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Both my husband and I work full time. I work Real Estate and he works at a shipyard. We both collectively work around 50-60hr weeks. We have 4 kids. 13yo twins, 12yo, and 8mo. My husband has every weekend off. I do not.

I implicated a chore system from the time my kids were little. But ever since I had the baby and since the kids are older, ALL of them have slacked off tremendously (including husband). I pick our baby up from daycare around 5pm and when I get home, I usually find my husband on the couch on his phone and the kids in their rooms playing video games/watching make up tutorials. The house is generally a mess and honestly, the only issue I have is the dishes. I couldn't give fuck all about anything else (because the rest of the house generally isn't dirty-dirty, just cluttered). But I have expressed several times that I am tired of having to wash all the dishes in order to cook and have lashed out in some not so nice ways (shut off the Internet entirely and took the chord with me to work so no one could use the wifi/watch tv, canceled family trips, groundation, got in to big arguments with my husband). Things will change for a week to a month and then switch right back to them refusing to help. I'm honestly so tired of it that I don't even have the energy to speak up anymore.

As I said, my husband has weekends off so he and the kids were home yesterday while I worked. Before I took off for the day I told them "you guys chores had better be completed by the time I get home". They said "yes ma'am" and I leave. I text husband around 4:30p asking what they all wanted for dinner because I had to stop off at the grocery store. I pick up what he said they all wanted and walk in to my home, to find that not a single dish had been washed and there was at least 10 more dishes in the sink from when I left that morning. I also noted that only a load of laundry had been washed and was still sitting in the washer and was never switched to the dryer. Husband was on his ass on the couch watching YouTube. Kids off playing video games. Baby in her walker. So, I put the groceries on the table, packed a bag for the baby and told my husband "have at it, I'm going to Applebee's" and left. Maybe 20 minutes later he calls and says "I washed the dishes, sorry. I was super tired today." I told him that's zero excuse at all. There's 3 older kids who have chores and he couldn't even step up and tell his kids to complete anything either. It's pure laziness at this point. He said "I know, I'm sorry, I'm trying to work on it. Can you just come home, I don't know how to make this dish" (it's a pretty difficult dish but google is free). I told him no, I'm sitting at Applebee's and will be enjoying my steak and shrimp with the baby in peace and that him and the older kids can fend for themselves because apology or not, I'm not letting him off the hook here. He had me on speaker phone, so him and all the kids laid right in to me, asking me to please grab them something from Applebee's (it's all of our favorite restaurant). I said absolutely not and hung up the phone. When I returned home the groceries had been put away and apparently they had grilled cheese and cereal for dinner. My husband and kids are still pissed at me. I told them this is how it will be every single time they don't do chores from now on. AITA?

My 15 year old was asked to go on a vacation with a friend of hers. The friend (Jane) doesn't have many friends, and my daughter has always made an effort to include her, so she is often invited by the family to go to events and has been invited on trips before. My daughter (call her Mary) does a lot of activities, and has never been able to go before (and didn't really want to go, but didn't want to hurt Jane's feelings), but this time the parents scheduled the trip around when my daughter would be available. Jane is an only child and extremely doted upon by her parents, and they have shielded her from consequences and disappointments in the past- For example, Jane was caught on camera stealing another kid's Nintendo DS from his locker. The parents swore that it was hers, then when shown the video, insisted she was stealing it back from someone who had stolen it from her. They put up such a fight that the school turned it over to the police, but the father is a state trooper and the incident just went away. They have also made big ordeals when Jane didn't make cheerleading, and when she wasn't invited to a private party. This context is just to say, I don't blame the kid in this situation.

