My father in law has breakfast every Saturday morning at a restaurant. He gets there at 6 am when they open and usually stays until 8:30 or so. His kids and grandchildren drop in and out, most do not stay the whole time and they either pay their own checks on the way out or leave him cash to cover their bill and he pays before he leaves.
Last Saturday I went late and crossed him leaving. My wife and daughters waited for me. I ordered and they chatted while I ate. They headed home while I went to the counter to pay the check.
It was $171!
I immediately asked for an itemized receipt and after a bit of hesitation the waitress provided it. I took one l look and knew I had been stuck with my sister in laws check too. The waitress confirmed that she had been there early and didn’t pay before leaving. The waitress assumed someone else would pay it as they sometimes do. I requested that she separate the checks. My family of 4 was $60. Sister in laws’ family of 3 was $111.
The manager came over to discuss the situation and said I could pay, sister-in-law could come within 30 minutes and pay or he would call the police.
I called sister-in-law and she said she was out of town and asked me to pay it and she’d pay me ‘later’. I told her she could Venmo or cash app me right away and I’d pay it.
She asked the total and I told her. She then asked what her share was and I told her that was her total as we had separate checks. She didn’t understand how breakfast for 3 could be $111. I read the ticket. Coffee, orange juice, milk and coke for everyone = 4 x $3 each x 3 people = $36. Double cheeseburger with fries $15, side of hash browns $3, add grilled onions and mushrooms $2 add extra cheese $2 add bacon $3 = $25. All meat omelet meal $12 add a side of bacon $3 add stack of pancakes $5 = $20. French toast $10 add blueberries $1 add strawberries$1 add side of bacon $3 add grits $3 add cheese $2 = $20 = 101 + tax $10 = $111.
She said she didn’t understand how it added up to so much. I told her that was how her family always ordered so I didn’t understand how she didn’t understand how all the extra things add up, but I wasn’t willing to spend my whole Saturday dealing with it. She could send me money right away to pay her check or I was leaving without paying it.
She sent me the exact amount, no tip. I paid, tipped the waitress and left.
I told my wife and she said that her sister never leaves enough to cover her bill.
Sister-in-law called my father in law and complained that her day was ruined. They were planning to go to the opening weekend of the water park and buy season passes but couldn’t afford it after paying for breakfast. He thinks I’m a jerk for putting her on the spot knowing the probably couldn’t afford $100+ for breakfast. He says he forgot she had been there and thinks I should have just paid and asked for the money later and says he would have paid me if she didn’t.
So Aitah for asking a 30-something year old woman to pay for her own ‘forgotten’ breakfast check and insisting that she paid me right away because she has a history of not repaying debts?
Grow From a Greener Angle.
This is probably incredibly stupid and petty but this feels really disrespectful to me. I have been dating "Matt" for 2 years. We don't live together but in the past 6 months or so he has been here fairly often. I have 3 older children (13yo boy, 12yo girl, 10yo boy) and they all get along with Matt well. My issue is that Matt has zero respect for other people's things; towels mainly.
I have no washer/dryer in my rental and have to travel 35 minutes to the nearest laundromat. I only have time to do this once a week due to my work schedule and all else. I can only go Sundays. Matt knows this. I also only had 4 towels (one for each of me and my kids). It became a problem of like.. every single time that Matt and I has sex, he would go to the bathroom and grab one of the towels off the hook and wipe off with it after I told him not to several times. He said it was a force of habit (that's what he cleans up with at his place for 15 years). He will apologize, etc. Just to repeat it. Or I went out and bought him a towel for when he's here (I was tired of him using mine and he has severe ADHD and can't remember to bring his own / can't remember pretty much anything). He never uses his towel to clean himself. It's always one of the kids. Or there's been a few times that he will grab the kids towels and put them on the floor to soak up the water that he tracked out of the shower. Every single time I have talked to him about it, I've gotten increasingly more pissed off. The last time I had to mention it was a few weeks ago and I lost my shit entirely and told him to stop touching my kids fucking towels or we were done. He said something like "it's just a fucking towel" or "maybe it's time you get more than one towel per person" and whatever but he did stop using the towels. Until this morning.
This morning he woke me up for a quickie before we both had to go to work and tmi but I started bleeding. Sorry for the mental image. He runs to the bathroom, grabs a towel and starts cleaning both of us up. I truly thought it was his towel that he grabbed (and he had mentioned having to do his laundry anyhow so I didn't make a fuss) but then he turned on the light and it was my oldest son's towel. I asked him why the fuck he didn't grab his own, since he was doing his laundry anyhow and could have just taken it with him. He said he "panicked" and just grabbed the first one available. His towel is literally the first one on the hook when you walk in to the bathroom and I keep the bathroom light on at all times so there's no way he could have just not seen which towel he was grabbing. Now I have to go and do laundry today, again, after just having gone on Sunday. I told him that I needed a break from him because he has zero respect for me at this point. Yes, it's small and it's a fucking towel for Christ Sake but it's still something I've asked him not to do several times. He doesn't think it's a big deal and says I'm acting ridiculous over a towel. AITA?
No, I can't get a mini washer/dryer per my lease agreement. No, he won't wash our laundry as well. I asked him to take the towel with him and he said "no" because I "made him feel fucking stupid" and says that if I had been nice about it than maybe he would have but he won't now. Yes, I could get more towels but this was never an issue before he started coming around and frankly, I'd like to keep the laundry to a minimum because I already have a bad back and the laundry can be difficult. So I shouldnt have to buy more towels just so he can clean himself up with them.
