Q&As

I found out that my husband was texting with a friend in our group. He ended it when we found out that I was pregnant yes, but it lasted at least 3 months of very flirty texts and sex text. I am 16 weeks pregnant and I found out now when we are on vacation. I am coming home on Monday and I scheduled on Tuesday. I haven’t told him yet because I know that he will be devastated and then I am trapped aboard with an inconsolable man. But I should tell him shouldnt I? Or maybe just tell him that I had a miscarriage? But why would I want to ease his feelings? We are over and he is the reason. Aita for wanting an abortion after I found out that he cheated on me? And should I tell him? I need advice as well as judgment

My friend announced they will be trying for a second baby this summer. However she has long complained how overwhelmed she is as a mother to her 3 year old. They bought her first born an iPad at 18 months so she could "get a break". This kid got his hands on my phone and got upset with me for not having games he could play (I don't have kids) and when I wouldn't let him play on YT. Clearly spending enough time being babysat by Nanny Ipad.

I straight up asked her "Why are you having a second if you are already so overwhelmed with the first that you iPad it?". Yes, I could have said it nicer but my question was genuine. Whats the thought process of adding another child when you cant deal with the first?

The I (30F) have been married to my husband (32M) for five years. We have 2 beautiful kids (5m and 6f) and have a very strong relationship and are happy together. Recently, my “friend” Lisa (29F) confided in me that she has developed feelings for my husband. She said that she finds him attractive and admires our relationship, and she asked if we would consider having an open relationship so she could be with him too.

I was shocked and told her no, explaining that my husband and I are committed to each other and that we are not interested in an open relationship. Lisa got upset and accused me of being selfish and closed-minded. She argued that modern relationships should be flexible and that I was denying her happiness.

Since then, Lisa has been distant and has been spreading rumors in our friend group, suggesting that I am overly possessive and controlling. This has caused a lot of tension, and some of our mutual friends are now taking sides. My husband is supportive of my decision, but I feel guilty for the drama it has caused.

So, AITA for rejecting my friend’s request to have an open relationship with my husband?

Edit: This attracted a lot more attention very fast then I thought it would, I’ve read most of your comments and I think tomorrow I will talk to the whole friend group about it and I’ll update after.

Update 1:

After reading some of your comments, I decided to bring the group out for coffee and I told them all about what Lisa said and the REAL story. I also showed them the reddit post. After showing them, there were 2 girls that were still on Lisa’s side, so I took some advice from the comments and said “let Lisa fuck your husband, then you can be on her side” after that everyone was on my side thankfully. Lisa wasn’t happy at all and she started ranting about how it “wasn’t fair” she “just wanted to experiment something new!” and “It wasn’t even that bad of a request, your making it such a big deal!” Which I didn’t get.

Me and the rest of the group have officially cut contact with Lisa. Just hoping she doesn’t try to reach out.

Will update if something happens.

Also just clarifying that Lisa also asked my husband for an open marriage, he also rejected saying that “even if I was I would never want to go out with you”

I’m thinking of cutting off the ladies that were on Lisa’s side for so long. But I’m not sure if they heard a different story or not. So should I?

So, my fiancée (24F) and I (28M) are supposed to get married in six months. However, something happened that's made me reconsider and it's kind of blown up.

I got into an argument with my fiancée like a week ago over something pretty trivial, but it ended up getting a bit heated. I tried to keep things calm, but she ended up getting really mad and slapped me in the face.

I was kind of shocked for a minute, and then just told her she needed to leave. She refused at first, but then I raised my voice slightly and said "you need to leave right now". She got some of her things and then went to go stay with her sister.

I'm now considering ending things with her after she was physical with me. I honestly couldn't believe she did that. However, I've gotten massive pushback from pretty much EVERYONE around me telling me that ending our relationship and calling off our wedding over that is a massive overreaction.

