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Hello everyone so I (26nb) recently did a wedding photoshoot for the bride (34f) that I made friends with years ago. And she recently got married. She asked me to do her wedding photos as I have done weddings in the past but was very hesitant as I have had horrible brides and grooms in the past but I figured that because I know her that there wouldn't be any problems. Well the wedding and reception were good if anything and bride told me last night during her reception that her bank account got hacked and she wouldn't be able to pay me..so I told her as we have a contract that until she pays my full amount I can't give her the pictures and boy was she boiling mad. She persistently bothered me on social media and my email begging and threatening me to give her the photos otherwise she's suing me. She also has spoken to my parents and some family about the whole thing and my parents are on my side but some family keep telling me just give it to her since I owe her so much.. so AITA?

As disappointed we all are we need to keep in mind who the real bad guys are her. It's NFL Media who made our guys make this life-changing choice. Gregg is doing what's best for him and his family and I will continue to listen to his pod and anything else he does in the future.

For the great work you’ve done on gogetmylunch.org. A non ‘hero’ hero.

It's been fairly nuts following the debate, but strap in for this next week.

Full disclosure, I'm in favor of Biden dropping out and fully agree with Ezra Klein's latest, excellent column about having a real contest for a new nominee. I'm also a dem hill staffer and have campaign experience. More thoughts:

Congress: I wholeheartedly agree with , so this next week will be one to watch the Hill closely. It is notable that Senator Tammy Baldwin did not appear with Biden when he came to Wisconsin. The Senate has been out of session for the last two weeks and the House has been out for the last week. On Monday, both will be back in session. I expect things will accelerate as members of congress are in person with each other and confer. There's a lot that so far has been unsaid that I think will get said this week. For people arguing that "nothing has happened so far, so nothing will happen" I think you are dead wrong. My guess is that the dam breaks this week or shortly thereafter.

Meeting with governors: It's a good sign that this meeting happened, but it's not surprising to me that this didn't yield a ton, because I don't think these are the President's closest relationships. It's also quite awkward as a number of governors are being discussed as replacements, so they're not the best messengers to call for him to step aside (because some of them potentially have much to gain from that development.)

The press corps: The press corps feels quite . They are out for blood, so I only expect more stories. At the same time, clearly some of them seem to be enjoying this a bit too much and there seems to be some glee, which I find pretty gross personally. The NYT has had a bad relationship with Biden for years and certain reporters like Alex Thompson and Olivia Nuzzi seem to relish in this. The latest revelation that the for Biden's recent interview with a Black outlet is very bad and a bad sign that a) they are spiraling, and b) the hits will keep coming.

Donors: and this will continue to be important. I've seen some comments that donors will keep him in and I think that's a real misread of the situation. A detail that stood out to me in initial reporting was Biden's use of a teleprompter at fundraisers, which I have never heard of before. A fundraiser is a relatively intimate event, you're in someone's (very nice) living room usually or back yard/patio. It's generally an informal gathering. Candidates speak for a bit and there's often a small back and forth Q&A, it's an opportunity to get insight on the race from the candidate. To take no questions and require a teleprompter for this is an extremely bad sign, and when I read that my stomach dropped.

Personal thoughts: My feelings basically entirely match the descriptions of other Dem staffers and officials freaking out in the press. I dismissed Ezra's call in February as premature and too difficult. I was really heartened by Biden's strong performance at the SOTU, which exceeded my expectations. Looking back, one thing that stands out again was that they declined the Super Bowl interview. With the benefit of hindsight, I now agree that was a serious indication of a problem at the time, which I didn't really have an answer for or frankly put that much thought into and just kinda dismissed since the President is a pretty busy guy after all. I also think there's a good chance that Biden's decline has really accelerated in the past six months, but that's probably impossible to know or verify. I had been ready for a campaign on the President's very strong domestic record, but unfortunately, I think the debate rang a bell that can't be unrung and it permanently altered the race to be about Biden's fitness looking forward and for the next four years.

What you can do: If you have not contacted your elected members of congress (if they are democrats) than I would do so next week. Calling is great, emailing is also good, and both are closely tracked. I encourage you to reach out to both your House members and Senators. And if you only have GOP members, sorry, and yeah...no point in reaching out to them, so you're off the hook. (And please remember to be nice when you call, the people answering the phones are typically interns or junior staffers.)

I (21f) unfortunately lost my dad suddenly two years ago. My dad was an alcoholic so I didn't have a good relationship with him. He was often verbally and emotionally abusive to me as a kid, so I stopped talking to him about 2 years before he passed. His death came as a shock to me since I never thought he would pass away so young (he was 54). My dad didn't have any other children and my parents were divorced at the time of his death, and I am an only child who has no other relatives that I’m close to. I ended up having to decide everything once my dad passed, which put a lot of stress on me since I was grieving horribly. My mom seeing how horribly stressed and overwhelmed I was offered to be the one to close his bank account which I accepted since she told me there was barely any money left in his account. Besides closing his bank account my mom didn't offer me much support since she was super bitter from the divorce. She is also a very cold person in general.

