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So, my girlfriend (20f) and I (22m) have been together for a little over 10 months now. We haven't had any heated arguments or fights, except for the fact that she keeps tickling me randomly despite the fact that I've repeatedly told her to never do it again because I can act strangely to it (something from my childhood which I won't delve into).

Now to get to the current situation: this week I've had my car returned from a paint job and some major look changes and I was really satisfied with the results, so I took a day off from work and took my girlfriend on a short trip outside the city. We drove to a lake, ate some food and relaxed for a couple of hours until it got pretty dark and we decided to head back home to get some sleep as I had to go to work the next day and she had an exam. On the way home, I started talking about how happy I felt with the paint job turned out and out of nowhere, she starts tickling me. I pushed her hand away and told her to stop, then she reached for my ribs with both hands and got me swerving off the road.

Thankfully, nobody was hurt (although my car got some deep scratches but that doesn't even matter anymore), as I already slowed down after her first attempt to tickle me. I'll admit that I told her "what the fuck is wrong with you" as soon as we stepped out of the car and she started crying, but I couldn't care less as I felt as if my veins were about to pop.
When we got home, I told her to pack her things and go to her best friend, but she threw a tantrum and begged me to forgive her for "a little mistake".

I didn't say a word, I simply stared in disgust and pointed to her luggage. After her friend picked her up, I tried to go to sleep but my mind was racing, so i barely got any rest. This happened on tuesday, and she's been blowing up my phone ever since, but I haven't answered any calls or texts and just blocked her. This led to her friend coming to my house and telling me to at least hear my girlfriend out, but I've told her to fuck off and leave me alone, which made her tell me that I'm more in love with a car than with my girlfriend.

So, AITAH in this situation? Should I talk to my girlfriend? I already feel like I can't trust her after what happened and that our relationship can't be fixed.

I was taking pictures at a family wedding as a favor. I was being paid about half of what I normally charge and I was fine with it. The bride is my favorite cousin and her husband is amazing.

During the formals the wedding party was great and I got lots of great shots.

When it came time to take pictures of different family groups with the couple people were assholes. They wouldn't stop talking or looking away from the camera. I tried politely reminding everyone that the camera was the big black thing on the tripod and that it took still images not video. I was repeatedly told to shut up and stop being a smartass and that they knew what a camera was.

I asked my wife to record video of the responses for me.

My cousin was delighted with the pictures from the ceremony, the formals, and the reception. She laughed her ass off at the family pictures. In about half of them people are looking off in all directions instead of at the camera. In most of those there are also people with their mouths open.

She thought they were hilarious and her husband agreed.

I started getting shit on social media from my family about the terrible pictures. I replied that I had tried to explain to them that the camera was the big black thing on the tripod and that it only took still pictures. They said I should have waited for them to be ready. So I started posting the short video clips of people being jackasses towards me.

My mom said that I went to far and that they won't ask me to take pictures for them again. A did a fake cry and said boo hoo. She called me a smart Alec.

Please let me state that I DO NOT THINK I AM THE ASSHOLE IN THIS SITUATION. But many people do. They are upset because they don't often dress up and get together and they didn't get good pictures.

Back when Eras tour tickets were released, my friend Sadie said she would grab us tickets and I’d pay her back. We made concrete plans and I was excited. I’ve been a Swiftie for years but haven't seen her live. I had to sell my Rep stadium tour tickets back in the 2010s because my mom was dying and I needed the money to help pay medical bills. I booked the hotel.

This past weekend I was having a little get together for a bunch of friends and Sadie was of course invited. At some point she pulled me aside and told me that she had news, she is leaving in September. I was heartbroken! We’ve been friends for years and I love spending time with her. I got weepy and hugged her a bunch and said that we needed to get all our thrifting trips in over the summer and hang out as much as we could.

Then she broke the news that as a way to bond with her sister before she left, she was going to be taking her to the Eras tour instead. I didn’t know how to react. She stood in front of me and Venmo’d my payment back.

She was like “I know you understand.”

I said that this was a sneaky move and honestly really shitty of her, and I don’t understand how or why she would do that to me.

She got defensive and said that they were under her name and that she didn’t “owe me” anything.

I was like yes, they are your tickets. Legally, you can do whatever you want. But this is still a really shitty and sneaky thing to do to your friend, knowing that there is no way I will be able to get my own tickets at this point.

She just kind of shrugged and said “Sorry, but I figured you’d understand.”

I asked her to leave, and told her to please not come back for the 4th of July party next week. I said I needed to process this and that I’m really disappointed with her and how she’s treated me. This is a girl who I consoled through breakups, job losses, pet losses, etc. She looked shocked and asked if I was serious.

