Neopian Apologies
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The progression from “I don’t think afab people can be transfem” to “I don’t think intersex people can be trans” is absolutely fascinating to watch unfold
Alternatively, it can also go from “I don’t think afab people can be transfem” to “Intersex people existing is an inherent threat to trans people” which is scary to watch unfold
Like the amount of shit I’ve gotten about me “sounding like conservative propaganda” because I’ve talked about my experiences with being coersively reassigned male and being put on hormones. Or me having a complicated relationship with my sex and gender being used to call me a T*RF.
If you’re wondering, the progression of logic that I’ve personally witnessed is:
Intersexists: “Afab people can’t be transfem and amab people can’t be transmasc because you can’t transition to a gender you are socially recognized as”
Intersex people: “Actually intersex people sometimes aren’t socially recognized as their agab or are reassigned a different sex later in life, meaning they have to socially transition to the gender they identify as, even if it aligns with their agab”
Intersexists: “That isn’t what trans is, trans means you transition from your agab to a different gender. Not being recognized by society as the gender you identify as isn’t what trans is.”
Intersex people: “This leaves out the nuances of how intersex people experience both sex and gender. Intersex people can’t categorize our gender and labels the same way perisex trans people do because of this nuance.”
Intersexists: “Then intersex people shouldn’t use the label trans.”
Essentially, this stems from the prioritization of the perisex trans experience. The perisex trans experience and perisex voices are seen as The Truth and intersex people are seen as perverting the meaning behind the words that perisex trans people have made. But what this leaves out is that there have always been intersex people in the trans community. We’ve always been here and all you’re doing is implying that “trans” and “intersex” are two mutually exclusive labels.
The argument that transness is based on agab is inherently intersexist and prioritizes perisex trans people, it is intersex erasure.
Another addition:
I think this logic also stems from the idea that afab/amab intersex people are simply “females/males who aren’t considered female/male” but a lot of intersex people don’t consider their physical sex to align with either female or male.
Like, yeah intersex isn’t a 3rd sex but we aren’t just “females and males with intersex variations” either. It’s a lot more complicated than that and, again, there’s a lot of nuance that varies from person to person.
If an intersex person does not consider their “natural physical sex” (for lack of better wording) to be female/male but they want to transition to a body that is female/male because of dysphoria then why shouldn’t they be accepted under the trans label? Doesn’t this align with the experiences of other altersex and transsexual people?
“Afab” doesn’t mean “physically female”, same with amab. People need to stop using these labels as a more progressive way to talk about what someone’s “biological sex” is.
We’ve always been a threat, somehow. This isn’t new. I was talking about intersexism on here in 2020 when I ended up trying to kill myself because there were multiple callout posts about how I was a dangerous raging TERF for saying my experiences with violence mirrored what I saw trans women specifically talking about all the time - while at the same exact time TERFs were talking about beheading me. Our existence is somehow a threat. I tried to end my life over this shit, dude.
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Nah man that’s a northern bobwhite
ALT
I love Bruce
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I cannot emphasize enough how exactly accurate this is to working in production
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Anyway I hope studs, black femmes, black butches, black trans lesbians, and all black lesbians have a great day😘🫶🏾
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screaming
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19th century mother-of-pearl gaming counter (for sale!)
i need you guys to stop acting shocked by the word “gaming� existing in the 1800s I know if you guys used your brains this object would not be so mystifying to you I KNOW YOU KNOW WHAT POKER CHIPS ARE I know you can apply this knowledge and make inferences I KNOW YOU KNOW THAT GAMES THAT DONT REQUIRE COMPUTERS EXIST
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Had a dream where Johnny from “The Devil Went Down To Georgia” came out as a trans woman and the response was so unanimously positive it reversed nearly all of the transphobic bills in the South. She played live in Georgia to an audience of about a third of the US.
Happy late pride month to Joanie, the best that’s ever been 🏳️⚧️
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baby snoopy this, baby clifford that, baby gromit blah blah blah. what about baby kermit???????
baby kermit. you agree. reblog
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Confession: I have a friend who likes to text me at like 4am when he’s had nightmares or he can’t sleep or he just needs a friend. He thinks I’m always awake at 4am but really I go to bed around 12am and I change his text-tone to the loudest one I have just so it wakes me up when he needs me.
you’re the kind of friend everyone needs
I think that since its been a year since I made this post its time for an update. In the past year I’ve watched this post grow and grow, people I work with have told me about it as “this post I saw the other day� and they have no idea it’s my post. The person I wrote this about has even reblogged it. He is no longer texting me at 4am. Not because we no longer speak but because the nightmares have stopped. He and I both are in a much better place. Most often the only times he’s waking me up at 4am is when he’s pulling me closer to him while we sleep. He’s more than a friend now and I’m forever thankful to have him. Everyone messaged me saying he was lucky to have me but I think I was just as lucky to have him and I would do it all over.
Net zero, beautiful.
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