Q&As

I was taking pictures at a family wedding as a favor. I was being paid about half of what I normally charge and I was fine with it. The bride is my favorite cousin and her husband is amazing.

During the formals the wedding party was great and I got lots of great shots.

When it came time to take pictures of different family groups with the couple people were assholes. They wouldn't stop talking or looking away from the camera. I tried politely reminding everyone that the camera was the big black thing on the tripod and that it took still images not video. I was repeatedly told to shut up and stop being a smartass and that they knew what a camera was.

I asked my wife to record video of the responses for me.

My cousin was delighted with the pictures from the ceremony, the formals, and the reception. She laughed her ass off at the family pictures. In about half of them people are looking off in all directions instead of at the camera. In most of those there are also people with their mouths open.

She thought they were hilarious and her husband agreed.

I started getting shit on social media from my family about the terrible pictures. I replied that I had tried to explain to them that the camera was the big black thing on the tripod and that it only took still pictures. They said I should have waited for them to be ready. So I started posting the short video clips of people being jackasses towards me.

My mom said that I went to far and that they won't ask me to take pictures for them again. A did a fake cry and said boo hoo. She called me a smart Alec.

Please let me state that I DO NOT THINK I AM THE ASSHOLE IN THIS SITUATION. But many people do. They are upset because they don't often dress up and get together and they didn't get good pictures.

So, my girlfriend (20f) and I (22m) have been together for a little over 10 months now. We haven't had any heated arguments or fights, except for the fact that she keeps tickling me randomly despite the fact that I've repeatedly told her to never do it again because I can act strangely to it (something from my childhood which I won't delve into).

Now to get to the current situation: this week I've had my car returned from a paint job and some major look changes and I was really satisfied with the results, so I took a day off from work and took my girlfriend on a short trip outside the city. We drove to a lake, ate some food and relaxed for a couple of hours until it got pretty dark and we decided to head back home to get some sleep as I had to go to work the next day and she had an exam. On the way home, I started talking about how happy I felt with the paint job turned out and out of nowhere, she starts tickling me. I pushed her hand away and told her to stop, then she reached for my ribs with both hands and got me swerving off the road.

Thankfully, nobody was hurt (although my car got some deep scratches but that doesn't even matter anymore), as I already slowed down after her first attempt to tickle me. I'll admit that I told her "what the fuck is wrong with you" as soon as we stepped out of the car and she started crying, but I couldn't care less as I felt as if my veins were about to pop.
When we got home, I told her to pack her things and go to her best friend, but she threw a tantrum and begged me to forgive her for "a little mistake".

I didn't say a word, I simply stared in disgust and pointed to her luggage. After her friend picked her up, I tried to go to sleep but my mind was racing, so i barely got any rest. This happened on tuesday, and she's been blowing up my phone ever since, but I haven't answered any calls or texts and just blocked her. This led to her friend coming to my house and telling me to at least hear my girlfriend out, but I've told her to fuck off and leave me alone, which made her tell me that I'm more in love with a car than with my girlfriend.

So, AITAH in this situation? Should I talk to my girlfriend? I already feel like I can't trust her after what happened and that our relationship can't be fixed.

For context I (25f) have 4 siblings (25f, 23f, 28m, and 30m) my mom passed away last year after a long battle with cancer. My entire family is very close and my mom loved her grand babies. Sadly she was only able to see my daughter (2f) a couple times before she passed.

My husband(26m) and I decided to name our daughter after my mom. Except we swapped my mom’s middle and first name for our daughter. (Ex: my moms name was Jane Doe our daughters name is Doe Jane)

Recently my SIL(32f) announced she and my brother Jake (30m) are expecting their fourth child and it’s a girl. While at a family dinner my SIL also announced they planned to name the baby Doe Jane after my mom.

I became upset and pointed out my daughter was already named Doe Jane and my SIL asked why there couldn’t be two Doe Jane’s in honor of my mom.

This lead to a full blown argument. Where SIL and my brother stormed out after.

Now my brother Jake, SIL, and other brother expect me to apologize for monopolizing a name and embarrassing my SIL. They said I can’t own a name and SIL can name her baby whatever she wants.

My husband and twin agree with me that it’s weird to have two kids with the same name. And that it’s unfair to my daughter.

My dad and other siblings do agree with me but think I went about it in an asshole way.

I can’t tell if I’m really in the wrong. I don’t want my SIL to steal my baby’s name. But she’s right I don’t own the name.

AITA?

Back when Eras tour tickets were released, my friend Sadie said she would grab us tickets and I’d pay her back. We made concrete plans and I was excited. I’ve been a Swiftie for years but haven't seen her live. I had to sell my Rep stadium tour tickets back in the 2010s because my mom was dying and I needed the money to help pay medical bills. I booked the hotel.

