A subreddit dedicated to HELLDIVERS and HELLDIVERS 2, intense co-op shooters set in a satirical dystopian future where you play as one of mankind's elite soldiers determined to spread managed democracy. Developed by Arrowhead Game Studios.
this is a community like r/AmITheAsshole except unlike that subreddit here you can post interpersonal conflicts, anything that's AITA but is not allowed there even posting about Scar from the lion king and trying to convince redditors that he was not the AH. rules: don't berate others and no pornography we have children here
Since the birth of our yougest three years ago, our sex life has been near dead, as my wife simply seems uninterested. I would guess we have had sex about 5 times per year since then, and all those times I feel she did it out of obligation. She didn't seem to enjoy it very much, and as such, neither did I, and it only added to my disconent. She has not once initiated anything resembling sexual intimacy for the past three years.
I have brought up the topic many times. The main reason she gives is being tired due to work and kids. Or that she simply doesn't know why she doesn't want sex. She denies becoming asexual, losing attraction to me, or getting fulfillment elsewhere. I try my best to be understanding, I make it a point to generally complement her, I give her loads of time off while i take care of the kids. Nothing changes. I have asked her if there is anything more I can do for her - there isnt.
Its at a point where I feel like a sexual predator for simply running my hands along her body. Kissing feels unnatural (its only the quick pecks goodnight). Its making me feel so unattractive and basically unloved. I have told her many times how much this affects me. She tells me she totally gets it but that she doesn't know how to change it.
I don't want to be in this relationship if things don't improve, and I want her to know that. On the other hand, telling her that feels like blackmailing her into having sex.