dress if he was gonna alter it in a way that would make it unusable for his sister.

He started to get pissed and said he can do anything he wants with it as it's his. I told him his mother intended for him to wear it as a dress, not destroy it. ( I know she would never allow that, she loved her wedding dress, and it meant a lot to her as it was a gift from her grandmother who unfortunately passed away about 8 months after the wedding). My Son turned this into a huge argument and accused me of being transphobic. He claims that if he was a girl I would have no problem with him taking the dress. I told him I would have the same stipulations as I personally view it as unfair that one child gets to use it and the other doesn't. My son escalated things and has gotten other relatives involved. My sister thinks I'm being a massive asshole and that my wife never said Katie could have the dress so it shouldn't go to her in the first place. while my wife's parents are saying I'm in the right. (I'm no contact with my parents and most of my extended family due to how they responded to Jay transitioning so these are the most important people in my life.) Katie has told me she does still want to wear the dress, but she'll let Jay have it if it's gonna break apart the family. I'm still conflicted about the whole thing, but am putting my foot down for now. So AITAH?

TL;DR: My trans son wants to repurpose his mother's wedding dress, I said no as my younger daughter wants to wear it to her wedding.

My friend (17f) makes TikTok regularly and she had a decent following of a few thousand. She wanted to grow it for a while and sometimes she would complain to me when it wasn't having any growth and I (17F) would try and help her get a viral video.

Well it happened and over the past few days she's had quite a lot of likes (I'm deliberately trying to be vague with describing this, as this point is about my insecurity and I don't want somebody to find it and add to that). We recorded a video of us both dancing together to a popular song right now and it got her a lot of followers and likes. She's really happy, but a part of why it seemed to go viral is because people are fat shaming me in the replies.

I am quite overweight, I'm 250lbs and I'm quite insecure of my body which is why I didn't wanna be in my friend's video to begin with, but she convinced me. I didn't think it would go viral so I was wearing a crop top and shorts, and now people are calling me an it or a thing, and saying rude things like telling me to cover up and that its a violation to their eyes. It shouldn't even offend me because I know they're all 13 year olds but those comments have hundreds of likes and I'm really embarrassed.

I only noticed this morning when my friend told me her video went viral and I told her to take it down because people are being rude to me and I showed her some of the comments. She told me to stop being selfish and that I willingly chose to appear in the video and that I'll ruin her getting popularity now. I told her that I didn't think it would go viral, and she says that she understands that its not fair of them to make fun of my body, but the video already has downloads and you can't wipe anything from the internet so its useless to delete it and that I need to get tougher skin. AITA? I know you can't delete anything but I really didn't expect to see hundreds of likes calling me a whale or anything

So I'm (31F) an adoptive mom to an 8-year-old girl named Lilly. We decided to go school supply shopping because I enrolled her in a before-school-starts program. A month before school starts, they learn some extracurricular stuff. Lily really wanted to join the program, so we went out and bought all the school supplies.

I have had problems with people stealing from Lily, so I made sure to mark everything. We bought all the required supplies, including a clear backpack. To prevent theft, I used E6000 glue to put her name on the clear backpack so no one could take it. It's bound to happen otherwise. We got a really cute pencil pouch, and I wrote her name with a Sharpie on the inside of the pouch. I also wrote her name on the box of markers and every individual marker. I did the same with the scissors and the glue stick. I basically wrote her name on everything to prevent theft.

I sent her to the program, but when Lily came home, she was upset (though not crying). Apparently, we weren't supposed to write names on the school supplies because everything was going to be mixed up and distributed to everyone. I called the teacher, and they explained that they didn't have enough money to get every single kid their own supplies, so they planned on distributing the supplies evenly. The teacher shamed Lily for it. Now, I don't know what to do.

I grew up with my family and another family whose parents were best friends with mine since high school. My parents had me (F28) and my two older brothers (M31 and M35), while their friends had four boys (M27, M29, M30, and M37).

Growing up was pretty nice, but the boys used to pick on me a lot and exclude me during their "girls are yucky" phase. I wouldn't say I see these boys as brothers, but maybe as cousins.

I was close to M27 and M29 when we were little. I will call them Adam and Jake. Until we were 15, we were really close and did a lot together.