Apparently, the trip was fine for the first 3 days of the 5 day trip. They drove to a beach about 9 hours away, stayed in a timeshare, and everything was fine. On the 3rd day, a family that Jane knew from vacationing there before came, and the boy of the family showed an interest in my daughter. My daughter had no interest in him, he is 2 years younger and she prefers girls generally. She was nice, but firmly told him that she was not interested. Apparently, Jane was interested and was absolutely distraught that the boy liked Mary. When they returned to the condo, Jane screamed and threw a cup at Mary, and Mary locked the door to the room and facetimed me. We discussed options, but the nearest airport to them was over an hour away, and the parents were also angry at her for (??????). I called the parents to discuss the situation, they told me my daughter was throwing herself at the boy and trying to steal him from their daughter, although they hadn't been there at the time, and only had Jane's word. I spoke to the mother for over an hour and she finally calmed down and we agreed to just have the girls sleep in separate rooms and take a break from each other, since they were coming home soon anyway. I checked in with my daughter the next day, she said things were tense but she was just staying in her room and watching her phone all day other than to make herself something to eat. They were supposed to leave the next morning at 5am, and my daughter set her alarm and was up and ready to go. When she went out to find the family, they were gone. They must have left earlier or even the night before. She panicked, of course, and called me crying, and I attempted to reach the parents because I couldn't believe they would actually leave her there. It's insane. They didn't answer and after 3 calls it began going straight to voicemail. My daughter had them on findmy for the trip, and could see that they were already out of the state. I arranged a plane ticket and uber for her, and she is home safe now, but she is incredibly upset and stressed out about this situation. Can I do anything legally here? I'm so sick of these people facing no consequences and treating people this way. I can't imagine it's legal to abandon a minor that you are supposed to be caring for, but I'm not sure where to start.

Growing up anything that went wrong in my house was my fault. I wasn't a good student and I smoked a lot of weed.

My brother was perfect. He got good marks and he went to university.

I went to trade school and learned how to weld. My parents started demanding rent. I paid. It wasn't much. Then I found out they were giving it to my brother for spending money.

So I left. I could afford a small apartment on my own or a larger one with friends. Simple choice. I was willing to trade money for freedom.

After I left they noticed stuff had been stolen. They blamed me. Spoiler alert it wasn't me.

Hey so my perfect brother went to jail. Turns out no matter how smart you are the SEC is smarter.

My parents asked me for help with his legal bills. I politely declined. They ended up helping him so much that they had to remortgage their paid off house. Which they are now having trouble paying back. Interest rates have gone much higher than when they did this.

They called to ask me for help. I asked them if they ever figured out who really stole from them? They declined to answer. We both know the answer. My mom said she was sorry she accused me but still wouldn't admit it was him.

I kind of feel bad because I could help them. I probably have enough put away to just pay off the house. But that means I helped my brother. And seriously fuck that guy.

My wife and I have been married for apx 3 years. We had both previously been married before, to other people...my first marriage was 21 years, her's was about 9.

We got married after dating for about a year. She had a 16 yo son with her. I had a daughter of about the same age that split time with myself and her mother.

Anyhow, my new wife and her son moved in and she asks if he can have a dog. I had 2 small dogs with me at the time that I had owned for several years. I assumed he would get a smaller breed dog, considering we had a small house with a small yard and 2 small dogs...Boy, was I in for a surprise.

He goes out and gets a dog that, as a 3 week old, already towers over my 2 dogs. The dog is nothing but hell. He chews up anything and everything he can get his mouth on. I had a sound system with klipsh speakers and he destroys them. He ate a chunk out of my coffee table, chewed up my $700 rug...it just never ended.

I was very upset by all of this and even more upset when I caught her son setting his phone up to record me when he left the house...to make sure I wasn't mean to his hell hound. He would also take it upon hisself to review all footage on my outdoor security system...my wife never said shit to him about any of it. I finally had enough and told them that the dog is no longer allowed in the house.

He gets pissed, moves out and has rarely spoken to me since. He shows up to the house to visit his mom, but makes sure to bring the dogs (he went out and got another dog of the same breed as well) and tells his mom he won't come inside because his dogs aren't allowed inside. Granted, I did make the concession that, while he was over, the dogs could stay in the backyard...not good enough, apparently, as he refuses to do that.

