This is my first time posting on reddit. Slightly confused by our interaction tonight. As background, we have 4.5 month old twins that have only just started sleeping through the night, so having time to ourselves again in the evening is a novelty. He works.. I look after the twins 5 days a week 8-6.

We were settled in bed watching tv. I had brought us up a drink each about an hour before this. I asked him if he would mind grabbing us another drink as I was warm in bed. He said no. I asked why, and he replied that he was also in bed.

I was a little annoyed. More so because every single morning I bring him a coffee in bed (even when I was pregnant and the smell made me gag). I bring him drinks if I’m in bed and he is thirsty in the bath. I’d get up to hoover the moths away if they make him uncomfortable. I think my love language is acts of service. If you read into that sort of stuff. I always thought that doing something like that isn’t a big deal if it’s for your partner.

I told him I was a bit put out - just to be honest with him. He told me he was not my personal slave and he didn’t realise that he had to ‘jump’ whenever I told him to. Please bear in mind, I have never asked him for a drink in bed before, or anything else unreasonable that I can think of. I told him I didn’t think of him that way at all.. I just told him that if it was the other way around I’d just do it because it was something nice to do for your partner. He disagreed and said I was being unreasonable and stupid for getting upset about it.

This eventually turned into an argument. He told me to ask ‘anyone’ about it and I would realise that I am in the wrong. So I thought… maybe reddit?

Is this issue arising just because we have different ways of expressing love and affection etc? Or is it a deeper issue? Am I being unreasonable - it’s something I’m willing to work on if so.

Hey guys, need some advice on a sticky situation. So, I had plans with my boyfriend for a chill Friday night, dinner and a movie at his place. But right before heading over, I got hit with my period and all the lovely symptoms that come with it.

I was feeling pretty rough, so when he asked if he could help, I finally spoke up and asked if he could pick up some tampons on his way home. It's literally a two-minute drive from his place. Instead of just saying yes, he laughed it off and suggested we go together later. I was shocked and ended up running to the store myself.

Later, when I asked him why he didn't just do me this favor, he said he didn't want to embarrass himself and was busy with a game. That was it for me I ended things right then and there.

Now I'm wondering, was I overreacting? Should I have given him another chance?

My (30M) wedding was supposed to be the happiest day of my life. My wife (28F) and I spent months planning every detail, and it turned out perfect—almost. My best man, let's call him John (32M), has been my closest friend since childhood. Naturally, I asked him to be my best man, and he accepted with excitement.

The ceremony was beautiful, and the reception was even better. Everything was going smoothly until the speeches. John got up to give his best man speech. At first, it was full of the usual jokes and heartfelt stories, which everyone enjoyed. But then, out of nowhere, he turned to his girlfriend (25F) and started talking about their relationship. Before I knew it, he was down on one knee, proposing to her right there in the middle of my reception!

The room went silent. I could feel my wife's hand squeezing mine tighter and tighter. John's girlfriend said yes, and everyone started clapping and cheering, but I was fuming. I felt like my special day had been hijacked. Instead of celebrating our marriage, everyone was now focused on John and his fiancée.

After the initial shock wore off, I confronted John and told him he was out of line. He said he thought it would be a great surprise and assumed I would be happy for him. I told him he was selfish and inconsiderate, and I ended up kicking him out of the reception.

Now, some of our mutual friends are saying I overreacted and that I should have let it slide for the sake of our friendship. My wife fully supports my decision, but I'm starting to wonder if I was too harsh.

AITA for firing my best man and kicking him out of my wedding for proposing during my reception?

I am not on Reddit, so forgive me if this doesn’t make sense here but I need opinions.

I found out (f42) that my husband (m44)was cheating on me with a girl (f25) he found on tinder. He made himself out to be a rich guy but actually he works for my father. When I found out I asked for divorce. I found out that the girl was pregnant. She told me that she didn’t know he was married bla bla. I believed her and I felt sorry for her because she doesn’t have any money. I have two children so I thought, her baby was my children’s sibling. I said that I would take care of them.

Then I stumbled across all the texts between them and actually she knew very early on that he was married and she even stalked me on social media. He told her from the start that he was married and only wanted fun. She wanted more and that’s how I found out. Now I feel immense hatred and resentment towards her and her baby and I don’t want to help her anymore. I liked her and she fooled me. But she only used me. I told her that I wasn’t going to be helping her and wished her good luck.

My husband will still have ok salary at his new work and from what I understood he is planning to have custody or at least shared custody of his child so the baby will not be suffering but just not rich. I asked her to not contact me again. She is raging about me taking back my promise and gathering lots of sympathy and I don’t know. I know the baby is innocently in this but I feel resentful and bitter like I have been used twice. I am very sorry but no

**I would like to say thanks to the couple hundred comments giving me advice and being nice. But I'm gonna log off now for my own well being, because I've received many comments calling me a bad wife, saying i am punishing him, and telling me to just get over it or let him cheat or divorce him for his own wellbeing. I know enough to know that's not helpful and I am very sorry **

I would like to first start with a bit on context. Also a warning I think, maybe a trigger for sexual assault.

So I (f24) had something happen to me at the beginning of this year that literally change my life, and not in a good way. Actually in the worst possible way imaginable.

I work at a smaller business (office of about 20). I am often the last person to leave. My boss leaves me the keys to lock up.

So it wasn’t unusual for me to be alone in the parking lot but this day I was attacked. I was sexually assaulted in my own car in the parking lot and injured.

It’s been about six months since that. I am definitely doing better, especially physically, and I think I am getting better through therapy and counseling, per my doctor.

My marriage however has been suffering. I will admit it was me pulling away a lot, which is why my husband asked me to add marriage counseling into the routine. I agreed of course because I still love and want to be with my husband, I was just trying to fix everything.

At marriage counseling he brought up the lack of sex. Me and the counselor (who is a man) just stared at him. I thought he was gonna be on my side. He wasn’t.

I was told that I needed to work on healing, but remember my marriage too. I am completely distraught by this.

I don’t really understand why I am expected to be fine about sex again. I mean I certainly try but it’s hard, especially at night. I wake up with nightmares still. I have anxiety 24/7 when I never have before. And I’m supposed to still be doing my “wifely” duties? I just don’t get it.

Burner acc because too much personal on the main.

I(f57) lost my husband of 25 years last year. We have a daughter(f24) who's married for 2 years. My son passed away after her marriage and it has been hell ever since. Our relationship with daughter was very good and without any incidents before her marriage. She was sweet and loving, and was a great daughter overall. She got married to the man of her choice(SIL: son in law). After that it has all been downhill. She stopped coming to our house, stopped responding to our texts and calls, going almost NC.

