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READ BEFORE YOU POST: RULES & INFO TO BE AWARE OF
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Here are the rules for everyone and hopefully this will be easier to access for our mobile users who don't know how to locate them. We end up taking down a lot of posts and comments for not following rules. None of us likes having to do that so please take the time to read this. If any other mods want to unlock this post to add to it, please do because I'm sure I'll miss things! I'll include some other relevant information below the rules. So here we go:

  1. Keep it Civil: don't be rude to others who comment here. Name calling and insults directed at each other will be removed. We can respectfully disagree without the insults.

  2. Check to See if Your Post Has Already Been Posted: this one happens a lot. You can do a quick search and check. If something you're looking to post has had a significant amount of time pass between the last time it was posted, please use the "Oldie but Goodie" tag.

  3. No Brigading: For crossposts - do not comment on the original sub and here. That can endanger existence of this sub because of Reddit's brigading rules. This a permanent ban if we catch you doing it and we will contact the mods on the other subreddit.

  4. Do Not Clone/Crosspost from BORU Without Adding Updates Not Already Posted There: our sub creator is also a mod on BORU and wanted this sub to be something different. If you have an update from a post on BORU that is not already there then feel free to crosspost but please include that update in the text of your post.

  5. No Link Only Posts: spare us from having to click links to articles. Copy and paste the text from the article on your post and include the link to it. Crossposts from other subs not just linking to an article may not apply here since the automod catches the text. For those of you unsure how to access the automod content, it's stickied right under the post. If you forget to copy/paste the text, please reach out and request to have it copy/pasted and stickied by a mod. (I personally do not mind doing this but other mods may not wish to do so and just ask you to repost it).

  6. There Has to be Consequences Beyond Dropping Your Iphone: we like a good tale of comeuppance here. The consequences must have already happened and are not just being predicted.

  7. The Consequences Must be Obvious AND Include a Surprised Reaction: this one is the rule that gets broken the most on posting. Not only must the consequences have been predictable but the person/people involved MUST be expressing some kind of surprise or distress at the consequences happening to them. Without both elements, your post will be taken down.

  8. No ageism, racism, abelism, sexism, homophobia or transphobia: this rule break can and will result in a permanent ban which is up to the mod. Use of slurs is an automatic permanent ban. This is not the sub to post or comment with hateful opinions about marginalized groups. Throwing more hate at mods in modmail will just get you muted. If you think a comment of yours was misunderstood, reach out through modmail to clarify and you may be able to edit it for reapproval with a mod's permission

  9. No Porn Stories: a lot of this ends up being spam but we don't need sexually explicit stories or photos here. No one wants to hear your sexually explicit comments about people involved in the posts or suggestions that someone become a sex worker. Sexual content, comments or suggestions about minors is an automatic permanent ban with no appeal. If your post has some sexual content that doesn't violate this rule but may not be safe to see at work, please use the NSFW function. A mod might mark your post NSFW if you forget to do this.

  10. Do Not Advocate for, Support, Suggest or Threaten Bodily Harm, Self-Harm, Harassment, Violence or Death: this one should be pretty self-explanatory but do not make comments supporting violence, harassment or self-harm directed anyone. If it's said sarcastically, please use "/s". We also don't want to hear about hypothetical violence you'd inflict on someone if you were involved in the content. Sensitive info that can lead to doxxing of a non-public figure will be removed, too.

  11. No Deaths, Violence, Violent Threats, Animal Abuse or Child Abuse: content with physical fights, death, injury due to physical violence, child abuse or animal abuse will be taken down. There are plenty of subs that welcome fight videos, please use them.

  12. No Armchair Diagnosing: it's impossible to diagnose based on the small snippets of people's lives we see in posts. If you are not an appropriate professional who can diagnose/assess for the condition or do not have lived experience with the diagnosis, please leave the armchair diagnosis out of your comments. Two of the mods are mental health professionals so don't even try it. If you do have appropriate experience to make the observation, include that in your comment.

  13. No Deliberately Inflammatory Posts/Comments or Controversial Subjects: this one also gets violated a lot and gets a ton of pushback. We know it may not be a popular rule but when we've allowed posts on political topics, politically adjacent topics or certain world events, it always devolves into fights, insults and inflammatory comments within a matter of hours where we end up having to remove a ton of comments, lock the post and ban people. Plenty of subs welcome discussion on these topics so use them. Deliberately inflammatory comments meant to start fights will also be removed.