I don't talk to Jake much anymore. No hard feelings, but he grew up to be a classic tech bro and can be pretty condescending. However, our families are obsessed with the idea of us ending up together. The other guys are already married, and Adam is gay. They've always pushed for us to be together (making us go to the store alone at Christmas, telling us both an earlier time to meet at the restaurant for Dad's birthday, talking him up a lot, etc.).

Then both Jake and I met our SOs. I have been with my fiancé for 5 years, and Jake met his fiancée 3 years ago. Our families have been very disappointed and have not welcomed our SOs warmly. One Christmas, I took Jake's fiancée, Tracy, aside and explained the weird family lore to her. With Jake (just like we did with my fiancé), we assured her that it was just a weird thing of our family and that Jake and I have not been close for ages and have never had more than a friendly relationship. Ironically, having to stand against our parents made us all a little closer.

But we come to the problem. Jake and Tracy are going to get married soon, and it has been chaos. Our parents have upped their antics by 2000%. Family dinners are full of "ahh we thought you two would get married." They brought out a picture I apparently drew of me and Jake when we were little of us getting married (I suspect they made it. It did not look like it was made by an actual child). They were cornering Tracy about making me the matron of honor and letting me wear white (what??). Also, his brothers and my brothers joined in, making jokes about us being star-crossed lovers and calling me "the missus." I distanced myself heavily from my family during that time and stopped going home after talking to them did nothing.

One day, one of my brothers invited me out. He said it was just my two brothers and me. So, I went to his apartment, and when I arrived, it was Jake's bachelor party. One of his brothers screamed out that the "stripper" was here (fucking ew). I wanted to leave, but the next train left close to 12 a.m., and it was not the safest neighborhood. So, I stayed. They tried to make me drunk, were constantly physically pushing me and Jake together, and even locked us in my brother's bedroom. I could hear loud laughing from the other side. Jake and I did not talk much. He apologized to me and asked me if I could not come to the wedding as I made Tracy uncomfortable. I completely understood and said at that point I was not planning to go anymore.

He offered to drive me home as he was also completely sober. When they opened the door, he said we were going home. In their heads, that meant we were going to be intimate or something because all the caveman sounds started.

The next day, my phone was blowing up. Someone uploaded a video of me and Jake leaving and captioned it "finally." It was very awkward. I am clearly uncomfortable, and so is Jake as we exit the apartment and enter his car. There were comments, calls, and texts. Tracy called me crying and cursing me out. Jake called me apologizing and telling me he tried to explain. My mother and his mother sent me a bunch of texts saying how proud they are and that it was about time. My fiancé is understanding, but he wants me to make clearer boundaries with my family.

I drove past their house, and they were all there. They didn't even let me talk and were just love-bombing me. I started screaming and told them Jake and I have never and will never be together and I will not be leaving my loving fiancé. That I would not be going to Jake's wedding, and if they kept up with this, I would cut every single one of them off because I am tired and just want to live my life and not their incest fairy tale.

By the end of my meltdown, my mother and his mother were crying, and my father just told me to get out.

Since then, I have been getting messages from my brothers calling me a bitch for treating my family like that because they only wanted the best for me.

So, AITAH?

Edit: no an, uber was not an option. Taxis and ubers are ungodly expensive here. Thus is take the freaking train.

Also no we don't have a car.

Tracy was away and my fiance had a night shift

I (18F) have been on and off with a guy named Jared (26M) for almost a year now, it's one of those toxic relationships that you keep coming back to. anywayy one night he came over after a nasty argument from the day before, we agreed we needed to see each other and handle it in person. We talked our problems out and everything was better. We even had makeup sex he gave me my first ever creampie! ughh it felt fucking amazing getting filled up. But then afterwards when we were laying in bed he asked me "Would you ever get a boobjob?"

This got me a little offended and i asked him why? Then he replied with "Don't get me wrong your hot as fuck but i think with some bigger tits you'd be even hotter" i didn't even know how to react when he said this... i just brushed it off and said maybe haha. To be fair my boobs are only B cups but i never thought he wanted them bigger. I thought guys like natural boobs more than fake ones, im also really petite so i think getting a boobjob would make it disproportioned to my body..

Later on i brought it up again because it annoyed me. He told me im overreacting and it's not a big deal but i said it's something im insecure about and he shouldn't have asked me that. After more arguing i told him to leave then kicked him out of my apartment.

