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Like yeah they’re misogynists idiots, next. Also, even though I know Ethan and the crew hard core disagree w these guys it’s frustrating to still be subjected to listening to all of their bullshit.

Could literally just be me tho.

Peace and love ❤️

I (26f) am set to give birth in about a week or so. I told my husband (26m) that i wanted my mother in the room with me while i give birth and a few weeks after to help me adjust to motherhood. His mother has always been very over barring and self centered on my option. During our wedding she stayed in our apartment two weeks after we married, took naps in our bed and continuously drank out of all of my “Mrs” glasses. She even wants to steal my mom’s already established grandmother name (she’s been a grandmother for 7 yrs to my brother’s kids). His mother stresses me out and is just too much all the time. My mom is coming to genuinely help me and support me. His mother just wants to come because she’s jealous of my mom. I know if i bring this up to my husband he’s going to get upset and super defensive. So how do i gently bring up that i don’t want his mother around during this time and i just want to be with my mom?

I (26F) have decided not to go to my childhood best friend Sam's (26F) wedding. It may seem harsh, but I am really upset with her. Sam and I have been friends since diapers until about high school when I changed schools but have stayed friendly and see each other several times a year since, our moms were best friends, and we grew up together in the same small town.

Sam started dating Don (30M) a little over a year and a half ago. Don is Sam's first long-term adult relationship, and he is a born-again Christian. Since Sam and Don started dating, he required her to adopt his faith and even get re-confirmed, which is something Sam had never shown interest in before. Don said he wouldn't move in with Sam (even though they have been staying over each other's places the whole relationship) without being married, so now they are getting married in a little over a month.

Sam asked me to be in her bridal party earlier this year, and I said yes because I wanted to be there for her. But since she asked, she has grown increasingly self-centered and mean, which has never been like her.

Last month, my mom died unexpectedly. I'm still very much in the throes of grief. My mom was like Sam's second mom, and when Sam found out a couple of days later, she came to my house and the first words out of her mouth were, "She was so excited about my wedding." I let it slide because I knew it was a shock, but I felt it was a weird thing to say.

Sam's Jack & Jill was the next week, and my mom had made raffle baskets for it. Sam initially said she wanted to keep the baskets for sentimental reasons, and I said she absolutely should. Flash forward to a day before the Jack & Jill, I told her I wasn't ready to see everyone and I wasn't going to make it. Sam told me to bring the baskets and then leave. I told her I thought she was keeping them, but she said she was going to raffle them instead. The baskets were at my mom's house, and it was very raw for me to go there, but Sam insisted I just grab them and bring them anyway. The baskets weren't going to bring in more than $15 with the contents, and I thought the sentimental value would have been worth more, but I just said okay and had my gf (28F) drop them off.

Last week, I texted Sam and asked if it would be possible for my gf to have my mom's seat at the wedding because I can't drive at night and it's going to be hard for me to be there without my mom. When I asked her, I phrased it in a way that there was no pressure for her to make any certain choice, and I didn't know if it was an option because I was in a bit of a bind. For context, her wedding is at a hall where they are bringing all their own chairs and the food is food trucks, so I thought there might be some flexibility.

Sam responded that unfortunately, that's not how it works and my mom's seat was already taken by someone else. She suggested I get an Airbnb or ask to crash with someone. Then she asked if I ordered my dress and went on about her flowers.

I told her I needed some time to process and I'd get back to her. I felt very dismissed and unheard and waited a few days to talk with my therapist to form a response.

Two days later, she texted me that she talked it over with Don and my gf could come. When I responded, I told her I appreciated her accommodating my gf but that her initial response made me feel dismissed. I know my grief is raw right now, but I thought she might have reserved my mom's chair because she died 3 days before the RSVP was due. Side note: I cremated my mom in the dress she was going to wear to the wedding and she was also going to make the wedding cake, all of which Sam knew.

Sam responded and said she was sorry I felt that way but that I was out of line for insinuating she was replacing my mom. She said my mom would want her to be happy on her wedding day and not see an empty chair. She admitted she hadn't reached out because she was busy with school and didn't have the energy. She also said she'd pray for me, which she knows is hurtful because I have religious trauma and that was never something she'd say before getting with Don.

I replied, "I am not upset about your choice; I am upset about how you responded because I felt and still feel dismissed. I explained my rationale, thinking that because my mom was so involved and died so close to the RSVP, her spot was still there. I know my grief influenced my feelings. By no means was I attacking you or your choice. I didn't bring up what my mom would have wanted and wasn't manipulating her memory. I was sharing how your response made me feel and sharing my grief with you as a friend. But you are right, my mom would want you to be happy on your day and not be a reminder of someone you miss. This doesn't change how much I love you or how happy I am for you, but I can't attend because I can't put my grief in a box and just be cheery."

I’m so confused, my boyfriend likes to go around telling people we’re married. He tells his friends “we’re basically married” and tells strangers we’re married. He even bought himself an engagement/ wedding ring!

So with him doing that, I thought he would propose. We just hit our 4 year anniversary and I asked if he was going to propose any time soon. He says “no, not anytime soon. I’m not ready.” I’m confused on why he’s telling people we’re married if he won’t propose to me.

We’ve gone ring shopping together. On a different occasion, I like rings and I like wearing them. One day I went out and bought myself a ring (it had a square center stone kinda looked like an engagement ring). But I buy myself all sorts of rings. Nor do I wear it on my ring finger. It was like $12.

He noticed that ring almost instantly. He kept asking me questions on where I bought it and how much. I thought it was just him being interested in me because I love giving him hauls lol. The very next day, he comes home with a matching silver band.

Now, he tells me to always wear that ring. He makes me wear it on my ring finger while he wears his.

We rarely talk about marriage and if it’s anyone that’s bringing it up it’s me. He genuinely does not care to propose or legally get married. Now you might be asking “why don’t you propose?” I actually have. He said “nah, the girl shouldn’t ask.” It’s not like he rejected my proposal but he brushed it off.

So I’m confused on why he won’t doesn’t want to get married but acts like we’re married.

Title is pretty self explanatory, but Aiden’s solo pod ep was a beautiful masterpiece. I feel (not to be too parasocial) it gave such a wonderful look into who he is as a person and the things he finds important, and how he’s shifted his life to make more room for those things. I don’t think the other three need to do anything even remotely close to the format Aiden chose. I just think it would be an incredible way to get a new viewpoint on them as individuals and allow them to create something uniquely them. As a random viewer I know my opinion holds no weight, but if any of the yard boys read this I think I’m not alone in saying it would be awesome to see a solo ep from the others.