Now, after years of arguing about this, it has driven me insane and i yelled at my wife...now, that is framed as the reason for our difficulties.

She is getting ready to move out as I type this.

Wtf.

We both love each other and I (35M) never even dared to lay my hands on her (25F). Yesterday she wanted to try weed chocolate so we went to the dispensary and got some chocolate and I gave her a small piece of it. We both got high but she got extremely paranoid because this was her first time taking it. I tried to keep her calm and make her feel safe but she thought I was going to kill her in the hotel room we were staying in. I told her we should go for a walk at the beach but she insisted that we stayed in the room. Finally I decided to leave the hotel to give her some space because I started to feel really uncomfortable and she ended up calling her mom saying I poisoned her and called the cops on me. The cops showed up and handcuffed me because of whatever my GF and her mom told the cops and almost had a gun pulled on me. The entire situation was a shit show. I ended up leaving the hotel, her mom & her sisters are driving from AZ to pick her up and I got a different hotel room closer to the airport. I thought about going home and ending this trip but instead I have decided to go to Hawaii by myself. I work 7 days a week, I support my parents, and I even supported my gf for the last 6 months as she was living with me and now it all just ended. So ask me anything!

I inherited a home years ago from my mother. It was overall outdated but in good condition. It is five hours away from where I live. My daughter (26) and her husband fell on hard times and I allowed her to move in about 2 years ago for free. It is near the city they work at.I paid for everything and was letting them use it to get back on their feet.

I informed them they can make changes to the home just not to take out walls or any huge stuff. The last time I was at the home, was about year ago and it just looked like they painted.

The house is causing issues for my finances now and I have had multiple people reach out to me to sell. I also want to sell it since I am tired of seeing the home, it just reminds me of my mom and that she is gone. So being a landlords isn’t good for my mental health.

So I decided to sell, I informed my daughter that they have 6 months to find a new place. This started an argument, she apparently put in a lot of upgrades such as redoing the stairs, kitchen and are in the middle of the bathroom. That I are screwing them over and that now the house is worth more.

She called me a jerk for this and I reminded them I gave them two years of free housing

I am on the fence and want more opinions

My dad and my stepmother got married when I was 9 and I'm 17 now. They have 3 kids together. My mom died when I was 8 but my parents were already divorced and I think my dad was already dating my stepmother at that point. Either that or he/they rushed the relationship because they assumed I would need a new mom because mine died. It was a crazy af time.

My dad and stepmother decided we needed therapy together because she was struggling and wanted to communicate some stuff to the two of us that she had not before. In therapy she started off talking about how she feels like she's second best or a consolation prize with me. She feels like I see her as less than a parent, less than a mother, and it hurts. She talked about marrying my dad expecting we would be so close and how she believed a newly motherless child would need someone else to fill in. But that the whole time we've known each other she feels like I do nothing but compare her to mom or dismiss her in favor of mom and leave her in second place a lot. She said she wanted to be more important to me than that. She wanted to mom in my eyes. She didn't want to feel like I would gladly toss her aside if my mom came back. I'll say now, in therapy she was called out for that. She was told it was cruel to toss that in my face when I'm old enough to be aware my mom is never coming back.

She spoke for several sessions about feeling second best/like the consolation prize and like I don't care for her at all. She brought up how I never hug her or how I correct anyone who mistakes her for my mom. Another thing was the fact I have never said I love you to her, she noticed that and she said many times she waited and waited for me to say it but it never came. She talked about how every mention of my mom hurts her down to her core because she can hear how much I love my mom. She admitted to hating my mom, to wanting to wave a magic wand and have me forget her so she's not coming in second to her always. There were lots more things said too.

