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The person I coach is struggling with expressing feelings. Their strategy is saying - “my partner is not showing compassion for me, but thats not my problem thats his� But, you’re saying you don’t care, and keep talking about it - obviously you do care. what should I do to encourage them to dive into their feelings?

Apols if I have missed a trick but is there an easy audiobook to listen to?

I know the fundamentals of NLP can help with interviews & such but is there a book specifically dedicated to interview that you’ve read? Really trying to improve my interview game & focus on that. Thanks!

Hello,

I am a day trader and have problems sticking to my strategy.

Can NLP help me?

Thanks in advance !

Every day, I woke up feeling depressed, believing that my life was terrible and wondering if it might be better if it all just ended. I would get caught up in a spiral of negative thoughts that made it hard to get out of bed and pursue my goals. I felt like nothing mattered. But the truth is, it does matter. My thoughts were distorted, and I didn’t know how to regulate this side of myself. However, by using this technique, along with many other incredible methods, I’ve been able to overcome this distorted thinking. Now, I operate from a place of elevated emotions and focus on taking action towards my goals with clear intentions.

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🪜HOW TO USE THE LADDER TECHNIQUE🪜

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1. Write down the limiting thought and rate it from 0-5 based on how much you believe it to be true.

2. Write down the positive thought you desire and rate it from 0-5 based on how much you believe it to be true.

3. Then create a thought ladder of new positive thoughts that are more believable until you get to the desired thought and truly believe it to be true.

🪜Example of Thought Ladder🪜

• Current Thought: "I'm not good at public speaking." (4-5 belief)

• Goal Thought: "I am a confident and effective public speaker." (1-5 belief)

🪜Ladder Thoughts🪜

1. "It's normal to feel nervous about public speaking."

2. "I have spoken in front of small groups successfully before."

3. "I can practice and improve my public speaking skills."

4. "I have prepared well and know my material."

5. "I am getting better at public speaking with each opportunity."

6. "People have told me I have a good speaking voice."

7. "I am feeling more confident in my public speaking abilities."

8. "I can captivate an audience with my words and ideas."

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Whenever you find yourself spiraling into a specific negative thought pattern, take a moment to write down your ‘thought ladder’ and then gradually repeat these new, elevated thoughts until they resonate as true within you. You only need to write them down once, as this process will help you memorize them. Remember, feeling is the secret. You must truly feel the emotions connected to the thoughts you are affirming. Don’t simply repeat them robotically; imbue them with genuine emotion, as this is key to making meaningful changes.

Love so much,

Deahna xx🦋

How do you deal with/counter attack when you see and know for sure the toher person is using emotional manipulation and nlp on you? Any advise on how to keep myself emotionally stable and focused on my agenda without deviation or losing my cool? Thank you, in advance.

General idea is using conversation (in text, and/or video, and/or with audio) and analysis methods to identify "thought-loops" and behavioural patterns. LLM will take note, compile data, change it's conversation style as a therapist would with a patient to implement techniques to cultivate a self-guided, self-actualization-based theraputic model based on NLP study and Forensic study.

Will only say anything with more detail to those I trust or who seriously want to work on this, but will respond to anything I can with as much detail as I can permit without someone potentiaally being able to steal my idea!

HI!

I pretty much said it all in the title, but i'd really like to experience NLP for myself and not which modality or practitioner to try first. I mean, i know there are book and courses, and i know a bit about from people like David Snyder, but it terms of something i can try myself, what you recommend?

Ideally free if possible. I have Everand for books btw, and have a few books saved on there already.

Cheers!

I apologize if the title is too provocative

I am looking to cut back on masturbation and I am trying to really understand the underlying drivers of why I masturbate even when I don't feel the strong need to do so.

I believe many times I masturbate due to a kinesthetic trigger. I am trying to observe my behavior, mental state and mood prior to masturbating so I can have more insights.

I have heard of trying to visualize myself as my post-masturbation version (disappointed, guilty, ashamed) and "swish" that with the version I want (clear headed, disciplined, sublimates wasted sexual energy productively)

What are other techniques I can use to really break this embarrassing habit?