This past weekend I was having a little get together for a bunch of friends and Sadie was of course invited. At some point she pulled me aside and told me that she had news, she is leaving in September. I was heartbroken! We’ve been friends for years and I love spending time with her. I got weepy and hugged her a bunch and said that we needed to get all our thrifting trips in over the summer and hang out as much as we could.

Then she broke the news that as a way to bond with her sister before she left, she was going to be taking her to the Eras tour instead. I didn’t know how to react. She stood in front of me and Venmo’d my payment back.

She was like “I know you understand.”

I said that this was a sneaky move and honestly really shitty of her, and I don’t understand how or why she would do that to me.

She got defensive and said that they were under her name and that she didn’t “owe me” anything.

I was like yes, they are your tickets. Legally, you can do whatever you want. But this is still a really shitty and sneaky thing to do to your friend, knowing that there is no way I will be able to get my own tickets at this point.

She just kind of shrugged and said “Sorry, but I figured you’d understand.”

I asked her to leave, and told her to please not come back for the 4th of July party next week. I said I needed to process this and that I’m really disappointed with her and how she’s treated me. This is a girl who I consoled through breakups, job losses, pet losses, etc. She looked shocked and asked if I was serious.

She ended up stomping off and leaving and texted me later to tell me that she’s “around” if I want to apologize for making HER feel bad about taking her sister on a “bonding” trip.

I’m honestly heartbroken that I’m going to be watching “my” show on a grainy livestream instead of being there in the stadium with everyone. I was looking forward to this so much. I checked the resale sites and had a sad little cry about it. I am wondering if I am completely wrong to have just uninvited her. Is that too far? If it was in, say, a month or two, I don’t think I would have. I just need time?

In the longest line I’ve seen at this airport, cursing myself for not showing up earlier, we get in line, 10 minutes in three people cut through just saying “sorry” and pushing by, about halfway through the line at 30 minutes, a couple comes pushing through and I said no, get in line. They said they would miss their flight, and I said everyone is worried about that and we all showed up on time. I don’t know why, but I was triggered by the entitlement of ALL the cutters pushing through hundreds of people, but I put my foot down with this couple. I’ve been late and had to run to the plane before, I didn’t cut, I was prepared to spend money I didn’t have on another ticket and own my mistake. Guess what, we do better with our time now. Not sure if they missed their flight or not, they went off running after TSA. So am I an asshole for not letting every cutter by? Or for letting any cutters by? Or being selective when my patience ran out? Are they the assholes for showing up late and expecting everyone else to accommodate?

At our last big family gathering (which included extended family) there was an argument between myself and my brother’s wife.

I was in charge of making up leftover plates for anyone to take home if they wanted. I gave John (my brother) and Lucy (his wife) 3 plates of food including the leftovers of the dishes they brought with them. I gave them to John to put in his cooler in his car before they left. The next day, I got a call from Lucy asking if I gave my brother the food, which I said I did. She told me there was only one plate that was half empty instead of the 3 plates and 2 tupperware boxes I had actually given my brother. I was confused and said John took them off the counter so ask him.

Well, John told Lucy I had ‘refused’ to give them the extra food and kept it for myself. Lucy was not pleased by this and told everyone in our family that I had ‘stolen’ their food. I maintained my innocence the entire time because this isn’t what happened.

If that was all it was, I wouldn’t have minded but Lucy took it way too personally. She began to insult my body and weight, saying I ‘didn’t need burgers and should have stolen the salad instead’, and said she doesn’t blame me for stealing because I’m so poor and work a dead-end job. Lucy’s animosity didn’t stop for over a year, and she would always bring it up any chance she got.

I’m the one hosting this year and I have not invited John or Lucy. When they asked why they didn’t receive an invitation, I said ‘are you kidding?’ and hung up. Not the most mature, but I was so shocked at their audacity to ask.

My brother text me to suggest a sit down between myself and Lucy but I didn’t get the point of that since she will always think of me as a villain in this ridiculous story.

It was then that my brother confessed that he ate all the ‘missing’ food in the car and felt so embarrassed by it that he lied to Lucy about me refusing to give them the food. I was in awe. I knew he had lied but not the details or why he lied. I told him he’s a huge asshole here and he needs to come clean to Lucy now. I guess he did because Lucy then called me, apologising profusely. She said she had no reason to doubt my brother and she was already feeling left out and an outsider so she lashed out. I thanked her for her apology but said I didn’t forgive her- she said so many awful things to me over 2 missing plates of food.

I said they still weren’t invited to the gathering and that they are welcome to host their own (which I obviously wouldn't attend). This made my brother really mad (they were on speaker together).

A few hours later I got some texts from our mum telling me to just 'get over it' and invite Lucy and John. I just put my foot down and said if they show up, they won't be let in my home.