She ended up stomping off and leaving and texted me later to tell me that she’s “around” if I want to apologize for making HER feel bad about taking her sister on a “bonding” trip.

I’m honestly heartbroken that I’m going to be watching “my” show on a grainy livestream instead of being there in the stadium with everyone. I was looking forward to this so much. I checked the resale sites and had a sad little cry about it. I am wondering if I am completely wrong to have just uninvited her. Is that too far? If it was in, say, a month or two, I don’t think I would have. I just need time?

Hi everyone and thank you for the responses so far. I just wanted to follow this up by saying that I appreciate the sentiment, but I'm not going to sue her over this. I don't really think that is a normal reaction or something that I would enjoy doing. Please don't hate me.

I'm a 17-year-old guy, and my mom has always been a bit overprotective. Recently, she took it to the next level by insisting on putting a surveillance camera in my room "for my safety." I found it super invasive and uncomfortable, but she wouldn't take no for an answer.

So, in an act of defiance, I decided to jerk off right in front of the camera every day for a week. I figured if she wanted to invade my privacy, she'd have to deal with the consequences. I made sure to look directly into the camera, making it clear that I knew it was there and I didn't care.

After a week, my mom came to me, furious. She had finally watched the footage and saw what I'd been doing. She said she was absolutely disgusted, and yelled at me for being disrespectful and said I was acting like a child. I told her that if she wanted to invade my privacy, she had to be prepared for what she might see. She took the camera down immediately, but now she's giving me the silent treatment and acting like I'm the bad guy.

My dad thinks I went too far, and I think he secretly finds it funny, but he also agrees that having a camera in my room was too much. My sister won’t even talk to me anymore after my mom told her what I had done, but my friends think it's hilarious and say my mom got what she deserved. I'm not sure how to feel. AITA?

I (29M) have been married to my wife (27F) for 4 years, and we have been together for six years. She had a son (7M) in a previous relationship, which ended badly. He was abusive and she ended up having to move away and get a restraining order. We had her ex’s rights terminated and I adopted him last year. We also have a baby together. Both of our children are mine. I love them equally.

The issue is my family. They refer to the baby as “their real grandchild/nephew/etc.” and I’m really bothered by it. They only show interest in the baby and none in my other son. I can tell my older son is starting to notice.

It all came to a head when my mom said she couldn’t wait to have quality time with her “real grandson”. She offered to watch the baby, but only the baby, and has shown little interest in spending time with my other son to date. My older son loves her and it makes him really sad. I finally told her and the rest of my family that if only one of my children is their “real grandchild” they have no business spending time with either. Am I the asshole?

For context I (25f) have 4 siblings (25f, 23f, 28m, and 30m) my mom passed away last year after a long battle with cancer. My entire family is very close and my mom loved her grand babies. Sadly she was only able to see my daughter (2f) a couple times before she passed.

My husband(26m) and I decided to name our daughter after my mom. Except we swapped my mom’s middle and first name for our daughter. (Ex: my moms name was Jane Doe our daughters name is Doe Jane)

Recently my SIL(32f) announced she and my brother Jake (30m) are expecting their fourth child and it’s a girl. While at a family dinner my SIL also announced they planned to name the baby Doe Jane after my mom.

I became upset and pointed out my daughter was already named Doe Jane and my SIL asked why there couldn’t be two Doe Jane’s in honor of my mom.

This lead to a full blown argument. Where SIL and my brother stormed out after.

Now my brother Jake, SIL, and other brother expect me to apologize for monopolizing a name and embarrassing my SIL. They said I can’t own a name and SIL can name her baby whatever she wants.

My husband and twin agree with me that it’s weird to have two kids with the same name. And that it’s unfair to my daughter.

My dad and other siblings do agree with me but think I went about it in an asshole way.

I can’t tell if I’m really in the wrong. I don’t want my SIL to steal my baby’s name. But she’s right I don’t own the name.

AITA?

English is not my first language, apologies for any mistakes.

My (30F) friend "Lisa" (34F) is marrying her fiancée "Sophie" (35F) in two months. I've known both of them for several years and I am (or at least was until this whole debacle) quite close with Lisa so I was not surprised that they've invited me to the wedding. However, on the invitation it was noted that it's a "man-free" event, meaning that no men are allowed to be there.

Despite not being a man myself, I felt that it was a weird decision on their part. I'm also on good terms with Lisa's brother (28M), so I texted him to ask if he knows what's up with that whole thing and if at least brides' families are exceptions to the no men rule. Apparently both him and his and Lisa's father are not invited (he doesn't know about Sophie's family but assumes it's the same with them) and he has no idea what prompted the rule, he says that at present it has (imo understandably) turned into a whole family dispute.