We weren't rich, although my husband had a lot of assests, they haven't been liquidated. When he died, he didn't leave a will, because it was so unexpected. After his death, my dear daughter didn't even attend his funeral, nor in any other functions. She didn't even call to ask how i was. Barely 6 months after my hubby's passing she and sil barged into our house and brought with them a lawyer, who told me to sign on some documents, and a blank sheet. I know the legal processes and am not ignorant, i asked her what was in that docs. Idk what i did, but here she was, demanding me to sign some unknown docs and a blank sheet and not answering any questions.

I asked the lawyer what it was about, he said it was for transferring all the assets in her and sil's name. I said no. Here it got violent, she attacked me and i had to scream for help. I didn't call the cops but told her to get out before i did. She was adamant about me signing and tried to take my thumb impression. At this point my neighbors had come over and had witnessed pretty much the last part of forcing. My neighbor, bless his heart physically kicked them out.

After this i was shaken and very hurt. I don't know what i did and i was honestly scared for my life. She kept sending me messages, tho not threatening cause maybe her lawyer told her so. She kept on sending sweet messages, thanking me for making her the beneficiary, transferring all assets to her etc. I was disgusted.

A week of harrasment later, i decided i had enough, i wanted out. So i met my lawyer, he said since there was no will, i was the sole owner of all assets and could do as i wish. Long story short, i sold everything, made 8 figures, bought a new house in a place I'd always wanted to be, far from everyone. Now i plan to enjoy the rest of my life travelling, and generally doing things i haven't been able to do, but which I've always wanted to do.

I recently heard through the gossip vine that my daughter tried to start litigation against me shortly after i sold and left but it fell through, as everything was in my name now. She now wants to meet me and is pressuring her lackeys to contact me and make me meet her. I said no. I don't understand why she did that, because it was all going to be hers anyway. They don't know where i am presently, and I'd prefer to keep it that way. I'm NC with her and sil, and don't have social media except reddit.

AITA?

Edit: Amount is not in dollars, if converted it would come around lower 7 figures

Edit 2: No I'm not from USA

Edit 3: English is not my first language

Hi. First of all. For those who have been asking for an update and were excited to know how the toy plan went. I know this is disappointing but I couldn’t go through with it. I couldn't let him touch me after everything he said and using it in front of him also would've been a treat for him (I was just mad). Besides I didn't want to risk getting pregnant because I know my luck. Who would want to go through morning sickness and labor for "2 minutes" . Anyway I left the toy on my nightstand and he saw it the next morning and asked me about it. I told him that since we decided to be open about our sexual needs and he advised me not to take them personally. I thought he wouldn't mind me trying to get the job done after all these years. He said that was immature of me and that I was just trying to hurt his feelings. I told him that's exactly what he did and left for work because why bother now.

Now for the update. I started the process of divorce a few days after the last update. He will be served in a week or two. I left him 3 days ago and took my belongings while he was at work and called to let him know.

He's been calling and texting non stop since. His younger sister called the same day. His older brother called twice last night and texted me asking what happened saying that my ex-husband is going crazy trying to reach me and that I should at least answer his calls and communicate like adults. I called my ex-husband to let him know that if he sends me another member of his family to try and get me to talk to him. I will just send them a pic of my chest alongside a pic of one of those OF models he showed me and let them know that I can't talk to him until I go from this to this. Until then, I don't want to hear from or about him and that 'until then' will probably take forever. He got the message and apologized. Said he will give me some time to cool down.

That's all. I found myself a really nice place to stay in temporarily until the divorce is finalized. I know I seem like I'm not taking this seriously but it's the only way for me to not break down. I do feel sad. Not sad that I'm getting divorced but sad that I'm losing someone I thought would never make me go through something like this and leave me no choice but to leave him. I'm still in love with the man I met 6 years ago. Not this man he turned into. But not gonna lie. I love myself more now. I have to choose myself and take care of me no matter what people around me think. My sisters know that I'm getting divorced. My mother will probably know through them.

Thank you to everyone who commented on my previous posts. Your support and advice have meant a lot to me. For those who see themselves in my ex and believe that he could treat me like that and I should just stay with him for the sake of saving my marriage. Please spare your time and see a therapist instead.

Edit: Some of you told me to go through his phone/laptop to see if he's cheating. I couldn't. Not knowing the answer to something that will probably fuck with my self esteem is better. I just want to get out of this with as little damage to my mental health as possible +I want to mention again that I'm not a native english speaker so please don't mind the grammatical errors.

My boyfriend (24M) and I (24F) have been together for just over 6 years now, since we were 18. We have made some pretty big moves towards our future recently, such as putting a deposit down on a house and being promoted in our careers. We have been together for 6 years and practically act like a married couple (without the titles), we share finances and go on family holidays together, and both our families love one another. I have started to get a little sick of my boyfriend tip-toeing around the concept of proposing and getting married. Bit of a background to this - while i was away at university, we spoke about a proposal and he said it would be when i finished university.. this was 2 years ago and since then he has promised me for 2 years that he would propose. Now it's getting to the point where I am saying to him i don't care how it's done i would just want to be engaged to be married in a year or so. He constantly says how much he wants to marry me and create a future where we are our own little family, but every time i ask him what's stopping him he just says he doesn't know? i thought the whole nervousness around proposing is not knowing how your spouse would react but at this point i am practically begging for a proposal.

Because of this i have given him an ultimatum of either he proposes by the end of the year or i want to break up. AITAH?

There is this guy (21M) in my (19F) art class who happens to be wheelchair bound. I sometimes help him purely out of kindness, it's usually something small like holding the door for him, and a few times I got up to pick up something he dropped from the floor.

Anyways, the other day when the class was over and I was gathering my things, I saw him heading towards the door. I quickly went over and held the door for him.

He then asked if I have a minute. I said of course. Then out of blue he asked me if I liked him. I was caught off guard and didn't know what to say. There was an awkward silence for a minute. Then he said “that’s what I thought so, you just feel sorry for me” I was confused but i said I’m sorry if I offended you and I was just trying to help.

Then he told me he doesn’t need my help. He can open the door myself, he can pick up his own stuff. He doesn’t need me constantly watching over him and certainly doesn’t need my pity.

I was so confused by that sudden reaction. And I felt like he was kinda taking out his anger on me. I told him if he was uncomfortable he should have said so.

He said “I did , like million times, I tell you thank you but you don’t need to every single time you do this shit” Which yes, he does. But honestly , I thought he was saying this out of politeness. Then I told him fine I won't help you again and left.

I was complaining to my friend about this interaction we had. She said I’m in the wrong here. I said something like “For what, holding the door open? Like we always do this for each other?”

She said it’s one thing to hold the door for next person coming over and one thing to get up to hold the door for someone specially. She told me she’s sorry but she can see why he got mad, apparently jumping to help makes me seem like a performative asshole.