She did apologize, but I told her it doesn't change anything. My family is telling me I'm being crazy to ends things over that. My friends are saying I'm massively overreacting. I pointed out that if I had done that to her, she would have almost definitely left me, and would be 100% in the right to do so. They're all saying that's completely different, because I'm significantly taller than her and physically stronger, while there's no chance she could ever physically overpower me. That is true, but I don't think it changes things.

I'm being accused of weaponizing therapy language and appropriating the struggles of domestic abuse victims when what happened to me was in no way comparable to what "genuine victims" go through. I feel like I'm losing my mind and I'm doubting my reasoning now. AITA?

Edit: Wow, I did not expect this to get so much attention. I appreciate everyone giving their feedback, I felt like I was going crazy. I'm going to take some time to think about where to go from here. Thank you.

Last night, I was out with my boyfriend and we were going to meet up with his two married friends. He’d told me they were swingers, and that they were cool people. Not our thing, so I thought, but I am open hangout with mostly anyone. They were definitely a little flirty, but nothing too crazy. We left the first bar, and went to another. While in line waiting for drinks, the wife said “you have a great ass.” I didn’t think much of it and played it off as a joke and said thank you. She then continued to tell me she saw “the video” my partner took of me and repeated intimate, explicit things that were exchanged during sex. I immediately looked at my partner, and must’ve looked pissed, because she immediately apologized to him for spilling the beans. I handed my partner his keys and left the bar. He didn’t follow me, but texted me. I told him I was outside of a bar a few blocks away waiting for an Uber… and that if he wanted to come meet me to talk, without his friends, he could. He didn’t. So, I took an Uber back to my part of town and went to a local bar. I needed to have a cocktail and think about the shitshow that had just occurred. About an hour later he texted me asking what I was doing and said he was drunk and leaving a concert (how he got to a concert in the span of an hour at 10pm is beyond me). I told him where I was, and he showed up WITH the couple he’d sent videos of me to. I pulled him outside and said I felt incredibly violated. I told him that it was not ok that he recorded me without my consent and shared the content with others. His response was “your beauty is amazing and I wouldn’t mind if it were vice versa.” I laughed in his face. I reiterated how upset and hurt I was, and he apologized. He came back to my place with me, and stayed over. This morning, it all hit me like a ton of bricks and I started crying in bed. When he asked, I told him why and his response was “it’s not like I cheated on you,” and followed with “you need to focus your energy on something else.” After that I asked him to leave. I actually feel quite sick over the whole thing, and he doesn’t seem to understand that it’s a big deal to me. Am I the asshole for being so upset?

I recently discovered that my wife was cheating on me, and to my surprise, my kids already knew about it but didn't tell me. Feeling hurt and betrayed, I made the decision to leave them as well as their mother. But thinking back, I wonder if I was in the wrong. Did I overreact by leaving, especially considering my children were caught in the middle? I feel justified in my response to the infidelity, but I'm starting to question if I handled the situation poorly by not staying to work things out for the sake of my kids.

I dunno, want to hear a couple disconnected opinions.

Me(25f) and my husband(27m) are getting married in 3 months. Throughout the months of planning the wedding, I've said a bunch of times about how this wedding is going to be adults only and no children were allowed. My sister recently just had her baby and everyone in my family has been excited about it. 2 weeks ago my sister asked me if her baby could come to the wedding since she didn't have any babysitter. She knew damn well that I said no children are allowed and it's a adults only wedding. And so I told her that. She told me that I should make a exception because it's my niece and that she's really well behaved. I still kept my word and was not going to let her baby come, no matter if she was family or not. She proceeded to call me a A--hole and told me I was being selfish. She told everybody in my family about the situation and of course they are on her side and they keep on telling me to just let my niece come to the wedding. AITA?

My husband and I fostered for 6 years. Last year, we had a baby placed with us that had been left at a Safe Haven location. He was only 2 weeks old at the time. Eventually, we were approved to adopt him. Most of our family was very supportive. Except for my mother. She suddenly made it clear that she’d never view this baby as her grandchild. This came out of nowhere as she had always been kind to our foster children. But for some reason, she drew the line and said blood is what makes a family.