I think I wouldn't have gone anyway because not allowing the presence of any men at all just feels weird to me, but especially in light of the information I got from Lisa's brother I called her to say that I will be unfortunately unable to attend. She asked me why and I tried to make up a good excuse, but I'm a shitty liar so after she pressed me for a reason I told her the truth - that I think the no men rule is weird and I don't want to be involved in that. I did not tell her that I contacted her brother, just that I'm not a fan of events segregated by gender.

Lisa has told me that I'm not being a good friend to her because I'm not supportive of her an Sophie wanting their wedding to be fully centered on women. I told her that it would be centered on women anyway, considering that both of the people getting married are women. She hung up and I have not heard from her since, but Sophie has been sending messages saying I have internalized misogyny.

I personally think I behaved reasonably, but Lisa and Sophie evidently disagree, so am I the asshole in this situation?

At our last big family gathering (which included extended family) there was an argument between myself and my brother’s wife.

I was in charge of making up leftover plates for anyone to take home if they wanted. I gave John (my brother) and Lucy (his wife) 3 plates of food including the leftovers of the dishes they brought with them. I gave them to John to put in his cooler in his car before they left. The next day, I got a call from Lucy asking if I gave my brother the food, which I said I did. She told me there was only one plate that was half empty instead of the 3 plates and 2 tupperware boxes I had actually given my brother. I was confused and said John took them off the counter so ask him.

Well, John told Lucy I had ‘refused’ to give them the extra food and kept it for myself. Lucy was not pleased by this and told everyone in our family that I had ‘stolen’ their food. I maintained my innocence the entire time because this isn’t what happened.

If that was all it was, I wouldn’t have minded but Lucy took it way too personally. She began to insult my body and weight, saying I ‘didn’t need burgers and should have stolen the salad instead’, and said she doesn’t blame me for stealing because I’m so poor and work a dead-end job. Lucy’s animosity didn’t stop for over a year, and she would always bring it up any chance she got.

I’m the one hosting this year and I have not invited John or Lucy. When they asked why they didn’t receive an invitation, I said ‘are you kidding?’ and hung up. Not the most mature, but I was so shocked at their audacity to ask.

My brother text me to suggest a sit down between myself and Lucy but I didn’t get the point of that since she will always think of me as a villain in this ridiculous story.

It was then that my brother confessed that he ate all the ‘missing’ food in the car and felt so embarrassed by it that he lied to Lucy about me refusing to give them the food. I was in awe. I knew he had lied but not the details or why he lied. I told him he’s a huge asshole here and he needs to come clean to Lucy now. I guess he did because Lucy then called me, apologising profusely. She said she had no reason to doubt my brother and she was already feeling left out and an outsider so she lashed out. I thanked her for her apology but said I didn’t forgive her- she said so many awful things to me over 2 missing plates of food.

I said they still weren’t invited to the gathering and that they are welcome to host their own (which I obviously wouldn't attend). This made my brother really mad (they were on speaker together).

A few hours later I got some texts from our mum telling me to just 'get over it' and invite Lucy and John. I just put my foot down and said if they show up, they won't be let in my home.

The whole situation was caused a rift in the family. Half are telling me I can't not include my brother and the other half are saying Lucy is a bitch for her comments. Lucy and John are still very mad.

AITA?

In the longest line I’ve seen at this airport, cursing myself for not showing up earlier, we get in line, 10 minutes in three people cut through just saying “sorry” and pushing by, about halfway through the line at 30 minutes, a couple comes pushing through and I said no, get in line. They said they would miss their flight, and I said everyone is worried about that and we all showed up on time. I don’t know why, but I was triggered by the entitlement of ALL the cutters pushing through hundreds of people, but I put my foot down with this couple. I’ve been late and had to run to the plane before, I didn’t cut, I was prepared to spend money I didn’t have on another ticket and own my mistake. Guess what, we do better with our time now. Not sure if they missed their flight or not, they went off running after TSA. So am I an asshole for not letting every cutter by? Or for letting any cutters by? Or being selective when my patience ran out? Are they the assholes for showing up late and expecting everyone else to accommodate?

Me, my girlfriend and her friend are staying at a hotel together. We went to the hotel swimming pool to check it out and the three of us were frolicking about, it was just us three (I’m a guy).

Anyway her friend went under water and when she came out her entire left boob was entirely out of the bikini top. I was like a deer caught in the headlights and I froze. I figured if I said anything she’d think I was looking and it would be awkward so I figured I’d just say nothing and when she noticed it she can fix it herself, rather than draw attention to the fact I saw her tit.

Suddenly my gf pipes up and lets her know. The friend fixes her bikini. Girlfriend slaps my arm and tells me I was just staring with my mouth open.

Later on that night much later, girlfriends friend privately asks me if I was looking at her boobs, I lied and said no. She seemed perturbed