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TLDR on my first post: my fiancé stole $300 cash of my savings to buy his best friend a tire when she popped it, he didn’t ask me about taking the money.

Ok, so I poured over all the comments on my original post. I’m not car savvy, and thought it was interesting how the majority of people agreed $300 for a tire was crazy. I didn’t understand why he didn’t just get her a patch or a spare like some of you pointed out in the comments. When my fiancé got home that night, I brought up the topic to him. He still didn’t budge on an explanation or real apology. He seemed like he was tired after work and just wanted me to drop it. I asked about a receipt, but he said he didn’t know where it went. Claiming he lost it or left it with his friend. I listened to a suggestion I saw a few of you say and messaged his friend to see if she had something to say. I shot her a dm on instagram, just asking about the whole ordeal. When she got back to me, she had no idea what I was talking about. She did meet up with him, but her car was totally fine. They just went to some game stores together and got lunch. She never saw the $300. She seemed confused and told me “good luck” with figuring it out. I of course immediately brought this up to my fiancé. Telling me how this whole situation has been driving me crazy, and showing him the messages between me and his friend. He seemed shocked at how upset I was before getting quiet for a second. Begrudgingly he explained what happened. He had taken the money, deposited it in the bank, went to hang out with his friend, then got back home and used the money on a deposit for a hotel room near a ski resort. He booked it for our honeymoon. We weren’t planning on really having a honeymoon, so he wanted to surprise me with it. The money was enough to book a single night deposit, he was planning to save up to pay the rest upon check in. Our wedding was going to be late in the year, so he thought a Christmas cabin honeymoon would be perfect. A whole lot doesn’t make sense to me about this. I can’t ski, I always spend Christmas with my family, and he stole from me to do this. I told him to explain why he just took the money for this. He knew I was saving the money for a family vacation and thought “once we’re married we’ll be family. So me and him deserve a trip just for us” As for the time and place, he just thought it would be romantic. I am completely torn up over this. You guys were right, I was being too passive. He stole my savings, disregarded asking my opinion, and betrayed my trust. This isn’t the ending I wanted, but the wedding is called off. I’m staying with my sister and have been talking the whole thing over with her. I haven’t told the rest of my family yet and don’t really know where to go from here. Our relationship is in limbo right now. I don’t want to throw away our future but I’m not sure if I can reasonably keep it going. I have a lot on my mind. Also before someone suggests it, the room deposit is non refundable, so he’s stuck with at least one night. I demanded he pays me back but he got upset at that. He seems like he really doesn’t want to, especially now that we’re on awful terms. I’ll keep pushing to get back my cash, but that’s pretty much it. My first post blew up more than I expected. Thank you everyone for all the advice, good and bad. It helped me come to terms with the fact that his behavior was unacceptable. I’m not sure where to go from here but I’m glad i finally took some action.

I 40f have been making changes all the time trying to get my husband 40m to notice me. I have changed my hair color by 3/4 shades. Cut off 4 inches which to him used to be considered a foot. Started tanning and got dark. Special ordered a pair of thongs with his name in rhinestones across the back. What else can I do or should I just give up trying and accept it for what it is. I feel like if I can't get him to notice me what has his attention. What should I do? Am I the only one that sees this as wrong? Don't go for divorce bc that is not an option.

Edit to add: I have discussed with him. He apologized profusely. My thing is I feel like the kitchen table. You don't need to see it to know it's there. I don't doubt that he loves me and we are good in all other aspects. And yes I notice every little thing about him. I get he's tired after work. He works long hours to provide for our family.

Hi family family family I am admitadely drunk at the moment, I(26F) am a caretaker for my grandma and on friday she got admitted to the hospital for a broke hip and I have been sleeping at the hospital with her until right now, my mom took over for the nivht and I decided to have a few drinks and catch up on the friday show because I have ‘t been able to watch bc of being in the hospital with grams. And in this exact moment I am realizing Dan is a total hottie??? The backwards hat???? Dan???? I love and respect Allie and stamps.com but okay dan, I see you, hamdsome ass man

I work in auto insurance as an adjuster for a major insurance company in the United States. All insurance companies are regulated by their states department of insurance (DOI). It’s the DOI’s responsibility to ensure the insurance companies are practicing good faith handling in all aspects of an insurance claim. When an insurance company is unreasonable/unethical or causes unnecessary delays in the resolution to a claim, they can be sanctioned or fined by the DOI and damages could be owned to their policyholders. Ethan and Hila should file a department of insurance claim against their insurance company for the unreasonable delay to paying the Body Shop over the disputed charges. Even in the event that it’s not the insurance companies fault and the body shop is demanding unreasonable charges for the work done on Hila’s car, the complaint analysts for Ethan and Hila’s insurance company will have to complete a thorough investigation of the entire handling process for their claim and submit their findings to the DOI. If their investigation proves the insurance company did no wrong, then the DOI can go after the body shop for their unreasonable charges/etc for the repairs to Hila’s car. The last thing an insurance company wants to do is handle a DOI complaint, so if Ethan and Hila’s claim has stagnated and their car is being held hostage, this may be the next best step to pushing them to be more proactive in dealing with the body shop.