I thought he was crazy for getting upset over this but since my friend seem to agree, AITA here?

We have two children, a daughter who is 7 and a son who is 4, my daughter LOVES her little brother and is quite protective of him, which I have always liked, at least until now.

We recently had a family gathering at my parents' house, I don't get along with my sisters because they have raised their children in the way that they believe they can annoy others and get away with it because they won't get punished. That's why, especially my 6-year-old nephew, who likes to bother my son, whenever he does it we immediately leave the meetings.

We attended this last meeting because my father was already retiring from his job and wanted to celebrate the beginning of his retirement with a family reunion. My husband is the one who usually takes care of my son because when my husband is with him my nephew doesn't dare approach him, but that time my husband had a work meeting and couldn't go, my daughter anyway insisted that she would take care of her brother so we ended up going.

Now, my parents have two medium-sized swimming pools, one for children and one for adults, it turns out that my nephew threw my son into the adult pool, as soon as I realized I took him out and cleaned him, my son was crying and I was watching red, but at least my son was fine.

When I was about to go to complain to my sister we heard a scream, we all turned to look and it was my daughter sinking my nephew's face in the water of the children's pool and putting all her weight on top of him so that he couldn't get up, Almost all of us had to intervene to be able to separate them. I couldn't believe that a 7-year-old girl could have so much strength, but not even my two sisters and I could make her let go my nephew.

When we managed to separate them, my nephew began to vomit water, throw it out of his nose and cry, my daughter also cried while hugging her brother and I hugging both of them, when everything calmed down between them, the screams began between my sister and me, my Sister wanted to hit my daughter and I got in the way, luckily nothing happened,

In the end we separated and each of us returned home. It is worth clarifying that I did not punish my daughter for what she did, and I do not plan to do so, she was only defending her brother, but the problem is that my sisters both want my daughter apologize to my nephew, and that I should punish her in front of them to let them know that that kind of violence is not okay. Which I refused to do, my parents also think that my daughter went a little too far, the only person who is on my side now is my husband saying that he would have done the same if he had been in my daughter's place, so I am the asshole for refusing to punish her and not wanting her to apologize?

So I have a brother (29M) who loves buying foods that will leave to rot in the fridge. Last week, he bought a bag of fresh strawberries, and when on a work-related trip the day after.

Last night, I was feeling down, and I opened the fridge, and saw the strawberries. No one likes fresh strawberry in my family, so no one bothered to eat it. I checked it and noticed that some are going bad. Since my brother loves to let his food rots, I decided to make a strawberry cheesecake out of it. I picked strawberries that are still in good condition, while removed the bad parts. Then, I turned them to jam and put them as a topping to the cheesecake.

My brother returned home this morning, and noticed the strawberry cheesecake. He loved it, but realized his strawberry is missing. When I told him that’s the ingredient I used since it is going bad, he got angry. He said I should have asked permission first before cooking his food. Our mom agreed with him.

AITA? I just don’t want to waste that bag of strawberries.

I work with a company that times races - running, cycling, triathlon, etc. The owner is a guy named John, who works at Race Timing Co. (both made up names).

At an race, some equipment was stolen. It's expensive equipment but extremely specialty: maybe 200 people in the US use this system. (And the components cost about $1,000 each, for a total of about $4,000 USD).

About a month later, the stolen equipment popped up on eBay.

John reached out to the seller via ebay, and asked that his stolen equipment be returned. The seller was a jerk (as might be expected, from someone selling stolen equipment would be). He said "There's no way you know it's your equipment."

The thing is, photo #3 showed one of the boxes with a printed label on it:

RACE TIMING CO

JOHN OWNER

JOHNS PHONE NUMBER

It literally had his name on it.

So John escalated to ebay to at least prevent his stolen equipment from being sold.

Ebay totally dropped the ball. They bought the seller's story that he had bought it at a mail auction for lost mail, which made no sense since the seller's info was in the same town where the equipment was stolen. The seller also tried to claim that John had no way of proving that it was his stolen equipment (except, you know, it had HIS NAME AND PHONE NUMBER ON IT).

John had no evidence that the seller hadn't bought it had a mail auction and ruled against John.

So John hatched a plan. He did what any rational person would do: he purchased his own stolen equipment back, using an employee's name, and asked that it be shipped USPS. He was right next to a post office, he said.

And that's when the pro revenge comes into play: it is a felony to knowingly traffic stolen items.

So John waited patiently as his equipment was marked "shipped", and ended up arriving at his coworker's house (in another state, for good measure).

And John called the postal inspection service. He had the seller's full name, address, and proof that he knew it was stolen. He had police reports, pictures of his name on the equipment, matching serial numbers, transcripts of him informing the seller that it was stolen, etc.

The USPS inspectors knocked on the guy's door two days later and reportedly found numerous stolen items. He was charged with almost a dozen federal felonies, including felony theft, trafficking stolen goods across state lines, and lying to federal agents.

And to top if off: John filed a "stolen goods" complaint with ebay since he now had tons of proof that he had been sold stolen goods. So he got his money back... minus shipping.

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Trigger Warning: domestic violence, descriptions of physical violence, pet theft

March 31, 2024

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My wife (31F) is mentally unstable. Her personality flipped when we got married. She can be very violent. Tonight we got in an argument. She started throwing things at me, then she started hitting me, so I punched her in the face. She told me she’s going to call the police and locked herself in our guest room. I don’t know if she actually called the police, but I’m sitting here waiting. I’m definitely going to be the one that goes to jail. I’ve never hit a woman before. I’ve never felt so low.

Edit: wow I wasn’t expecting a lot of responses on this. Just got out of jail and will update later

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You're in a bad place. If cops come request a lawyer immediately and keep your mouth shut. If cops don't come in 4 hours or so then leave the premises and don't return without witnesses or a constable.

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She’s 31 and you’re 23? Wow, I’m curious how long y’all have been married, and even together before that. Sounds suspect.

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Delete this post. Consult a legal team. Please don’t use Reddit for this advice. I’d hate to see anything bite you later.

In a thread where one redditor suggested calling the police on her first, an interesting discussion on F-to-M domestic violence occurred:

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That's not going to work. He punched her and it will probably show. Even if she did those things it will be in favor of her.

My ex wife slapped me for no reason. I called the cops and they did nothing.  When she was asked she even admitted it. They even laughed at me. Fuck me for calling them instead of violence.

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Jeezus i’m so sorry. M-F or F-M it’s all assault and abuse. Men often keep quiet about it and i’m not surprised as the system is skewed against them

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The worst part is- it’s MEN doing the skewing of the system! Men laugh at men who are victims!

