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is his hatred towards short men. There, I said it. He pretends to love the "short kings" but immediately goes to height when he wants to insult somebody. We see through it, Ethan. He even perpetuates the myth of anyone under 6 feet being short. On Wednesday he said, "I think he's short, he's like 5'-9"." 5'-9" IS THE AVERAGE HEIGHT FOR A MAN IN AMERICA! This is blatant discrimination and we short men demand an apology. Our disability is not a joke!

I (27F) have been dating my bf (31M) for around ten months now. Recently we have been talking about me moving to him two hours away, transferring my job down by him, giving up my dream to relocate to a different state and building a house together. When we first discussed this it was his parents having a living quarters which I was fine with…but then it changed to him building a house with a living quarters for his grandparents and having his parents be in the actual house where we would be living. This story changes every day.

I asked him why the story changed and it was basically his entire family living in one house. He said he had brought it up about his grandparents moving into the living quarters and his parents living with us and when his grandparents passed away then his parents would move into the living quarters. He said he had told me but I have never heard that come from him early on when he first talked about it.

We come from two very different families where I would like my freedom, PRIVACY and to be more independent away from my parents and go visit them when they needed me or whenever I could come up. My bf on the other hand wants all of his family in the same house (with the living quarters for the grandparents). He thinks he owes his family the world because they paid for a private high school hours away because of a condition I won’t mention (which was their own decision)

I understand his mom cannot do things she would be able to normally do given her health issues but his dad just watches her struggle everyday too and does nothing about it. I also have a dog and his parents do not want pets even if it was “our” house at the end of the day but they would still be in the same living space. The house would have to be spotless 24/7 and would have to be done his mother’s way. I feel like she would tell me how to maintain my own house and how to take care of kids if it would ever come to that. He is attached to her apron strings and cannot make decisions for himself/by himself and expects his parents to make the decisions

His mother does everything for him (cooks, cleans, and does his laundry everyday, etc) and would expect me to do the same whenever his parents moved into the living quarters after his grandparents pass away. In my mind house chores should be split 50/50 inside and outside but that is not the case. He expects me to take care of the inside of the house and he maintains the outside of the house. And I quote his message “”cant handle what i was saying cause you know im right and everyone would agree You wont win this argument cause (insert friends name) is the same way as me and my mom thinks the same way and my grandma thinks the same way trust me you want the easy way through life guess what if im working 60+ hrs a week and you think im coming home to cook and clean your outta you mind good luck finding a man to do that that actually has a blue collar job that works like i work”” now I’m not sure who in the right mind would even agree with that statement because I would like to know what “men/man” would agree to that. He’s getting mad and yelling at me asking what’s wrong with him buying a house for him, his parents and grandparents. 

He won’t compromise on even making a living quarters for all of them separate from the house we would be living in. He would rather walk down the hallway to see his parents and grandparents rather than walking across the street or driving. I told I would be perfectly fine with a living quarters for his parents but I didn’t not expect the grandparents to be in the mixture now.

I also said we will cross that bridge when it comes because he hasn’t even looked at other properties yet nor has the funds to do so. There has been no further action since they only looked at one property and haven’t shopped around. Nothing is set in stone and he “plans” to have a house within the next two years for all of them. So AITA for not wanting to live under the same roof with him and his family?

UPDATE 7:06PM: I texted this just now “”I don’t foresee this relationship working as I don’t want to move into a house with your parents. If it was just you and I it would be different. It’s supposed to be our lives together not me and your family together. You said this is what you want and it’s “your way and your dream” and I’m not going to stop you from your dream but I don’t think this is going to work out between us. You’re free…””

My (f26) husband (m30) faints quite easily when it comes to needles and medical situations, he fainted during my first ultrasound and more recently he fainted at a restaurant when I was injecting insulin due to gestational diabetes. Although I would love him to be there with me, I am having a planned c-section so this terrifies me. Our baby has an omphalocele (birth defect causing an abdominal wall defect in the stomach) and because of this will be transferred to another hospital pretty much straight after she is born, I am unable to go with her after the birth due to the c-section. I will be in a Maternity hospital for four to five days.

I understand he really wants to be there for the birth but I am really worried that he will faint and may even hurt himself during the birth as he is going to be the one to go with our daughter to the Childrens Hospital afterwards and I think that is more important that he is okay and ready to go with our baby than actually there for the birth. The epidural is what I'm most worried about because I know that is all he will really see with the curtain.

It would be possible to have my mom there with me so it's not like I would have to go through this all by myself. Honestly if we were having a baby without complications I would not be this nervous because then he wouldn't have to go anywhere and if he passed out it wouldn't be a big issue, I may be panicked over nothing but I just feel like he has such an important job, looking after her especially for the first few days!! We have discussed this and he does want to be there for the birth and does agree that he may faint.

Does anyone have any advice and would I be awful for asking him to not be there??

My man just butt dialed me… I said his name a couple of times but he couldn’t hear me. I heard a female voice and then I heard moaning and giggling …and we all can figure out what I was listening to …

I am now pulled over on the side of the road. I’m in San Antonio and I still have a ways to go, I can’t stop sobbing. I feel like my heart‘s just been ripped out of my chest and I’ve been punched in the gut.

I now have this long ass drive back with just my thoughts to keep me company and your podcast of course.

I’ve instantly blocked his number because I can’t deal with this right now

I have to collect myself and still even process what I heard. just yesterday he was talking about how he wants to marry me… it’s so crazy how you can go from loving somebody and thinking how lucky you are and then in an instant that is all gone now the only feeling I feel is nausea, disgust and betrayal..

What would you do in this situation? I welcome jokingly suggestions just to make me smile…. But also a real approach that you may take.

Damn. …