I (23f) have a 4-month old son, E, with my partner (28m), C. C's brother is D (25m). D has a 1 year old son, S, with T (24f).

This story requires a bit of back story so please bare with me.

T & D dated for not quite a year in 2022-2023. T cheated on D multiple times throughout the relationship, often claiming SA but would film the encounters and post them on OF. She ended up giving D an STD and they eventually broke up. Around this time, T found out she was pregnant with our nephew.

There were multiple options for the father, but T was adamant D was the only option. T made a point to frequently text D's mom regarding the situation - even letting her know at one point she would be aborting the child (she obviously did not do this.).

Fast forward to the child being born, they got a DNA test and the child was D's. We were all a little shell shocked. But we were all determined to be there for the child, including D. D, however, has a mental illness that requires him to be on disability and is not able to be unsupervised for long periods of time with his son. This is well known and was discussed prior between T & D as a reason why D did not want children.

T has another child from a previous relationship (5m), and was not on birth control at the time of their relationship.

My relationship with T has been rocky at best. A few incidents include:

• T finding out through my work (a daycare centre she was on the board of - I am the director) about my pregnancy, breaking confidentiality and announcing it to people before I had,

• T trying to use her position on the board to influence my hours, gain information about me and spread it, and control my position (she was just a member at large, who was soon dismissed due to her actions against me and other staff)

• attempting to talk ill of me to my mother in law,

• threatening that her friends would fight me due to my partner questioning her treatment of her children (she is the type of mother to ditch her kids and go out every weekend/ drink all night then breastfeed)

• her telling me I am controlling and unsafe because she asked D to have a conversation with her in private regarding their child and I advised him to take a support person as a witness with him as she has falsely accused him of being violent before (I also told her she should do the same. She wanted to bring someone and have him show up alone.)

Edited to add (not that the prior list wasn't enough character establishing info):

• She has once complained about barely affording diapers and needing to fix her car. That same weekend she went to an all-weekend sex convention in the city with her friends and her friends posted pictures of them all at lavish restaurants and shopping.

• She frequently uses social media to berate D and his family but dodges accountability when confronted by saying they're "shitposts" and "if anyone feels they are being called out they need to look at themselves and ask why". Post include calling her baby daddy a deadbeat and anyone who supports him just as bad.

Now to this story:

T approached me when her son was 6 months about watching S when he turned 10 months until he was old enough to go to daycare (18 months at the centre I run). I thought about our tumultuous relationship but wanted to put it all in the past and have our children grow up together as cousins. I told her I would do it monday-friday 6am-4pm. My mother in law, knowing I would have a young infant, volunteered to split it with me. I ended up watching him 2-3 days a week, and her 2-3 days a week as well. None of this was paid, it was all done as a favour. I never once received a thank you. However, she fawns all over my mother in law frequently.

My mother in law actually ended up having S 10+ more hours per week on weekends or evenings so T could go to the gym or out with her friends for the night, and I ended up having both of her children about twice a month on the weekends.

The issues started when it became clear that S was a velcro baby with absolutely no sleep schedule. I understand that happens. However, I've worked with kids long enough to know that it's something that needs to be fixed as best as possible with cooperation from home. T refused to do any sort of sleep schedule training with S, or do anything to resolve his need to be carried 24/7.

This meant everytime I watched S, he would scream constantly because I could not physically hold him constantly - as I had a young infant as well. I would try to sit down with him while feeding my child, but he would often scratch my child or hit him/pull him and try to climb over him. This is something he also does when my mother in law holds my child. I know this is something children close in age go through, but nonetheless it made it hard.

Now, the covid situation.

At the beginning of the week T dropped off S at the normal 6-6:15am time. Normally she stands in the doorway and chats about whatever gossip she has and complains about D. This day, as soon as she walked in she dropped S off, he started screaming, she mumbled "uh. I gotta go." And left.