I have seen how women support eachother and help others leave abusive situations- but men are completely alone in this. If a man tells his friends about abuse, he’ll probably be laughed at or mocked instead of taken seriously and offered help- which is fucked up. Men are taught to go at it alone since they’re kids- and now we’re in a world surrounded by non-empathetic men who ignore a brother in need.

Absolutely heartbreaking and infuriating.

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Tbh I don't think it comes to men or women supporting each other but rather legislation (which is made by politicians, of both genders).

To use a good example, in my country there's a 24/7 phone line for victims of domestic abuse to get help. Sounds great right? Except if they hear a male voice at the other end they'll hang up on you (lesbians also get hung up if they slip up and talk about "girlfriend"; it's only for straight women)

Similarly abused straight women get all sorts of perks when/if they report their abuse, like for example free college or extra welfare. Men (whether straight or gay) and lesbians get nothing.

Finally, even in the cases where it goes to court and the abuser gets found guilty; the sentences are much harsher for men abusing a woman than for LGBT relations or women abusing a man, even when the actions are the same.

All of this is legislation, not culture.

April 3, 2024

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I know a lot of people commented wanting to know what I ended up doing after hitting my wife, I wish I could’ve responded but I didn’t have my phone. Honestly I’m surprised at how many people saw my post and commented.

To answer some questions, because people believe I was groomed as my wife is older

• We met when I was 19 and she was 27

• She was the nicest and most amazing woman I had ever met. I fell for her immediately

• She really had her shit together. She had a master’s degree and was very successful in her field of work as an independent small business owner

• She was married and divorced once before meeting me (red flag In hindsight)

• We eloped 4 months ago

• The house is leased, only my name is on the lease as my wife moved out of her apartment when we got married.

After we got married is when she started lashing out and hitting me occasionally. And no I didn’t just punch her in the face because I was mad. She threw a glass at me, it hit me in the head (it didn’t shatter on my head), I fell to the ground and she got on top of me. I was trying to block her hits and reacted by punching her. Then she acted like the victim by crying and saying she was calling the police and she wasn’t safe around me, then locked herself in the guest room. However, now I’ll tell you what happened after the post.

Yes, I ended up going to jail Saturday night. Unfortunate that I got arrested the night before Easter Sunday, because I couldn’t see a judge until Monday. I was charged with Domestic Assault & Battery. It is a misdemeanor because it’s my first offense, but I could still face a year in jail.

My wife didn’t call the police immediately. She locked herself in the guest room after it happened. About 20 minutes after the incident is when i posted on Reddit. I honestly thought she was bluffing about calling the police, but about 10 minutes after that there were 2 cops knocking and yelling at my front door. My wife came out of the guest room with a black eye. I immediately knew I was screwed. I was wearing a white t-shirt that had some blood stains on it because my wife had busted my lip. Unfortunately, regardless of me saying I was defending myself against my violent wife, they saw her black eye and the blood on my shirt and I was arrested.

As of right now I’m not allowed to be around my wife. I have a public defender as I can’t afford my own lawyer. She has left our house so luckily I can stay there. I have no idea where she went. She took MY dog though (she didn’t even want the fucking thing). I am calling a divorce lawyer and will be filing as soon as possible. I’m going to try and get the charge dropped as well, my attorney is pretty confident that it will go no where as I have a clean record and my wife has domestic charges on her record (I knew about this, but I was stupid and believed her when she said her husband hit her all the time, now look at me 😒) and I’m claiming self defense.

I was also fired from my job too because I was in jail on Monday. And as of right now I probably won’t be getting another because there’s no way I can pass a background check with an ongoing legal problem.

I am going to be setting cameras up all around my house incase my wife decides to show up. I still have her number in my phone, unblocked, but will not be reaching out or responding if she reaches out to me.

Essentially, my life is ruined. My wife is a horrible human being. And I could face jail time or homelessness. I don’t speak to my family as they don’t like my wife, and this is something that I don’t think I can tell them about because they warned me that she was trouble.

Edit: Thank you for the advice guys. I called my parents and told them I’m coming over tonight. They don’t know what happened yet but I’m gonna talk to them.

Edit 2: I spoke to my parents tonight. I hadn’t spoken to them since I got married to my wife which was 4 months ago. They were not at all supportive of the decision as well as me dating her. At the time I didn’t know why, obviously I know now they were right. They honestly were happy to see me when I showed up. They thought I was bringing my wife over so I’m sure they were even happier to see that I came alone. I told them everything and I’m not gonna lie it was really emotional. My parents were more than understanding. They’re paying for a lawyer not only to fight my charges but for the divorce as well, my mom is walking me through how to press charges against her for the abuse as well as for stealing my dog. They said i could stay at the house with them if i felt safer there but I declined. I thought they’d be all “I told you so” but it wasn’t like that at all. I also filed for divorce. She should be served at her office sometime soon.

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"I don’t speak to my family as they don’t like my wife, and this is something that I don’t think I can tell them about because they warned me that she was trouble."

GO TALK TO YOUR FAMILY! TAKE THE "I TOLD YOU SO'S." Man up. Deal with it. They love you.

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I will tell my family. I’m just worried because my mom is a police officer so I feel like this could also turn them further against me.

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You really think your mom will side with the woman she hated and warned you about and think that her little boy who has only been gone for a few years is now a woman beater?

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It’s not just that I’m worried about her opinion on that, but she always told me and my siblings if we go to jail that we can forget about being part of the family.

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I am sure she was talking about going to jail as doing crimes, not as hitting someone in self defense.

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Big sister to a younger brother here. My brother’s ex fiancée completely isolated him from our family and tried to control every bit of his life. We absolutely hated this chick but we knew he was an adult who made his own choices. Eventually he wisened up and left her before they got married. Trust and believe me when I say we welcomed him back into the fold, no questions or hesitation. We were just happy he got out.

Even if your mom doesn’t help you (and if she doesn’t, she’s probably not a great mom), other people in your family will be happy to hear from you. As someone else said, they love you and they want the best for you.

April 13, 2024

Hey everyone, I wasn’t going to update because for me this issue is over. But I have a lot of messages and understand that many people are curious as to how things are going after that initial night with me getting arrested.

The charges were tossed, my wife admitted that she exaggerated everything and told police and my attorney that I was not abusive and said she would appreciate if the charges weren’t pursued any further. That was good enough because I’m no longer facing a misdemeanor.

Shortly after that she came to the house (which now has cameras) with a bunch of my favorite snacks and drinks as well as a long apology note. She was in tears saying she didn’t mean to ruin my life and she was so sorry and that night she was seeing red and barely remembers anything.

