this is a community like r/AmITheAsshole except unlike that subreddit here you can post interpersonal conflicts, anything that's AITA but is not allowed there even posting about Scar from the lion king and trying to convince redditors that he was not the AH. rules: don't berate others and no pornography we have children here
My husband met some guy back last year and became close with him over the months. He just invited us down for a BBQ at his house yesterday. We brought food as well. We brought enough for 12 burgers, 12 hot dogs and some extra (like sodas, chips, etc). There was roughly 8 adults and probably around 12 kids at the BBQ, not including us and our 3 kids (13, 9 and 8months).
Our oldest of 3 children doesn't like hot dogs. He is grossed out by them. He watched a video on how they were made years ago and has refused to touch them since. So when he went up to the grill and he was handed a couple hotdogs, he politely asked for a burger instead. The guy at the grill (husband's friend) says "nope, sorry kid, the burgers are for the adults". I tried explaining that he doesn't like hotdogs and the guy just kind of shrugged his shoulders. So I asked for a burger and right in front of him I had my son switch plates with me. This did cause some hang ups. The other kids were asking why he got a burger when they weren't allowed to. However, no one said anything directly to me or my son.
Well, this guy's been texting my husband today saying that next time there's a BBQ, I'm not invited, followed by an "lol" like it was a joke. Husband asked why and he said that I caused an uproar over a hotdog and that this was "just how shit went" at their house and that burgers are for the adults only whenever there's a BBQ at their place and they "won't be changing their rules" to accommodate to a lone child. My husband hasn't responded and now I'm just pissed in general because now I think the guys a scum bag. It wasn't like we went empty handed. 12 extra burgers is what I personally brought and if my son wanted one of them, he's going to have one regardless of what this man says. My husband thinks I should just drop it but he's literally not defending me or our son here and I'm pissed. Was I wrong here?