Giving Advice 💌
I 28f went on a date with 26m. So I matched with a guy on hinge we went to a local bar for a first date. He showed up drunk which I realised 20 minutes in when he started being rude and slurring. He was rude to the wait staff and making comments about the place in a negative way and saying they should hurry up and made remarks of the place not being that good.
He then wanted to go to a gig afterwards but was telling me to walk faster and hurry up eating etc. He then made a comment that I was easy and a prostitute out of nowhere because he was drunk which is when I said I'm leaving. I felt really uncomfortable by this and I'm not someone who sleeps around at all and have been in two long term relationships. This was all in the space of the first 45minutes.
I told him I'm leaving after 45 minutes and going home by myself and I no longer felt comfortable with him. Also that he was drunk and Im not enjoying myself. Later sent him a message calling him out on his behaviour. His reposnse was "sorry then". Glad I had the courage to leave.
Anyway just sharing my experience be careful out there! Always set boundaries when you have had enough and you can just leave whenever. You don't have to waste your time and sit through bad dates and not say anything. I have blocked him last night and reported him on hinge so no else has to suffer.
Support Needed 🫂
I don't understand where I'm going wrong with this. I try to be social and as friendly as possible. Asking people questions about themselves, even though I'm an introvert who likes to keep to herself, I genuinely try to make an effort into getting to know people.
For some reason, all of my efforts aren't reciprocated. I find myself always having to start a conversation and they're only engaged for so long until I feel like I'm annoying them.
This goes for platonic male friendships too. I can't form solid friendships with guys. It's like men don't want anything to do with me. When I make a bold first move, I always receive negative reactions.
I'm not unattractive. I'm a plain looking girl, but when I get dolled-up, I can be an acceptable 6/10 looks wise.
It really hurts seeing other people effortlessly get into relationships and how most men that I liked and have approached in the past all eventually become exclusive with someone else and would never choose me.
I don't have crazy high standards either. My expectations are very realistic and I go for guys who I think are in my league.
One thing I have to mention is that I don't use dating apps. I prefer meeting people organically and I don't want to pick from all the people who just want something casual or a fwb situation.
I know it's impossible to know from a small post exactly where I'm messing up. I just need some kind of support. I already asked this question a thousand times and I still don't get it.