Just a couple of days later, she started to complain about how I needed to move on and asking why do I care when he wasn't a good dad. She even said that I needed to care about the alive parent and not the dead one. Even though I wasn’t speaking to him at the time of his passing, I still had a hard time accepting his death. In the back of my mind, I always thought at some point he would be able to overcome his addiction and come back to us as a changed person.

About a month after my dad’s passing, my boyfriend (27M, but he was 24 at this time) and I were up at his apartments picking up some paintings. We were getting ready to head back when I got a call from my mom. She told me that she was in the hospital because she had a stroke. This was at the end of COVID, so only one person was allowed to see her at the time. Luckily when I got there, she was recovering just fine. She had some trouble walking, but the doctors said she was going to be ok.

My mom was in the hospital for about a week. Over the first day, I was home alone. My boyfriend had to go back to his place because he was student teaching at the time and couldn’t miss a lot of school. Because of my dysfunctional family growing up, I have struggled with mental health for my whole life. That first day being home alone was one of the scariest days of my life. I was still very much grieving over my father, and my mother had almost died. I didn’t have any friends in the area at the time because we had just moved there and COVID made it hard to meet people. I was having panic attacks and depressive episodes the whole night. The next day, my boyfriend saw how much I was struggling being alone. We decided that it wasn’t good for me to be home alone and that I needed support as well. He wasn’t able to stay with me because of school, so he decided to bring me back to his parent’s place to stay until my mom was out of the hospital. He lived with his parents at the time and they both work from home, so I always had someone there with me while he was at school. My mom had her boyfriend visiting her every day, so she was not alone either.

Over the week my mom was in the hospital I called and texted her every day. I was also able to go visit her one more time after that. I am unable to drive so I had to wait for someone to take me to the hospital. Once she was better and released from the hospital, I went back home to help take care of her. Just like any stroke patient, she needed help doing basic things, and I was there for her as much as I was able to. She refused to get a temporary nurse/ caregiver to help her for some reason, so it was all on me, which I was ok with. One of the side effects of having a stroke is short tempores and memory problems. The doctor said to expect these things, so when she started getting angry at me for no reason, I didn’t let it get to me.

A couple weeks go by, and she is healing a lot and doesn’t need as much help doing basic things any more, but I noticed her short tempore and anger wasn’t improving. She constantly would argue with me over little things. Then one day we had a conversation about me going to my boyfriend’s house while she was at the hospital. It turns out that she was holding a major grudge against me because she viewed that as me abandoning her and that I didn’t do enough for her. I explained to her my side of things and talked to her about how I called every day, visited her and I needed support as well. She ignored all of my feelings and said that I was an ungrateful daughter and that I only care about the dead parent and not the alive one. I was so upset over this because I felt that my feelings did not matter to her, which is something I have always struggled with growing up with my mom. When I was a kid, whenever I was upset, a lot of the time she would tell me to get over it, or its not a big deal. One time when I had a panic attack, she shook me really hard and yelled at me to stop. But whenever she was upset over something my dad drunkenly said to her that hurt her feelings, she would cry to me and I would comfort her however I could. I had to become an adult at a very early age because of them, and her saying those hurtful things to me that day made me so upset, I ended up going back to my boyfriends for a few weeks until it was time for me to move into the dorms at my new college.

Once school came around, I was not ready. I was still badly grieving and was super anxious to the point of panic attacks once I moved into the dorms. I hadn't been in dorms before so it was a lot to take in. I also relied on my college fund which my dad set up when I was born to pay for me to go to college. My mom, who had all the control over my college fund, started being weird when I texted her asking about when she going to pay out of the college fund for the term. I asked over and over again when she would pay it. She kept saying “I’ll get to it and don’t worry about it.” As the week came closer to an end, I realized that she wasn’t going to pay for my college, and I was going to be stuck with a $15,000 bill and no way to pay it. So, I made the hard decision and dropped out of school.

After dropping out and telling my mom that she missed the deadline, she told me that she was once again disappointed in me and that I wasn’t allowed to move back in with her because I stress her out too much and she thinks I’m abusive. She also said that she was going to take the baseball cards that my dad collected with me, as well as some paintings he got in the divorce. My dad's baseball cards and paintings are the only physical items I was able to get from his apartment. I was absolutely devastated after she told me this, so I ended living again at my boyfriend's parents’ house after explaining the situation to them.

