I'm 34F. My husband's,36M, job requires him to stay away from home for weeks, even months because of traveling.

I had found out I was pregnant when he was away for a month already. I thought he would be very happy, we were trying for a baby and he has always wanted to be a father. But he didn't say anything. After a week or so when he came back he was furious at me.

When he had gone for the trip, the next day one of my old highschool friends, who is a photographer now, came to the town for some reason. He wanted me to show him around the town so he could snap some pics, he had said it's not for work but the town looks good, he might be able to make some good stuff out of it. I was very happy to see him, he's not a easy person to get a hold of. I drove him around the whole day. I had hugged him before he was going back.

Someone had snapped a picture of that time and had sent to my husband. Later I found out it was his aunt, she is one lazy, single and bitter woman. She puts her nose in everything.

So this is what happened when he was on his trip. The day he came back, he was furious at me. He said I was cheating on him. I told explained everything but he didn't believe me. I had also tried to contact my friend but he had disappeared again. Husband's aunt came to our house and said that the authentic necklace my friend gifted me was "prove that I was selling myself to rich guys behind his back". This caused a big fight with her and me. I told him it's not like that at all. It's probably not even very expensive from the country he bought it, it's just a souvenir. I'm not cheating on him.

At the end, no one believed me. My husband kicked me out of the house. I was a crying mess by then. I requested him to let me stay the night, it was going to be dark soon. He said he's sure the baby isn't his, he wasn't with me for a month. He can't see me right now. And I will be getting the divorce papers soon too. With that he had pushed me out, I had seriously thought I was going to fall and get hurt. My parents were out of town, I didn't have any trusted friends in the town whom I could stay the night with. I didn't have any money on me at the time either. He knew all these but still closed the door at my face.I called my brother who lived in the other town. He drove 4 hours straight. I was sitting on my house door this whole time, in the cold. He ignored me this whole time. When my brother reached there, he looked really angry. He might have done something to my husband if I hadn't pulled him away saying I was really cold and need to get somewhere to stay asap.

After that husband went totally nc with me and my family members. I could only get a hold of him through his coworker Ali. But he told him that he just needs some space "to heal". He didn't ask about me throughout the whole pregnancy. But he did make posts about "his wife cheating on him" on FB and posted pictures with random girls. I don't know who they are, he never answered my texts or calls.

He wasn't there at the birth of my boy. He didn't come even after 3 days, even though I made sure to inform him. My brother had to go to his house and bring him. Then they did a paternity test and "surprisingly" it's his, who could have known!!!!!!!!!!

He's apologizing since then. I haven't shown him the baby yet, I don't think I would. He's saying he made a mistake, he really loves me. He will make up to me. I told him I'm not buying it. He says I can't keep him baby from him, it's his baby, he has a right to see it. I'm the AH for keeping his baby from him. Am I?

For a long time I've been working as a professional sexter, handling several OF accounts where I have to pretend I'm the model, not only I've woked as independent but also in agencies, just last month I made close to 10.000$ (for the agency ) talking to men all over the world who would have the model as a GF, slave or dominant amongst others.

Edit: please don't ask me how to get this job.

My parents aren't together but they shared custody of me (26m) while I was growing up. Dad is my bio dad. Mom is my adoptive mom. She and my dad met when I was only a baby and she adopted me when I was 18 months old. The woman who gave birth to me didn't want me and dad was alone with me until he met mom. I never had a relationship with my birth giver and I never considered her my mother or one of my moms. I have one mom and she's all I ever needed in a mom.

My dad met his wife when I was 6, she moved in with him when I was 7 and they got married when I was 8. I never liked her. She tried to be close to me but she did so by also being dismissive of my mom. She made it sound like I should discard mom and let her (dad's wife) be my new mom since neither were bio related to me. She told me it was better for kids to have their parents together and I couldn't be too attached to my mom given she didn't give birth to me or breastfeed me. I was always cold and distant with my dad's wife. I can be civil but I never let her in and I never considered her a part of my family. I merely tolerate her existence and her presence. She never stopped trying to get her own place in my life as a mom but it never happened. She's not my mom and if my dad died tomorrow or she and dad divorced, I would cut her from my life so fast her head would spin. I have never hid the fact I feel this way either. I have also called her out before for minimizing my mom's role in my life.

