Sorry this isn't incel rage bait. I am not trying to get her to agree to free use or a bang maid or anything like that.
My girlfriend and I were having a discussion about our future. She used the phrase "what do you bring to the table".
I said that my job made our lifestyle possible. That I did my share of the household chores and that I always treated her with respect.
She said that was the bare minimum. She said that she also contributes to our budget. She does. About 10% of our budget is from her. She is in school so she doesn't work much. I didn't care I thought the plan was for her to contribute more once she got a job after she graduated.
Apparently that is not the plan. She wants to be a stay at home mom. To our dogs because we are child free.
So I said that if all she brings to the table is sex then I would expect it all the time. AS A JOKE.
She didn't take it that way. She said that I earn enough for both of us and that she would be doing lots of other stuff for us. That thinking of her as just for sex was demeaning. I asked for examples but she couldn't give any except her half of the chores.
So she would want me to work, support her, and do half the housework in return for what exactly? Watching my dogs?
I said that wasn't going to happen. She could either contribute fairly or we were not going to work because I do not want a bang maid.
I also want to save money. Right now I'm subsidizing her life. So I'm not putting as much into my retirement as I would like.
She said she wasn't serious about staying home but she is angry with me for what I said. I was just trying to make light of what I thought was a ridiculous idea.