Over the next six months I attempted several times to contact my mom regarding my college fund as well as to get help with paying for my dad's burial of urn but got no answer (which still hasn’t happened yet. He is in an urn at my boyfriend parents’ house at the moment.) My mom also decided to take me off her insurance as soon as I was kicked out, so that was a fun surprise when I had a UTI and needed to go to the hospital.

It took a while for me to process everything, because over a month or two, I essentially lost my entire family and technically became homeless (if my boyfriend broke up with me at the time, I would have nowhere to go). I decided after 6 months that I was ready to go to community College. I also decided that one last time I was going to ask my mom about my college fund. When I went to ask my mom about it (over text) I was told that she had gone back to college, which I told her I was supportive of since I assumed she meant using her own money. But she went on to say she was using my college fund for herself. I was shocked and angry. My mom promised me my whole life that I would never have to worry about paying my way through college like she did. She already had a bachelor's degree and over 30 years of job experience. She also never told me that she was going to use my college fund. On top of that, she made a lot of money in her last job. From what I could guess, she made well over $100,000 a year. So, there was no question on whether or not she could afford it on her own or not. I asked her how long have you been using my college fund and it turned out my mom had been using my college fund for herself since I last attended college before I had to drop out, which was 6 months ago. I was angry and ended up texting her, "How could you do this? Dad made that for me and you promised that it was mine." My mom in response texted back that I was disgusting and money hungry and that she needed it more than me. Outraged and heartbroken, I decided to get a lawyer. I wanted to get a lawyer since my college fund was set up by my dad so I believed that I had a case. Also, my mom took all my dad's assets and I wanted to get them back.

Long story short, I was able to get a lawyer and the whole process took over a year to complete. Essentially, we had to redo their divorce and the dividing of the assets as well as claiming me as the beneficiary. She fought and stalled the whole time. This could have been done in a couple of months, but she stalled it to be over a year and cost both of us a lot of money because of it. I was able to strike a deal with my lawyer to not have to pay until the matter is over. I also had to take out a loan. In the end, I ended up winning the case. We discover that bank account that she told me had almost nothing in it actually had around $90,000 in it. I ended up getting $45,000 of that. I also got his half of the retirement plans as well as the baseball card collection (which is worth around $50,000) and the paintings. We also learned that at some point after she kicked me out, she took a long trip to Europe using the remainder of my college fund. She had to reimburse me for that.

As of today, I have not spoken or texted my mother in over two years. I am waiting for the retirement agency to process all of the retirement accounts to go to me, so I haven’t seen any of the money other than the baseball cards and the paintings. My boyfriend and I moved out of his parents’ house into an apartment. He’s a full-time teacher now and I’m still working my way through college. Luckily financial aid has helped me out a lot. We have plans on getting married one day once things settle down a bit. And right now, I’m just trying to figure out where my place is in the world and how I can move forward after everything.

Thanks for reading my story. Hopefully I have an update in the future.

Dan Hanzus: wins 244 - losses 209 - win pct 53.86%
Gregg Rosenthal: wins 236 - losses 214 - win pct 52.44%
Chris Wesseling: wins 163 - losses 155 - win pct 51.26%
Marc Sessler: wins 201 - losses 239 - win pct 45.68% 

Big shoutout Nick Fortier for all these years. We all owe you many high octane sandwiches.

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I need some clarity on a situation involving my sister-in-law, Karla (24F), who is getting married in a few months. I (25F) offered to help with various wedding tasks, including designing her invitations. I have experience doing similar work and have made invitations for other friends and family.

When I first offered, Karla was excited and gave me her color palette. I then sent her some design styles and asked for the wedding date and location details. However, she went silent after that. I was busy with work and forgot to follow up until I saw her a week later. I asked again for the details, and she promised to send them when she got home because she couldn't remember the exact time for the reception.

Another week passed, and I sent her a follow-up message. She only provided their names and the wedding date, so I created a template with placeholder information. She liked the design but asked why the reception was at "123 Anywhere Road" (the filler address). I explained that I still needed the actual information.

She promised again to send it. The following weekend, I was at my in-laws' house (Karla's mom) with my fiancé when the topic of their wedding came up. Her mom mentioned that Karla was upset about the invitations. I explained the situation, and her mom said, "Well, that makes sense."

Later that night, I asked my fiancé what he thought about the situation. He asked why I offered to help if I couldn't follow through. I explained that I can do it, but I just need the information from Karla. He still didn't understand my point.

I messaged Karla to check in, and she was incredibly short with me. I asked her what she needed me to change about the wedding invitations and she just screenshottted me the email of her confirmation times that was on her phone and dated over 2 weeks ago. Why didn’t she send this to me a week ago when I asked in person, or again over text? I very simply put in the new address and immediately send back the mock-up. No response.

Her latest Facebook status was, “Wedding planning is so fun! I need to learn how to do things by myself from now on.”

Am I missing something, or is there a misunderstanding here?