As an adult I don't see her very often which works great for me. But now I'm getting married and she decided she's going to try and be one of the "mom's of the groom". I told her it wasn't happening and then she flipped when she found out my mom and I were doing a mother/son dance. She insisted I needed to dance with the two moms who would be at my wedding. I told her I was dancing with my only mom. She argued that I have three and two of them raised me and those two should be treated equally since one isn't more to me than the other. My very strong reply was that there are no other mom's and my mom has been my one and only mom raising me since I was 6 months old and that her attitude about my mom is exactly why she was never considered "one of the moms" or a mother figure at all. I told her she had not earned and was not deserving a dance and to get the fuck over herself.

It seems this is the first time she realized I don't love or care about her at all. And she cried to my dad. Both of them think I was cruel and needlessly harsh when all she ever did was try to love me.

AITA?

My daughter and I move to another country a few months ago. It's exactly on the other side of the world from where we used to live, that means that the time difference is almost 12 hours.

This has caused many problems with communication between my daughter and her mom. They can't agree on when she should call my daughter.

My daughter has told her that calling her at 9pm in our time would be good for both of them since it will be 9am in their time but my ex claims that she can't call at that time because she has a baby and a toddler who wake up at around 8-9 so she is too busy to call.

My ex thinks she should be able to call at 5pm at their time which will be 5am at our time. I told her absolutely not since my daughter needs a good nights sleep and I won't wake her up at 5am. Also my daughter loves her sleep and she doesn't want to wake up any sooner than she has to.

Now my ex thinks I'm an asshole for "keeping my daughter away from her"

She claims I "stole" her and took her to another country and now I won't even let them talk.

I will be quick. My daughter is in third grade and she tried out for the talent show. It is the end of the year show. In short she didn’t get in. The school is too big and if they let everyone in everyone would be there for hours. She was very upset about it and had been crying.

My wife wants me to fight the school and get her into the talent show. I told her no and this started an argument. I think it’s good for kids to face failure and she thinks I am heartless.

I told her she can do what she wants but I will not back her up on this.

I (30sM) with 3 kids and ex-GF (30sF) with 1 kid recently broke up.

We had dated for almost 3 years. We had been learning to function as a blended family. I own my home and she rents, but she'd stay over every weekend and the entire summer. I thought everything had been solid. But looking back at it all, it wasn't.

Her belief in parenting is opposite of mine. She believes kids shouldn't be punished as you got to look at their heart. My belief is, if the child's does something bad, they should be punished.

My ex's child is completely out of control. She spits at her mom and my kids, talks back, punched and kicked her mother when she doesn't get what she wants, tells her mother "I hate you" and "shut up" if she doesn't get her way, and falls on the ground screaming in public and private (literally for an hour) until her mother buys her what she wants. For the latter, towards the end of the relationship I would take my kids and either leave or go elsewhere ad I was embarrassed.

My ex-GFs punishment? Giving her daughter a hug while the daughter screams "get off of me" and kicking her in the stomach and slapping her. My ex would say, "she doesn't know how to calm herself down. Her heart is good because she just wants the item." Or, "it's not her fault. I spoiled her," as she buys what her daughter demanded. This annoyed me.

Her child is 5 and mine are all under 10. I've mentioned to her that this behavior was not good because it'll eventually carry over into school. She said it wouldn't happen in school, so I let it go.

But, in my opinion it's obviously not working. In addition, it's teaching her to be violent to get what she wants, which results in jail/prison time as an adult.

My oldest has some mental health issues and I've been working with her therapist to help her. Unfortunately, she has an at-home stealing, lying, and peeing problem. But at school, she's on honor roll, I'm confused. Over the weekend, she somehow found my hidden energy drinks (I should've kept them in my room, but I'm wean myself off of them.) She drunk several of them and hid the cans in my guest room.

I found them and told her how dangerous it was to do that and said that she's grounded. The next day my ex woke me up and said "I don't like how you dealt with your oldest. I think maybe we should break up." In the past she said that I was too strict. As an example, during our mild winter her daugher walked and stomped on a frozen pound on my yard. I told her not to do this as it's extremely dangerous. I did not raise my voice nor was I angry, I was worried for her safety. By the ex said that's too strict. I asked how and her response was something along the lines of letting kids experiment. I wanted to say, with death?