The whole situation was caused a rift in the family. Half are telling me I can't not include my brother and the other half are saying Lucy is a bitch for her comments. Lucy and John are still very mad.

AITA?

Me, my girlfriend and her friend are staying at a hotel together. We went to the hotel swimming pool to check it out and the three of us were frolicking about, it was just us three (I’m a guy).

Anyway her friend went under water and when she came out her entire left boob was entirely out of the bikini top. I was like a deer caught in the headlights and I froze. I figured if I said anything she’d think I was looking and it would be awkward so I figured I’d just say nothing and when she noticed it she can fix it herself, rather than draw attention to the fact I saw her tit.

Suddenly my gf pipes up and lets her know. The friend fixes her bikini. Girlfriend slaps my arm and tells me I was just staring with my mouth open.

Later on that night much later, girlfriends friend privately asks me if I was looking at her boobs, I lied and said no. She seemed perturbed

I’ve been married to my husband for 3 years. He has a daughter from a previous marriage, Callie (7). I ended up pregnant around the same time as my husband’s ex/Callie’s mom, Sandra. She gave birth 2 months after me. We didn’t talk much about it. My husband and I did talk to Callie about the baby. We read her books about it, assured her that she’ll always be our family, we love her, etc. This baby is an addition to our family, not replacing her in anyway. I know Sandra and her husband had a similar talk. We validated Callie’s feelings on the subject.

Anyway, I had a baby shower and Callie was there. She also went to her mother’s. Sandra’s was after mine. Lots of people at that shower got stuff for Callie as well as the baby, which I thought was sweet. No one had gotten her anything at mine, but my friends and family always do on Christmas and her birthday. This was a party for me and my husband so I didn’t think anything of it. After all, we’d never expect anything on her birthday or any other celebration for her.

I had my son. Callie was super excited to meet him. She brought him a teddy bear that SIL had taken her to get for the baby. SIL (husband’s sister) kept hinting at if there was a gift for Callie. I didn’t think much of it at the time.

Then Sandra had her daughter. SIL bought her a bear for Callie to give. Sandra and her husband had a ton of gifts for Callie to celebrate her becoming a big sister. Again, very sweet, didn’t think much of it.

My son is 3 months. When Sandra was dropping off Callie the other day, she asked to speak to me privately. She asked why I still hadn’t gotten Callie a big sister gift. I said that I didn’t know it was expected. Sandra said it’s “normal”. She kept harping on the subject. Finally, I snapped and said I have enough going on. Callie doesn’t need a gift. This is about my son. We will celebrate Callie on her birthday and whenever she has a big event. I’d never expect someone to get something for my son when those events happen as that’ll be about Callie and not him.

Now, some of my ILs are mad at me. My husband agrees with me that we didn’t have to get Callie anything and has told Sandra that. To be clear, Callie hasn’t said anything about this, she didn’t hear the argument or anything. According to Sandra, she’s expressed extreme disappointment.

We haven’t had any issues with Sandra until this point and I don’t want to rock the boat but I also find this whole thing ridiculous.

My (26M) wedding is coming up in a few months, and I’ve been busy with all the planning. One of the issues I’ve run into is my sister (28F) and her dog. My sister is obsessed with her dog, a large and somewhat poorly trained Bernese Mountain dog. (cute but a demon)She takes it everywhere with her, including family gatherings, despite the fact that many of us have asked her not to.

For context, her dog has caused a lot of problems in the past. At my cousin’s wedding, her dog knocked over an elderly guest and tore up some of the decorations. At our family’s holiday dinner last year, it ate part of the turkey off the table when no one was looking. My sister always brushes it off, saying her dog is just energetic and friendly.

When I sent out my wedding invitations, I decided not to invite her dog. I know she will bring it anyway if I just ask her not to, so I told her that she can’t bring the dog and that if she does, she won’t be allowed in. My sister was furious and said that if her dog isn’t welcome, she isn’t coming either. She accused me of not caring about her happiness and making her choose between her family and her dog.

My parents think I should just let her bring the dog to keep the peace, but my fiancé and I are firm on this. We want our wedding to be a calm and beautiful day without any chaos. I’ve tried to compromise by suggesting she find a pet sitter for the day, but she refused and insists that her dog is part of the family.

AITA for not inviting my sister to my wedding because she always brings her dog?

I (34M) work in a small office and we have about 30 people working here. Mary (35F) is one of my coworkers. We have been working together for 6 years now. We have 6 people in our department, and we have to frequently travel across the state as our work involves overseeing government projects. We always travel in a group of two. Although my travel partner changes based on the project, Mary and I are generally put on similar projects and enjoy each other's company. My wife also likes Mary. Overall, we have a very healthy work relationship.