When she showed up I didn’t say anything, I also didn’t accept her apology gift or letter. All I asked was where my dog was. She tried to act confused and said she didn’t have him. I know my wife, her face gets red when she lies. I told her if she doesn’t return my dog I’m pressing charges as well as getting a restraining order and filing for divorce. She broke down and told me that she did take him, and had no intention to harm him, but he did run away when she left a door open. She said she looked for him and couldn’t find him. He isn’t chipped. He’s gone, we aren’t going to find him. I’m torn up over it.

I told her to leave my property. A few days later she was served divorce papers. Again, shows up at my house crying saying she’s sorry for everything, she loves me, she wants to save our marriage. She said I can’t throw away what we have over an animal. While my dog is a huge reason why I’m going through with this, I got pissed and said she’s abusive, she’s manipulative, and she needs therapy and medical help for her problems. It’s way more than my dog. I told her she is lucky I haven’t pressed charges and have only filed for divorce. Well she hit me again. This time on camera. I called the police. When the police showed up she was in hysterics and tried to turn it on me saying that she hit me in self defense and that we’re going through a divorce and I wouldn’t let her leave. She didn’t know I had cameras.

She was arrested, I was granted a restraining order, we are getting divorced. I’ve gone to every animal shelter close by, my dog is nowhere to be found. It’s been a few weeks. I’m assuming the worst.

My wife’s ex husband reached out to me. He’s still friends with a few of my wife’s friends and they filled him in on the situation. He told me that she did something similar to him, but he let it continue for longer than he should’ve because she is really manipulative and would cry and apologize and seem genuinely remorseful and willing to take the steps necessary to change. He told me not to look back or fall for any of it.

But yeah, as happy as I am that my legal issues are over and I’m getting out of an abusive marriage, to me it’s not a happy ending because I lost my best friend since I was 16. I let him down, I put my dog in a situation where he was unsafe. I miss him so much.

Thank you everyone for the kind messages and comments, you really have helped me through this.

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Man... The fact that she hit you again and then tried to get you in trouble with the law again, immediately after her big apology attempt is just extra proof that she won't change. She's putting herself first, and doesn't give a shit about how it hurts you. Add on that she lied to your face about taking the dog. Jesus. She sounds so awful and I'm so sorry. I'd dig around some more regarding your dog. I don't believe that he ran off. I think she either hurt the dog or gave it to someone else. I'd be contacting every friend and family member she has to ask about the dog. Someone probably knows something.

I'm so sorry you're dealing with all this, OP. But know that even though right now and the divorce process sucks, it will get better when you're finished will all this.

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I agree! I don’t know why, but I don’t believe your dog is gone for good. Talk to people, use social media — anything you can think of. Good luck.

(posted on his profile) April 18, 2024

He’s fine! He didn’t run away, my STBX gave him to a friend of hers that lives about an hour and a half away. Her friend originally thought I was the abuser, so she was happy to “rescue” him, when she heard about what really happened she messaged me on Facebook. All is good in my life now! Thank you all for the support!

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I’m so happy you found your buddy! I’ve been reading your posts, and you’ve been through a lot. I hope this is the end of your troubles, but stay alert to the possibility that your ex might try to figuratively burn everything down! Make sure to cover your ass in every possible way: get some new cameras that she isn’t aware of, change the locks (if your lawyer okays it,) and most importantly, lean on your family for support. They seem like decent people who have your best interests at heart!

Once you come out of this, I hope you and your furry friend can relax and de-stress… but, in the meantime, stay vigilant. One of my exes was a lot like yours… In the end, it took me moving across the country to shake him loose!

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Hell yeah I knew it! I knew she kept the dog for “insurance”! What a relief, I’m so glad doggo is safe and sound!!! 🥳🥳🥳

June 3, 2024

I can’t currently afford a lawyer. My wife (soon to be ex) of a few months is suing me for hitting her 2 months ago. I did hit her, in self defense. I was arrested and then charges were dropped. She then came to my house and attacked me again and it was seen on camera. She was arrested. She also said she didn’t know where my dog was, turned out she gave him to her friend. I got him back. Do I file a counter lawsuit? I’m at a loss right now.

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What is she suing for? What has she asked the court to award her?

"I can't currently afford a lawyer."

You have to.

I hear that and I very often think of "but I can't afford a new transmission." You don't have any choice. And nothing I do with a wrench is going to solve that my transmission doesn't work. You need someone who knows how to approach this.

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“Pain and suffering”

She wants $10,000 for “therapy”

I really don’t know how I can afford it. Do I take a bank loan???

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Did she actually file a suit? Were you served? Or is she just threatening to file? If she is just threatening to file suit, call her bluff. Ignore her until you're served. Then [hire] a lawyer. People threaten to sue all the time and never go through with it.

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Not your lawyer. Not giving legal advice. It's hard to recommend getting a lawyer as it will not be cost effective. I wouldn't take the case but if I did I would need a $7,500 retainer against an hourly rate. Why wouldn't I take it? Because it's almost certain you'll walk away dissatisfied as my fee will exceed any judgment you would avoid. Keep in mind, she's claiming a medical/psychological injury. I would demand her complete mental health file - you're entitled to it since she's claiming a related injury. Does she really want to go down that route for a $10,000 claim? Is she going to release all of her deepest darkest thoughts to the ex she now hates? She'll also need to hire an expert to prove her claim. Bargain basement shrinks are getting $7,500 for a half day of testimony. She'll probably need to pay a few grand just to get a narrative report. Is there a pending charge against her? If so, is she going to give testimony in a civil case? That would be incredibly unwise. I would file a pro se answer along with extensive discovery demands. There's a lot here to absorb.

Editor's Note: OOP's divorce is not finalized yet and the status of the Ex's potential lawsuit is uncertain, so I am marking this ongoing.

Reminder: I am not OOP. Do NOT comment on Original Posts. No Brigading! See Rule 7.

Per mods:

This has been flaired confirmed fake because the same night OOP (23m) punched his wife (31f), he posted asking wherein he (26m) and his wife (23f) have disagreements about the amount of effort he puts into the house and raising their young son.

Dear gods, this was satisfyingly petty and I just had to share. I, 30F, went to the grocery store to pick up prescriptions for myself and my 2 roommates who happen to be my amazing grandma, 73F, and great grandmother, 94F. While on my way out, I decided to grab one of the $35 value packs of fireworks for the 4th, which was the next day. They were really excited and it made me just as excited, as I like setting things on fire, legally! Last important note for this story is we live in a trailer park that USE to be a 55+ community. It hasn't been for at least 5 years.

Anyhow, here's the juice.

I went out and started setting up at sunset. I moved cars, cleaned the area up, wet the ground to cool it down and dampened the house and bark dust. I also set up a 5g water bucket about 1/3 filled to put our used fireworks into. Where I live, you can't have anything that shoots into the air like a projectile, only fountains and such are allowed. Doesn't stop people from crossing to other states to get the big boys, but I am not one of them. My neighbors were tho! It will come up later... hehe.