I was confused after she mentioned breaking up as I had just woken up. I said, "Okay." She asked if I had anything more to say and I said that we have a difference in parenting, so it is what it is I guess, and that I just need my keys and hoodie back. She also said that she loved me and hoped that we could still text, I told her no. I then went back to bed after receiving the items and making sure she left. I could tell that she was hoping that I'd put up a bigger fight as she looked disappointed when leaving.

I still care about her, but then started thinking deeper about her actions:

1. She refused to work and said maybe in 10 years she'd be ready. I've discussed before thay I cannot support 2 additional bodies financially. She's used to staying at home, getting assistance and child support, and doesn't want to work in an office.

2. She doesn't help clean. Her house is a mess and always said that she has to learn how to clean. But it was always left to my kids and I. Her child obviously threw a fit when I asked her to help clean her mess.

3. On 2 occasions she punched me when she got drunk. She admitted to having a drinking issue and I tossed all alcohol in my house after the 2nd incident months ago.

As I look back, I realize that this probably wasn't a healthy relationship. I apologized to my kids for allowing all of this to occur. I vented to my parents and they said that disciplining your own daughter for bad behavior is always fine. They mentioned that she wasn't the one for me.

But, I'm open to hearing what others believe. I know that physical violence is not acceptable, and I've told her this as well. She was very apologetic. But, it did make me nervous.

I will be as clear as possible. If you have any questions please use an info, also on phone.

My sons and DILs wedding is at the end of the June. Originally they were tight on money and were upset over the price of flowers. It wasn’t in their budget and they had a very specific image. I looked at prices for what they wanted and it was out of my own budget.

I instead offered to do what they wanted with fake flowers. They agreed and sent over images for me to use. I have spent over 500 buying all the stuff and my own time. They turned out great in my opinion.

I got a call about two week ago, that they won’t need them anymore and that they have the money to have real flowers. That they already booked it. So in short all my time was for nothing.

My daughter was over and commented how cute the flowers were. She asked if I could make her some for her baby shower. I explained what happened and told her she can have them.

Her baby shower was over the weekend and she used the flowers on the tables. It was a nice event. After my son and DIL came up and we got into an arguement. They think I am a jerk for using their flowers for someone else’s event and now everyone will think they copied my daughter for their wedding.

My point was I can give them away to whoever and I don’t think it is a big deal since they were used. That instead of me throwing them out, someone got to use them.

AITA?

I broke up with my ex when she got pregnant. The reason being we didn't have sex for fifteen weeks. I work for six weeks, then I get three weeks off. During the three weeks I was home we didn't have sex. My grandfather had passed away so I went out to my grandma's house to help her. So there was a period of fifteen weeks where any kid she got pregnant with was not mine. I was home for five days of those three weeks but we didn't have sex. Just making sure that everyone understands before they comment.

She didn't tell our friends and family that information though. So they all thought I was just an irresponsible asshole who knocked her up and ran away.

On the off chance that she got pregnant before those fifteen weeks and she just didn't know I said that I would agree to get back together and pay child support if it was mine. She said she didn't want me back just child support. So be it. I understand how evil I would be if I was wrong.

I was not.

Baby boy was born after the right amount of pregnancy for it to have happened while I was not the father.

A bunch of our friends and family are insisting that I should pay child support because we were together when she got pregnant.

She even tried taking me to court. I just paid a lawyer to deal with her. I'm not the father, we weren't living together, I'm not on the birth certificate, this is not my problem.

She is going around crying to people that I am a monster for leaving her like this. That she would never have had the baby if she had known I wouldn't stick around to help. Blah blah blah.

Most people are on my side now. But not my mom, my sister, one of my aunts, and several friends.

So I made a public Facebook post. I said that everyone who thought I should pay child support could sign a contract stating that they would help pay the child support and I would match whatever they paid. But it had to be a legal contract and it had to be for eighteen years. Nobody signed up. I posted screenshots of messages I had gotten from all of them saying that I needed to step up.

I got blocked a lot. My sister, who is friends with my ex, said I was an asshole for expecting other people to pay child support for a kid that wasn't theirs. I took a screenshot of that message and it is the header of my profile on Facebook.