I was asked to address what she said for several sessions. But I knew it might come across as cruel if I did. So I refused to engage. But my dad kept pressing me on the issue and the counselor was trying to reassure me that I would not be penalized for speaking up. After a lot of pressing and then my stepmother got involved and told me to speak because we needed to work through this and she needed me to acknowledge her feelings and work on us coming together, I was honest. I said she was never second best or a consolation prize because she was never in the running. I never saw her as mom, I never considered her to be a possible new or second mom. I never ever looked at her in that way or wanted her to be that for me. And that she was always competing against my dead mom for nothing.

My dad and stepmother were so angry after I said all this. Two weeks later and it was mentioned in therapy but they're still furious with me.

AITA?

My little sister (28f) is recently engaged. I (30 f) got married about 6 years ago (I’ve since divorced and am engaged again). Our mom died 5 years ago, shortly after my wedding.

At my wedding, the photographer took a photo of my mom fastening a necklace around my neck. My little sister has told multiple people that when she gets married, she plans to hire someone with graphic design skills to remove me from that photo and photoshop herself in my place. So far, I’ve said nothing, but I am increasingly feeling like I want to put my foot down about her plans with that photo.

Very shortly after our mom died, all my sisters (including my two older married sisters) expressed that they wanted our mom’s engagement ring. As my little sister didn’t get to have our mom at her wedding and the rest of us did, I urged my dad to hang on to our mom’s engagement ring for our little sister for when she eventually were to get engaged. Ultimately, I was successful in advocating for her to inherit our mom’s ring. She decided to reset the ring so the only part of it that remains is the central diamond—it is a completely different design now.

We both want to use our mom’s wedding dress in our upcoming weddings, but she plans to alter it beyond recognition as it was a long-sleeve, A-line dress and she wants a strapless, mermaid-style dress. She played the “I’m the only one who didn’t get to have mom at her wedding” card, and I do feel for her, so I dropped my ask for the dress.

But I feel inclined to draw the line at removing me from my own photo with my mom. Yes, I did get to have my mom at a wedding. But that marriage turned out to be abusive and devastating and the fact is that I won’t have her at my wedding to the person I’ll actually be spending the rest of my life with. If someone is going to be photo shopping someone out of that picture, I feel it should be me photoshopping my 24 year old self out for my 31 year old self. She also has tons of photos with our mom she could use for this purpose instead, as well as photos of our mom solo that no one would need to be removed from.

Obviously I can’t force her to not do as she pleases with my photo, but WIBTA if I tell her I’m not ok with that and that she doesn’t have my permission or blessing to remove me from my wedding photo with my mom?

I have 3 kids from my previous relationship (10-13) and I have a 10mo with my husband. I work from home managing my own business and pay half the bills. I also homeschool my 3 older kids because their school shut down a few months back after the roof collapsed during our last big snow storm. I do all the cooking and at least 80% of chores (the kids do the rest). The only "chore" my husband has is garbage, laundry once a week and grocery shopping every other week.

Since roughly December my husband has been incredibly depressed but won't manage it in a healthy way, despite me urging him to get help. He's just been isolating and defensive. He works from 8a to 4p. Gets home around 4:30, eats dinner and hangs out with the kids for maybe a half hour. He then goes to the garage or his truck to "decompress". He comes back inside around 8p to help me get the kids in bed. He then either jumps on his computer or watches YouTube on his phone until he goes to sleep. Pretty much every single weekend since March he has been going out with his buddies as well. So, typically, the only day he's actually "home" is Sunday and usually, either his buddies ask him for help with their vehicles or he runs his errands (going to the dump, fixing his vehicle, helping his mom, etc). So, realistically, my kids and I only have his attention for at most an hour a day, if that, even on his days off. Him and I have, unfortunately, gotten in to at least 3 fights since December because of his lack of attentiveness and his constant excuse of "I worked all day/week and need time to myself". It's truly just the lack of empathy that drives me insane, because I have zero breaks, ever, but he still feels like he should be entitled to more and more breaks as the days go on. So, we have fought about it. I will bring it up calmly and he will get defensive and blow up and pull the repetitive "I worked all fucking day" talk. The last big fight we had (a couple weeks back) I told him I was leaving. I started packing. He begged me to stay and said he would try to be better and suggested we rent a boat (for this past weekend) so we could all reconnect and have a nice family weekend. I ultimately forgave him because he showed a lot of effort after that. When he would get home from work, he was present. He didn't go out during the weekend with his buddies as he had been. We went on a few walks together, just us and the kids. Collectively we were still only getting to hang out with him for maybe 1.5hrs but he was inside and more present, either way. I thought things were looking up.