So I help my 94GG down and we get set up in the driveway and start setting off a couple smaller fountains. The snaps and crackles of a couple caught us very off guard! We were having a blast! About 15 minutes into it, a car stops and waits for our current fountain to finish... or so I thought. The driver, an elderly woman in her 70s it looked like, gets out and shouts at us that we are not allowed to shoot off fireworks on park property.

I looked at her a bit dumbfounded and asked her what she said. She repeated herself and told us if we continued we would be put up for eviction from our property. I asked her if she was park management and she replied she wasn't but she was "head of the parks rules committee." And had been since she moved here in 2016.

We had never heard of it after living here since 2014... she snapped that it is in our rules and we need to read up on them and cease our violation of the rules or she would have us kicked out. She finally went on her way and I scoffed a little. My grandma's were both a bit shaken and told me to just stop. But I felt petty! So, with my thousands of hours of body cams and listening about entitled people on , I looked down and remembered, my phone had been recording the entire time because I was filming our fireworks.

So I went for a walk, wondering who this lady was. I spotted some familiar neighbors who have been here for 20+ years and I asked them if we had a "Park Rules Committee." All 3 of them stared at me like I had 7 heads... yeah, that's what I thought.

I asked them about the rules and rhe eldest confirmed it wasn't allowed, but as long as we were being safe, no one was going to give us trouble. I told her about my setup and showed her the video of the lady. They were dumbfounded and said she was full of it.

As I was walking back, I spotted her standing in her front yard, staring at me. IT WAS RIGHT ACROSS FROM SWEET OLD LADYS HOUSE! So I pointed and yelled, Hey! There she is! ITS THE PARK RULES COMITTEE HEAD!

She glared at me and snapped, "I am the head of the parks rules committee." The elderly man who walks his dog 3 times a day that was behind me scoffed and went "no you're not lady. Happy 4th."

She was pissed and stormed back into her house. That wasn't the pettiest part though. Because remember my neighbors? They were a bit younger, like me. When I told them what had happened, they started setting off the biggest and loudest ones, because we all live pretty close by. I hope she had a good 4th, honestly.

I'll update you when I get our eviction notice! ;) HAPPY INDEPENDENCE DAY! Stay Petty America! (You know what I mean!)

Some context: I am getting married next June 2025, and I thought it would be nice for immediate family to have a color to wear, just so pictures look coordinated. I’ve asked my mom and future MIL to wear a sort of terracotta/rust red color. I told them they can pick the dress, or can have a pattern, be any length, it doesn’t even have to exactly match the color swatch I showed them - I don’t care, just wanted everything to look cohesive in a red hue.

I thought this was pretty straight forward, but my mom keeps sending me tons of dresses she’s looking at to ensure they are the right color. Each time I tell her that as long as it’s a reddish color, it’s totally fine, just to let me know what she ends up picking. She sent me a picture this morning (red dress with white top)

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and then called me to say this was the dress she was going to go with as long as the color was right. I told her the color was fine, but I would prefer that she didn’t wear a dress with white. She seemed to take this well, she only had a couple comments like “well I thought it was pretty” & “there aren’t very many options”.

Now cut to this afternoon, I am talking again with my mom and she starts talking about the dress color again, saying she’s very confused with the color I’m asking her to find. I told her again that I thought any red-hue color would be perfectly fine, it wasn’t a huge deal. She then told me that she really liked the dress she showed me earlier with the white because it broke up the dress. She said she felt like she needed the white top or else she would look like a “menstrual cycle”. I was a little taken aback that she was comparing the color to a period 😅. Anyway I told her that I thought it would be nice if only I was wearing white, and that if she wanted to find a dress with a pattern that was fine, to break it up a little, but I would prefer that she didn’t wear white. She came back telling me that it’s okay to wear white as long as it’s not a lot, like a white shirt with a skirt would be okay - I told her again that I would prefer that she didn’t wear white.

She is now upset with me and being very passive aggressive. Am I the asshole for not wanting her to wear white? Even if it’s just the top of the dress? I feel like there are thousands of red dresses online to choose from, it shouldn’t be hard to find one that is red and doesn’t make you look like a period stain. I’m feeling upset with her, but maybe the not wearing white to someone’s wedding is outdated and I should let it go? Please help.

Edit: I just want to add that my MIL suggested that we pick a color for them to wear - she’s an event planner and said it would make the family photos look very cohesive. Also I am not worried at all about my mom looking like a bride or upstaging me 😅. I just was thinking about the photos where we’re all standing right next to each other.

Edit: I see all of the comments saying it’s bad taste to request MOB & MOG to wear specific colors. So I texted my mom and future MIL that they can wear whatever color they’d like. My mom says she’s gonna stay with the red, so she must like it?

Edit: TLDR I am the asshole. I’m starting to think requiring my guests to wear tap shoes and top hats was a bad idea too 💔

I was pregnant. My 2nd baby. I waddled into an elevator at the hospital, joined by an older woman. She pressed her button, I pressed mine - the maternity ward.

She looks at me and says "well at least yours is a happy visit, not like mine... " I am usually pretty friendly and dont mind small talk. I just couldn't.

I dont think that ride was more than a couple of minuts, but she regretted starting that conversation. You see, my water broke week 28. I was hospitalised a week, discharged, started bleeding, hospitalised again, discharged. I went to daily check ups lastning between 2-5 hours, had blood drawn, got my amniotic fluid levels checked, baby had its heartbeat etc checked. I knew I was going to give birth week 34 if I didn't go into labour myself. I wore granny pads, because I was leaking fluid all the freaking time. I was in week 31/32 at this point and had just started bleeding again and bf was at home with our other kid - and I really tried not to upset kiddo because I knew I was in for a nicu stay within a couple of weeks . I had been visiting that maternity ward too much and looking at pregnant, happy couples and I was just freaking scared and alone.

And i told that elderly woman most of this. While just looking defeated and a bit teary. She just looked like I had punched her and just said "oooh" in a very little voice and got off the elevator.

I kinda felt bad, because... well she didn't mean any harm. She just caught me at a freaking bad time.

Years ago, I worked at a municipally owned youth and family community center in a temporary position during the winter season. This was during a period in my life in which I had been laid off from a job and was looking for a permanent/long term job. This facility had onsite skating rink and swimming pool and areas that had things like foosball tables, ping pong tables, arcade games, pool tables etc. We had long park type benches set up and tables with chairs for people to sit and talk. Since it was winter, the local youth hockey league was using the facility, and the daughter of one of my co-workers "Melissa" played on of the teams (this will come into play later).