My sister blocked me. My mom finally understands that I am not willing to throw away money. She is just sad because my ex is her friend's daughter.

This whole thing made me come off as an ass but I don't think I'm the asshole for pointing out their hypocrisy.

EDIT

When I say "I was not" I meant that we got a paternity test and proved I am not the father. I didn't just go by time or anything like that.

I didn't know that she was married.

I started writing like a thousand paragraphs but I can and will boil it down to the essentials.

We met at a bar in my city that is an old school pick up joint. On Thursdays they do free salsa lessons and there are always a lot of women there. I'm actually from Colombia so I go for fun.

I live downtown so we would just go to my place. I work out of town so I don't need much. There wouldn't be room for two people there. To live. Lots of room for other stuff. She said she lived with her sister and her sister's kids so we never went to her place.

She always took my calls and texted me back right away. It didn't seem like she was trying to hide me.

I found out from a friend that she is married and lives with her husband in a town just south of my city. We work in the same industry and he works with a friend of mine. I have actually worked with him before. In my job I work at different petrochemical extraction and refining plants. So over the course of my career I have worked with thousands of guys. No exaggeration. He works in the head office now so I guess she thought I would never run into him.

I debated about it and contacted him. I apologized for it and proved I wasn't lying to fuck with him or anything. No revenge porn or anything. Just screenshots of texts and such.

She called me screaming that I ruined her life. That she wasn't hurting me and that it wasn't my place to interfere. She blocked me after she ran herself down.

My buddies all think I'm an idiot for getting involved. They think I should either continue just what we were doing or broken up with her and let her go on with her life. None of them think I should have contacted her husband.

I (28f) recently went out with a few friends and some of their friends. Eventually we were discussing where to get food. I suggested a few places like pizza, Chinese, sushi, Korean, etc. People gave opinions, like they were/weren't feeling XYZ or they have certain allergies. This one girl, Abbie, never spoke up even when I specifically asked her. I didn't know her well but wanted to include her, but she would just mumble and not give a definitive answer. Eventually we settled on korean food.

There were few people in the group who weren't too familiar with the food so I explained the menu. Everyone seemed to enjoy the food and I thought that was that.

Towards the end of the meal, Abbie started whining about the food. She didn't like this, she didn't like that, she was unfamiliar with the food, she couldn't even "choose" the restaurant. Few people reminded her that I specifically asked her where she wanted to eat and it was a group consensus. (Just for the record, I'm an introvert but can be very opinionated and can speak up for myself.)

I asked Abbie why she didn't speak up earlier and she responded she didn't want to upset anyone. My tone turned harsher and said "well you could've said something earlier instead of whining and causing a scene now. Why bring it up at the end of it if you didn't want to cause trouble?"

Abbie's face turned red as she got up, paid, and left.

AITA for embarrassing her?

My wife and I(34) have three children ages 7, 4 a 9 month old. I work a demanding job(in the medical field) and work many many hours, my wife not so much but she does have night shifts often. We just got a new babysitter a few months ago after our one we had for 2 years moved for college. Our new babysitter is only 16, but she had been babysitting one of my coworkers children for awhile and I trust him.

A few nights ago my wife and I were both working nights and I saw on the camera that our babysitter was asleep on the couch and the baby had woken up was crying for almost 30 minutes while she slept. That bothered me, so without talking to my wife when I got home in the morning I had told my babysitter maybe she should set alarms throughout the night to make sure she’s awake since the baby monitor didn’t wake her and that it was not okay for her to leave the baby crying like that.

I guess it hurt the kids feelings because she mentioned it to my wife and my wife is really upset with me because “she’s only 16” and what I was asking is unreasonable and that this has never happened before so again I’m being unreasonable and that I should’ve talked to her first because this could’ve been a “learning experience.” She also said I was completely out of line as well. I’m really not worried about a learning experience but am worried about the fact if my children are cared for properly. Aita?

I live in India and we have amazing mangoes. For me, no sweet dish can taste better than these fruits. They're so tasty and refreshing. I can make a milkshake, eat then with different things, cold. Why don't more people worldwide eat more fruit especially ones like mangoes.

Fruits are amazing for sweet cravings and even filling you up. They can help people loose weight, they're so cheap (atleast here in India) and healthy.

So what do you think is the reason behind this, is this even true, are they underrated and If so then why?