  14. Too Many Rule Violations Will Get You Banned: if you aren't aware, Reddit gives us a list of comments and posts taken down for each user on this sub. If we've had to warn you or remove things too many times, it can result in a ban for a period of days or permanently. It's up to the mods. If you wish to appeal a ban, please do so civilly and we may be able to come to a compromise or remove the ban entirely. I promise, we're reasonable people. Appeals will be denied if the violation was particularly egregious. Our rules are simple so please follow them.

  15. If You Believe Something Was Taken Down in Error, Are Unsure Why Something Was Removed or Have a Complaint, Contact Us Through ModMail: we all make mistakes and sometimes content gets removed on accident. I know I've done it. Speaking civilly to us will get a civil response and an apology if the error was on us. We may be able to reapprove comments or posts if that happens. Complaints need to be made through ModMail and not on a post or in a comment. It will be removed if done that way. Insulting us will not go well for you. Reporting mod removals as spam or harassment also will not end well. None of us are trying to spam or harass you. If you got multiple comments removed, it was for a reason. We are happy have civil discussions about rules or concerns any of you may have. Suggestions for the sub are also welcome!

Those are the rules as of now. Some additional things to know:

  1. Minimum Karma: if you don't see your comment you may not have the minimum karma needed. We have a bot removing those comments. If a mod has time, we may approve comments without the minimum karma that are meaningfully contributing to the topic.

  2. Locked Post: If you're unable to respond to someone or comment, it may be because we locked the post. If the comments are going downhill and quite a few people are breaking rules the post may be locked.

  3. This Isn’t An Advice Sub: please do not make posts about consequences you’re asking for advice about.

  4. Fake Posts: if you have evidence that a post is fake, please let a mod know so we can take it down. If you think a post is fake, please don’t be rude in the comments about it. There is no need for insults directed at the OP or anyone else for believing the story.

That's all I can think of for now. We may edit this post over time. Thank you all for contributing and making this sub what it is. We all appreciate you and your help reporting rule violations, too. Happy posting everyone!

TLDR: don't break the rules and act shocked when you get consequences. Don’t become the content here!


OOP’s mom really made her own bed here. OOP’s mom really made her own bed here.

Throwaway account because my main has personal info.

My (34F) mother (59F) has not worked for the last ~30 years. When we were little, dad worked and she was a SAHM. She refused to work even when we were older, I remember my parents fighting about it. After their divorce mom remarried almost instantly and relied on her (much older) husband, who died last year leaving everything for his adult kids and almost nothing for her.

After the death of her second husband, mom moved in with my brother and his wife. She was supposed to look after their kids while they work. This didn't work out and they are kicking her out, which is totally my mom's fault, I told her multiple times this would happen if she continued to act like she did. She was extremely mean to SIL, tried to run their household, acted like the queen, refused to watch the kids full time,which was their original agreement (she only watched them like half day twice a week and when she did she neglected them like not changing a poopy diaper for god knows how long because she was hoping SIL would be back soon and do it, which resulted in baby getting a very nasty rash, etc etc).

Now she wants to move in with me. She's claiming she'd help with the kid (I have a 2yo). I told her no, I saw what happened to my brother and SIL, you caused major issues in their marriage and I will not risk it. After all, you always told us adult children should never live with their parents (yes, we were both kicked out at 18 right after we finished school). She started crying and saying she doesn't have anywhere to go (she has until the end of the month to leave my brother's house). I told her neither did I when she kicked me out at 18 and I went to live on my friends couch but I worked and eventually rented a room so I guess that's what she should do - that's what everyone else does. She asked me to at least pay her rent until she gets back on her feet, I said no, you're a healthy working age person, you should not be freeloading (that's exactly what she told me when I was 18). We had a very big fight but I refused to let her move in or give her money. I'm sure she should still have some from her inheritance and I know for a fact my brother gave her money so I didn't feel guilty at all.

Now, multiple relatives are texting me, basically saying me and SIL are horrible people. Mom's dead husbands son called to scold me, telling me my mom is my responsibility and not theirs so I should do what's right. I do not feel guilty but perhaps that's what makes me the AH? Am I? I do feel bad about people claiming I'm a bad daughter. Mainly because my mother was never a model mom herself, she never put her kids first and was generally disinterested in us unless she needed something. I mean, if she were nice, I'd be happy to have her near

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