despairingmum

I said in the post that my husband only began intensicely drinking after our son cut off contact amd before that he rarely drank and even when ge did, almost never got drunk. Our son had a different 'reason' for cutting us off - he was autistic and refused to accept that and was angry at us providing help. I can absolutely understand why my husband resorted to drinking - imagine raising a special needs child for 18 years and doing everything you can to provide help and accomodations and then they apply to university without telling you, cut you off and leave an sngry goodbye letter in which they tell you how much they hate you.

Emotionally. Like I already said, our son cut us off (which caused my husband's drinking problem) and eventually killed himself, our other children blame us for his suicide, and then our daughter did as well. I only have our son (and even he only talks to us maybe twice a month) and my husband left.

Two of our three kids have cut off contact to us (for reasons unrelated to the drinking problem), one of them (the one mentioned in the post) eventually committed suicide and the one that still talk to us only does so rarely (around twice a month), I can't afford to lose my husband too.

Yes, unfortunately. They even blame us for him committing suicide, which doesn't make sense, as it happened when he has already been no contwct with us for over a year.

It's really not a 'poor excuse'. We did everything we could to help him and he refused it and told us that he didn't want it and then he not only went off to university and cut off contact, but he didn't even tell us that he applied to and got accepted into university. And on top of that, our other chilren blamed US and said that it's understandable that he vut us off.