I'll try to summarize this as short as i can. My boyfriend Kyle (26M) has recently been obsessed with Andrew Tate watching all of his podcasts, following a bunch of tate pages, almost all IG reels are something to do with Tate. Ever since i noticed this start to happen he began questioning my past and calling me out on certain things claiming i'm not wifey material.

For reference, he asked about my body count and i said it was 16. According to him that's way too high and is likely to cause issues during marriage. I called him out and said none of this was an issue before you started watching andrew tate and told him to stop watching this stuff, he got all offended then called me a whore for trying to put the blame on him.

Now we're not talking and im not even sure i wanna keep dating this guy. My bodycount might be high but that doesn't make me a whore, most of those were from relationships and i had a phase in school for like 6 months as do most other girls.

Firstly, thank you to everyone for all of the advice, suggestions, and overall support. I wasn't sure I would update on the situation, as it seemed like something that would be an ongoing discussion. However, I guess this update post is in fact nothing to do with the issue of private school.

After reading comments and doing some reflection, I initiated a conversation with him to discuss everything. I once again suggested decreasing child support and alimony and paying together. But I also brought up how unfair it feels that he and his ex have teamed up against me in this situation, and I do not feel that we have been behaving as a partnership. I brought up my grievances regarding feeling used and unappreciated, and how he treats my twins being unacceptable. I voiced my desire for us to have time apart and get into therapy, saying that I needed some space to think as I was unhappy with the effect this was having on the children. I won't rehash the entire argument but after talking about how I feel his relationship with his ex was inappropriate and crossed some boundaries, I was made aware that he and his ex have slept together multiple times during our relationship. I don't have much else to say, I feel completely numb. I have asked him to leave (the house is mine, before I get comments), and I am talking to a divorce lawyer. For those who asked, I do have a prenup and we have only been married for just over a year. He swears that it was a mistake and he regrets it, that he loves me and wants to be with me. According to him it "just happened" and I should be more understanding that they have a history together and he didn't mean anything to happen.

I don't know that I will be replying to any comments or updating anymore as there is nothing left to say. I need time and space to heal and to work on being the best mother I can be. I am feeling probably every emotion possible right now. I feel like a complete failure. I have a lot to figure out, especially as we have a baby together. He hasn't asked to see his daughter, or step kids since leaving, despite me reaching out to ask if he wants to see our daughter.

Once again, thank you for all the initial support I received.

Been seeing this woman for 2 years (she’s 40 , i’m 43). She lives long distance so I fly to go see her as much as I can (3x a year). We were planning on getting more serious and possibly moving in together later this year. The last time we met, we spent the majority of the time with her 3 kids (it had only been just me and her dating up until then). She struggles financially to make ends meet with 3 kids so I’ve always volunteered to pay when going out to eat.

As the week progressed, I noticed that she was allowing her kids (the 6 and 9 year old) to order full blown adult plates fully knowing that they would not finish the entire meal (they do not take left overs home, either). We also later pulled up to a Starbucks and she asked them what they wanted and they all said a large drink. I, of course, paid. They took a few sips from their drink and told her they didn’t want it anymore. All of this didnt sit well with me, since I was raised to only order what I would finish and to just not be wasteful with food, especially when going out to eat (I also have 2 girls of my own from a previous relationship, which I raised this way).

Once I flew back home, after a few days I told her I was bothered by the fact that she was not being mindful of my money by not setting boundaries with her children and allowing them to just order knowing that they will likely just waste good food and my money. She got very offended and said she couldn’t believe I was bringing up the issue of money and her kids and that I was somehow trying to humiliate her. I told her I apologize if you took offense about your children and the dinner topic; I said its not an issue about money but rather about my own principles. She went silent for a day and then broke up w/ me over the phone saying we were not compatible and some other generic excuse.

I thought to myself afterwards that maybe I shouldn’t be forcing my view of things on to her, and decide on my own if I want to continue being with her without making her feel bad.

AITAH? Since she technically broke up with me, and am now the dumpee, is it better to go no contact (currently on week 3 of that) or should I break NC and make another attempt at a sincere apology? I really do love and miss her, but part of me thinks I’m the AH and the other part of me thinks that I am right for bringing up some behaviors that I believe need correcting.