Well, he paid the down payment (half cost) of the boat 2 weeks ago when we discussed it and I was due to pay the other half upon picking the boat up this past Friday. However, he told me on Thursday night that he decided that he didn't want my older children to go. He asked me if I would have my mom watch my older children so it could just be me, him and the baby on the boat. I asked him why and he said "because I need a break from the kids". So I was pissed and snapped back "oh, you mean you need a break from your step kids. Your kid is fine but let's push my kids away because you need a break from them." He said I'm making a big deal out of nothing but I don't think I did. The kids knew about the trip and were excited. If I dropped my older kids off with my mother and still brought the baby out because my husband decided he needed a break from them, they would be extremely hurt. He kept saying "we can bring them next time" but I told him no thanks and said I wouldn't be paying the other half of the boat cost. He can either pay it and bring out his buddies or he can forfeit the money he put in to it already, as it was nonrefundable. I didn't end up paying and he lost $450. He is still pissed at me, stating that I made a mound out of a mole hill but I don't think I did. He is hardly near my kids ever so him "needing a break" from them and not his kid is absolutely fucking wild to me. AITA?

ETA: he was NOT like this before he got depressed. My older children's father passed away during deployment when I was pregnant with my 10yo. I got together with my husband when my 10yo was 1 and he was always a kick ass father figure. He refused to do anything without me and the kids. Calls my kids his children. When he got depressed around Christmas time, everything changed. He will get better for a week or two and then go right back in to the cycle. I have tried urging him to get help and he will be receptive momentarily and then switch back. He first stated that it was because he was terrified of being a shit father (his dad was abusive). Now the only excuse he uses is "I worked all day/week" and that he needs time to himself. He still to this day talks to his father (at least twice a week). He was not abused by his dad. His trauma is watching his mom and brother be abused.

Hi everyone. We are on our way to the airport and on our way to Barcelona. We will be going to be in Europe for a month. The visit to the monks at Westvleteren will be the last part of our trip. Two reasons. I don't want to lug beer bottles all over Spain, France, Belgium and Holland. Also I am putting it off for as long as I can.

For those of you that asked my son's name is Ryan. He was an amazing kid. I don't know if he got his love of the microscopic world from me. I did teach him how to make his own sourdough starter and I will be keeping his alive to make loaves and waffles with. His ashes are in our yard, on Mount Tremblant, on the shores of the St. Lawrence and I will be taking some to Belgium. My grandfathers have many friends buried there and I think they would approve.

I thank everyone that offered to buy me a beer. And while I appreciate the offer I'm pretty sure my liver, and my wife, would not have been happy with me. I will be with the monks on the week of June 23rd. If you would like to join me in a toast with your favorite drink of choice I would love that more. I love knowing that people all around the world know about my son and he would love knowing he was toasted in such a manner.

I spoke with my wife, my ex wife, her husband, and his son. I invited them to join us, at my expense, for the last week of my trip. My wife's stepson was friends with my son. I didn't know how close until we spoke. They are gaming buddies. They spoke almost every day playing online. He gave me a picture of my son I did not have. It is a picture of the two of them age about 14/15 at my ex wife's wedding to his father. My son looked great in his suit. I cried. He did too. We had a very awkward but heartfelt man hug. Then we laughed. They will be coming to say goodbye with us.