I feel kinda bad but i also think this is a sign to move on. it's a toxic relationship and i know i need to get out... if you know anyone preferably older that doesn't care about small boobs PLS send them my wayy!! i wanna experiment and hopefully find someone else <33

UPDATE: Thanks so much for the great advice everyone! I shared this post to the FB group, mentioned filing a report with the Ohio AG, and very shortly afterward she was offering to send checks to people if they confirmed their addresses. She claims she's sending me a check too but also "banned" me from the FB group and deleted most of my comments (I say "banned" because I'm pretty sure she doesn't know how to truly ban someone from a FB page 😆). I have screenshots of everything, and if she never sends the check, there's always small claims 🍻

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I signed my daughter up for swim lessons through a program at our local city pool. The city pool does not organize the program--they allow the program organizer (a woman we'll call "Helen") to use the pool for classes before it opens to the public each day. We've been attending Helen's swim classes for four years without issue--until this year.

Helen communicates updates about the swim classes through a FB page. Two days before the second session was scheduled to begin, she made an abrupt FB post that the entire session was cancelled. No explanation was provided and no alternatives were offered, but she was quick to announce there would be no refunds and she was retiring. She won't be offering anymore swim classes.

When parents started demanding their money back, she simply said the paperwork we had all signed at the beginning of the year explicitly stated no refunds. Now she's ghosting all the parents, and we're pretty pissed. Many of us have called the local pool to find out if they know what's going on, and they said they've been trying to contact her, but she's ignoring their calls. They don't have any idea why classes were cancelled either.

I can understand not offering refunds if a few classes in a session were cancelled due to weather or if someone missed classes due to illness, but to provide no classes at all (or any future class options) and just keep the money seems pretty illegal. For reference, I am located in Ohio.

Here is the refund language from the paperwork the parents signed: Refunds for this class WILL NOT be issued except for a medical reason (such as sickness or severe injury). DO NOT ASK!!!!

TLDR: I paid for swim lessons. The lessons were abruptly cancelled and the instructor announced she's retiring. No alternative arrangements or refund was offered. The class organizer is citing a refund policy that doesn't seem legally binding.

English is not my first language so bear with me please.

My (42F) brother (39M) has a live in housekeeper, Vivian. I believe the girl is 18 or 19. In our country and particularly our city, housekeepers are in very high demand, especially ones from the same region of our country as Vivian is because they have the best food in the country.

My brother got divorced a year ago and got very depressed, so I advised him to hire a housekeeper to help him maintain his daily tasks. She also helps him by babysitting his two daughters when it is his custody time when he is at work.

I went grocery shopping a few weeks ago with my brother and he picked up a box of chocolates and some flowers for Vivian. He told me that she was sick and I thought it was very sweet of him.

However, my nieces (my brothers daughters) told me that their father always hits on Vivian when she is working and he buys her expensive gifts. Then yesterday, he made an off handed comment about her body when she was bringing some foot to the table when I went to his home to have lunch with him. She laughed awkwardly and excused herself.

I asked him what he was doing and basically, he is attracted to her. I told him that his behaviour with her was not appropriate as he is her employer and if he cannot behave, he should let her go. When he hired her, her agency said that there were many other families who wanted her because of resume so she will not be left jobless. I told him that she deserves to have a work place that is safe.

He was very upset and said I was treating him like a creep and it wasn’t my business. I left after this and he called me demanding an apology. I feel like I may have over stepped since he told me Vivian has not complained herself. I feel very bad now and I was wondering if I am AH.

Hey everyone,

I (29M) just got married to my amazing wife (29F) two days ago. We've been planning our wedding for years, and it was supposed to be the perfect day. I had only one request for my friends: please, do not propose to your girlfriends at our wedding. I suspected one of my friends might try this because he had been talking about proposing, not directly to me, but to another friend. I specifically asked him not to do it.

The wedding night was magical. I had prepared a special song to sing to my wife, a little piece that meant the world to us. As the music was coming to an end, my friend suddenly emerged from the crowd with his girlfriend and proposed to her right then and there. I felt so betrayed. The crowd was cheering and clapping for them, completely overshadowing our moment. My wife didn't seem to mind too much, but I was devastated.

Shortly after, I pulled them aside and asked them to leave the party and told them they couldn’t attend the after-party. They refused, so I had to ask security to escort them out. Now, half of my friends are on my side, while the other half think I'm overreacting and that it wasn't a big deal. Even my parents said I was being too harsh. I'm seriously considering ending the friendship over this.

So, AITA for kicking them out? Am I overreacting?