Follow these steps:
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Stop caring. Who fkn cares? Half the mfers in relationships aren’t even happy. Find a hobby you like, focus on that, not on what you don’t have bc a relationship ain’t all that.
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Get off the dating apps, stop watching corn, we’re focusing on ourselves rn
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Make yourself hot TO YOU. If you don’t find yourself hot, you lack confidence in yourself, who else would find you hot? Maybe go to the gym, see a dermatologist, read a book, style your hair daily, put on some blush (you too men), fix your teeth. When you look in the mirror, you should be able to see yourself as hot. This step may require money
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Work on your wack ass personality. Take some notes from a Trader Joe’s employee.
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Leave your fkn house. When you look good, just go on a walk where you know people are. Go get a coffee and sit in the cafe while you drink it. Just exist in public.
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Make a new FRIEND. Practice your new personality on someone you’re not interested in dating.
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Make little romances with your FRIENDS. Go on friend dates. Guys too! Call your friend up and ask if they want to go grab dinner and actually talk to them, make a dumb video on your phone, take pics with your friends, go to six flags or whatever. Hang with your friends.
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Flirt a LITTLE BIT with everybody. Ask a waiter what their favorite thing on the menu is and order that. Be open, smile, walk with confidence: shoulders back, head up. Compliment strangers and keep it pushing, don’t hang around. Walk past someone at the grocery store, “I like your shirt” and keep walking. Compliment your friends “you look good today” and keep it pushing. Don’t linger. Just say it and move on in the conversation. Smile bro. Say hi to a cashier and smile. Make eye contact. I was at a museum the other day, I was waiting on my friend when this old couple sat next to me, I started talking with both of them. They loved it because they got to talk about themselves
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Listen to people when they talk, actually engage in conversations. Don’t think about what you’re about to say, just listen. Let them yap.
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Make them feel good. While you’re listening to them they’ll tell you how they want to be treated. Try to make them feel welcome/comfortable/ happy/special.
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When you do pursue someone, start slow. Again, compliment and keep it pushing. If you’re talking to someone about a restaurant or event or something say “when are we going?” Or if yall are talking about what they can cook, “I’d love to try it sometime” If you’re talking about family or friends “haha your mom sounds cool, I want to meet her haha” “We should hang out sometime.” Small things that imply you would see them again.
Tip:
Approach everyone with a neutral pov. You’re not into this person you just met. Be cool. Act the same way around everyone.
Pretend you’re a famous person on a late night talk show. Usually charming, funny, confident in themselves, authentic.
Care about what people think of you, but not too much. In general, get people to like you by being cool and nice.
Don’t be mean.
Edit: I’m neurotypical. people with autism or mental health issues: take what you can and keep it pushing.