This was heartbreaking enough as we love and care for our son. We know adoption comes with trauma and especially how he was placed, there may be lingering feelings as he grows up. We’re studying all we can to help make sure we can guide him through those feelings. We certainly don’t need anyone else making him feel less than or not a part of our family.

And on another level, my husband was unofficially adopted himself. He came from a crappy home life. His best friend’s mom noticed, took him under her wing. He spent most of the week at their place, she fed and clothed him. He no longer speaks to his biological parents, but his best friend’s family has become our family. Our son will forever know the best friend as “uncle” and his mom “nana”. So, safe to say, my mom’s words hurt my husband given his own experience tied with the double whammy of what my mom was saying about our son. And yes, she is aware of all of this and still said it in front of him. She never expressed her feeling on adoption until then.

I tried to talk to my mom about this but she stood firm. She’d never view him on the same level as my brother’s biological kids. After discussing it further, my husband and I realized, we can’t force anyone to view our son as family. And because I don’t want my son or husband hurting, I went no-contact with my mom. I speak with the rest of my family. She was upset when I told her we were going no-contact but we didn’t have a huge discussion about it until recently. My mom was at a wedding for a distant relative. I was there alone as it was a child-free event, so my husband stayed behind to watch our son. I planned on ignoring my mom and having a good time.

At one point during the reception, I was outside the venue to call my husband and check on how things were going. My mom came outside when I was finishing up. I went to walk away and she told me I hurt her by cutting her off. I asked if her stance had changed. She said no. I replied I can’t make her want to be my son’s grandmother. I can’t make her see that family isn’t blood. But then she can’t expect me-who has an adopted child along with a husband who was more or less adopted himself-to want to be around her. If she can choose who’s family, I can choose too. I then said today wasn’t about us and went inside.

My father has informed me that I just should’ve walked away, as well and that I was incredibly petty. My mom still wants to be in our lives, and that’s what should matter. Not that she won’t view him as family.

AITA?

EDIT, going to answer some FAQ:

1. Yes, my mom has admitted he wouldn’t be treated the same as her biological grandkids.

2. Our son is biracial. I won’t be ignorant and say this can’t be a reason, though I do genuinely believe if we adopted a white baby, she’d feel the same. I think it’s just a “well this doesn’t help”, which gave us all the more reason to want to protect him.

3. I was low contact with my dad as, originally, he didn’t seem to support her. Now, I’m going no contact.

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Sorry this will be long, I'll start with a small backstory. My partner (29m) and I (33f) have 2 children, 14m and 6m (14yo is not biologically his however he doesn't have a relationship with his dad and partner has filled those bits since he was young). We got together in 2016, however things got very volatile and we broke up at the end of 2022, amd decided to start trying to make things work again late 2023, by early this year he was basically back with us full time.

In October 2023 my neice (14f) came to stay with us for school, so is generally here from Sunday night until Friday night. Her mum lives about 2.5 hours away so we generally meet half way to swap over. Although he wasn't living here at the time, I discussed with him and she took the bedroom that I/we used, and I/we sleep in the living room.

Now to the main point. Obviously we go through the usual family disagreements/differences, however on Monday it came to a head. We all ate dinner in the living room (the table isn't big enough for so I asked the youngest to sit at the table as it was a messy dinner, while the rest of us sat on the sofa until partner went and sat with him at the table) and I then asked everyone to scrape their plates, my niece was to pack her things as she was going home for the night and then come down and load the dishwasher from dinner.

The older kids took their plates out and partner then took his out and asked them which one volunteers to scrape his plate. They have both said no and tried to get out of the kitchen. He then said to son that he needed to clean his MX kit as he had taken him quad bike racing over the weekend but the kids carried on trying to get out of the kitchen. He then followed our niece and stopped her from going up the stairs trying to force the plate in her hands (I will add that he said he only followed as he thought I had said something to back him up, I was still in the living room). She called him lazy and he called her a gobshite. He then came into the living room where our son was, still holding his plate, and started bickering with him to get him to do it.