After talking to my accountant and my lawyer I was told that I could not have transferred him the value of the RESP. I have decided, after talking to my wife, that we are going to give him enough money to cover one year of tuition. Even after my trip we will have money left over. I'm trying to do some good with it. I also said that he could call us any time he needed since he will be attending school close to us. So funny he got accepted here and my son was accepted there.

I want to thank everyone who shared their condolences with me. I want to especially thank everyone that helped me plan my visit to Belgium. I know we won't see each other but you were invaluable.

I don't think I will have much to say after this. Maybe I will post an update after the trip.

Im married with a 4 and a 6 year old. I have a sister who is 24. She graduated from college and got a decent first job but got laid off about a year ago and has been living with my parents since. I think she may have had some service industry jobs here and there but generally hasnt worked much in the last year. My wife and I have good jobs but try to be relatively frugal because kids are expensive.

My wife and I are planning a trip to Disney with my SIL (wife's sister) and her husband, and their 5 year old. My wife and her sister are very close and her husband and I are decently good friends these days.

My sister heard about this trip and is really clammoring to go with us. We never went to Disney growing up and she said she's wanted to go forever and really wants to go with us and the kids. She however would not be able to pay her way for the flight/ticket/ and all that. We'd expect to sponsor her it would all in all cost us about 1k. My wife and I talked about it and decided it would be worth it to us if she would help babysit some of the nights so we could have some just adult time. So we offered her this, thinking it was generous but a win win for all of us.

Long story short she felt otherwise and said were trying to take advantage of her and treat her as a nanny not family. I think this is kinda ridiculous as she's not my kid so in my mind there's not reason to pay for her just because if she's not doing anything to be helpful. Would like some feedback from neutral parties if Im asking too much.

I have 2 kids (F3, M1). I am also a pharmacist and I like to spend my free time learning to play basketball, learn to play the violin and learn new languages so you see I'm pretty busy at day.

My in laws have been so supportive. My MIL is an angel. She told me that it makes her very happy to see me improve myself and she volunteered to babysit for us. She babysits whenever we ask and never asks for money because according to her she doesn't want to get paid for spending time with her grandkids.

The problem is that my BIL's wife (I'm not sure what it's called in english so I will call her SIL) who is a SAHM thinks she is entitled to the same thing. Don't get me wrong my MIL babysits for her too but she will do it occasionally not every day.

She only has one 4yo son and she doesn't work and she is not interested in learning anything yet she thinks MIL should babysit for her everyday so that she can "relax".

Yesterday she snapped at MIL and told her she either has to babysit for both of us or for none of us. I told her that taking care of her kid is her job and she shouldn't expect others to do it for her.

She called me an asshole and said it's none of my business.

I (30f) have been dating "Matt" (33m) for about a year. Matt has a kid "Alex" from his first relationship, the kid is under 2yo. Every now and then I used to look after Alex when Matt was at work (we don't live together but they stay at mine every now and then)

We decided to go on holiday for 10 days at the start of May and due to some family drama Alex had to go with us. The flights were over 8 hours long and I have booked the tickets for all of us. During the flight and the holiday I have spent nearly all my time was spent looking after Alex while Matt had the time of his life. Some things came to my attention (he was still seeing his ex) which resulted in us breaking up at the end of our stay.

On the flight back we were all sitting together and a flight attendant approached us and asked my ex if he wanted an upgrade to the business class. Before he could say anything I have mentioned it was me who bought the tickets and used my own account to pay for them, so an upgrade should go to me, the flight attendant was trying to argue at first as she assumed Alex was my child, but I told her that's not the case and ended up having an upgrade so I can relax after spending all this time looking after Alex.