I took S out of his carseat and placed him in the playpen so I could go wake my son. However, before I could go get my son I noticed S sounded off. I went into the play pen (we have one of the large floor ones) and sat with him. His nose was runny, his eyes were red, and he was clearly upset. I gave him a cuddle and some milk and decided I'd let my son sleep and see if S was okay.

He started coughing and sneezing and looked so tired, within 20 minutes he passed out on my lap coughing. I texted T to ask if he was sick. I also texted MIL to find out how he felt the last time she had him. MIL said that T let her know the older brother had a fever last week and kept S home for a day and a half. (MIL is a people pleaser, 65+, hates drama, and didn't give me more than that.). T texted me to say he wasn't sick.

When he woke up, I took his temperature after waiting a while and he was approaching a fever. That plus his cough and runny nose kept getting worse. I let T know I didn't feel comfortable having him near my small infant and she would have to come pick him up. I told her he was sick and my child had never been sick before, and I didn't want the first time to be now during a sleep regression (the infamous 4 month sleep regression hit us hard.)

She didn't respond, instead I got a call from my MIL stating T had asked her to pick up S. I told her I didn't think that was fair as he was sick and she admitted that he had already gotten her sick last week so she was fine with it. She came to pick up S, I let MIL know I didnt appreciate being blindsided with a sick kid when I have a small infant. She admitted she thought T would have talked to me if he hadnt gotten better over the weekend and we could have worked something else out for his care

I went on to ask around if anyone knew if S had been sick. I found out from a family member of her older son's, that S and his brother had covid. They tested positive 5 days before. I informed my MIL and she immediately picked up covid tests. She tested positive. She seemed completely shocked and apologetic, she said she wished she would have known or volunteered to have him at her place if he didn't get better over the weekend (she thought they had a cold.). I also found out that T had dropped S off with my MIL the day after he tested positive, knowing he had, and said nothing other than "I can't afford to miss work.".

I texted T to inform her I knew of the covid and felt very disrespected and blindsided. I told her I deserved a conversation asking if I was comfortable with a covid positive child in my house with my infant. Her response was that it was not on her because I didn't communicate that "a condition of me watching him was that he didn't have a hint of being under the weather.".

She also stated it wasn't her fault because MIL knew and could have told me. At this point I was pretty upset and I told her she would no longer have our support if she couldn't show my family the same consideration we tried to show her despite how disrespectful she has consistently been. She still maintains she isn't responsible and called my reaction a "gross over reaction" because I'm a first time mom.

I have blocked her on everything. My partner says this is long overdue. But she refuses to let her son go to family functions with his father and family, she must be present, so am I the asshole for wanting to cut her out completely and wanting nothing to do with any functions that include her?

She has no other supports, me cutting her off means my MIL will have to watch S full time or my MIL will have to tell her no. Cutting her off completely would involve telling my mother in law we are not going there if she is there. She has made it known she doesnt want to choose sides and lose access to any grandchildren.

Or should I leave it at blocked to avoid drama? OR am I actually over reacting?

Added info: It's been 6 days and me and my son are very sick. My son was in the ER due to high fever and being unable to eat properly due to throat irritation. If he becomes dehydrated further he will need a hospital stay and it could seriously damage him. In addition, we had to miss my cousins wedding due to us all being so sick. This is the worst I've felt having covid and I have had it 3 times (I had surgery last week so my immune system is shot.).

TLDR; my BIL's baby mama knowingly dropped off her covid positive kid to my house with my 4 month old infant, refused to pick him up, blamed me for not telling her I didn't want to take a sick kid, and I want to completely cut her off. AITA?

I think the Fidias' arc throughout the podcast has been my favorite yet maybe. From Japan trip and stealing from homeless people (his worst offense imo) to becoming a member of the European parliament, it has been a crazy ride. He does seem genuinely nice, and I appreciated that he said that he was going to take it seriously to help those who voted for him. Excited to see how this story line plays out but it got a lot more interesting.

I have been feeling this way for a while now, and I just think the way the show has changed in recent weeks has isolated me and many other die hard fans to a point of no return. Its almost as though everyone at H3 has forgotten why we tune in, why we feel like this is the place for us and why we pay to become members.

It is clear that Ethan can no longer provide members with the benefits that he promised. I mean we haven't had a credit card number, a crew phone number or a home address in MONTHS and that is the ONLY thing I departed with my hard earned cash for. I know I'm not alone in this and I expect my fellow identity thieves to follow me out the door.

Ok, Ethan.