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Reminders and other things that make me feel better or mean something to me in some way. Some are harsher than others, and some may contradict each other. Not everything will apply to everyone and what may apply can change. Not every message is meant for every single person. Different things can be true at the same time and nuance matters. I use a variety of tags for my own convenience.

The Conversation about mental health posts goes in waves - from "it's ok to just do nothing for a while" and "self care is lying in bed with a cup of tea" to a hard backlash against that ("those posts were so damaging to me") and posts like "acually self care is cleaning your apartment," and there's lots of reasons for that --

  1. those posts are for different people. the person who believes that there's nothing wrong with them, they just need to keep going, or the person who believes that not washing dishes means there's something unfixably wrong with them needs to hear that that's unsustainable & a break will help, but the person who feels that everything's already ruined so there's no point in doing anything needs to hear that small steps are still steps.
  2. those posts are for the same person at different times, because people need to hear different things at different times in their lives.
  3. when you post on the internet you can't limit a post to only the people it will benefit - like when broad spectrum antibiotics take out beneficial bacteria. and people don't always know which one will help them, so the audience doesn't even self-select. "it's ok if you do nothing" will help some people and hurt others!
  4. honestly the thing is that it's "you can't push yourself all the time, but keeping your space in a state that doesn't cause anxiety or discomfort is probably better for you," but hitting the right balance requires a lot of self-knowledge, which you can't get from a text post on tumblr.

i don't have a good conclusion here - just "nothing in excess," I suppose.

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Greetings bugs and worms!

This comic is a little different than what I usually do but I worked real hard on it—Maybe I'll make more infographic stuff in the future this ended up being fun. Hope you learned something new :)

If you are still curious and want to learn more about OCD, you can visit the International OCD Foundation's website. I also recommend this amazing TED ED video "Starving The Monster", which was my first introduction to the disorder and this video by John Green about his own experience with OCD.

The IOCDF's website can also help you find support groups, therapy, and has lots of online guides and resources as well if you or a loved one is struggling with the disorder. It is very comprehensive!

Reblog to teach your followers about OCD

(But also not reblogging doesn't make you evil, silly goose)

Anonymous asked

How can someone suddenly have the energy to reply to me in an emergency but otherwise was “to drained” to reply? Doesn’t that prove that they had the energy but just didn’t bother?

No, it doesn’t prove that at all.

I may not have the energy to reply to people, but if it’s an emergency, I can find the energy. Usually for situations like this, I borrow energy from somewhere else and another part of my life suffers a bit. (Maybe I skip some things that involve taking care of myself). I sacrifice something else to be there for the person because emergencies and that person are more important to me than whatever else has to suffer in my life. This isn’t sustainable long-term though. I might skip having a meal or I might skip going out to do errands.

For some people, another area of their life doesn’t necessarily have to suffer but they require significantly more rest than they would have before because they’ve borrowed from “future” energy.

And emergencies don’t have to be life or death for me to find that energy either.

Anon, emergencies are called emergencies for a reason. The people who react to them properly are the ones who sometimes have to make sacrifices with spoons. Emergencies don't care about your spoon level. They just are, and since it is an emergency you do have to deal with it, unfortunately. I've had emergencies on top of each other in my life before, and I sacrificed a part of healing in order to help a friend in an emergency, or I sacrificed rest and pain relief and dinner in order to help my cat having an emergency. In each instance I did not have the spoons for the situation, but I had to help someone, or help my cat. They needed me. Going into negative spoons for them was the right decision for them and that's what mattered to me.

Heck, I have emergencies that happen to me where I don't have the spoon level for them (realistically, no one has the spoon level for emergencies). But with emergencies the only way out is through, and maybe the next day or the day after you'll start getting your spoons back.

There's not having the spoons to respond, and then there's going into the negative with spoon during an emergency because you have to. They're two different things.

falling back into patterns and behaviours you thought you'd worked to overcome doesn't mean you've lost all your progress.

changing things we've been doing our whole lives takes time and it's perfectly fine if that's hard sometimes.

infact, learning to overcome setbacks is a part of recovery.

the youtube "stop drawing like this" community doesn't want you to know this but you can shade however you want forever btw. it doesn't have to make sense in fact you should actively be pissing people off with how inaccurate your light source is

honestly fucking fascinating that people will pretty universally understand that thin people can be naturally predisposed to thinness regardless of what they eat or their activity level, but that so many of the same people cannot possibly fathom that fat people could have similar dispositions or that there could be any factors more complex than a "lack of self control."

[Transcript: At 1:45 PM on 1/23/24, aniek (@pookiednp) tweeted: i really don’t like how so much social media activism is focused on “do this or you’re a bad person” instead of “do this because it’s going to help people”]

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