I mostly worked at skating rink/gaming area with Melissa, and other co-workers "Toby" and" Calvin." Calvin had a son who was involved in other youth sports league in the area.

It was common for teenagers to come to the community center to hang out and play games or watch hockey. Our rink office had one of those roll up window where we would could also monitor to look towards the gaming/lounging areas. One day, one of the regular teens visited the youth center. It was a teenage girl named Sarah. Very polite girl and often came with a mini backpack. One of the park benches was in view from the rink office. Sarah was there talking with a woman who often visited the center. The woman was sitting on the bench. Sarah's backpack had a side pocket and it wasn't completely zipped. A tampon fell out of the pocket. My co-workers and I saw it. They laughed at her for the tampon falling out. I walked out of the office and went over and picked it up and handed it to Sarah. I did tell my co-workers that they shouldn't laugh at things like that.

I was irritated with my co-workers. I know it's not big deal. But, women and teen girls need period care products and they shouldn't be shamed for having the products with them and if something falls out from a purse or backpack they shouldn't be laughed at either. I'm a male who grew up three sisters and my mom drilled into my brother and me, that we shouldn't laugh at them for going through something that is part of their bodies.

After that, I was polite and professional with my co-workers even though they were assholes about Sarah having a tampon fall out of her backpack pocket. Melissa and Calvin were the primary breadwinners in their households and they often mentioned occasional money struggles. Melissa's husband was on SSDI and she stated that he wasn't getting a huge amount. Since her daughter was in hockey and it was an expensive sport, she would do fundraising along with the other hockey parents like selling stuff like Sees candies, drink koozies, and other small items. Towards the end of the season, Melissa was fundraising so her daughter could attend a two week summer hockey camp in another state. Calvin's son was involved in youth basketball and was wanting to attend camps as well and trying to sell fundraiser items. They would ask me to buy stuff and I used the excuse that I was going through money issues since I had lost my previous job. They usually were ok with me saying no.

The reality was that I wasn't broke. Five years prior, I inherited 75k through an uncle and put most of it in savings and some in my checking account in case I needed to cover living expenses in case of a job loss or other issues that could arise. I also got a severance check from my previous employer and a few weeks of unemployment money before I started my job at the community center. If Calvin and Melissa hadn't been dicks about Sarah's tampon incident I probably would have bought whatever stupid stuff their kids were selling.

Another part to my petty revenge involved the local figure skating club that also used the skating rink. The local figure skating club was blend of adults and children who put on mini shows, did lessons, practice routines and such. The members were all very polite and did fundraising as well so the kid members could go to camps, skating shows in other places. Two weeks before my temp job was to end, I put an order for a couple of boxes of Sees Candies in with the head figure skating coach and told her to give me the boxes on the final night of job which was the same night as the figure skating club's mini-show. I was cleaning up around the lobby and rink office areas when the skating club coach came over and handed me the candy I ordered. Melissa and Calvin saw that I purchased candy for the figure skating club's fundraising efforts. I laughed on my way home that night an

Lesson of the story is don't be a dick about someone, especially a teenager having a personal care item drop out of their backpack. iIt might bite you in the ass if you expect others to support your kids' little fundraisers.

Context: I'm an international student from China and my friend is white. He was making a joke about me having a small dick because I'm Asian, so I told him that in China the stereotype is that white men have limp dicks and are bad in bed. He then got offended and told me what he said was just the truth and I'm making shit up. I then said it probably applies to him since he's so offended. AITAH?

I have a BIL "Eric" who I have never been fond of but nothing major. My husband recently told me about a "funny" prank Eric played. Eric is a cosmetic surgeon and his wife was considering doing botox but also really scared of it because she didn't want to mess with her BeAUtiFul face, but she decided to go through with it and asked Eric to do it.

She came into his practice (my husband works for him as an accountant) and Eric numbed her face a lot more than he normally would but told her it should just be a little numb. He did the procedure as normal, but obviously she began to freak out because he told her she should have more feeling in her face. Then he was like "oh fuck that isn't supposed to happen. That isn't supposed to look like that" She demanded a mirror and my husband "accidently" dropped it and shattered it, so she ran out of the room to find a mirror and they both laughed at her.

Maybe I'm a stick in the mud but I really don't find it cute or funny that he used his medical license and a position of power to abuse his wife. I dont find it funny that my husband joined in. I find it slimy that he is in an industry all about prying on women's insecurities, and yet they were messing with her because she is vain. I said I would never trust him as my doctor and I would be interested to hear what the medical board would say.

My husband told me to stop and I was being unreasonable. It got around and SIL demanded to know if I really accused her husband of abusing her, and called me jealous (of what lmao) and my husband says I went too far and those are serious accusations.

My husband has a childhood friend, both the same age. This friend had his wedding during COVID in 2020. Strict measures, you know the drill. At that time, we were living abroad, so crossing borders was nearly impossible. When he got the invite, we had only been together for a few months, so it was a fresh relationship (they invited him alone). I was working in a COVID ward and managed to get him across the border as a worker in a private car (about an 8-hour journey), and I also got him a PCR test 2 hours before departure (I mention this because the whole arrangement wasn’t easy). He attended the wedding with a gift (stayed with his parents, wedding was nearby).

Four years later, we were getting married in chateau (about 4 hours from both my family and his, so halfway) and invited the friend along with his wife and child. They said they’d come and make a trip out of it, exploring the area. He was the only friend for whom we paid accommodation right at the venue, just like for family (5* hotel). I was already struggling with this, as we had agreed not to cover accommodation for friends. It’s also worth noting that this friend is a teacher and the wedding was on a Saturday, a week before the end of the school year.

A few days before the wedding, they called to say they wouldn’t come because he didn’t get leave for Monday and it wasn’t worth the trip for just a few days. We ended up paying for the room since it was too late to cancel. We didn’t receive a gift or even a congratulatory card from them.

Today, they wrote saying they want to visit because they’re going to an event in our city and would appreciate accommodation for them and his sister. I’m against it because I don’t see a reason to take leave, pick them up from the train station, and host them when I don’t view them as friends anymore (no contact throughout the year, no birthday or name day wishes). My husband disagrees, saying it’s his best friend and I’m preventing him from seeing him.

AITA?

My fiancee (26F) and I (26M) were dating for 5 years, and we got engaged last year. We were supposed to get married this September.

My fiancee also has a best friend (26M). She’s been friends with him since they were kids, and he is one of her close childhood friends. Their close friendship admittedly made a bit insecure, but I kept it in, and didn’t express those feelings to my fiancee.

Last week, my fiancee and I were having a romantic dinner, and we were pretty drunk, and talking about life and our friends. My fiancee then admitted that she did not get with her best friend because he was out of her league. It felt like a bullet pierced my heart, my fiancee saw my reaction and she instantly changed the topic.

