My channel growth has been slow but steady and I average ~15 viewers per stream. I'm used to reading every single comment from my viewers and am genuinely interested in how their days are going and what's going on in their lives if they choose to message that in the chat.
Recently, my mod's partner (a long time viewer) messaged me and said:
"I hope that you can have more control over your stream instead of letting chat do / demand whatever they like because they want the airtime. I love that you want to give everyone the attention that they deserve but sometimes I feel bad for you because it's still your stream, not theirs. And I'm saying this because I want you to have a fun community and grow as a streamer. I love you and I'm coming from a place of support so I hope you don't take this the wrong way"
My mod messaged me right after and said:
"What do you think about [the above's] opinion on the matter? I really do think you should just stop being a pushover. imo you're too nice man. you're such a nice person and it kinda sucks just seeing people push you around. so we know the problem [referring to my niceness]."
I never realized that what I was doing on stream looked like I was being pushed around. While I very much appreciate the feedback that my viewer and mod gave me, it makes me feel like I've been streaming wrong this whole time. A lot of my viewers are younger because they came from my TikTok page, so that could be a reason why they want more attention or don't really know Twitch etiquette.
One example they mentioned was that one of the viewers sometimes mentions their kinks in the middle of our chat as we're talking about game characters. I have never felt uncomfortable about the way they mention some of their kinks (I make jokes about feet all the time) but my mods said that talking about your kinks is not cool.
While I understand that the comments from my mod and viewer are coming from a place with good intentions, I do feel a little disrespected by my mod. It kinda seems like there was more of an emphasis on me being the problem vs coming to a solution together. Am I reading too much into this?
TLDR: My mod says I'm a pushover because I read every single chat and don't time people out when they talk about topics that are not relevant to stream or are trying to get my attention
UPDATE:
I have unmodded my mod! NOT because of what they said, but because I need to learn how to handle these situations by myself without needing to rely on someone else. I also need to be more comfortable with timing people out or calling them out respectfully, so this is my own decision. We still have a good relationship and should I ever need a mod, they will be first to pick!
EDIT: I've created some new chat rules so everyone is very clear on what is OK and not OK in chat!
CHAT RULES
Before you chat, consider the following:
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Is the comment related to what's happening on stream?
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Is the comment something all viewers can discuss?
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Is the comment part of fostering a positive community?
If your answer is NO to all questions, do not message it.
DO NOT:
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Make everything about you or monopolize the chat
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Ask the streamer to check a DM from you on stream
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Repeatedly ask for the streamer's attention
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Troll - spamming viewer attack items, chat messages, etc.
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Trauma dump
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Send links
How's this?