After the flight Matt, a few other passengers who assumed I am the mum as well as some family members and friends called me an asshole for not giving the upgrade to Matt, even after I have mentioned the flight attendant didn't say anything about Alex being allowed to join Matt.

My father was married to this woman for 20 years. They lived together in the house I grew up in, a house that my father built before I was born. For tax reasons the house was in my name since I was 15, and he kept the "use" of the house, don't know the term in English, but long story short, now that he is dead the house belongs to me.

It's been 3 months now and today I asked his wife if and when she's planning to leave. Her children live in another town about two hours away. She basically said that she has no intention of leaving, ever, and that she would like to stay there for ever or at least if she meets someone new.

I explained to her that, first the house is mine and I pay taxes for it and second that currently I'm renting a house and it's not like I don't care about money at all and I could let her stay there for ever.

She proposed to pay me rent. But.... 1, she is a horder and the house is almost completely covered with shit she keeps making , she's also painted every inch of the house including windows. 2, she's not that stable mind wise 3, the house is attached to my brother's house and his family and kids are playing in the yard that belongs to my house because it was their grandfather's house until recently. The kids don't consider her as a grandma , and also she has to let us in because we don't have keys t the house.

4, She is not independent in any way and untill today I had to make sure to pay her bills, help her with the pension, bureaucracy etc. 5, she doesn't know how to use a smartphone, the internet or how to maintain the house and the yard.

For reference she is 58. I'm 42. I called her daughter (30) and she told me Why do you even bother with her? I don't care if she wants to live closer to me, but under no circumstances I will change anything in my life for her, it's all her fault.

I told her I'm there for her because she doesn't have anyone else, but I'm not going to help her indefinitely.

Then her daughter called her today to ask if she's planning to move closer. The mother replied no, the house is mine and I'm not leaving. (As she is inherited it)

The mother called me to give me shit that I made her daughter worried for her and that she not going anywhere.

I'm very well aware of all the "bad" legal things I can do, but I'm trying to find a middle ground now. She's not a bad person, she's sick and depressed.

Hey Reddit,

I'm in a tough spot and could really use some outside perspective on this situation. So, my cousin Emma and I have never been particularly close, but we've always been civil. When she got engaged in December 2022, I sent her a thoughtful present, which she thanked me for repeatedly. Fast forward to February, and Emma invited me to her wedding in April 2024. Living abroad and starting a new job, I made it clear that I needed advance notice to attend, and thankfully, I managed to make it.

Emma asked me to be part of her wedding entry, and despite our not being very close, I agreed, hoping it would help us build a better relationship. However, just a week before the wedding, I found out she'd been talking negatively about me and my career as a project manager. It stung, but I didn't want to cause drama before her big day, so I kept quiet.

During the wedding weekend, I helped Emma get dressed for her Hindu ceremony, and her mom told me to leave the jewelry as she would handle it later. So, I only packed away the bangles. The entry went smoothly, and I attended the reception without any complaints. However, after the wedding, I chose not to leave a gift, intending to address the hurtful comments privately after the festivities.

Days later, Emma asked me about the missing jewelry, and I told her I hadn't touched it beyond what her mom instructed. Later that day, I saw Emma posting on Facebook about missing jewelry and implying that someone in the family might have taken it. I felt uneasy, especially since her mom and I were the only family members helping her get dressed.

Then things escalated when her sister made comments on the post saying, "we didn't like her anyway". Her mom reached out to me, asking about the bangles, which made me feel like they were singling me out. Even my grandmother called, further cementing that they may have discussed me as a suspect.

Finally, another cousin messaged me saying the jewelry was found boxed up in a car. But Emma refuses to retract her accusations online because she's embarrassed. Feeling betrayed, I chose to cut Emma and her mom out of my life. I deleted them from my socials and blocked their numbers.

Now, my grandma is upset, saying I was unfair for not explaining myself. So, Reddit, am I the jerk for cutting them off without explanation? Should I have handled the situation differently?

Thanks for your insights.