This boy and I have been talking for a while. The other day we had a situation and I stopped talking to him for a bit, but now we began talking again, which I warned him if he ever did what he did again that was his last chance and I'd never talk to him again. Anyway, we were on the phone today and he was saying that he was gonna k1ll me. I wanna clarify we're both POC so we make jokes about racism, drugs, etc. But he was saying like "I would've killed you if nobody was around" (we're in school) and he described how he would've done it. He said he would've told me to come outside the school, and he would have a rope and a knife and he would've k1lled me. He also said "if i can't have you nobody can, which is why i have to k1ll you" is this a red flag or just a boy talking?
Obviously I hate it. To me I think it’s over dramatic of him to care so much about my appearance. For example he doesn’t like me dying my hair cause it has sometimes been unexpecting colors or overtime my hair got a tiny bit damage from it. Honestly I had great experiences I made new friends with it and overall my hair is back to its regular color. He liked it when it was black a lot but now that I want it black again he was telling me no lol.
Then today he picked me up and we were holding hands he just said I’m really pale and need to tan. It got me upset because it was something so little to me that was just weird of him to say. I mentioned it later on text and he just said it’s because I use self tanner and I’m insecure on it so I should rather sunbathe . But he says that all cause I self tanned on prom night . It can be other things but these are the main two I don’t like.