I have some items from the very early days of NLP. They are just gathering dust in my garage. I do not know what to do with them--sell them? Donate them to a university that has an archive of NLP stuff? Toss them out? The items include an autographed first edition of The Structure of Magic I from the release party held by Science and Behavior Books. A pre-publication copy of the book--the original xerox version that is spiral bound. A copy of an unfinished unpublished book by John Grinder, Claudia Carr and Dean Boyd--The Political Economy of the U.S. It applies cybernetic theory to radical politics. I also have a bunch of audio cassettes from the 1970's. I have no idea if the recordings are still audible. One is from the therapist training group session at Jim Eicher's house where John and Rich first introduced the concept of Neuro-Linguistic Programming. There are also a lot from the first NLP conference in Michigan. Finally, there is a copy of pretty much every published article--academic, magazine, and newspaper--about NLP from its founding until the early 1980's. Any suggestions?

I read somewhere that this helped someone become securely attached? Where can I find the meditations?

Hi all. Since testimonials and stories are a really powerful method of learning, does anyone have any cool or inspiring stories of seeing NLP being skilfully used in action? Whether you saw sleight of mouth being used, to seeing change work being done, whatever it is, I’d love to read it!

Allow me before defining this question more precisely, please, to elaborate on my motives to oppose the potential perception that I am only trying to take shots against NLP for my own amusement (which to be honest was my intention in coming to this sub but has since transformed into actual interest):

I first heard of NLP back when I was studying comparative linguistics from my then girlfriend who was much more interested in neurolinguistics than I was. My favorite part of the field was sociolinguistics in case you care to know. She described it to me as half cult half scam based on retracted works of Noam Chomsky and as her father was an acclaimed NLP instructor in her home town and beyond, I figured that she knowing more about neurolinguistics than me probably meant that she was right. Meeting her father also showed me that he did not have the argumentative power she had and which frankly were a reason I fell in love with her at the time. I was used to bring the most eloquent person in the room and to be the best versed in the art of verbal manipulation back then (amongst first school kids and then students) and people who could overpower me in an argument were absolutely special to me as I felt I could learn from them like normally I couldn't any further. Her father was also a vitalizingly challenging opponent to debate and charming about it too but he was nowhere her level of convincing.

So, my view on NLP was extremely biased. Today, many years later, I know that while she was absolutely convicing, she still also was wrong about some things. Mainly, she was an agnostic. Not an atheist. She believed that there were no higher power and that somehow imaginary constructs that billions of people attribute power over themselves to, that they still were nonexistent and definitely not bigger powers than a single human. She actually convinced me of that until we split but of course, it's absolute nonsense. There is a lot of unknowns about the powers standing over us but neither the power of imagination nor the power of faith are amongst those. We know both exist and play major roles in how the future of humanity unvolves. I should also have known this but she had an almost magical power when she spoke...

Around a decade aftet our split, I have been hit heavy bx fate more often than I can count and I learnt more than I imagined I ever could in a life time. Blessed be the power of simply allowing your universe to be expanded... I also overcame dogma in literal thousands of instances. I spent five years mentally moving deeply into the cognitive realms of witchcraft, occultism, etc to study and compare before returning a changed person with understanding beyond words. I have seen linguistic programming being used on the level of the whole anglosphere - but I somehow kept telling myself that NLP was not real based on really only my opinion that it isn't actually related to neurolinguistic but that instead all of NLP was psycholinguistics and that it was all faulty. I didn't even have an argument for the latter. It was clearly my mind being scared of the implications of there being real methods to (ignoring ethics here) to influence people's thoughts without them noticing. Today I see that protective mechanism and i know that pretending this can't work only protected a vulnerable spot in my psyche while acceptance of these basic facts has allowed me to get to where I would claim to at the very least have a fighting chance.

So, my question is: Where on the scale between ineffective scam and full mind control is NLP today?

I hope it's okay if I list a few features / milestones that I specifically wonder about:

As the name includes programming, do you also use modern algorithmics to bundle brainpower subconsciously? If so then how does NLP prevent identity lapovers within the users' consciousness?

Can you mentally communicate in clear text? I assume not but asking never hurts.

What is the level of automation and networking in NLP?