At this point it was ridiculous so I stood up and said 'for fuck sake, I'll scrape the fucking plate' at which he snatched it away and started shouting at me that the kids should be doing it. I walked into the kitchen and he continued shouting so the older kids took the younger one upstairs with his dinner. I told him it was stupid and a personal job amd he should have just scraped it. He asked how it was personal and said that it's one thing asking them to do the kitchen, another to take your own plate out and then ask them to scrape it. I did then say would you make a mess in the toilet amd expect them to clean it, as in my eyes yes I would ask them to clean the kitchen/bathroom, no I would not expect them to pick up after me personally. In his eyes he should absolutely be able to ask that because he has taken him racing and does everything for everyone to get nothing in return. Also that he sleeps on a sofa and has given up his bed so does she not owe it him to scrape his plate. With this I then brought up that I don't ever ask him to lift a finger in the house, however he hadn't gone to work that day, slept until gone 1 o'clock, amd when we spoke on the phone I'd asked him to tidy the blankets and sort out the food he'd left on the side, and when I got home from work and picking the smaller one up he hadn't done any of it (he was cleaning out the van from racing, I had made a comment before dinner that I did the blankets for him and we had a joke while cuddling and then I asked him to sort out the food which he did). He then said that was the reason I hadn't backed him up because I had the hump that he hadn't done as he was told and was punishing him. I only brought that up because he said he does everything and no one does anything for him, but when I say he isn't expected to do anything in the house, I mean he doesn't even pick his socks up.

So it's escalated and he then said fuck you, I'll go and you can get on with your evening without my help, at which I told him that I had to drive our niece and wouldn't be back until gone 11pm and would have to now take the 6yo with me, to which he didn't care and walked out. He then spent the night messaging me trying to get his point across and a load of nasty stuff in between.

In his eyes by offering his to do his plate I have undermined and embarrassed him infront of the kids, none of us have any respect for him, he's not allowed to have a voice I'm the house, and he never asks anything so they should have done it. I did tell him I am not teaching the kids those kind of lessons and they aren't slaves, they don't owe us anything for being parents and they do chores around the house as it is. He said something to me about how I am, so I said imagine feeling so entitled that you can't scrape your own plate after you've taken it to the kitchen. Also that I don't want the kids to think that because dad beats his chest the kids should bow down and referred to him as King (his name).

Obviously I wasn't the only one saying stuff and he can be quite nasty when he wants so qe are both saying things but I'm just telling you my part. I would understand if he had asked them to clear the kitchen but in my eyes he wasn't asking for help as it would have been quicker for him to scrape it than ask the question.

I should also add, I don't actually have an issue with the request, it's how he went about it and everything after. When he stormed out I went upstairs to my 14yo son who was sobbing and apologising saying he should have just done it because now his dad's gone. He hasn't come back and it's now Saturday.

On Wednesday, my sister was here as my niece had an award ceremony at her school in the evening, so my oldest had said he would stay home and look after the 6yo. 10 minutes after we had left, he messages me saying he's here and then wouldn't answer. I have a camera in the kitchen so was listening and he had come in and said to our son that he had a choice to make and basically if he didn't agree with him then he could say goodbye to his quadbike. He also sat there slating me to him about how I had undermined him etc amd he would rather die than stay with me but that it'll break his heart to leave the boys again. My youngest came to the camera so I was talking to him while he's telling they were having a chat and his brother was crying. While listening to this my sister is trying to drive us back to the house as quickly as possible to get them and then they are started screaming at each other which got personal infront of the kids as we tried to get them out of the house.

In between all of this he has posted about it on Facebook about how disrespected he is, tried to drag anyone into it that will listen, and has been non stop angry messaging/arguing. My son has asked to see a therapist amd has been so upset all week and is blaming himself as his dad now isn't coming back because I undermined him by offering to do his plate instead of forcing the kids to do it. I genuinely just wanted to save an argument as it was so stupid and in my opinion I wouldn't take my plate out and tell the kids to scrape it, let alone create all of this and walk out on my family over it.

