So what for what led up to this, there is a major heatwave where we live right now. I ended up working late tonight, so when my wife got home at 5:45 she called me and was yelling about how the air conditioner has come unattached from the window and the apartment was hot AF. I told her to open windows, go to the pool, drive around in the AC and was met with demands to leave work immediately and head home. Being the asshole I am, I did hang up on her as I was in the middle of working on something and figured she could handle it. This led to her calling nonstop and yelling then hanging up over the next hour about how much of an asshole I am. I finished my work and began the drive home. It took me an hour to get there, during which she had continued calling, went to home Depot, asked me what she needed (a 5.9 inch hose) asked me where it was and yelled when I said I don't know ask an employee, I'm driving. Words were exchanged, we both sucked. I got home and fixed the hose in about 5 minutes, called to let her know it was fixed and was hung up on again.
Her and my daughter finally made it home about 20 minutes later and she decided to sit in her car. I set my daughter up on her tablet, cleaned up a bit around the house and sat down with my daughter. She finally came inside, marched upstairs to the bedroom and ignored us. When it came time to put our daughter to bed she said it was my turn. Our daughter is a covid baby, a cosleeper and just weaned off breastfeeding 6 months ago. She only falls asleep with a parent laying with her. Judge me, I don't care. Our daughter was hot and grumpy and didn't want to go bed with me. She said I make her itchy (long beard, hairy arms, makes sense). So she proceeded to cry for her mom and say she wants mommy to put her to bed. After a few minutes my wife came upstairs and said "she doesn't want to go to bed with you. I don't know if you're touching her or what, but I'm going to find out."
I lost it. I grabbed clothes for tomorrow, my phones, said "I'm done, I want a divorce." And have left home. Am I overreacting?