Yes, her friend is admittedly a good lucking dude, he looks like an Italian model and he could probably even get accepted in a modeling agency. But when my fiancee told me that the only reason she didn’t date him was because he was out of her league, that broke my heart. I felt worthless and dejected, because I’ve been dating her for 5 years, we were supposed to get married in a few months, we had made life plans, and it all felt like a mirage, a lie.

The next morning, my fiancee apologized for saying what she said the previous night, and that she didn’t really mean it. But I told her I needed some time to think and process everything. We barely spoke for the next few days, and my fiancee tried to make it up and apologize many times. But mentally I was too far gone. Last night, I told her I couldn’t do it anymore, and I broke up with her. My fiancee was shocked, she was crying a lot and even shrieking, and it hurt me a lot.

The emotions are all a bit raw now, I’ve given my fiancee as much time as she needs to move out. 

Am I the AH?

My husband recently played a prank I did not appreciate and opened my car window while going through a car wash. I got soaked and felt completely helpless. Not to mention our son was watching and I do not want him to grow up and think that is how you treat women.

When my husband explained why he did it, it pissed me off even more. He said it was just a whim because he remembered his stepfather doing that to his mother when my husband was a kid, and my husband thinking it was funny. This annoyed me because MIL is my polar opposite in every way and we have never gotten along, so acting like something is ok to do to me because it was done to her just blew my mind.

I told him if he wants to act like his immature stepfather than I want what MIL gets and I listed my terms

1. I want to be a housewife with a housekeeper and spend my days doing whatever the fuck I want

2. I want elaborate vacations every other month

3. I want Cartier and Tiffanys and the other shit he buys her

4. I want someone to give in to my moods and whims. If MIL wants ice cream at 2 am she gets ice cream. If she wants attention, he drops everything

5. I want to be lavished in attention to the point people are rolling their eyes

I said when he can truly act like his stepdad, I can tolerate the pranks. My husband became silent and didn't speak to me for the rest of the car ride. When we got home he locked himself in his room. He finally blew up that I was cruel and emasculating and it hurts to be compared to his stepfather. He provides a decent life for us and shouldn't be held to that standard, and I'm making him feel like I don't really love him. I feel like he wants me to be more like his mom and more fun, so that is my answer. I don't know if I took it too far. Him and his stepdad don't get along great these days, and I know he feels inadequate compared to him.

My dad recently came to my mom and said he met someone and he wanted a divorce. My parents had a dead marriage. My mom loved his money and me. He loved getting to brag to people she was his wife. There was really nothing else there and my mom responded to his divorce request very calmy. He said he was sorry for embarrassing her and he didn't want to fight about money, and my mom said peace out and she wishes him the best. It really was that simple.

Now I in no way condone cheating but that wasn't a marriage. When I see him with his new girlfriend i am absolutely shocked. He smiles. He laughs, and this is the hardass who rarely even smiled for his own kid. His new girlfriend is nice enough, maybe a touch annoying but whatever. My mom truly could not care less.

My fiancee routinely calls this woman a whore, bitch, slut, etc. This is crazy to me as she doesn't even like my mom, so really what does she care. Well my fiancee came home the other day ranting that my mom is gross because she was making small talk with my dad's affair partner at our engagement party, and she should have some self respect. I said my mom does and she laughed all the way to the bank. My fiancee said she doesn't like homewreckers and I finally asked her the question that has been bothering me this whole time, why does she care more than my mom.

Well she blew up and called me stupid and said I should no the answer.

I bought my best friend's son a bitcoin for his 1st birthday back in the day when they were $400 in 2015. I personally had been buying since 2012 so I knew about btc earlier on.

Anyway since 2015 crypto went up to like 60k at some point and dropped back down. In 2023 I was worried his investment would drop even more. And since crypto is a risky investment I suggested he sell because $25k is still a lot of money he could use for college one day or just let it grow in a mutual fund. idk. At that time I wasn't really selling any of my personal crypto.

I told him exactly what I said above. It can go up to $100k or down to zero but $25k was still lots of money. I didn't really pressure him to sell and I told him I wasn't selling my own crypto.

Anyway, he told me that made him start thinking about it endlessly and then he sold it at 25k. This year it went back up to $70k and we are in bad relations. He told me his wife calls me the village idiot and he's the village idiot's "r-tard friend who could have been rich". They are about to go through a divorce and he told me it's because I involved myself in their life. So we stopped talking.

I was trying to do a good thing for my friend originally and if you told me back in 2015 my $400 gift would turn into $25k one day I would be so happy. But because of this situation I lost a friend and I can see it from his viewpoint.

aita?

I'm a 34-year-old male, married to my wife, a 32-year-old female, for just over two years. We've been together for six years and have a great life together. My wife has a 13-year-old son from a previous relationship who lives with us, and I've been in his life since he was eight.

I have had dreadlocks for the past 15 years, and naturally, my son wanted to emulate me by getting locks of his own, which he's had for five years. Although I strive to be a good father, my son is very spoiled. Whenever I try to instill some discipline, I face resistance from him, his mother, and his grandparents. As a result, I've resigned myself to giving him what he wants, figuring there's no point in trying to discipline him if no one else supports it. He's not a disrespectful child, but he's not as respectful as he could be and is very spoiled.

Recently, some kids at his school have been bullying him about his hair, trying to convince him to cut it. His grandfather had already told him not to let the kids bully him into cutting his hair. One day, while we were around some of his friends, he expressed a desire to cut his locks. I reminded him of his grandfather's words and told him he couldn't cut it. In front of his friends, he called his grandmother, asked if he could cut his hair, and she said yes. He then looked at me and said, "I bet I cut my hair." I responded that we had spent too much money on his hair and he shouldn't let anyone bully him into cutting it.

A week later, my wife asked me again if our son could cut his hair. Frustrated, I said it was his hair and he could do whatever he wanted, but reminded her that his grandfather had said no. Ultimately, he got his hair cut. As you can guess, he now regrets it and wants to reattach his locks. My wife told me about his frustration, but I feel no sympathy because I warned him he wouldn't like it, yet he did it anyway.

Here's why I think I might be the AH. My wife expressed that I need to be more comforting to him and sensitive to his feelings because this is a hard lesson for him. I responded by saying that I told him it is just hair and it will grow back, but I am not consoling him or having any pity or sympathy towards him because of the disrespect I received when he chose to call his grandmother in front of me and attempt to shame me in front of his friends. For this, I will not console a 13-year-old who had no respect for me. I don't care that his feelings are hurt because I warned him and, in the end, he got exactly what he wanted. It's not my fault he doesn't like it. I tried to warn him, and now he has to deal with the consequences. She is upset because I don't have more sympathy for him.