Accessories & Jewelry

Is anyone/ everyone following the Bethany Frankel Chanel drama? (Please forgive me for the most millennial sounding thing I’ve ever said). She was in Chicago and Chanel wouldn’t let her in without an appt on a Tuesday. The next day she went back dressed head to toe in Chanel fully made up and she was like I’m gonna test this. They let her right in without an appointment and she turned around and walked right back out. Chicago is my hometown and I love it but I think our luxury shops are mostly snobby - never had this in NYC 94 abroad. (Second city syndrome?)

Long story, I have been with my partner 10 years. We have a toddler together and have lived together majority of the relationship. I will add we started dating in our teens so it’s not completely fair to add that into the equation. That being said we are still entering our late 20’s, we have been together the longest out of all our friends and we are becoming the only couple not married or even engaged. I’m embarrassed. It’s getting hard for me to show excitement for my friends bc every time I get good news from them, I get questions about when my partner will propose… I had stopped pestering him over a ring after our son was born(over 2 years ago). I figured there was no point in trying, he knew how important a ring was but made no effort. I made it clear then that I just wanted to feel like he was committed to me and I wasn’t in a rush to be married. Well he kept stringing me along that he “didn’t want to have a long engagement” or that he wanted to be in a better financial spot to afford something super nice… that made no sense, to me a girlfriend and now baby mama of 10 years sounds way worse then being engaged?? Whatever.. He started a good Job in January. Our 10 year anniversary was last month in April. The day before he came to town for our anniversary he bought a ring (he doesn’t know I know the day it was bought) he also lied saying he bought the ring previously… that makes me believe he just walked in and got what he could afford.. That brings me to my main point of disappointment. Not only do I feel like he only proposed bc we had finally made it 10 years but I feel like after his first good commission check he just bought the first ring. He didn’t plan, save or look for a few weeks even! The ring also makes me disappointed. I feel like he gave me false promises of a “super nice ring” and he proposed with a 1/3 carat marquis.. it’s beautiful but it’s an average ring not something I’d consider “super nice”. It’s not something that was saved for at all. It’s upsetting to me, I found it online and he bought it in a really good sale but what is the kicker for me is he didn’t even spend as much on my ring as he did his computer set up… but was trying to brag to me that he spent a good penny on the ring. (Not knowing I know exactly how much he paid)

Also! I just started school and get grants being a “single mother” so now regardless we are having a minimum 2 year engagement. But yet he didn’t want a long engagement??

I know this probably makes me seem ungrateful and maybe I am. After 10 years I expected better. A better proposal and ring. I did leave out some details because I wasn’t trying to write a novel.

I really want to bring this disappointment up to him but I don’t know how. I AM appreciative that he proposed but I also can’t shake these feelings. Please help

Edit: I should add that I have given the ring back. I let him know how disappointed I was in the proposal, that I felt it was a 2 bird 1 stone situation. It’s more than disappointment, I just feel like I don’t matter. I didn’t have any expectations about a ring but he created expectations. Since giving back the ring I discovered the ad online showing it was on sale and how much he got it for. He had bragged to me it was a good amount but he spent more on his games. I’m not a material person but when he’s bringing price up and I know a gaming system cost more than a forever ring, that hurts. That is where my disappointment comes from. Now I feel torn on how to add MORE disappointment. I am very comfortable being this up to him, but I want to do it in a way where my emotions don’t get the best of me.

Also, thank you so much for the kind advice and words. I had mistakenly posted this in another group and got torn to shreds.