Everyday stupid things come up where I feel undermined but in my opinion they are teenagers and I know this sort of thing happens in every house. He thinks I should have backed him up and spoken about it later instead of saying I'd do it, I think he should have not kicked off at that and spoken to me later about feeling disrespected as I wasn't doing it to be rude. He thinks all dad's would react like this because no man will stay where they don't have a voice and aren't entitled to ask/demand their kids to do stuff for them. I want to teach my kids to take responsibility for themselves when they grow up. So am I the asshole here and would you have reacted the same? He has literally walked away from his family because of this. To add, he has said that yes me may have overreacted but isn't sorry for reacting, as anyone would over being that hurt and disrespected. Thanks for reading and sorry it's long, I tried to get as much in from both sides.

And what makes you consider them to be the worst?

Edit: People that pretend to be historians or claim to have expertise are fair game.

Context: I’ve watched a documentary about sinking of a Korean ferry carrying high schoolers and was shocked to see incompetence and malice of the crew, coast guard and the government which resulted in hundreds of deaths.

Hear me out.. My aunt was visiting recently and spoke endlessly and her son. He has half a dozen buy to lets, can't cope with the interest rates and has a problem tenant.

I bit my tongue but I have zero sympathy. If you can't run a business that can survive in anything but ultra easy economic conditions or cope with a cash flow issue, then you should not be in that business.

What am I missing? My wife thinks I'm being harsh and everyone else seems to agree with my aunt.

Is it considered rude/unacceptable to eat your meals in your bedroom in American culture?

As in eating a bowl of pasta or a slice of pizza while watching a movie in your laptop in your bedroom.

Or is it a strict rule to have your meals in the dining table in America?

So I'm watching this Netflix show called Supacell which is based in London. One of the main characters has a mother with sickle cell anemia and they are worried about paying for her treatment. Given the UK has the NHS, why would this be a concern at all for either one of them.

I know the show is fiction and obviously doesn't reflect real life for all Londoners but I am curious to know if this is only a plot device to move the story forward or if you have to pay for healthcare under certain circumstances.

Thanks!

I 26 female just witnessed my sister 32 female destroy her family and marriage and now she is blowing up my phone to keep me quiet. A bit of context, growing we were never too close, due to an age gap and a messy divorce when I was 10 and she was 16. Our dad cheated on our mom and we were the ones to find out when we came home early from school. I wanted to tell our mom but my sister begged me not to. I remember telling mom like it was yesterday and how my sister never really forgave me. After the divorce our lives blew up, we moved a couple cities away with our mom and had to start brand new. It was especially hard for my sister because she had to leave all her friends right before senior year. As we’ve aged she has slowly gotten over it, she even asked me to be a bridesmaid (which obviously I said yes to). My brother in law is the epitome of golden retriever boy. He is very nice and caring but doesn’t have a lot going on in his head. He works a 9 to 5 job while my sister stays home. A couple months ago my sister was in a really low place, saying she was bored and unhappy with her relationship, now she is as happy as ever chalking it up to be seasonal depression. I was in the city for work this week, where my sister lives and thought I should visit her. I decided to surprise her with a sister brunch. When I got to her house, I saw a truck in the driveway which was not BILs but though nothing of it since she has had a lot of construction recently. The door was unlocked and I don’t even want to describe what I walked in on but. My sister was scrambling to find something to cover up while a random man just stared at me in shock BUTT NAKED. I already felt the tears streaming down my face as I turned around and walked out the door. My sister has been calling and texting me non stop begging me to talk to her. I don’t know who she is at this point. I thought I that our dad cheating taught her how infidelity can ruin people’s lives. I can’t support her and am disgusted with what she has done. I am crying in my car and don’t know what to do, please help me Reddit.