On to the incident. Yesterday, we had a happy hour in our office, and we were all drinking after work hours and chatting. It was a group of around 10 people that stayed back. Mary was blabbering about how we both have been travelling together so much in the last year. She was roasting me for my habits while travelling like always forgetting stuff in my hotel room, being sweaty and stinky when I join her for breakfast in mornings (because I go to hotel gym). Everyone was laughing and she was making it sound how unbearable I was to tag along (all in good fun). I also told some funny and sweet stories about her and agreed with her saying that I can be difficult to be with sometimes.

Mary came to me and hugged me tightly and told me that she loves me, and I am her work-husband. It was all innocent on surface, but she might have been a bit drunk and just didn't let go of her tight hug. Also, I hate that phrase as I do have a wife that I promised to be with forever, and not just in non-working hours. After a few seconds, I started becoming uncomfortable and also saw few people staring at us. So, to diffuse the situation, I took her hands off my shoulder and told her, she was my work-sister and that is why I love to annoy her so much.

That seemed to have upset Mary and she left and went back to her desk and was sobbing silently. I tried to apologize to her, but she told me how embarrassing the whole situation was. She said that she just meant work-husband in platonic way, but me calling her work-sister made her sound like a creep in front of the whole office. She was also angry that I aggressively removed her hands from my shoulders while hugging. I tried to reason with her that I do not like the "work-husband" phrase and also people gave dirty looks when she said it. So, I was just trying to make sure people do not take her words in the worng way. We talked for a few minutes afterwards and Mary calmed down. She hugged me again and left.

I felt really guilty afterwards because I can see Mary's point. I made her sound like a creep by implying that she meant something inappropriate when she called me her work-husband. However, I was a bit uncomfortable in that situation and just did not want people to call us that (or assume something wrong). Am I the AH for calling Mary my "work-sister"? I am sitting in my office writing this and a bit worried if I embarrassed Mary in front of everyone.

What's something about getting older that maybe nobody tells you about, but everyone kind of figures out eventually? Maybe it's not the worst, but it definitely makes you sad since it is different from what you thought as a kid.

My (32F) friend (32F) from college is getting married later this year. The save the date sent last year didn’t mention where the wedding would be. My friend and I live in neighboring states. However, when my husband (33M) and I were sent the wedding invitations three weeks ago, it turned out that it was going to be a destination wedding. After looking into it, it would cost over $4000 for the both of us.

My husband and I can’t afford to spend that much money without going into credit card debt. So last week, I told my friend on the phone that we couldn’t attend but conveyed our best wishes and said that we would send them a wedding gift off the registry. She asked me why we couldn’t come and I said that it wasn’t in our budget, mentioning the costs of plane tickets, the resort (3 nights), and wedding outfits.

She offered to lend me a dress to wear so I wouldn’t have to spend money to buy one. I told her that it was really kind of her to offer but the main costs for attending her wedding were the plane tickets and the resort. Then, she followed up by offering for me to wear her old wedding dress from her first wedding. And she added that she didn’t care about other people wearing white to her wedding. 

Context: My friend got married in 2017 and divorced in 2020. My then-boyfriend (now husband) and I attended that wedding and it was held locally. The wedding dress she wore was beautiful and minimalist/simple in design. I don’t have any details into their divorce though I do know that it was not amicable.

I was pretty shocked by her offer, I didn’t (and still don’t) understand the logic behind it. I basically repeated what I said in respond to her first offer to loan me a dress. She got a bit upset at my rejection and said that she was trying to do everything she could to help us attend. Again, I thanked her for being so generous with her offers to help but at this point, I was trying to end the phone call as quickly as possible.

Tbh there’s something very off-putting to me about the idea of wearing the bride’s wedding dress from her previous wedding to her current one. And a lot of people who attended her first wedding will be at this one so I think at least some will recognize the dress. I would just feel so embarrassed the entire time. So even if we could afford to go to the wedding, I would have turned down this offer anyways. But I didn’t tell my friend any of this on the phone.

Just yesterday, my friend sent me a long text which basically said that she thought my husband and I were being inconsiderate and ungrateful and that we should have made a bigger effort to attend her wedding considering we had been friends for almost 15 years. And that clearly I didn’t value our friendship as much as she did. I haven’t responded to this message yet and I’ve only discussed the situation with my husband who is on my side. 

AITA did I do something wrong or should I have responded differently?

I was born blind in one eye. This took awhile to be noticed partly because it looks like a normal eye (no cloudiness/whiteout or anything), but also because when I had sight tests as a small child, I didn't understand what they were trying to do.

I was told to cover my right eye and read the letters off the test card. I was proud of my ability to read the letters and did so confidentially. I was told to cover my left eye and read... the same card. Not understanding the point of the exercise, I just repeated what I had just said.

It took two or three visits before someone thought to change the card while I had my good eye covered and they realised I couldn't read any of the letters at all.

Did anything similar happen to you as a youngster?