During consciousness takeovers, how do you safeguard the target's boundaries not being broken? I'm asking specifically because I am still struggling to detect with certainty at which point subconscious agreement ends and orders are executed only anymore based on automatisms and fears? I'm not saying that control over the latter doesn't have its right place too but I'm speaking more on the level of taking over someone's mind to calm them down when they're having a panic where you want to be minimally invasive for example. Or like when you work on a friend's psyche and you take their alpha status to push something beyond their boundaries. It's always a matter of additional communication that in a bigger application can't be guaranteed - or can it?

Is there any ethical binding involved in NLP? Like for example adhering to the 2021 rules of unity which many faith-based systems use to define a moral baseline. In other words: Can NLP be used to enable sexual and otherwise especially bad crimes or is it like a gun in that everyone best be armed to level the playing field?

Can you edit and delete memories in a target?

How far do you go with self-hypnosis?

Is NLP text only or does it also include visualization techniques and imaginary ritualism?

Can it be used without major trauma? (This might sound weird but some systems are encoded through specific trauma reactions one needs to experience in order to be able to learn using them. I assume it's not a trait of NLP but I want to be certain because I want no further trauma.)

How does the NLP community stand towards faith based neurolinguistic exploits like for example defining the communicated source of an information to match the characteristic of that God idea where God's ways don't make any sense to humans?

How far does "NLP" extend beyond linguistics? Are there storytelling techniques too, like establishing certain ideas while seemongly drifting off for only ever just a few sentence to later trigger a short break in conscious processing and anchor those earlier mentioned things as deep facts and from then on reference them to strengthen arguments?

I guess it all comes down to this:

Where does NLP set the boundaries?

I know that most of the things I mentioned can be achieved under certain conditions. I imagine that being true for fully verbal telepathic communication, too. It's likely just a matter of widening the bandwidth between the individuals to be able to send full text instead of emotional impulses. Regardless, many of these things come at very high prices (often involving traumatic experiences but by far not limited to that) and the rest usually is very challenging to people's imagination of what is possible and what isn't.

I understand of course that NLP is not a form of magick but rather a framework to improve communication - just, improvement can be many things based on perspective. Someone smart and rich might consider it a valuable improvement if something allows them to control those who are poor and just mildly intelligent or beyond that. Those on the other hand would not. So, what exactly is the ethical line of NLP?

Also: Is there any "do no harm" or "only do as much harm as you truly have to" rule? Or is just everything fair game maybe? I'm not judging, just asking!

And is there an anti-capitalist version of NLP or is it always gated with money?

I think that's more than enough questions for now. I thank you foe reading them all and I hope you find it in you to answer those you know the answer to. Thank you in advance.

Sincerely, Freyja

Happy Sunday guys,

Any book recommendations for Advanced NLP? Thank you in advanced

I used to listen to this NLP Audio like 10-15 years ago. I believe it was self-hypnosis/guided hypnosis mp3. There is a narrator throughout the audio. First he helps you relax part by part, asks you to lie down in a place where you won't have to move. Then there is a story about a shaman (with lots of background drums). I do not remember the story, but once when the story is over, he counts in reverse (I guess) and brings you back to the reality, here and now.

Apologies if the details are not enough. I would be very very thankful if someone knows and can suggest me what this could be. It was a lifesaver a decade ago. Going through some rough times now, and would like to hear this audio!

if so did they help please share

Thanks

So I am new into NLP, I have studied a bit of psychology. I suspect that when you meet a known person and when you say farewell / goodbye to that person is very important for anchoring, is that true ?

Example : first thing you do when you meet that person

Last thing you do when you say goodbye to that person

In my theory this creates a greater impact for brain... memory (first memory of seeing me, last memory of seeing me) is that true ? can you show examples from NLP ?

Thank you

Brief description with what I've been struggling with:
a weakened circulatory system due to covid has caused me to develop lightheadedness, brain fog, and instances of almost passing out.

Because of this, when I would almost lose consciousness, I would have a panic attack and my heart-rate would shoot up. This probably helped me to not pass out, but it has probably caused another issue.

Now it seems that my body reacts like that whenever I'm losing consciousness to go to sleep. I haven't had proper sleep in so many months. its causing so much stress on my already weakened heart.

If anyone has overcome something like this, please comment with your experience. Thank you

Updating and moving the Nietzsche Explains NLP website to:

Here is the new entry for belief.