I remember doing this but all of my other friends say it’s a unique experience.

I (m28) have been with my gf (f27) for seven months now and went full exclusive three months ago.

She's everything, smart, kind, caring and drop dead gorgeous to me.

However, she has worse hygiene than a neanderthal. She lives a studio apts so it small. Since started dating her I've avoided spend time there because it's always dirty. But I never said anything because it's her place.

She does not shower often and has strong BO. Like bad enough that I won't have sex with her unless she's recently showered.

Here's where it gets bad.

She's on her period and three days ago she was having a really rough day, so called her and asked her to come stay at my place until she feels better that I can't cook and take care of her and allow her to rest. She was take the week off from work because it's was so bad.

She came to my place and didn't bring any feminine hygiene products. I have to run to the store at 3 am to get her stuff because she'd been wearing the same pad for so long that it leaked on my bed. I didn't say anything as she's stressed.

The next day I came home from work, and she the pad from the previous night on the bathroom floor without even wrapped it.

I was pissed and called her out and said hey that's gross I don't wanna look at that while I go use the bathroom.

She got really mad and said I called her gross.

I clarified that having a period is not gross and is a natural thing but leaving a bloody pad on the floor of someones home is nasty.

She lost it and said made her feel gross and bad.

Was I an asshole here for calling her out?

That’s it. Now everyone is triggered and hurt including my husband. I was never on good terms with my SIL and MIL. Maybe I am the insufferable one, maybe they are. That is not the point. My baby came 5 days ago and she is the most precious thing I have ever seen. I’m literally sitting here, missing her while she’s sleeping. Yesterday I overheard my SIL and MIL laughing and making fun of my baby. They saw that I heard them because I went straight for the fridge (they were in my kitchen) so they changed subject then SIL sensed the awkward silence so she asked what I must’ve heard and that she wanted to apologize because it was mean. I laughed and asked her are YOU calling a baby ugly? Then apparently I looked her up and down then up again. I know that I laughed all the way out of the kitchen.

My husband said I was the ah because all babies are ugly and our daughter doesn’t understand or care what others say but that I hurt his sister’s feelings who is an adult who understands. Both her and MIL are very upset and feel insulted.

WTH?

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Now call me elderly but my answer is no. I want to have a smooth and rapid transaction so that I can get out of this shop and go and spend my time on something more fulfilling than this retail experience, not spend my time slowly spelling out my email address to everyone in earshot.

Having just caught some serious attitude from the young whipper snapper from behind the till for daring to ask (very politely!) for the printed receipt, it got me wondering how does the rest of Britain feel about this?

My wife has blessed us with a beautiful son back in April and has put on quite a bit of weight during the pregnancy. This was a good thing, because she started the pregnancy at just 80 lbs and now weighs around 120. For reference, she's 5'2. I think she looks absolutely beautiful and I am incredibly proud of her for finding strength in the pregnancy to battle her nearly lifelong eating disorder. She was beautiful at 80 lbs and is beautiful now, and would be beautiful at 300 lbs. It's just that she was unhealthy before and I was scared for her health. She had been hospitalized 3 times due to anorexia and even suffered a heart attack because of it. She says now that our son saved her life, as it made her realize how much good her body can give her when she treats it more kindly.

We went out for dinner with a large group of our mutual friends last night and while most of them seemed relieved about her weight gain, two of our friends were giving her side glances and one made a comment about how her stomach rolls over her pants. My wife didn't seem to catch on thank God, but I did. Well, this morning we went to the gym and they talked to me about my wife. They congratulated me on our baby and followed it up with "shame about your wife, though". I wanted to punch them in the face for that comment on its own, but that'd just get me arrested. I asked him what the fuck he meant by that, and he said "you know how it is, they settle down and then settle in a couch". I was in so much shock I didn't even say anything in response to that horseshit. My other friend then goes, "That happened with my first wife. She was 100 when we met, 120 when we got married, and 190 after we had our daughter. I gave her 6 months to work back down to 100 but she couldn't do it, so I left her."

I felt like I was in the comments section of a reddit post to be honest, but sadly these were actual words spoken by actual people who I considered my friends. They both kept running their mouths about how it's a shame she has some "pudge" on her-- she doesn't -- and how I can't "toss her around" as easily anymore -- I can, but I don't toss my postpartum wife around the fucking bedroom.

I'm at a loss for words. I won't lie, I yelled at them real hard to the point that I got threatened to get kicked out of the gym. At that point I just left. They're now running to our mutual friends saying I have anger issues and I can't handle criticism. I'm scared their comments are going to come back to my wife and destroy everything she's worked so hard on building. I love my wife dearly, and I feel guilty for not defending her honor even harder, but if I had stayed in that gym I would've left in handcuffs and that's not fair to her or my son.

It breaks my heart to think of those ridiculous accusations they gave. It even breaks my heart to know my supposed friend divorced his wife for gaining weight. He had told me previously that he had divorced her due to her being crazy, but now I'm starting to think that wasn't the case at all.

Our mutual friends are urging me to keep quiet and just ignore them but I feel this was extremely disrespectful and they shouldn't be allowed to get away with horseshit like that. How do I navigate this situation, and what can I do to preserve my wife's dignity and feelings?

I run my own food stand, I set up at an event where there is another food vendor also selling what I'm selling. A girl came up and asked me for condiments from my stand because the other doesn't have them. I told them that my condiments are for my customers, and she walked away. Her dad came back disgruntled that I refused simple condiments. I explained that my condiments are for my customers and he threw a dollar at me so she could get some condiments.

For context, we charge the same amount for the same product, my condiments are free for buyers. I don't feel like I should be responsible for the other vendors' lack of preparation, and that it's disrespectful to ask another vendor to give you something when you're not a patron.

Am I the asshole?

I 30 m had just got married to my wife Renee 29 F. I have a son (Aaron 6) from my previous relationship with my ex Stacey. Me and Stacey have 50/50 custody and is still very involved with my life.

My wife is okay with her being around but sometimes she oversteps boundaries. One time it was my wife birthday and Stacey was supposed to drop of my son and leave but she stayed. My wife said to make her leave for this one day and when I told Stacey she had to leave, she kinda flipped out and sent me a nasty text saying she had every right to be there and that I was her family first.

Renee did not like that and said she'd walk away from the relationship if this is how it's always going to be. I agreed and told Stacey that we're not family anymore and her behavior was unacceptable so I only feel comfortable talking about situations having to deal with our son.

She then sent a rude text to my wife saying she is breaking up our family. I called Stacey right there and yelled at her for messaging Renee about stuff that isn't true.

Since then everything has been okay except earlier this week. It was me and Renee's honeymoon and I asked Stacey to take Aaron for the week even though it was my time with him. She agreed and asked where we were going, I told her the resort in Mexico. Two days before we leave Stacey tells me that she got a room for her and Aaron at the resort and she can't wait to show me her new bikinis.

At this point I show my wife who is livid, also Stacey never acted like this even after we broke up so I never expected this behavior. We booked through a company so I called and asked is there anyway we can change the location of the trip, luckily the company was able to change everything with a fee and we were able to go to Jamaica instead.

On the first day of our trip Stacey asked where we were at and let's go to the beach then proceeded to take a full body picture of her. I told her we were in Jamaica and that she was weird for trying to be with us on our honeymoon and don't contact me unless it involves my son. I got a lot of texts and phone calls from her but unless they talked about my son I didn't respond.

Now that we are home I went to meet my parents and sisters to catch up. Apparently my ex told my sister about the situation. One of my sisters, Elena said I was horrible for doing that. I had to explain the story to my parents and they sided with me saying that my ex is overstepping and that my sister needs to reevaluate her morals if she thinks I'm in the wrong.

Elena tried to justify it but everyone else believed it was strange to even think about doing that. But they're my family so I came here to get a unbiased opinion.